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over a year ago
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Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .
It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .
It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .
It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?
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Nope keep your friends and get away from your ex's  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .
It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?"
Never in my opinion. I've witnessed it in the past and it caused lots of upset !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .
It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?
Nope keep your friends and get away from your ex's "
Exactly. I just think it’s awkward and not appropriate. Of course, it can happen.. but for me, it can ruin friendships etc
So it’s a no from me |
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Yes of course it can be appropriate. It is not always a wrong thing to do.
There are many factors to consider but at the end of the day it's just two single people deciding they would like to 'date'
Anyone who wishes them ill is self centred. |
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Yes I think it is. People don't own each other and once a relationship is over they're free agents. Of course there are often reasons why a person might feel it disrespectful to date a friend's ex eg if they were very upset about the break up |
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"Yes I think it is. People don't own each other and once a relationship is over they're free agents. Of course there are often reasons why a person might feel it disrespectful to date a friend's ex eg if they were very upset about the break up"
Agreed but even still if enough time or water had passed then it's fine. |
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"Yes I think it is. People don't own each other and once a relationship is over they're free agents. Of course there are often reasons why a person might feel it disrespectful to date a friend's ex eg if they were very upset about the break up
Agreed but even still if enough time or water had passed then it's fine. "
Yes, just don't jump in the bed while it's still warm.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister? "
Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird. |
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"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?
Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird. "
I can understand that a man might say to his friend "by the way I'm taking your sister out" but asking permission? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?
Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird. "
I agree. It’s not about owning but I think, friends want to keep their friends, and going there isn’t the smartest move in my opinion.
As I said, it’d probably bring me to drift
A) becuase I don’t wanna see my ex . Period
B) don’t wanna see my ex with my friend
C) it’s just awkward all around
I find this extremely awkward with my BFF who split up with her ex, and her ex is part of a group of my friends x so sometimes, I see him with his new gf in the group |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Of course it is. It's far from black and white. The reason and context behind the ex situation is the biggest deciding factor
Some exs are just good friends, all romantic feelings gone. If one of my friends would be happy with one of my (still friendly with) exs I'd say go for it. Be happy together. Why limit yourself (or make others feel limited) in what may actually be a great form of happiness?
Now of course if break up was bad, and there is still bad vibes between exs, then it is tricky. Still not simple, again it would depend greatly upon what the situation involved. I'd generally have a dislike to that friends ex anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it depends on how the relationship was, how it ended and the consequences of being involved.
I wouldn't care about any of my ex's bar one. I can't even stand to see her because of how it ended. So if a friend went out with her I'd lose that friendship instantly. My heart wouldn't take it.
So its a very individual and specific thing to each of us. I don't think one answer fits all in this case |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m very loyal to anyone I care about so if the friend was alright with it then it wouldn’t be a problem.
A family members ex would be totally off limits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?
Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.
I agree. It’s not about owning but I think, friends want to keep their friends, and going there isn’t the smartest move in my opinion.
As I said, it’d probably bring me to drift
A) becuase I don’t wanna see my ex . Period
B) don’t wanna see my ex with my friend
C) it’s just awkward all around
I find this extremely awkward with my BFF who split up with her ex, and her ex is part of a group of my friends x so sometimes, I see him with his new gf in the group"
You explain it better than I did.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?
Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.
I can understand that a man might say to his friend "by the way I'm taking your sister out" but asking permission? "
I still think it's permission for his friend's blessing and not necessarily an ownership thing.
I do understand what you mean though and absolutely it can oftentimes infer ownership. |
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"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?
Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.
I agree. It’s not about owning but I think, friends want to keep their friends, and going there isn’t the smartest move in my opinion.
As I said, it’d probably bring me to drift
A) becuase I don’t wanna see my ex . Period
B) don’t wanna see my ex with my friend
C) it’s just awkward all around
I find this extremely awkward with my BFF who split up with her ex, and her ex is part of a group of my friends x so sometimes, I see him with his new gf in the group"
I agree it's probably not the smartest move but what if your friend/family members ex is the love of your life? |
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Me and my best friend have dated some of the same people. Years apart mind and the first to was never serious. We wouldn't with each other's ex if the relationship was serious. Family's exs would be a bit odd for me too. |
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"As I said earlier, why is it people feel comfortable sharing a partner but less tolerant when an ex is with someone they know?"
Because they no longer have control or ownership of the situation. In a swinging relationship your partner goes home with you, your ex goes home with someone else |
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