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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t say it bothers me massively. I just assume it’s down to way some people see this as a disposable pleasure.
I don’t know about much annoying me on fab either. I can log out and leave it alone for a few days if I find myself being annoyed by something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it annoying especially if you've arranged a meet then just before quiet. At least tell the person, it's common decency surely. Good luck OP their loss  |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"It happens o/p just block and move on...good luck. As far as fab annoyances. Not really one but I'd like a notification if someone replies to one of my forum posts."
The @ symbol would be good for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the nature of this place unfortunately, especially when a meet is discussed or coming up.. radio silence. Just think of it as the universe doing you a favour, the good people will show theirselves in the end. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"It's the nature of this place unfortunately, especially when a meet is discussed or coming up.. radio silence. Just think of it as the universe doing you a favour, the good people will show theirselves in the end."
She was hot though !! |
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"Yep when they put a status "is anyone free?" So you message and they either read or delete ....pure annoying"
Just because they have put that status up they may still be looking for certain things just take it as normal on here as a no reply is your not what they are wanting at that time x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?"
Being ghosted after seeing someone for some time, that’s even WORSE  |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Being ghosted after seeing someone for some time, that’s even WORSE "
Who would do that to you ? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?"
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
cognito |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Being ghosted after seeing someone for some time, that’s even WORSE "
Yup it’s the lowest of the low. Those kind of people who ghost are scum. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"Yep when they put a status "is anyone free?" So you message and they either read or delete ....pure annoying
That means no.  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep when they put a status "is anyone free?" So you message and they either read or delete ....pure annoying"
Just because they are looking for someone, doesn’t mean they are looking for anyone, they will still have their criteria
Op, I’m sorry this happened, maybe they changed their mind, and didn’t feel able to tell you? |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank."
Yes lots of sex chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that when the messages are too eager, you can see it coming, so best to play along and put and involvement or emotion on the shelf. If something happens you can then of course attach more to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?"
Maybe they didnt think the chat was that great and got bored? Iv seen me chatting with someone then just go off the person after they either spoke about somthing i disliked or i just got bored of them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?"
A ghost a lot of people. It is not my intention just the volume of messages. I get that it's frustrating but it's really frustrating for me too as I wish I could keep up. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Maybe they didnt think the chat was that great and got bored? Iv seen me chatting with someone then just go off the person after they either spoke about somthing i disliked or i just got bored of them "
They seemed very entertained up to the point of vanishing!!! |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
A ghost a lot of people. It is not my intention just the volume of messages. I get that it's frustrating but it's really frustrating for me too as I wish I could keep up. "
I can see why you are popular xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Maybe they didnt think the chat was that great and got bored? Iv seen me chatting with someone then just go off the person after they either spoke about somthing i disliked or i just got bored of them
They seemed very entertained up to the point of vanishing!!!"
The word "seemed" couldve all been an act |
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"Yep when they put a status "is anyone free?" So you message and they either read or delete ....pure annoying"
But if you’re not what they’re looking for, why should they reply.
Just because people are in the lifestyle and actively looking, doesn’t mean they will want to meet specifically with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep when they put a status "is anyone free?" So you message and they either read or delete ....pure annoying"
I wouldn’t say that’s ghosting, they might just have been looking for someone else… |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
To me the level of ghosting depends greatly on how familiar things have been, how long the chat has been going on, and intent. If it's been brief then eh, so what. If there was some sort of friendship or connection, then it is a bigger deal. I mean ghosting as a whole, not just on fab.
Ghosting sucks, it just does. Sometimes there are reasons we personally find acceptable and some we don't.
I've found I've temporarily ghosted people due to my mental health at the time. I've gone quiet, and just drifted away.
Never knowingly, have I cut ties with somebody without a word and the intent to never speak to them again. At least nobody I've had a meaningful conversation with.
For me the biggest part is down to you knowing they are intentionally ignoring you. Having seen they have read messages and chose not to reply multiple times (again not talking about just fab) or have blocked you without so much as a word. |
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By *aountyMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
When I was younger I did 'ghost' most of the romantic partner I've been with. At the time, there wasn't even a term for it and I wasn't meaning any harm, it just happened this way.
Recently I've been ghosted too, on line, I guess when you feel don't click with somebody or you lost a bit of interest with the game or the person, it's an easy thing to do, particularly in the digital age where everyone connect anonymously.
Why would you want to know the reasons somebody ghost you. Just be your best self,love life and everything it can give you and you can give to it and when this happen move on to the next story. Eventually it will work with someone. |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
"It's the nature of this place unfortunately, especially when a meet is discussed or coming up.. radio silence. Just think of it as the universe doing you a favour, the good people will show theirselves in the end."
100% agree |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"To me the level of ghosting depends greatly on how familiar things have been, how long the chat has been going on, and intent. If it's been brief then eh, so what. If there was some sort of friendship or connection, then it is a bigger deal. I mean ghosting as a whole, not just on fab.
Ghosting sucks, it just does. Sometimes there are reasons we personally find acceptable and some we don't.
I've found I've temporarily ghosted people due to my mental health at the time. I've gone quiet, and just drifted away.
Never knowingly, have I cut ties with somebody without a word and the intent to never speak to them again. At least nobody I've had a meaningful conversation with.
For me the biggest part is down to you knowing they are intentionally ignoring you. Having seen they have read messages and chose not to reply multiple times (again not talking about just fab) or have blocked you without so much as a word. "
All traces of her messages disappeared so I’m assuming she deleted her account? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, I had it where I was speaking to guy for 2 months or so, moved the chat off of here as well. Was real friendship sort of conversations. Woke up one day and he blocked me on everything. Felt shit. We lived really close, I recon he saw me and thought better of it. But I'd rather just be told than wondering.
So I understand OP, it sucks x |
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"Yep, I had it where I was speaking to guy for 2 months or so, moved the chat off of here as well. Was real friendship sort of conversations. Woke up one day and he blocked me on everything. Felt shit. We lived really close, I recon he saw me and thought better of it. But I'd rather just be told than wondering.
So I understand OP, it sucks x"
I wouldn’t ghost you.  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat "
Cynical me says it wasn't a hot woman at all.
Did you enjoy the chat though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat "
He finished his wank. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
Cynical me says it wasn't a hot woman at all.
Did you enjoy the chat though?"
I did but not now !! |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Yep, I had it where I was speaking to guy for 2 months or so, moved the chat off of here as well. Was real friendship sort of conversations. Woke up one day and he blocked me on everything. Felt shit. We lived really close, I recon he saw me and thought better of it. But I'd rather just be told than wondering.
Thanks xxx
So I understand OP, it sucks x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
Cynical me says it wasn't a hot woman at all.
Did you enjoy the chat though?
I did but not now !!"
Maybe it was your wife or her friend on here and she stopped chatting when she realised she knows you.  |
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I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
Cynical me says it wasn't a hot woman at all.
Did you enjoy the chat though?
I did but not now !!
Maybe it was your wife or her friend on here and she stopped chatting when she realised she knows you. "
That would be a disaster!! |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag."
That would be fine xx but messages just disappeared I wasn’t even blocked |
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
Cynical me says it wasn't a hot woman at all.
Did you enjoy the chat though?
I did but not now !!
Maybe it was your wife or her friend on here and she stopped chatting when she realised she knows you.
That would be a disaster!!"
I'd call it karma |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
Cynical me says it wasn't a hot woman at all.
Did you enjoy the chat though?
I did but not now !!
Maybe it was your wife or her friend on here and she stopped chatting when she realised she knows you.
That would be a disaster!!
I'd call it karma "
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"Yep when they put a status "is anyone free?" So you message and they either read or delete ....pure annoying
Just because they have put that status up they may still be looking for certain things just take it as normal on here as a no reply is your not what they are wanting at that time x "
This- someone doesn’t have to meet you just because you’re both available at the same time…. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag."
Nah, that's not ghosting.
Hell I know people, genuine friends and family who just don't respond to texts for weeks, if that. But certainly check in on me from time to time too.
Personally I just don't think you can ghost or be ghosted by somebody if it's been just a few brief convos with somebody. There needs to be a connection and some depth to have been lost for it to be be a case of cutting ties and never to talk again, and then it needs to be sudden and no respect given for an explanation.
Convo with a stranger in the street is a great example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
He finished his wank. "
To be fair if THAT took 2 months you have to admire his stamina if nothing else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?
Did you do sex chat?
He probably had a wank.
Yes lots of sex chat
He finished his wank.
To be fair if THAT took 2 months you have to admire his stamina if nothing else "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag.
That would be fine xx but messages just disappeared I wasn’t even blocked "
If messages disappeared that means they deleted their profile and left the site. Or had their profile reported and Admin deleted it.
If someone blocks you the message is still there you just can't reply to it. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag.
That would be fine xx but messages just disappeared I wasn’t even blocked
If messages disappeared that means they deleted their profile and left the site. Or had their profile reported and Admin deleted it.
If someone blocks you the message is still there you just can't reply to it."
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I'll take ghosting over breadcrumbing any day.
For those who are unfamiliar; breadcrumbing is when someone doesn't actually intend on meeting you, but continues to show you just enough interest, here and there, to keep your attention, and keep you thinking that it might happen.
Ghosting is a dick move, but at least you know where you stand. |
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Try being ghosted on the day of the planned meet, OP. I had a social with a guy, all went well, so we arranged next meet, that was supposed to be play meet. He had to cancel once due to work, fine, we postponed it. The day of the meet- total radio silence, even though I could tell he read my messages. I took the hint, eventually, and he got blocked on here and Whatsapp.
Cheeky bugger found me on another communication app a couple of months later, tried to reconnect. Got blocked on there, too. |
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over a year ago
Birmingham |
"I'll take ghosting over breadcrumbing any day.
For those who are unfamiliar; breadcrumbing is when someone doesn't actually intend on meeting you, but continues to show you just enough interest, here and there, to keep your attention, and keep you thinking that it might happen.
Ghosting is a dick move, but at least you know where you stand."
I’ve been breadcrumbed a few times ! |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Try being ghosted on the day of the planned meet, OP. I had a social with a guy, all went well, so we arranged next meet, that was supposed to be play meet. He had to cancel once due to work, fine, we postponed it. The day of the meet- total radio silence, even though I could tell he read my messages. I took the hint, eventually, and he got blocked on here and Whatsapp.
Cheeky bugger found me on another communication app a couple of months later, tried to reconnect. Got blocked on there, too. "
I feel your pain x |
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over a year ago
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"Is there anything more annoying than being ghosted after a few days of great messaging? Xx hopes raised high only be dashed with no explanation. Anything else annoy you on fab ?"
Yep, I was ghosted last year after an overnight meet, they asked if they could come back after their work that night, said yes… they messaged they were on their way…. 3 hrs later no sign, text them to see how long they were going to be as it doesn’t take 3 hours to get across town…. Still waiting for the reply! |
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"I'll take ghosting over breadcrumbing any day.
For those who are unfamiliar; breadcrumbing is when someone doesn't actually intend on meeting you, but continues to show you just enough interest, here and there, to keep your attention, and keep you thinking that it might happen.
Ghosting is a dick move, but at least you know where you stand."
Thats why I always make my intentions clear. I would hate it done to me so wouldn't do.it to others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it annoying especially if you've arranged a meet then just before quiet. At least tell the person, it's common decency surely. Good luck OP their loss "
This has happened to me all too regularly. No wonder I am pretty jaded about fab of late. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP. it is Fab After all ?
I’m beginning to realise it’s not for me xx"
Whys it not for you? What were u expecting from the site? Like i told you in a message use the filters the site gives you filter out non verifieds etc it does help |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"OP. it is Fab After all ?
I’m beginning to realise it’s not for me xx
Whys it not for you? What were u expecting from the site? Like i told you in a message use the filters the site gives you filter out non verifieds etc it does help"
I will |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"OP. it is Fab After all ?
I’m beginning to realise it’s not for me xx
Whys it not for you? What were u expecting from the site? Like i told you in a message use the filters the site gives you filter out non verifieds etc it does help"
I will |
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over a year ago
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"OP. it is Fab After all ?
I’m beginning to realise it’s not for me xx
Whys it not for you? What were u expecting from the site? Like i told you in a message use the filters the site gives you filter out non verifieds etc it does help
I will "
poss Security is whats wrong |
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"I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag."
Exactly this. Most times I'm on here I can't be arsed chatting 1 to 1. I can ignore my inbox for days at a time. I'm here for me. Not over excitable guys who want me to sex chat them who assume I'm sat in sexy lingerie gagging for cock at all hrs.
OP take the chat for what it was - a bit of fun to pass the time. Next time let your big head keepnyour wee head in check  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a bit rude, and it sucks, but it’s really just one of those things.
I’m not a ghoster, particularly after a prolonged period of messaging or a meet. If I wasn’t feeling it, then I’d politely explain why. But I have let things drift after a few messages if I can’t be arsed or find the messages boring. Small talk for the billionth time can be a bit soul-destroying. That said, I’d never deliberately set out to upset anyone or hurt feelings. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I guess I'm what people would consider a ghoster if I look at it from their point of view.
I don't venture into my inbox that often, but there are times when I will respond to people.
They've simply caught me when I'm feeling talkative or open uppy.... or dare I say it - non cunty.
Now. Am I a ghosty cunt because I don't go back to my inbox for days and don't respond further? Or am I simply someone who can't be arsed to use my brain on a 1-1 level, for whatever reason and that reason doesn't need explaining to anyone. Is it assumed that because I'm online I owe them my time? Or could it just be accepted, that we had a pleasant chat and that was that, like 2 people passing in the street who stop for a quick chin wag.
Exactly this. Most times I'm on here I can't be arsed chatting 1 to 1. I can ignore my inbox for days at a time. I'm here for me. Not over excitable guys who want me to sex chat them who assume I'm sat in sexy lingerie gagging for cock at all hrs.
OP take the chat for what it was - a bit of fun to pass the time. Next time let your big head keepnyour wee head in check "
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
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"It is a bit rude, and it sucks, but it’s really just one of those things.
I’m not a ghoster, particularly after a prolonged period of messaging or a meet. If I wasn’t feeling it, then I’d politely explain why. But I have let things drift after a few messages if I can’t be arsed or find the messages boring. Small talk for the billionth time can be a bit soul-destroying. That said, I’d never deliberately set out to upset anyone or hurt feelings."
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I have been guilty of ghosting in the past but never with anyone I was proposing to meet.
It was the simplest option with people who lived for drama and if they couldn't find any they created it.
It became very draining and soul-destroying and rather than tell them for the 100th time that they were wrong it was easier just to fade away and stop communicating. |
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I NEVER sympathise with ghosting threads.
I wish the OP's of ghosting posts would use a little reality when posting .....
Instead of writing as if they've lost the love of their life..... or had some great harm done to them why can they not see the truth .. which is basically ......
Someone I have never met is now doing something else. |
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I can deal with being ghosted by newbies, but when it's by so called fab friends that's just rude. Although I've come to learn over the years that most fab friendships are very fickle and short-lived anyway. Guess it goes with the territory. |
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"I can deal with being ghosted by newbies, but when it's by so called fab friends that's just rude. Although I've come to learn over the years that most fab friendships are very fickle and short-lived anyway. Guess it goes with the territory. "
What do you mean re fab friends? You message them and no reply? Or the chat fizzles out?
I have friends and we chat sometimes but not every single day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I NEVER sympathise with ghosting threads.
I wish the OP's of ghosting posts would use a little reality when posting .....
Instead of writing as if they've lost the love of their life..... or had some great harm done to them why can they not see the truth .. which is basically ......
Someone I have never met is now doing something else."
What about if it's someone you have met? Multiple times? And gotten close to? When I ran a thread on ghosting there were lots of stories like that. I don't know how it hurts you to have sympathy for people who are hurting. |
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