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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Am I alone in thinking these are the afterthought of foreplay? Do men enjoy getting these off other people? I feel like it's one of those things that's only used to convey the message you're about to fuck; just rub it a little for good luck and then lose momentum and move onto something else. So yeah, any tips on how to make the humble handjob a main event?  |
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over a year ago
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Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery)  . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time.  |
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"Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery) . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time. "
Can you use lube if you don't want to awkwardly excuse yourself to go get a knob of coconut oil from the kitchen? |
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"Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery) . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time. "
Definitely this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tie his hands behind his back.
Oil up his cock and give him an oily slippy wank while he watches.
Edge him until he begs to cum.
Don't let him cum, make him watch you cum instead. |
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"Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery) . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time.
Can you use lube if you don't want to awkwardly excuse yourself to go get a knob of coconut oil from the kitchen? "
Absolutely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tie his hands behind his back.
Oil up his cock and give him an oily slippy wank while he watches.
Edge him until he begs to cum.
Don't let him cum, make him watch you cum instead. "
God you're evil!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing) "
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk  |
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"Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery) . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time. "
This plus also occasionally two hands with a contra rotating motion |
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk "
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?  |
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"Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery) . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time.
Can you use lube if you don't want to awkwardly excuse yourself to go get a knob of coconut oil from the kitchen?
Absolutely. "
Always carry a knob with you..I do  |
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"Varying degrees of grip pressure. Various stroke length and speed. Don’t neglect the balls. Coconut oil (recent discovery) . Fingers to rub around the tip. Oh, and if you’re feeling frisky, I would be upset by a cheeky finger in my bum at the same time.
Can you use lube if you don't want to awkwardly excuse yourself to go get a knob of coconut oil from the kitchen? "
You have a spare nob made of coconut oil in your kitchen? |
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"Lube is always good! Ask if they like having their balls played with, it's not a given. "
I've never needed lube tbh.
There is usually plenty of precum forming anyway, just spread that around and maybe add a little spit if needed.
Much more fun than grabbing a bottle of lube. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like the above answers about edging, oil etc.
Personally I love it when a woman spits on my cock / her hand while she strokes it "
That's what I usually do but I find it dries up quite quickly |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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"Tie his hands behind his back.
Oil up his cock and give him an oily slippy wank while he watches.
Edge him until he begs to cum.
Don't let him cum, make him watch you cum instead. "
You sound like you've done this before! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing? "
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring |
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"I like the above answers about edging, oil etc.
Personally I love it when a woman spits on my cock / her hand while she strokes it
That's what I usually do but I find it dries up quite quickly"
The answer is always more spit ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring "
 need to work on my technique! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring
need to work on my technique! "
If you need a volunteer... |
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring
need to work on my technique! "
Volunteer number two reporting for action |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I alone in thinking these are the afterthought of foreplay? Do men enjoy getting these off other people? I feel like it's one of those things that's only used to convey the message you're about to fuck; just rub it a little for good luck and then lose momentum and move onto something else. So yeah, any tips on how to make the humble handjob a main event? "
Use your feet instead - the ultimate foreplay as one of my pics portrays! Hot! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Do it lying down with him next to you and just reach across. That way your arm doesn’t feel like it will drop off.
And lube it up so when you do the downward bit it feels like his cock is going to shoot up out of your grasp and hit the ceiling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring
need to work on my technique!
If you need a volunteer... "
Teach an old bird some new tricks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring
need to work on my technique!
Volunteer number two reporting for action "
Bloody hell I need to shut up sometimes - yesterday it was threesomes |
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring
need to work on my technique!
Volunteer number two reporting for action
Bloody hell I need to shut up sometimes - yesterday it was threesomes "
I share nicely too |
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I am partial to giving a two handed coconut oil handie. Boobs out, eyes locked, ready to make that pottery!
Oh my love...my darling
I've been yearning for your touch
A long lonely time...... "
Time, goes by, so slowly, and time can do so much…
Patrick, is that you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not by itself as I find it a bit boring. While kissing though...
How would you make it not boring? Aside from kissing (or as well as kissing)
Good question. Maybe quite a bit of lube, a lot of edging while teasing the head, and a bit of dirty talk. Not over the top but sensual talk
So..."oh ...oh..yeah..that's how you like it, big boy..let's get slippery" kind of thing?
It would make me laugh so I guess that would be... not... boring
need to work on my technique!
Volunteer number two reporting for action
Bloody hell I need to shut up sometimes - yesterday it was threesomes
I share nicely too "
That's what all you men say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mix it up with a bit of both hand(s) and mouth. Definitely don't forget the balls. Even stroking around the base of the cock without touching it. Spend some time focusing on the head. I use a finger and thumb to hold it and gently massage the base of the head.
Lots of eye contact, telling him how wonderful it looks, feels, smells and tastes, I've found is good too. Let him lead you if you're struggling. I love it when they either take over and leave me to focus on their balls or they put their hand over mine and we do it together. Watching how they touch themselves is so good and helps me know what they like. |
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"Lube is always good! Ask if they like having their balls played with, it's not a given.
I've never needed lube tbh.
There is usually plenty of precum forming anyway, just spread that around and maybe add a little spit if needed.
Much more fun than grabbing a bottle of lube. "
Spitting is grim.
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"I quite enjoy giving them, so I'll offer that only for a special man.
It's not the same as them rubbing one out.
I'm quite special...and very appreciative
You trying it on, Mister? "
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I like being between his legs, him laying back, and using two hands and lots of moisturiser of some kind.
Cocoa butter moisturiser works well and they have a lovely smooth, scented penis afterwards. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I quite enjoy giving them, so I'll offer that only for a special man.
It's not the same as them rubbing one out.
I'm quite special...and very appreciative
You trying it on, Mister? absolutely xx "
I like your front |
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"I quite enjoy giving them, so I'll offer that only for a special man.
It's not the same as them rubbing one out.
I'm quite special...and very appreciative
You trying it on, Mister? absolutely xx
I like your front "
I like your front too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like being between his legs, him laying back, and using two hands and lots of moisturiser of some kind.
Cocoa butter moisturiser works well and they have a lovely smooth, scented penis afterwards. "
oh my |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As with anything really, pay attention to your partner at the time, be attentive.
Several things mentioned in this thread really wouldn't do it for me.
We're all different |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"As with anything really, pay attention to your partner at the time, be attentive.
Several things mentioned in this thread really wouldn't do it for me.
We're all different "
I always have questions while I'm doing it, and ask if I can touch the balls too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, who’s coming to practice then? Pretty please
You're in another country soz
Stoke ain’t that far
You're in the states according to your profile "
A tad confusing, but it’s just a reference to the film I nicked my username from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tie his hands behind his back.
Oil up his cock and give him an oily slippy wank while he watches.
Edge him until he begs to cum.
Don't let him cum, make him watch you cum instead. "
Am I the on,y one to seriously like the idea of this?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, who’s coming to practice then? Pretty please
You're in another country soz
Stoke ain’t that far
You're in the states according to your profile
A tad confusing, but it’s just a reference to the film I nicked my username from. "
Lol I didn't know that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, who’s coming to practice then? Pretty please
You're in another country soz
Stoke ain’t that far
You're in the states according to your profile
A tad confusing, but it’s just a reference to the film I nicked my username from.
Lol I didn't know that. "
Sounds more glamorous than Stoke too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tie his hands behind his back.
Oil up his cock and give him an oily slippy wank while he watches.
Edge him until he begs to cum.
Don't let him cum, make him watch you cum instead.
Am I the on,y one to seriously like the idea of this?
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No, you won't be. It's the sort of thing my partner would like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am I alone in thinking these are the afterthought of foreplay? Do men enjoy getting these off other people? I feel like it's one of those things that's only used to convey the message you're about to fuck; just rub it a little for good luck and then lose momentum and move onto something else. So yeah, any tips on how to make the humble handjob a main event? "
My donor card Says I'm happy to donate my organ if you need something to practice on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They seem pointless if you could be having a blow or sex, we can give ourselves a hand job whenever we like"
This I agree with... Much prefer to use my mouth or foof |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, who’s coming to practice then? Pretty please
You're in another country soz
Stoke ain’t that far
You're in the states according to your profile
A tad confusing, but it’s just a reference to the film I nicked my username from.
Lol I didn't know that.
Sounds more glamorous than Stoke too "
Im in Hull, glamour capital of Yorkshire.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like to sit in front, use both hands, nice and oily and use my thumbs in little circles on the head above the banjo. dunno if it's good, but I haven't had complaints just feels nice to me |
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"I like to sit in front, use both hands, nice and oily and use my thumbs in little circles on the head above the banjo. dunno if it's good, but I haven't had complaints just feels nice to me "
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"I like to sit in front, use both hands, nice and oily and use my thumbs in little circles on the head above the banjo. dunno if it's good, but I haven't had complaints just feels nice to me "
Sorry this has really tickled me like a little bellend massage aha |
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"I like to sit in front, use both hands, nice and oily and use my thumbs in little circles on the head above the banjo. dunno if it's good, but I haven't had complaints just feels nice to me
Sorry this has really tickled me like a little bellend massage aha"
Hahahaha Yep, lay a little towel on and everything |
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"They seem pointless if you could be having a blow or sex, we can give ourselves a hand job whenever we like
Yeah..but it's an actual bird doing it for you ..because she wants to "
To be honest I'm better trained at doing me |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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A handjob can be a main event.
Get them to lie back and relax. Blindfold maybe even a little restraint.
Some nice scented massage oil, sit between their legs. Use one hand flat at the base with cock between thumb and forefinger and fingers splayed while the other works the shaft in a slow steady slightly rotating way.
Every now and then use your non wanking hand to stroke their legs and balls.
Edge them, letting them build up close to orgasm and then delaying it. listen to their breathing. When ready go all the way and continue working it while they orgasm, don’t stop once they start to ejaculate.
Slowly wind down, still stroking but at a slower pace until they stop shaking
Clean up. |
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"Lube is always good! Ask if they like having their balls played with, it's not a given.
I've never needed lube tbh.
There is usually plenty of precum forming anyway, just spread that around and maybe add a little spit if needed.
Much more fun than grabbing a bottle of lube.
Spitting is grim.
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It's just saliva, the same as would get on it if you gave head, or that you'd swap when kissing.
I'm not wanting anyone to phlegm up over my cock 
Find it odd that people find that grim, when they are happy to put someone's cock in their mouth  |
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"So, who’s coming to practice then? Pretty please
You're in another country soz
Stoke ain’t that far
You're in the states according to your profile
A tad confusing, but it’s just a reference to the film I nicked my username from. "
Usual Suspects!
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So after 18 years together, the husband finally tells me that some times - just some times - I don’t do hand jobs right! So I had him show me how he likes it!!
It absolutely can be a main event and often is for us. Twice last week I gave him a hand job and had him cum in to my underwear, something new for us but it got us both very hot and bothered! He likes it slower, I take my time and edge him out for a while, we kiss or I kiss his neck and talk to him, I cup his balls and gently tug and knead them. I mix up the movement of my hand and some times add my other hand in. He likes his cock nice and wet when I’m stroking it so lots of spit or some lube if he wants it. He likes a tight grasp but not too tight. My thumb underneath and four fingers on top, long strokes and then build up speed and stay away from the tip when he about to cum but don’t stop stroking until he stops pulsing. Absolutely LOVE making him cum with a good hand job and I know he loves it too!
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Read his responses and act accordingly, every man is different and tipping them over the edge is hard but achievable in most cases
I use coconut oil whilst kneeling at his side, that way I can change hands fluidly whilst massaging his chest or balls and bum at the same time, use a open pot of oil by your side on a towel then you can just dip your hand in it to top.
I also detest spitting. |
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Is spitting really that bad?? I'm not talking about hocking a loogie lol, just an elegant little pool of dribble into the hand. It's the same spit I'd be swapping if I kissed them... |
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"Is spitting really that bad?? I'm not talking about hocking a loogie lol, just an elegant little pool of dribble into the hand. It's the same spit I'd be swapping if I kissed them... "
Exactly.
I hate it when people spit on the streets, but using a bit of saliva on someone that you are already likely to be exchanging and getting covered in their bodily fluids doesn't seem too bad.
It doesn't need to be a force camel-spit type spit and can be done in a much sexier way. It has to be sexier, more enjoyable and more natural than stopping to reach for a plastic bottle of lube hasn't it? |
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"Is spitting really that bad?? I'm not talking about hocking a loogie lol, just an elegant little pool of dribble into the hand. It's the same spit I'd be swapping if I kissed them... "
Love spitting during oral fun/foreplay.
Mrs has got the technique spot on with us, she can edge me very quickly. I find blow jobs can be a bit too intense, hand jobs help slow things back down again |
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"Tie his hands behind his back.
Oil up his cock and give him an oily slippy wank while he watches.
Edge him until he begs to cum.
Don't let him cum, make him watch you cum instead.
You sound like you've done this before!"
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