Yes i have been watching loose women.
But what does it mean when people say we "work" at out marriage, or that youve got to "work" at it to keep it alive. What does Work at it" actually mean in this context |
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I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem. |
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem."
Now that is what it means to me, but surely that comes naturally, its the word work i struggle with as though its some chore you have to do |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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To me it means making the time for each other....we always set aside some time just for us. Otherwise you can get bogged down into a work/family rountine.
Making sure you listen and talk to one another.
Just not take each other for granted really...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem."
hey shall we say we can all go on as guests to talk about how we keep ours alive?  |
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem.
Now that is what it means to me, but surely that comes naturally, its the word work i struggle with as though its some chore you have to do"
Well yes but if you think of it like it is a physical or mental effort directed towards doing or making something, then that could be applied to the meaning of working on a marriage.
However I think marriages that require a lot of "work" will be the ones under strain/divorce.
A true bond, and happy marriage will be imo, one where little "work" is required as you flow together throughout life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem.
hey shall we say we can all go on as guests to talk about how we keep ours alive? "
On where lol, please god don't say Jeremy!! Haha |
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Coming form a single girl but I see it as compromise making time for each other having your special date night and being there for one another and being best friends as well as lovers x and a whole lot of other stuff x |
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem.
Now that is what it means to me, but surely that comes naturally, its the word work i struggle with as though its some chore you have to do
Well yes but if you think of it like it is a physical or mental effort directed towards doing or making something, then that could be applied to the meaning of working on a marriage.
However I think marriages that require a lot of "work" will be the ones under strain/divorce.
A true bond, and happy marriage will be imo, one where little "work" is required as you flow together throughout life."
Well that saved me typing all that out, i agree completely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem.
Now that is what it means to me, but surely that comes naturally, its the word work i struggle with as though its some chore you have to do
Well yes but if you think of it like it is a physical or mental effort directed towards doing or making something, then that could be applied to the meaning of working on a marriage.
However I think marriages that require a lot of "work" will be the ones under strain/divorce.
A true bond, and happy marriage will be imo, one where little "work" is required as you flow together throughout life.
Well that saved me typing all that out, i agree completely"
Great, let's get married  |
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem.
Now that is what it means to me, but surely that comes naturally, its the word work i struggle with as though its some chore you have to do
Well yes but if you think of it like it is a physical or mental effort directed towards doing or making something, then that could be applied to the meaning of working on a marriage.
However I think marriages that require a lot of "work" will be the ones under strain/divorce.
A true bond, and happy marriage will be imo, one where little "work" is required as you flow together throughout life.
Well that saved me typing all that out, i agree completely
Great, let's get married "
ha ha, thankyou for your generous proposal but on this occasion im going to have to take a rain check as i dont want to get married again lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I take it to mean, keeping your relationship fresh and alive.
Don't get into a routine that could become boring.
Put the effort into keeping communication, dreams and expectations of one another going, as you get older and time moves on, things/people change and it is about changing in tandem.
Now that is what it means to me, but surely that comes naturally, its the word work i struggle with as though its some chore you have to do
Well yes but if you think of it like it is a physical or mental effort directed towards doing or making something, then that could be applied to the meaning of working on a marriage.
However I think marriages that require a lot of "work" will be the ones under strain/divorce.
A true bond, and happy marriage will be imo, one where little "work" is required as you flow together throughout life.
Well that saved me typing all that out, i agree completely
Great, let's get married
ha ha, thankyou for your generous proposal but on this occasion im going to have to take a rain check as i dont want to get married again lol"
Sssh I'd have to get divorced as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes i have been watching loose women.
But what does it mean when people say we "work" at out marriage, or that youve got to "work" at it to keep it alive. What does Work at it" actually mean in this context"
I hate work, and try and do as little of it as possible |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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One of my aunts has the most contented marriage I have ever seen. They are like chalk and cheese but the love shines out of their eyes and they are united on all major decisions. Their children, now all adults, know where they stand.
She always says that it is because they put the work in. They know what is going on with each other because they spend time talking about things, agreeing a way forward and supporting each other. They have always worked hard to have a home and family. They worked shifts most of their working lives - if he was on days then she was on nights to ensure there was always childcare. If they hadn't put the time and effort into the marriage they could easily have found strangers at home when they stopped the shifts.
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