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By *exysummer OP Couple
over a year ago
St.Austell |
For new or newish members, non verified in anyway to ask for face pictures in their profiles when you send your first message to them?
When they don’t have any pictures either displayed or in a gallery at all.
Is it lack of experience or something else that makes them think it’s acceptable to ask for face pictures?
We do appreciate we are all different in lots of ways but we find it off putting when people demand face pictures before any interaction.
Interested to hear peoples thoughts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not any different than someone who is verified or a long time member.
I understand completely what you're saying in regards to how people demand face pics but not sure why it matters how established the member is. |
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No, not rude
But they may be disappointed about not getting messages or complain when they don't get face pics ..
You can ask for what you like (, within reason and the rules), doesn't mean you'll get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way we look at it is if someone makes first contact, as it is unsolicited they should play by the recipient’s rules. If you don’t like their rules you have the option to not contact them. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
It's their profile they can ask for whatever they want regardless of how long they are on the site. It's up to anyone looking at their profile whether they want to send a pic or not.
Just move on if the profile isn't what you are interested in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For new or newish members, non verified in anyway to ask for face pictures in their profiles when you send your first message to them?
When they don’t have any pictures either displayed or in a gallery at all.
Is it lack of experience or something else that makes them think it’s acceptable to ask for face pictures?
We do appreciate we are all different in lots of ways but we find it off putting when people demand face pictures before any interaction.
Interested to hear peoples thoughts.
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No picture profiles wanting something from no picture profiles - I'm cool with that, seems fair to me  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
I never send face pics on demand so if they stipulated that on their profile I would just move on to the next, regardless of whether they had pics on their profile or not.
They are perfectly entitled to request face pics but no kne is obliged to send them. |
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I would not send a face picture to someone who doesn't have any pictures themselves.
That being said I probably would message them in the first place, because I wouldn't know I'm attracted to someone if they have no pictures.
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"For new or newish members, non verified in anyway to ask for face pictures in their profiles when you send your first message to them?
When they don’t have any pictures either displayed or in a gallery at all.
Is it lack of experience or something else that makes them think it’s acceptable to ask for face pictures?
We do appreciate we are all different in lots of ways but we find it off putting when people demand face pictures before any interaction.
Interested to hear peoples thoughts.
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we generally ask for face pics because it's nice to see in a person's face if they look kind friendly or if there is any attraction there were all different and sometime a photograph is the complete opposite of somebody that you looking for and the thing we found is sometimes although people send photographs they may be a considerable time ago so it doesn't generally show you who you may potentially meet which is a shame |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I messaged somebody I’d only ask for Costa voucher codes or pictures of their dogs in the first message.
Wouldn’t dream of wanting to know what somebody I’m talking to looks like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't think its rude to expect face pictures. It depends on who is messaging who.
We make it quite clear on our profile what we're here for so if a we are messaged by people with intentions to meet they'd better be prepared to show us what they look like. |
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I only read your O.P. O.P. .......
Why do you differentiate between what a new member does and a long time member does ?
A member is a member surely? Or do some people think they have certain rights ?
If it's rude it's rude for all.
I don't think it's out of order at all. |
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"If I messaged somebody I’d only ask for Costa voucher codes or pictures of their dogs in the first message.
Wouldn’t dream of wanting to know what somebody I’m talking to looks like."
You don't have to know. I know what I look like and that's okay by me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I messaged somebody I’d only ask for Costa voucher codes or pictures of their dogs in the first message.
Wouldn’t dream of wanting to know what somebody I’m talking to looks like."
Do you want a photo of my bitches? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I messaged somebody I’d only ask for Costa voucher codes or pictures of their dogs in the first message.
Wouldn’t dream of wanting to know what somebody I’m talking to looks like.
Do you want a photo of my bitches? "
Are they pedigree? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I messaged somebody I’d only ask for Costa voucher codes or pictures of their dogs in the first message.
Wouldn’t dream of wanting to know what somebody I’m talking to looks like.
Do you want a photo of my bitches?
Are they pedigree?"
Damn it, no. Mongrels. |
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Well if you send the first message and they ask for face pics...don't see an issue, we only send first messages to profiles with veris. and we feel an attraction to and we always attach a face pic. We will never share a face pic with someone with no veris even if they send theirs first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I messaged somebody I’d only ask for Costa voucher codes or pictures of their dogs in the first message.
Wouldn’t dream of wanting to know what somebody I’m talking to looks like.
Do you want a photo of my bitches?
Are they pedigree?
Damn it, no. Mongrels. "
I’ll take the Costa voucher codes then please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to have a simple rule with respect to face pics, whoever asks for them should send first whether that’s in an initial message or after a string of messages.
So if I’m asked either in the first message or after a few days of chatting “so, can I see a face pic then” I won’t unless they do first.
Similarly I won’t ask without sending my own.
Not unreasonable imho. |
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I don't send messages but if someone contacts me and asks for a facepic I don't care if they joined up yesterday or 14 years ago they won't be getting one.
I don't care if they are unverified or have 100 veries they won't be getting one.
There's nothing rude about asking for one unless it shows they haven't taken the time to read my profile.
If you want to see what I look like then follow the instructions on my profile.
As others have said, everyone is free to run their own profile as they see fit and ask for whatever but it only becomes rude if they don't respect others boundaries. |
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