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Socials first? Or straight down to business?
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We have had meets where we have had a social, then gone back a week later for another social with fun.
We have also had meets where after the social it's straight to the fun.
Both are great, though we prefer the second option of the two.
What's your preference.?
Or.
Do you play it differently. Xx |
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I go straight to the fun rather than a social
But I know some people prefer to have a social first & I guess by telling them straight no fun will be had on the first meet, you've got an easy get out if your not feeling it
If you imply fun maybe had if the social goes well but you're not feeling it then you're going to have an awkward face to face conversation which personally I wouldn't want knowing how bad guys take a polite no thanks to their messages, I dread to think of their face to face reaction |
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over a year ago
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When i was younger i didnt mind getting down to it straight away or after a very short chat
Now i much prefer chatting for a bit and getting to know somone aswell beforehand over a drink or something. No issue having some fun if we get on well after the first hour or so. but also no issues if people decide not to and just be friends ect  |
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over a year ago
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"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms "
My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests. |
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Social first - can be hotel bar if thats where im staying or somewhere else as long as whoever im with is comfortable with it. No hard and fast rules - if the dynamic is there - happily play on first date if its not then decide together if you want to have another social- just never any pressure either way.  |
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"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms
My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests. "
You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!!  |
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"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms
My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.
You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!! "
It was more high brow than BQ I'll have you kkow |
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We prefer the first meet to be a social so we can chat a little and get to decide then if the person(s) are somebody we can get along well enough with to actually get intimate with them later or not.
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"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms
My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.
You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!! "
I don't ever shag on socials.  |
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over a year ago
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Social first and in a public place, like a coffee shop or restaurant. I'm not going to meet a total stranger in a hotel or even in a car. I value my safety too much x |
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"Social first - can be hotel bar if thats where im staying or somewhere else as long as whoever im with is comfortable with it. No hard and fast rules - if the dynamic is there - happily play on first date if its not then decide together if you want to have another social- just never any pressure either way. "
This generally sums up my take on it.
I've done both. Whichever, always meet in public. Anyone not happy to do that would be a red flag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social with a single female.
Saves awkwardnes if the vibes don't match.
I've learnt the hard way.
With coupless don't mind going down to business straight away.
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"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms
My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.
You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!!
It was more high brow than BQ I'll have you kkow "
Screwfix? |
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A “no expectations” meet first time, if the chemistry is there and we both feel it’s right, I’m not waiting! I may get run over by that infamous bus that keeps threatening people before the next meet! |
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We used to do the phone call, pic swap, intro social then arrange play meet thing but post lock down decided just to go and play at Chameleons ( or PDI ) unless with long standing playmates. Been doing that since September and haven't looked back. Regular fun without all the pre meet stuff. Works for us. Happy Days  |
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"Public social.
In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van. "
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...and then you wake up in a hotel room with a kidney missing...?
A Gin-infused social for me in a public place for a first meet. |
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"Public social.
In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van.
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...and then you wake up in a hotel room with a kidney missing...?
A Gin-infused social for me in a public place for a first meet. "
I have strong kidney function so this does concern me somewhat. |
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Most of the time I have the social in my living room, and then we'll move things to the bedroom if we both want it to go there.
I don't mind meeting someone in public first, if that's what makes them comfortable, but most of the women I have met were happy enough just meeting at mine. |
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Either or , socials can be fun as the sexual tension builds when sitting in a pub / restaurant etc . Right down to it can be hot too . All depends on what Both are comfortable with . |
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Public social First
We don't want to get catfished! or they may try to bundle me into the back of a van.
But definitely Social so she or they can get a feel for you and show them your safe to be with. Honest polite clean and hold a good conversation & most of all like cake |
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Prefer a social first if you get on really well and it leads to more that meet fair enough. Personally I like to feel comfortable with a person before any fun not really a f&£k and go kind of person. |
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By *urio77Man
over a year ago
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"Most of the time I have the social in my living room, and then we'll move things to the bedroom if we both want it to go there.
I don't mind meeting someone in public first, if that's what makes them comfortable, but most of the women I have met were happy enough just meeting at mine."
Same as this. Never had a public social. I can pick up on the vibe through the messages as to whether there’s a connection. |
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"Public social.
In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van.
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...and then you wake up in a hotel room with a kidney missing...?
A Gin-infused social for me in a public place for a first meet.
I have strong kidney function so this does concern me somewhat. "
Shhh don't tell people that or you will end up in the back of a van!!! |
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I like a social that leads into full sex.
Ideally i'd like a few drinks at a club, dancing, chatting & then home for a session.
I also like the straight to ripping each others clothes off & going at it approach lol |
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"Always sex on first meet for me. Maybe chat for an hour or so first than get to it xx"
Same here, if I'm planning to meet you socially I've already thought about having sex with you & i must have liked the idea.
So i have to get it  |
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We always have a social first, usually end up playing the same evening but not always !. One of our last meets was preceeded by TWO socials (they oddly insisted), the meet was rubbish though and certainly not worth waiting a few months for. Even in a club we like a chat first for a few minutes before getting naughty... |
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….but i would love a social first without the pressure of fun!
