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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh."
After a mini meltdown, I find a way to focus on me - make plans with other friends, buy myself something, curl up in front of a film I've wanted to see with chocolate/sweets, get nosy on here, have an orgasm, angry clean. Just to name a few
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over a year ago
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"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh.
After a mini meltdown, I find a way to focus on me - make plans with other friends, buy myself something, curl up in front of a film I've wanted to see with chocolate/sweets, get nosy on here, have an orgasm, angry clean. Just to name a few
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Sounds like me. Well partly. Apart from that, just get used to it lol |
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Plans falling through is one thing
That's happens all the time on fab
however the main disappointment I encounter is when people aren't honest and dont say what they are feeling.....this can end up in you being ghosted leaving you thinking what have I done ...but you pick yourself up dust your self down and move on. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"Make new plans OP  "
Great point! I had a meeting cancelled last minute (for a genuine reason); I looked on Fab and saw someone else wanting to meet in that area, we met up had had a great time.
Traveling to that location put me in the right place at the right time. Things don't always turn out so well but they can do so it's best to be positive when plans don't go to plan. |
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"Sulk
Eat cake
Have a nap
This isn’t the first thing she’s nailed I’m sure  but she’s right eat cake, you always feel better after cake, unless it’s dry then your back to square 1  "
Yup dry cake just makes the disappointment so much worse |
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"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh.
is that not just life ?? or are you talking swinging related ?"
Kind of both to be honest just plans falling though when I was looking forward to them not |
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"I think I always expect cancellations and I don’t really get disheartened anymore.
I have a little 5 minute tantrum and move on, catch up with friends or chill & Netflix "
Catching up with friends would be lovely sadly pretty much all of mine are about 120 miles away which sucks at the best of times as funds and responsibilities dont allow for just travelling that distance when I feel like it. |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
Back of Nowhere and Beyond |
Wazz the kettle on and make a coffee, get annoyed about the fact I gave up smoking and never had one of those long cigarette holder things anyway so I can't do a proper sulky Greta Garbo impersonation and then do something else.
Disappointment sucks, but it's fleeting, OP. Don't let it fester.
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared. |
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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago
Cheltenham |
I had to cancel a weekend away in November last minute. It was horrible. I felt so bad for my friend.
Obviously the reason I gave her was sound but still disappointed. But this is the world we live in ATM....
So dealing with disappointment is totally based on what the thing was. A meet? An expense? Throwing yourself into something or focusing on someone else's.... A I can say. |
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over a year ago
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"Make new plans OP
If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me."
It's not that easy for me either. The "meh" feeling can last for days and leaves me wondering if I should be here or not  |
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"If you're talking about plans made on here
Forget about it and try again, I'd say around 40% of meets end up in no shows, it's something you've just got to get used to unfortunately "
Sadly not plans made on here as that I would probably not be half as worried about because as you say it's to be expected as such, it's someone I have a very close connection with but havent been able to spend quality time with for a while due to circumstances not being brilliant we had a chance for a couple of days this week to spend time together at last but now things have changed and it looks like we wont get that time now and it just sucks as now I'm not sure when the next chance will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared. "
I’ve always found that kind of pessimism of great comfort.
We should meet up again.
Expect me to not turn up.
I’ll do the same.
Good times! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always have another set of plans organised as a back up
Then do you not have to let them down so they feel this way? "
How do you mean? The other plans don't need to involve other people. Go shopping, cinema trip etc |
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"Make new plans OP
If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me.
It's not that easy for me either. The "meh" feeling can last for days and leaves me wondering if I should be here or not "
I hate it when the meh feeling wont bugger off that's the times when I wish I could just cuddle up with someone. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Make new plans OP
If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me.
It's not that easy for me either. The "meh" feeling can last for days and leaves me wondering if I should be here or not
I hate it when the meh feeling wont bugger off that's the times when I wish I could just cuddle up with someone."
I despise that feeling and I'm learning to channel it if possible. This is where the angry cleaning comes in, I find anything that can occupy all of my attention is good to distract
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared.
I’ve always found that kind of pessimism of great comfort.
We should meet up again.
Expect me to not turn up.
I’ll do the same.
Good times!"
Yeah I really should stay off fab when I’m in such a miserable mood |
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"Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared.
I’ve always found that kind of pessimism of great comfort.
We should meet up again.
Expect me to not turn up.
I’ll do the same.
Good times!
Yeah I really should stay off fab when I’m in such a miserable mood "
Not at all sometimes the threads on here can be just the thing you need to give you a good giggle, worst case perv my pics that should give you a chuckle  |
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"Have a brief moan, then do something we enjoy. No point being miserable over something that is beyond our control so we really try not to dwell on it."
This
“My date” has just cancelled a social for this evening , 5 minutes later I have made new plans already.
Lemons and tequila comes to mind , don’t let temporary set backs get you down OP, fingers crossed for you that you’ll get to meet your friend before too long.
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