"Came back on here after a break but it seems I’m still nobody’s “type” so I’m admitting defeat.
There’s no point carrying on.
Good luck everybody. X"
Well you give it your best
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I said on the 31st of December that I was going trust me don't go there are many places that you can go to meet people and go for a social and have a laugh |
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"Just the same old story “sorry, not my type”. I guess I just have to accept I’m too ugly. "
You’re not ugly at all. I think it’s like this for most men and on top of that you’ve got a lot of people not meeting because of current circumstances. Like someone said, get involved in the forums. I 100% wouldn’t be here if the forums weren’t. Do stay x |
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"Came back on here after a break but it seems I’m still nobody’s “type” so I’m admitting defeat.
There’s no point carrying on.
Good luck everybody. X"
Just accept 'it is what it is'
No matter what you say to people. They will choose to engage with who they want.
Keep your head up and smile  . The world will smile back at ya.
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That's a shame. You wouldn't be what we're looking for (as you say straight) and too far away if you were but you are certainly not ugly by any stretch so don't put yourself down!!
Your beer pic - is that somewhere in Germany?
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"Just the same old story “sorry, not my type”. I guess I just have to accept I’m too ugly. "
It isn't about being ugly, which you aren't. As others have said, try clubs, organised socials and engaging in the Forum without an eye on it leading to anything physical. |
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Dont get so disheartened, I have been here for a few years as a single male now and sent out loads of messages but it wasnt until recently when I started posting more on the forums that I found people started engaging with me more, it's not easy to find people on here that you match with for meets and it's even harder if you dont make yourself known to people , comment in threads start threads engage in conversations here in the forums and just take your time. |
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"If I’m nobody’s “type” on here how will that be any different at the clubs where everybody from here goes to?"
Because the difference between a profile and face to face is night and day.
If I were meeting and we were closer, I would certainly ask you for a social (if you're not attached) but now I've seen your updates and post here, I'd be very reticent.
What were you expecting to happen when you joined? |
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"If I’m nobody’s “type” on here how will that be any different at the clubs where everybody from here goes to?"
You and I are the same age. You're 6' and I'm 5'6".....now, who do you think has a better chance of being someone's 'type', whether it's here or outside Fab?  |
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The problem is being a single male on here is like being a single blade of grass in a very big field
It's unfortunate that single guys just aren't in high demand
Just think how I feel being a shorter guy on here
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"That's a shame. You wouldn't be what we're looking for (as you say straight) and too far away if you were but you are certainly not ugly by any stretch so don't put yourself down!!
Your beer pic - is that somewhere in Germany?
T"
Yes it’s in Munich. Beautiful city.
Thanks for your kind words but my self esteem is rock bottom. Every single lady I try and introduce myself to says the same thing. “Sorry not for me” or “sorry not my type”.
It’s nothing to do with people not meeting due to covid, I never get as far as discussing meets. |
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It can get disheartening on here as a guy due to: 1) we massively outnumber ladies and 2) due to the poor actions of a few, ladies are understandably very much on their guard sometimes with single guys.
Those couple of reasons, combined with the usual time wasters you can get sometimes bring you down.
One thing I've tried this year though that may also help you is as someone else above suggested - get to more clubs and socials.
No-one there is wasting time, everyone is friendly and even if you don't end up playing, you've still had a chance to meet new people and have a cheeky drink...!
Anyways, whatever you decide, keep your chin up and don't take this place at all too personally. |
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"That's a shame. You wouldn't be what we're looking for (as you say straight) and too far away if you were but you are certainly not ugly by any stretch so don't put yourself down!!
Your beer pic - is that somewhere in Germany?
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Yes it’s in Munich. Beautiful city.
Ah, Munich! Been there many times. Love it!
Thanks for your kind words but my self esteem is rock bottom. Every single lady I try and introduce myself to says the same thing. “Sorry not for me” or “sorry not my type”.
It’s nothing to do with people not meeting due to covid, I never get as far as discussing meets. "
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Its completely different in a club.
On here people have their guards up like Fort knox because too many people are nasty/fake/time wasters/they're inundated. Its very easy to ignore someone on here.
But if you go to a club people are much nicer- they can feel your vibe and energy and they can see you're real. You'll have a lot more success in a club than on here I'm sure. We've never met anyone from here in the years we've been on here but met loads in a club. |
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Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now. |
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I'm straight, so judging mens level of attractiveness isn't exactly my forté, but you're far from ugly, dude.
As much as I like Fab, the reality is, is it very difficult for a single guy to get any kind of positive response on here, for a number of reasons, regardless of their attractiveness. A lack of results on here isn't a reflection on you personally.
If what your looking for is casual fun; ONS, FWBs, etc. Then you will probably get better results using conventional dating sites.
Just don't let your experience here drag you down. |
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All in all its whats youre after. I get looked at by the wrong gender most time and get asked to meet men. Not my thing. Barely get a message or text from a
Female. And i can imagine how some ladies here get inundated with unwanted messages. But hey, that does not mean me or you or her or whoever is unwanted |
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"Just the same old story “sorry, not my type”. I guess I just have to accept I’m too ugly. "
You're not ugly at all. 
I don't fancy Tom Hardy or Jason Momoa but that doesn't mean they are ugly. |
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"Just the same old story “sorry, not my type”. I guess I just have to accept I’m too ugly. "
No such thing as too ugly! (Read my profile!)
But also there is nothing attractive about a guy who withdraws from the world and cuts and runs because he believes he cannot win.
So you makes your choices and you live with them
Good luck in the future and kisses from me xxx |
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now. "
I like your posts.  |
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Yea it can be totally debilitating OP.
Have considered giving up myself a couple of times. But have decided to tough it out for now and see what prevails. |
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now.
I like your posts. "
Same but I'm outside of your age range or you definitely would have got at least 1 message x |
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"If I’m nobody’s “type” on here how will that be any different at the clubs where everybody from here goes to?"
Honestly it’s so different in a club setting. I haven’t read the replies before this but I can bet many will tell you and agree, you might pass a profile on here - see them in a club and it’s another story…
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now.
I like your posts. "
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I can't stress enough the importance of getting yourself to a club or organised social, particularly if you're considering getting into the lifestyle. The dynamics in the club is completely different than here, people's personalities come through. Don't expect anything to happen on the first night in the club but do try to appear friendly, smile, try to strike conversations.
Yes, I do get it, clubs for single men are not cheap, but there is still an organised social option. |
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"I get so little replies on here I've taken to messaging my self rejection messages
Ha ha. That made me smile. Cheers for that. "
There you go; it needn't only be about the 'hunt' here. Sometimes, you can find that uplift and lightheartedness too. |
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now.
I like your posts. "
As do I. Seaw*ed indeed...tsk. |
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now.
I like your posts.
As do I. Seaw*ed indeed...tsk."
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now.
I like your posts.
Same but I'm outside of your age range or you definitely would have got at least 1 message x"
I assume you mean Myrtle. |
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"Came back on here after a break but it seems I’m still nobody’s “type” so I’m admitting defeat.
There’s no point carrying on.
Good luck everybody. X"
Have you cheered up a bit? |
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"Came back on here after a break but it seems I’m still nobody’s “type” so I’m admitting defeat.
There’s no point carrying on.
Good luck everybody. X"
It can be hard work and frustrating on here sometimes , it’s a shame even if it’s just to chat , it’s annoying that one’s you can end up chatting with and who you would like to meet are always miles away . Bring more active on forums get you noticed more than messages , give it a bit more time |
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You could spice up your profile a bit, change your pics, hide face pics and put in ‘face pic on request’ that would normally happen after a wee chat, which allows your personality to come through first. |
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So there has been a lot of messages of support and some self-help
As a single male on here, I can empathise
I have also been on here as a couple, and the difference is night and day
A club is a great idea, but I do find forums enlightening and more social |
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"Came back on here after a break but it seems I’m still nobody’s “type” so I’m admitting defeat.
There’s no point carrying on.
Good luck everybody. X"
Good looking, young enough and single. Fill your boots on the dating sites. I would. |
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"You could spice up your profile a bit, change your pics, hide face pics and put in ‘face pic on request’ that would normally happen after a wee chat, which allows your personality to come through first. "
Ha ha! Code for “your ugly mug is putting people off”. Cheers for the confidence boost! Lol xx |
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over a year ago
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"You could spice up your profile a bit, change your pics, hide face pics and put in ‘face pic on request’ that would normally happen after a wee chat, which allows your personality to come through first.
Ha ha! Code for “your ugly mug is putting people off”. Cheers for the confidence boost! Lol xx"
Hey - that works for me. |
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over a year ago
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Thanks everybody for your kind messages of support. I won't be leaving after all as I’m now friends with a hot, sexy girl on here who wants to sit on my face xx |
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Why not just stay and enjoy the forum banter.
It's very difficult relying solely on this site to meet people. Why not get out there in the swinging lifestyle and meet people at socials and clubs, it's much easier than relying on a profile to catch people's attention.
That is of you're serious about swinging and not just wanting a quick shag with anyone. |
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"Thanks everybody for your kind messages of support. I won't be leaving after all as I’m now friends with a hot, sexy girl on here who wants to sit on my face xx"
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"Dude I was gonna leave here because of the horrible messages I receive. But that's what they want, so I'm staying.
Also when women on here mention they get too many messages to reply etc etc. I'm like, really? Because I certainly don't get many. But I'm making an effort in forums now. Try not let it get to you. Just enjoy life as it is for now.
I like your posts.
Same but I'm outside of your age range or you definitely would have got at least 1 message x
I assume you mean Myrtle. "
Everyone it seems lol x |
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I’ve felt very similar in the past and thought what’s the point, but a lovely looking lady contacted me a few months ago with some very nice comments. Sadly she’s 150 miles away so unlikely we can meet up but the point is she made the effort which was really nice. I enjoy the forums greatly and can get more pleasure than just sitting and watching porn. Some messages come through from time to time which make it all worthwhile. My advice, for what it’s worth, stick with it. |
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Club means putting in some effort to get on the scene and being seen.
The site, well anyone can join and within minutes create a basic profile so hardly any effort at all. Why would a regular club goer bother meeting off the site when they could go and meet others in a club.
So you’re left with those who hang about on this site, potentially time wasters, men pretending to be women with fake profiles, limited people around your area that match preferences, those who don’t fancy you, those that do but not meeting currently.
You have to be quite lucky to be the right person at the right time in the right location.
So fuck it, go to a club or wait or leave |
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"Thanks everybody for your kind messages of support. I won't be leaving after all as I’m now friends with a hot, sexy girl on here who wants to sit on my face xx"
again all the best |
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"Thanks Sally but can’t even get anybody to engage in a chat let alone meet. "
The chatrooms seem to be a closed group and you must be established there. Any time I go in, there is just an acknowledgement of my presence and then I'm ignored so I don't bother anymore. |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks everybody for your kind messages of support. I won't be leaving after all as I’m now friends with a hot, sexy girl on here who wants to sit on my face xx"
There you go fella, your tactic worked. Desperation is the mother of ingenuity, or something.. |
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Gets even better. Me and my new hot friend have exchanged pics and we’re setting up a meet for a lovely 69 session.
Thanks again for all your help and advice guys and gals xx |
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"I get so little replies on here I've taken to messaging my self rejection messages
Just to see if it was possible - I messaged myself to tell myself how hot I am - then I replied back and agreed. That was a great day! "
I’m friends with me and I’m on my hotlist |
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"I get so little replies on here I've taken to messaging my self rejection messages
Just to see if it was possible - I messaged myself to tell myself how hot I am - then I replied back and agreed. That was a great day! "
I tried this too, sadly I got blocked straight away  |
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Just read through the thread OP, glad to see you are now staying. I usually take breaks, sometimes for months at a time as it all becomes a bit repetitive. I don't engage half as much in the forums like I used too and tend to talk now to more people who don't use them.
Good luck OP in your future endeavours x |
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Goodbye , Good luck , Good life. xxx
I will miss all of your forum threads, the uplifting support you have offered to others and of course I will miss seeing you at socials and clubs.
You won't be forgotten easily ....
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"Just read through the thread OP, glad to see you are now staying. I usually take breaks, sometimes for months at a time as it all becomes a bit repetitive. I don't engage half as much in the forums like I used too and tend to talk now to more people who don't use them.
Good luck OP in your future endeavours x"
Oh ffs ! Why didn't you post that before I posted mine.....
Oh wait ....... |
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"Gets even better. Me and my new hot friend have exchanged pics and we’re setting up a meet for a lovely 69 session.
Thanks again for all your help and advice guys and gals xx"
No one likes a show-off lol
How fickle are we lol |
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"I get so little replies on here I've taken to messaging my self rejection messages
Just to see if it was possible - I messaged myself to tell myself how hot I am - then I replied back and agreed. That was a great day!
I’m friends with me and I’m on my hotlist "
I might go on my own hotlist. I'd be the hottest there and that's no lie. |
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over a year ago
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"Just read through the thread OP, glad to see you are now staying. I usually take breaks, sometimes for months at a time as it all becomes a bit repetitive. I don't engage half as much in the forums like I used too and tend to talk now to more people who don't use them.
Good luck OP in your future endeavours x"
You're a good egg Sparkle, a good egg. |
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"If I’m nobody’s “type” on here how will that be any different at the clubs where everybody from here goes to?"
There's plenty of people out in the real world that go to clubs and parties who aren't on Fab and have never heard of Fab and as others have said there's a whole world of difference between a one dimensional online profile and a real life human being. |
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"I think it's more rude that you are now happy with just the one lady to sit on your face and 69 with.... what about the rest of us Females?
Rude! "
Who said I was happy with just one? |
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It's your choice in the end OP. But bear in mind you joined during COVID and people are only just dipping their toes back in the water. The latest variant has slowed things again.
Get yourself down for a social as others have said. You won't go wrong with the Manchester Lounge Social (MLS). The next one is in April. It's currently full but spaces will become available nearer the time. It's a great event and everyone is very friendly. Keep an eye on Pixie's and GG's MLS profile for details. There's also always a thread running in the parties section on the forum. |
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"Thanks everybody for your kind messages of support. I won't be leaving after all as I’m now friends with a hot, sexy girl on here who wants to sit on my face xx"
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There you go! You went from zerø-to-hero in one hour! |
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"Im gonna announce im leaving...see if I get a 69 or a shut the door on your way out
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I'll sit on your face. It'll be zerØ-to-Nerø in 30 mins.  "
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"If I’m nobody’s “type” on here how will that be any different at the clubs where everybody from here goes to?
There's plenty of people out in the real world that go to clubs and parties who aren't on Fab and have never heard of Fab and as others have said there's a whole world of difference between a one dimensional online profile and a real life human being."
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