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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Hello all. First forum entry on Fab and probably seems very random but hope it sparks some thinking and creativity.
Do you like the idea of having an alter ego or persona for your sexual encounters? Or perhaps you are using one already.
Particularly interested in responses from other cross dressers like myself but absolutely intrigued to hear everyone's thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We talk about this quote a bit doughnut and I lol.
In this life we are Doughnut and Danish and we are confident, perverted souls and in the real world with our real names we are less confident and Danish isn't quite so perverted.
We much prefer to be Doughnut and Danish to everyone tbh, I prefer the name for a start lol
Danish x |
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I think many people probably have an alter ego to some degree or another.
That might come from the anonymity of not giving your real name, meeting in hotels, clubs or other neutral surroundings or even just because we dress in a certain outfit that makes us feel more confident.
Some of course may take it further than those things and I think that's fine as long as they aren't doing it to dupe someone |
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I am just me. Every alter ego can only be within the mindset you already have so, unless you are Dr Jekyll, who didn't know what the other half did, the other you is still you and not a separate identity.
Its interesting that people create a different identity to do different things, as an escape clause, or excuse, for a part of their behaviour that they themselves cannot align with their perception of the "normal them".
If I am buying coffee, or stood over a bound and hooded lady, about to do a "depraved" act...it is still me.
I want to keep the memories for when I am drinking that coffee or stood in the queue at Waitress  |
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I have a different mindset for my playtime, mon-fri I am "mummy" and I focus on my real life. Weekends I have the freedom to slip into my playtime mindset. I am always still me but have the freedom to go on an adventure |
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"I have a different mindset for my playtime, mon-fri I am "mummy" and I focus on my real life. Weekends I have the freedom to slip into my playtime mindset. I am always still me but have the freedom to go on an adventure "
Exactly this. When we visit a club and walk in the door we are Swingsnroundabouts82 but the rest of the time we are mom and dad. We treat our club play as a fantasy and the next day will often say to each other "did you have that dream last night?"
So I guess you could say we have different personas when we play but always coming from the same moral stand point as when we are J and D x |
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This topic can be 'dressed up ' or
'exaggerated' to sound strange or mysterious but every single person on the planet holds different roles. Not only that they exhibit different characteristics in those different roles as well as changing character a little depending on the group they are with at any given time.
I've always been more sexual with people I don't know and seldom want repeat performances which could be why I identify the way I do with the idea of 'non commital'
The above person is totally different from the me in work ( professional occupation, qualified, responsible, leader, respected ) or the me at home that was ( wife , mother , sister, sister in law - daughter in law etc ) The straight lace purist if you like.
If I tried to have sex as the straight laced trustworthy rule abiding person that I am/was during the day - my psyche wouldn't be right for sex.
Vice versa.... I can't take sexually provocative - performative me to work or home .....
I enjoy sex more if I leave everything 'day job' behind. I need those two people.
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"This topic can be 'dressed up ' or
'exaggerated' to sound strange or mysterious but every single person on the planet holds different roles. Not only that they exhibit different characteristics in those different roles as well as changing character a little depending on the group they are with at any given time.
I've always been more sexual with people I don't know and seldom want repeat performances which could be why I identify the way I do with the idea of 'non commital'
The above person is totally different from the me in work ( professional occupation, qualified, responsible, leader, respected ) or the me at home that was ( wife , mother , sister, sister in law - daughter in law etc ) The straight lace purist if you like.
If I tried to have sex as the straight laced trustworthy rule abiding person that I am/was during the day - my psyche wouldn't be right for sex.
Vice versa.... I can't take sexually provocative - performative me to work or home .....
I enjoy sex more if I leave everything 'day job' behind. I need those two people.
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Well said. Pretty much this  |
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I am quite different from my sexual persona. On one hand I live a quiet, peaceful life. Love my garden and the nature it attracts. See a lot of close family who all live nearby. Interested in science, nature and technology. On the other hand (when the rare occasion happens!) I like women on all fours with their back arched and bum raised. I can then firmly grip them from behind and have hot, hard, steamy sex. |
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"Come to think of it ........ even freinds - i'd never divulge to them either. There's no need.
And that!
Seconded . Muggle friends don't need to know  "
You bloody divulge enough to me! Puts me off me crunchy nuts of a morning sometimes! |
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"Come to think of it ........ even freinds - i'd never divulge to them either. There's no need.
And that!
Seconded . Muggle friends don't need to know
You bloody divulge enough to me! Puts me off me crunchy nuts of a morning sometimes! "
I mean non fab folk haha |
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"Come to think of it ........ even freinds - i'd never divulge to them either. There's no need.
And that!
Seconded . Muggle friends don't need to know
You bloody divulge enough to me! Puts me off me crunchy nuts of a morning sometimes!
I mean non fab folk haha "
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I have been told by many people who know “Linda” and know the male me, that we are like two different people.
I have been out in a bar where guys I have known in my normal life, who did not know about this side of my life have walked past me, looked at me and not recognised me (thank goodness! That was nerve wracking )
So. Yes, I maintain that Linda is very much an alter ego of the male me.
I could bore you for a long long time going into the differences and have a good stab at the psychology behind it all in a very “man down the pub”way but shit! Who wants to hear all of that? |
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"I have been told by many people who know “Linda” and know the male me, that we are like two different people.
I have been out in a bar where guys I have known in my normal life, who did not know about this side of my life have walked past me, looked at me and not recognised me (thank goodness! That was nerve wracking )
So. Yes, I maintain that Linda is very much an alter ego of the male me.
I could bore you for a long long time going into the differences and have a good stab at the psychology behind it all in a very “man down the pub”way but shit! Who wants to hear all of that? "
I find it really interesting. I have a TV friend who I know as male and female and there is absolutely no way you would know it was the same person. Not only the looks, the mannerisms, literally everything! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been told by many people who know “Linda” and know the male me, that we are like two different people.
I have been out in a bar where guys I have known in my normal life, who did not know about this side of my life have walked past me, looked at me and not recognised me (thank goodness! That was nerve wracking )
So. Yes, I maintain that Linda is very much an alter ego of the male me.
I could bore you for a long long time going into the differences and have a good stab at the psychology behind it all in a very “man down the pub”way but shit! Who wants to hear all of that? "
I'd find it interesting. |
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"I have been told by many people who know “Linda” and know the male me, that we are like two different people.
I have been out in a bar where guys I have known in my normal life, who did not know about this side of my life have walked past me, looked at me and not recognised me (thank goodness! That was nerve wracking )
So. Yes, I maintain that Linda is very much an alter ego of the male me.
I could bore you for a long long time going into the differences and have a good stab at the psychology behind it all in a very “man down the pub”way but shit! Who wants to hear all of that?
I'd find it interesting. "
Really?
Oooh and you are in the north east!
We should sit down one day and have a good old matter about it…. Maybe over coffee ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thank you for your replies, appreciate your feedback :D
We all have different layers to us and when people create different personas of themselves, it's to really exaggerate those different layers but it's still us.
I would like to help other people explore different sides to themselves in this way as I think it's really fun and creative :D
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess I have a few, biker ego takes no crap, drinks diesel and makes sacrifices to the ICE.
Director ego works and very professional but ruthless
Then the rest is a mix of total perversion and more fluffy! |
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