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What do you do when you’re feeling really low?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly, I don’t log into fab.
Everyone’s different though and that’s certainly not meant as a dig.
I run.
It’s one of the only things that pulls me back out of the darkness.
Be kind to yourself pal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
Oh shit! Gutted to hear this  hope you are ok xx |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
Have a drink take the edge off not getting d*unk just to take the impact off a little
Hope things improve |
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Let your emotions out, then keep yourself occupied, surround yourself with people that care about you, and be open and honest about your feelings with them, I've been there more times than I care to mention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
Sing. What do you do? Sorry to hear man. |
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Seems the wrong advice these days but it's served me well for 40+ years but I compartmentalise.
I stick it in part of brain and try to take my mind of it. Usually by distracting myself.
Walking is also therapeutic to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hit the weights hard and get some aggression out and my other option is sometimes I go to the river near me and just sit there with my headphones on whilst watching the world go by. Sometimes its good to be alone with yourself and allow you to process your emotions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Journalling has been really helpful to me to dump my thoughts and emotions, but write them as a third person so I get a bit of perspective of what is really happening and why I'm feeling those particular emotions.
I also like to do something I enjoy, whether it be a walk, gym or listen to some of my favourite music.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that OP, i hooe you are ok
I hit the gym and fill my head with music.. I also walk (with music). At some point the emotion comes and I let it out, albeit privately if possible |
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If the weather is good I go for a long ride on my motorcycle.
If it’s not, then I’ll lose myself in a task in the workshop. Either something complicated that requires real concentration, so I lose all track of where I am, or something mundane and repetitive like sorting stuff that I don’t have to think about at all.
Something intensely physical is good too. Splitting logs, or digging. |
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Ah sorry to see to see you've had bad news!
When I'm feeling down I sometimes play muaic....loudly.
Have a nice long shower..do my hair..my nails...just take some time to be good to yourself.
Talk to a friend and get a hug.
I hope that the blues and any troubles lift soon x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
Gym always helps great way to start the day and just stay as active as possible!
It’s when your sitting home alone those thoughts creep in !
Wish you the best OP chin up mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP
In a similar mind set myself so totally get this thread.
I used to dive into work and writing/playing music managed to avoid the thoughts for the best part of 10 years. Unfortunately, businesses went to pot at a particularly rough patch and now I’m Employed and have been for the last 2 years.
I dealt with major stuff a year ago and I should’ve done it much sooner.
Just now, it’s other things and I’m struggling to get the motivation to get into music again.
On a personal note, feel free to fire me a message to vent anything. It’s sometimes easier to speak to someone you don’t actually know.
I’ve just rabbled but, that’s what used to help me. Now, like you. I’m asking the same thing.
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
A lot has already been said .. get yourself somewhere cosy and have a good cry
But then get yourself somewhere outside and push your body physically. You are a part of a huge universe, see it, open up to it .
This is hard, but you are tiny. A spec, but you are you!
See how insignificant you are but appreciate how important you are ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I can I go to some quiet place (woodland or by the water) where I wouldn't bump into anyone and listen to the sounds of nature. I also have a music playlist for when I'm down. Also as someone said already - give yourself time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
I'm sorry to hear you're down.
I will usually listen to some uplifting music... Maybe have a dance and sing (which is dreadful).
I'll also get a cuddle from Max... Who gives the best cuddles. Seriously though receiving a hug if you can really helps.
Hope you feel brighter xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Firstly, I don’t log into fab.
Everyone’s different though and that’s certainly not meant as a dig.
I run.
It’s one of the only things that pulls me back out of the darkness.
Be kind to yourself pal."
I read this and thought, yeah Fab is probably not the best place to be when feeling like this. So sorry for “posting and running” it must seem like an attention grab but it wasn’t meant to be. I took myself off to my BPD support group and they were great. I’m still worried, scared and upset but have some focus now. Been a long night.
Big thanks to all the people who don’t know me who reached out directly and some even invited me to call them an talk. Bless you all x |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
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"Firstly, I don’t log into fab.
Everyone’s different though and that’s certainly not meant as a dig.
I run.
It’s one of the only things that pulls me back out of the darkness.
Be kind to yourself pal."
Would agree this. There must be more appropriate sites than Fab.
Sites with friends and family on maybe?? |
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"Firstly, I don’t log into fab.
Everyone’s different though and that’s certainly not meant as a dig.
I run.
It’s one of the only things that pulls me back out of the darkness.
Be kind to yourself pal.
I read this and thought, yeah Fab is probably not the best place to be when feeling like this. So sorry for “posting and running” it must seem like an attention grab but it wasn’t meant to be. I took myself off to my BPD support group and they were great. I’m still worried, scared and upset but have some focus now. Been a long night.
Big thanks to all the people who don’t know me who reached out directly and some even invited me to call them an talk. Bless you all x"
I hope you're doing OK.
In answer to the original question it depends on how the emotion is impacting.
If I'm angry I will do something physical: walk, swim, dance, fuck, anything to take off the burn.
If I'm sorrowful I will cry, sleep, talk, reach out to friends.
If I'm isolated I will immerse myself in nature and remind myself how insignificant my troubles are - walk through the woods, paddle along the shore, lie under the stars.
If I'm scared I will listen to loud music, distract myself with a film or a book, remind myself of everything I've survived so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Be kind to yourself
Music is great!
Go out into nature for a walk, woods or seaside, appreciate the small the small things, bird’s singing, sound of a river etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
Sorry to hear. I just try and get a quiet moment to process it and think of the variables. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I’m feeling pretty blue right now. I had some bad family news this afternoon and feel a pretty down.
What do you all do when feeling like this?"
I just go for a run on the quiet trails by myself and then stop somewhere for 10 mins or so and just empty my mind  |
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sorry to hear about your bad news 