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Best way to get a response
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey Everyone,
Struggling to get many responses to messages or meetings arranged. Can see quite a few guys who get consistent meets and wondering if I can get some tips from men, women or couples on how they would like to be approached or maybe if something in my profile is off putting?
Any tips would be welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks. I always make sure I read the profile and make sure I’m what they’re looking for. Need to start offering cake and biscuits, always be a good host haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask if you want to breed me - that always gets me going ! Only kidding OP sometimes it's just a matter of time. Not sure how you would feel about attending clubs, but they are a great way to meet like minded people xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile isn’t off putting but it is only 3 weeks old? It does take a little bit of time to even find one.
The forums are a great place to interact with others and make friendships.
All I can say is if you are messaging a couple talk/ address them both.
January can be a strange time people are focusing on themselves having just had Christmas and New Year getting back into a routine and all that… Plus so many I know have had covid recently could be a mixture of a few things…
Keep at it, go to a club and experience things there it’s a great way to meet others…
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't message with the sole intention of sex. A social is just as good, if not better than sex."
Completely agree! Was on here before and was a typical straight to the point guy. Since rejoining I definitely want to have the social side of things and build to a meet. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't message with the sole intention of sex. A social is just as good, if not better than sex.
Blocked "
Sex with me is like having sex with a plank of wood. You've saved yourself a rubbish day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask if you want to breed me - that always gets me going ! Only kidding OP sometimes it's just a matter of time. Not sure how you would feel about attending clubs, but they are a great way to meet like minded people xx"
Thanks, went to Xtasia a couple of years ago but I’d have to check that out again. Any other club recommendations? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I just take an honest, friendly approach.
You have to remember OP, us blokes outnumber the ladies by a fair stretch on here, and they are often bombarded with messages.
Just be friendly, genuine, open a conversation, and don't take it personally if you don't get a response. That would be my advice  |
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I would say you need to definitely address both M and F is its a couple.
Also read their profile and ask an open question that links to their interests and encourages a conversation (if possible).
If you get a reply make sure to write things that encourage the conversation to keep going - nothing is more likely to make us stop messaging than showing no interest in what we have said!
MJ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think just keep in mind theres literally thousands of people on here. Be yourself and dont be disheartened by not recieving responses. People are busy/get 100's of messages a day. All you can do is be you and the right response will come mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile isn’t off putting but it is only 3 weeks old? It does take a little bit of time to even find one.
The forums are a great place to interact with others and make friendships.
All I can say is if you are messaging a couple talk/ address them both.
January can be a strange time people are focusing on themselves having just had Christmas and New Year getting back into a routine and all that… Plus so many I know have had covid recently could be a mixture of a few things…
Keep at it, go to a club and experience things there it’s a great way to meet others…
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Great advice from a man that knows.
I remember a time before I was jaded and much less nonchalant.
I hope you remain such a valued and insightful member of the forum for many years to come my friend.
I’d also add that chicks love a guy that can rock a hat like jack. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would say you need to definitely address both M and F is its a couple.
Also read their profile and ask an open question that links to their interests and encourages a conversation (if possible).
If you get a reply make sure to write things that encourage the conversation to keep going - nothing is more likely to make us stop messaging than showing no interest in what we have said!
MJ x"
Great advice thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your profile isn’t off putting but it is only 3 weeks old? It does take a little bit of time to even find one.
The forums are a great place to interact with others and make friendships.
All I can say is if you are messaging a couple talk/ address them both.
January can be a strange time people are focusing on themselves having just had Christmas and New Year getting back into a routine and all that… Plus so many I know have had covid recently could be a mixture of a few things…
Keep at it, go to a club and experience things there it’s a great way to meet others…
Great advice from a man that knows.
I remember a time before I was jaded and much less nonchalant.
I hope you remain such a valued and insightful member of the forum for many years to come my friend.
I’d also add that chicks love a guy that can rock a hat like jack."
Completely agree about the advice and the hat comment. Absolutely owning it haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably wasn’t the best time to join everyone still comeing down after xmas and with the hole pandemic people are still not back in to the swing off things
Just be your self and clubs are a single guys best friend |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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Be patient, be pleasant, don't be pushy and send repeat messages when you don't get a reply, post in forums, compliment people, have a few tasteful photos as well as the odd duck pic, fab photos if those who interest you and they will sometimes contact you first if they like you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be patient, be pleasant, don't be pushy and send repeat messages when you don't get a reply, post in forums, compliment people, have a few tasteful photos as well as the odd duck pic, fab photos if those who interest you and they will sometimes contact you first if they like you. "
Duck pics are really what do it for me, I just love webbed feet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be patient, be pleasant, don't be pushy and send repeat messages when you don't get a reply, post in forums, compliment people, have a few tasteful photos as well as the odd duck pic, fab photos if those who interest you and they will sometimes contact you first if they like you.
Duck pics are really what do it for me, I just love webbed feet "
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By *ezzelsMan
over a year ago
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Be yourself….there a lots of single men on here..and couples who are also single men….women get bombarded ..mainly with crap and vulgar ness so they become a little desensitised..just be nice..be happy..don’t expect anything..the genuine women will sense your a good fella..if you can’t be the poet..be the poem.. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
"Be patient, be pleasant, don't be pushy and send repeat messages when you don't get a reply, post in forums, compliment people, have a few tasteful photos as well as the odd duck pic, fab photos if those who interest you and they will sometimes contact you first if they like you.
Duck pics are really what do it for me, I just love webbed feet "
I just thought some ladies might prefer to see a nice mandarin rather than a dick |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be patient, be pleasant, don't be pushy and send repeat messages when you don't get a reply, post in forums, compliment people, have a few tasteful photos as well as the odd duck pic, fab photos if those who interest you and they will sometimes contact you first if they like you.
Duck pics are really what do it for me, I just love webbed feet
I just thought some ladies might prefer to see a nice mandarin rather than a dick "
you never know! |
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