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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got rejected a few days into chatting because I was uncomfortable with the fact he was wanking while we were messaging  he'd seemed so nice and normal up to that point... |
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I'm not what they're looking for
They don't find me attractive
They find something in my profile off-putting
In one case I'd met someone they didn't like
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Immediate block without explanation
Their reasons are their own and aren't my concern; ultimately they don't want to meet me and that's all the info I need! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who knows? My messages just get ignored never get a reason.
Everyone has their preferences. I just don't seem to be anyone's on here from what I've seen haha.
If I was in to guys that would be a different story haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same "
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually it’s just a polite no thank you, can certainly imagine reasons, but I’m not one to question or try to change someone’s initial response so I just accept it and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus "
Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus "
I’ve got big forearms |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus
Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile! "
Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus
I’ve got big forearms "
That a metaphor? Went over my head haha |
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"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x
Men don't reject."
I can assure you some do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x
Men don't reject."
I reject guys every day haha |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x
Men don't reject."
Of course men reject as well.
We aren’t all controlled by a desire to stick our penises in something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus
Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!
Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair "
7 is my maximum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus
Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!
Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair
7 is my maximum "
Yeah true. Seems like you're one of the small percentage on here then haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus
Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!
Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair
7 is my maximum
Yeah true. Seems like you're one of the small percentage on here then haha "
I think you’ll find there’s more of us than you realise lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dicks too big
too manly
too romantic
too perfect
I’ve had a few
And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same
Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus
Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!
Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair
7 is my maximum
Yeah true. Seems like you're one of the small percentage on here then haha
I think you’ll find there’s more of us than you realise lol"
I'd be out of your range anyway... I've probs just been looking in the wrong places then |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
Rarely getting a reason here. And to be honest I can’t care less about that. I am confident and sorted guy accepting myself. But even if someone tell me the reason I am not going to change anything in me or in my behaviour. Love to chat and meet confident people who don’t relay on others opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rarely getting a reason here. And to be honest I can’t care less about that. I am confident and sorted guy accepting myself. But even if someone tell me the reason I am not going to change anything in me or in my behaviour. Love to chat and meet confident people who don’t relay on others opinion.
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Personally I would like a reason as it may be something that is wrong with my profile. Therefore if it could be made better then I could. I wouldn't change anything in my self as that is just silly. I have seen many people say that in clubs they have met people they wouldn't I'd they viewed their profile on here. |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
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Personally I would like a reason as it may be something that is wrong with my profile. Therefore if it could be made better then I could. I wouldn't change anything in my self as that is just silly. I have seen many people say that in clubs they have met people they wouldn't I'd they viewed their profile on here. "
It’s because generally we have much more choice in internet and kind of looking for perfection or paying attention to things we wouldn’t notice of meet offline.
I don’t have too much trust in profile here. It’s internet, you can place here whatever you wish to be. And unfortunately i met people who are not even close to what is there in the profile. Social meet or video call brings much more clarity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They’d heard from other people that I was so good I just ruined sex forever. That level of pleasure was unable to be recreated ever again
At least that’s what I think they meant by “fuck off”"
Haha |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"They’d heard from other people that I was so good I just ruined sex forever. That level of pleasure was unable to be recreated ever again
At least that’s what I think they meant by “fuck off”"
Yeah, that is the right definition of fuck off. |
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"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x
Men don't reject."
They definitely do, me included |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would like a reason as it may be something that is wrong with my profile. Therefore if it could be made better then I could. I wouldn't change anything in my self as that is just silly. I have seen many people say that in clubs they have met people they wouldn't I'd they viewed their profile on here.
It’s because generally we have much more choice in internet and kind of looking for perfection or paying attention to things we wouldn’t notice of meet offline.
I don’t have too much trust in profile here. It’s internet, you can place here whatever you wish to be. And unfortunately i met people who are not even close to what is there in the profile. Social meet or video call brings much more clarity "
I agree with this. I just call this the tinder of the swingers world as that is pretty much what it is. Can't really say I've had people read my profile before messaging. And see read my profile written in a lot of profiles.
I would definitely agree that a phone/video call would be idea before a meet though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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‘You’re not for me/us’ thats a good enough reason for me. I’ve never asked tbh, i’ve been told that as a reply to a first message or after sending a face picture. If someone isnt interested i don’t need to know why. Can’t be everyones cuppa tea. X |
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They don't tend to tell me! It stings more if you've pursued them and they were super keen but then stop messaging.. I did rattle on for a mini essay in a recent one so can only assume they didn't like what I said or cba to reply to it!   |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible "
I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people |
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No idea as it's never happened yet.
Plenty of conversations have fizzled out but I've never had an actual rejection message so I've no idea why people stop chatting and I've never given it a second thought apart from assuming they decided we weren't compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No idea as it's never happened yet.
Plenty of conversations have fizzled out but I've never had an actual rejection message so I've no idea why people stop chatting and I've never given it a second thought apart from assuming they decided we weren't compatible. "
I'd consider that a soft rejection. They were too nice to be blunt but allowed the conversation to die out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I have had women just block me. No reason other than I guess I am not their type.
Perhaps there has been problems with people being abusive after being rejected and that’s why.
I do appreciate when I get a reading and feedback.
I can’t understand it as I am obviously awesome…… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know "
This is actually so rude. Did it really happen?? |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"I don't know and can only really make assumptions, so I guess if we're pinning it on looks, not everyone is going to be interested in a 40+ year old with tattoos and an undercut. "
Hmmmmm, I wouldn't be so sure about that. You forgot to mention gorgeous legs.  |
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"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know
This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??"
yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible
I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people "
Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know
This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake "
I find that some people think that they are god's gift to humanity on here. It is no different to the real world in reality. A lot of people also think that because a screen is between them and you they can say anything they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible
I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people
Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type "
So why not just block and report? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I very rarely get a reply but the 2 most common ones when I do is:
You don't have hair
Oh, your not my type.
Well what do you say in return about that?  "
You don’t say anything. Better to just move on in my experience. |
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"Eyes like the devil was a favourite of mine "
Oooh crumbs! Talk about steely blue!
They do look a bit like the devil’s mind! But so what?you are an extremely good looking guy and so long as you are a nice guy, then you should be beating them off with a stick!
Hmm beating people off with a stick is maybe not an acceptable turn of phrase these days. Please forgive me |
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
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Rejection is a two way street... after complimenting me on my pics, a gent decided I was too big for him after asking my dress size...
I waant his cuppa, no big deal...
I reject gents who can't/ignore my profile...
Why question it?
It happens to us all...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible
I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people
Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type
So why not just block and report? "
I try to distinguish between someone just having a bad experience v someone with a genuine attitude problem. |
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"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know
This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake
I find that some people think that they are god's gift to humanity on here. It is no different to the real world in reality. A lot of people also think that because a screen is between them and you they can say anything they want. "
there's definitely some people here that think that because they're either a female, or hung like a donkey, they're 'gods gift '..the more 'life experience 'folks, are a bit more savvy than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible
I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people
Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type
So why not just block and report?
I try to distinguish between someone just having a bad experience v someone with a genuine attitude problem. "
Bad day or not. We are all adults but I guess some don't understand what that word means haha |
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We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know
This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake
I find that some people think that they are god's gift to humanity on here. It is no different to the real world in reality. A lot of people also think that because a screen is between them and you they can say anything they want. there's definitely some people here that think that because they're either a female, or hung like a donkey, they're 'gods gift '..the more 'life experience 'folks, are a bit more savvy than that. "
Can't really say I've talked to many 'life experienced folks' as I am only considered a baby on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K"
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away "
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances? "
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you "
Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason? |
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you "
Which part of my response would be considered rude? 
We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason? "
No... Just not be rude about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?
No... Just not be rude about it "
But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Which part of my response would be considered rude?
We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.
K"
Never aimed that at you by the way. The fact you say that you aren't for them does suggest you aren't rude. I can understand ignoring if you have a code word in your profile and they don't read it.
What is the need to be short with someone in that scenario? Why couldn't you just say that you would prefer it if both of you were addressed? Or if you have that in your profile a simple 'read my profile' would suffice. No? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?
No... Just not be rude about it
But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?" "
Yes of course. That would be a good rejection as you acknowledged them and rejected them. I'm talking about the people that just pretend they don't hear them or point blank avoid them |
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?
No... Just not be rude about it
But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?"
Yes of course. That would be a good rejection as you acknowledged them and rejected them. I'm talking about the people that just pretend they don't hear them or point blank avoid them "
Oh right makes sense now. I thought you meant as in rejection itself was rude, that's why I was confused.
I think it depends on the situation and the setting. Remember it can be scary turning someone down as you don't know how they'll react, especially if you don't have your friends around you for backup. |
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Too old,too thin,cock too small,too far away, despite being happy to travel, look like Mr Bean (which I don't,at least in my opinion) the fact that I'm married & playing solo, several people wouldn't believe that I'm here with my wife's blessing. |
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?
No... Just not be rude about it
But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?"
Yes of course. That would be a good rejection as you acknowledged them and rejected them. I'm talking about the people that just pretend they don't hear them or point blank avoid them
Oh right makes sense now. I thought you meant as in rejection itself was rude, that's why I was confused.
I think it depends on the situation and the setting. Remember it can be scary turning someone down as you don't know how they'll react, especially if you don't have your friends around you for backup. "
That's definitely true. I have had to step in a time or 2 when I have been at a bar or club and have seen a guy pushing a lass about |
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Which part of my response would be considered rude?
We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.
K
Never aimed that at you by the way. The fact you say that you aren't for them does suggest you aren't rude. I can understand ignoring if you have a code word in your profile and they don't read it.
What is the need to be short with someone in that scenario? Why couldn't you just say that you would prefer it if both of you were addressed? Or if you have that in your profile a simple 'read my profile' would suffice. No?"
It says it on our profile…we don’t need to go back and reiterate it. It’s just a reason for rejection. If they can’t be respectful to us a couple in their first message then they have no chance of getting any further.
I think you are looking at it from a single guys perspective…not a guys point of view in a couple.
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over a year ago
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"I am not for everyone and not everyone is for me. That's just the way it is. Worrying over why someone says "no" is counter productive. "
You can potentially learn from being told though. It can help you improve. |
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"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…
We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.
Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.
K
It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away
Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?
No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you
Which part of my response would be considered rude?
We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.
K
Never aimed that at you by the way. The fact you say that you aren't for them does suggest you aren't rude. I can understand ignoring if you have a code word in your profile and they don't read it.
What is the need to be short with someone in that scenario? Why couldn't you just say that you would prefer it if both of you were addressed? Or if you have that in your profile a simple 'read my profile' would suffice. No?
It says it on our profile…we don’t need to go back and reiterate it. It’s just a reason for rejection. If they can’t be respectful to us a couple in their first message then they have no chance of getting any further.
I think you are looking at it from a single guys perspective…not a guys point of view in a couple.
K"
 I delete without responding to a lot of my messages but my profile also states that I’ll delete if not interested or if they don’t meet the criteria I make clear on my profile! |
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"I am not for everyone and not everyone is for me. That's just the way it is. Worrying over why someone says "no" is counter productive.
You can potentially learn from being told though. It can help you improve. "
In what way? The only messages I ever reply to over the last ten years are those who have read my profile and sent a lovely one.
The reasons for turning them down are nothing they have control over, I just didn't find them attractive.
The ones who could learn a thing or six are not worth my time, they treat women as free, disposable sex workers, nothing more than a wet hole to dump their load in and nothing I say will ever change that. |
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Distance is invariably the reason why I have to decline the invitations of some lovely people, but I've always been very hospitable to anyone who finds themselves in my neck of the woods, whether on holiday, or a short break, and some very good friendships have come out of that. |
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Don’t have a face pic. All good, since it’s better we do not meet if both parties cannot mutually agree and/or accept to respect each others prerequisites... |
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"I don’t think the reason matters, if they are not interested that’s enough "
another reason I get is because I can’t accommodate which at times is hilarious because they, themselves cannot accommodate either and yet expect me to... 
Also, I never bother to ask for reason as some simply feel the need to explain thinking that I may bend to their requests...
I just wish they’d bother to read my profile, since this’d help avoid the unnecessary drama.
...plenty other meets with likeminded peeps we can all be having an abundance of fun with. |
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"Too old,too thin,cock too small,too far away, despite being happy to travel, look like Mr Bean (which I don't,at least in my opinion) the fact that I'm married & playing solo, several people wouldn't believe that I'm here with my wife's blessing."
Also they don't meet bi or bi curious men & only want fully bi men.
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