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Is it so hard to read profiles before you msg
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"It bugs the hell out of me the amount of msgs we get from people, who obviously havent. And then they get upset and often stroppy. "
We agree totally.
There are so many arseholes on here we find!
Simple manners seem lacking on here by a lot of people. |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"Not hard, just painful. Most women have such shitty, demanding attitudes.
If you don't enjoy it here, don't be here."
By the same token they are free to put what they want.
If you don’t like their profiles why not just move on. |
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By *opilotMan
over a year ago
Heathrow |
I'll never understand why people don't read profiles properly. I've often clicked on a profile thinking we could be a good match and then I'll see something within they're profile that tells me I would not be a good match for them, so I simply move on. I wouldn't bother wasting theirs or my time in sending a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not hard, just painful. Most women have such shitty, demanding attitudes.
If you don't enjoy it here, don't be here."
I bet you absolutely clean up on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not hard, just painful. Most women have such shitty, demanding attitudes.
If you don't enjoy it here, don't be here."
I think most of us do enjoy it, but are so jaded and fed up with the way we get treated. We shouldn’t have to add lots of rules into profiles, but the levels of entitlement and disrespect means that many do. |
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By *opilotMan
over a year ago
Heathrow |
"Not hard, just painful. Most women have such shitty, demanding attitudes.
If you don't enjoy it here, don't be here.
I think most of us do enjoy it, but are so jaded and fed up with the way we get treated. We shouldn’t have to add lots of rules into profiles, but the levels of entitlement and disrespect means that many do."
It is also because of the numerous about of messages you get daily from chancers, that by putting in rules, you'd hope to put them off to some extent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry op. Don’t let things bug the bell out of you.
I know immediately if anyone has read my profile, but it doesn’t matter in the whole scheme of things. |
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"Not hard, just painful. Most women have such shitty, demanding attitudes.
If you don't enjoy it here, don't be here.
I think most of us do enjoy it, but are so jaded and fed up with the way we get treated. We shouldn’t have to add lots of rules into profiles, but the levels of entitlement and disrespect means that many do."
You're right, and some rules are just fine. But I'm talking about the kind of bad attitute that judges everyone before anyone has even sent a first message, profile level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not hard, just painful. Most women have such shitty, demanding attitudes.
If you don't enjoy it here, don't be here.
I think most of us do enjoy it, but are so jaded and fed up with the way we get treated. We shouldn’t have to add lots of rules into profiles, but the levels of entitlement and disrespect means that many do.
You're right, and some rules are just fine. But I'm talking about the kind of bad attitute that judges everyone before anyone has even sent a first message, profile level."
Well that tells me YOU read a profile...so that's what doesn't matter here and it's a whole different thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe our profile right now expresses very clearly.
Yet we still get around a dozen messages daily asking to meet.
We tend to be very clear on what we seek, when we seek etc to make it easier for anyone interested to consider whether or not we may be a match.
I guess it's just the nature of the beast, being a site based around casual sex, many will log in already horny and wanting an immediate result.
It's an unfortunate frustration, but not enough to ruin my day.
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My profile is written specifically for those who won't take the time to read it.
I can tell from the first message if they did or not.
Half of the messages I receive are from people who think I don't really mean anything I say in my profile and even if I do I should be grateful to get a message at all so the rules don't apply to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People cannot be bothered to read our profile which makes it easy for us not to be bothered answering them but..
Please just read that we are a couple. We are sick of replies that look like they are replying to a single woman..
It has got to the stage where in may be easier just to ban single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile is written specifically for those who won't take the time to read it.
I can tell from the first message if they did or not.
Half of the messages I receive are from people who think I don't really mean anything I say in my profile and even if I do I should be grateful to get a message at all so the rules don't apply to them. "
I just read it and liked it! Intelligence is incredibly important to me, and it shines out of your profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s probably a fine line between too short and too long, I just don’t care.
I personally read profiles in the hope they’re entertaining, and if I was going to message somebody I’d like to know some basics first or if I would even fit the criteria of what they’re looking for.
Surely you’d have to be some kind of stupid to message somebody and ask what they’re looking for when it’s written in black and white on the profile you’re looking at? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s so frustrating. My profile is clear on what I’m looking for - so as not to waste my time or theirs. Still 9/10 messages I get are from people who haven’t read my profile. I’ve also recently started getting messages from people who have read my profile but don’t like what it says, so they message me to tell me…
My profile stays hidden most of the time now because of this!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people don't.
They see pics, think "I'd pump that", then proceed to type a one line message with their free hand whilst the other rips the heid aff it.
Tale as old as time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Majority don't read mine and those that do always expect some kind of reward and recognition. I don't tend to give a shit either way. I can choose to ignore or politely say no thank you "
I read yours and what can I say I was confused, amused and strangely aroused
It’s a hell of read but worth it in the end
I bet you are a lot of fun on a night out or in
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"Majority don't read mine and those that do always expect some kind of reward and recognition. I don't tend to give a shit either way. I can choose to ignore or politely say no thank you
I read yours and what can I say I was confused, amused and strangely aroused
It’s a hell of read but worth it in the end
I bet you are a lot of fun on a night out or in
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That was my aim
Thank you
I certainly am |
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"I had someone message me to tell me they enjoyed reading my profile, and at that point all it said was ….. there were no words in it "
I had someone tell me how much they loved my pics when I didn't have any, I just said oh really?? Thanks, which one is your favourite ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's frustrating but do enjoy calling the bluff of some:
Single Male: I love your profile, I've read it and it's something I'm really into.
Us: Which part?
SM: All of it.
Us: Can you tell us which part you like?
SM: "Message deleted after seeing first line that states no single men". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had someone message me to tell me they enjoyed reading my profile, and at that point all it said was ….. there were no words in it
I had someone tell me how much they loved my pics when I didn't have any, I just said oh really?? Thanks, which one is your favourite ? "
It baffles me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Majority don't read mine and those that do always expect some kind of reward and recognition. I don't tend to give a shit either way. I can choose to ignore or politely say no thank you
I read yours and what can I say I was confused, amused and strangely aroused
It’s a hell of read but worth it in the end
I bet you are a lot of fun on a night out or in
That was my aim
Thank you
I certainly am "
Well you succeed
I am going to be keeping my eye on you |
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I've had a couple message and ask to meet. When I referred them to the part about chatting for a while follwed by a social they said oh yeah we've just noticed that, we'll buy the coffee.
"what about the plane ticket?" I asked.
"What plane ticket?"
Eh the one I'll need to get to the US for the coffee! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Majority don't read mine and those that do always expect some kind of reward and recognition. I don't tend to give a shit either way. I can choose to ignore or politely say no thank you "
I read yours only this morning....you're safe.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why bother reading profiles? Most couples don't bother replying. Just find sexy pics and mail them. No point wasting time reading. "
Very true. I think those that don’t get read ore the bi-product of the ‘deleted means a polite no’. Maybe.
*I hide in a corner waiting for the replies… |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I just use it as a filter, if they haven't read I can delete.
I'll always reply, even with a no thanks, when it's clear they've read my profile.
It applies to men, women and couples too, all are guilty of not reading a profile or reading it and thinking it doesn't apply to them. |
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