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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Two curious questions for the people of this community, from a new member:
- For how long do you chat with someone before meeting?(I know this may vary based on gender and the type of meet)
- How long was it before you had your first meet when you joined?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I've been on here for about 15 years, although I never really actively used the site for about the first 3 of them, but when I started looking, it took me about 9 months  "
Wow, 15 years!!! Are you like the creator/owner of the site?  |
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I think it depends on how well you click with someone and how close they are. In theory you could meet after a few hours chatting but usually a few days.
My first meet was after a couple of months on fab. |
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So, being entirely honest we like to chat for a bit before arranging anything, and even then a social first.
If we get on with someone, we usually arrange a meet within a half dozen or so messages, sometimes a few more, but ironically the better we get on the more we'll probably chat.
We much prefer a social first because honestly, it's so hard to find people who can hold a conversation in the first place, and then even some of those turn out to be the wrong kind of weird.
But yeah, a solid 75%+ of our 'good' conversations ultimately die off. That's just the game I guess! We've had more decent unplanned meets in clubs than planned from Fab. |
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I chat a good while before meeting. I find it helps avoid my getting stood up, and by the time we meet it feels like I'm meeting someone I already know.
Bear in mind that timescales are very different on here for women and men. I had my first social around 4 weeks after I joined, first play meet around three weeks later. |
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It all depends on location, how well we get on and availability to meet. I've met people after years, months and days.
I like to get to know people a bit but I'd never rule out meeting someone the same day I started talking to them if we both felt comfortable to do so but I'll never force anything and I leave the ball in their court.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More important is how long do you wait for answers to your question before you go UNLOS?
Anyway… here’s a secret, this profile is a year old (I think) and I’ve not yet been asked to meet. True story.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually after a couple of weeks. It’s important to move to a meet relatively swiftly, in order to establish if there’s any chemistry.
When I was online dating, I’d sometimes have a prolonged period of messaging a guy, then we’d eventually meet and I didn’t fancy him in real life. It all just felt like such a waste of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually after a couple of weeks. It’s important to move to a meet relatively swiftly, in order to establish if there’s any chemistry….."
I can have someone in a friend zone within 3 messages apparently. After 4 they stop replying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually after a couple of weeks. It’s important to move to a meet relatively swiftly, in order to establish if there’s any chemistry…..
I can have someone in a friend zone within 3 messages apparently. After 4 they stop replying. "
((((Woody))))
A hug, as opposed to a representation of the Doppler Effect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually after a couple of weeks. It’s important to move to a meet relatively swiftly, in order to establish if there’s any chemistry.
When I was online dating, I’d sometimes have a prolonged period of messaging a guy, then we’d eventually meet and I didn’t fancy him in real life. It all just felt like such a waste of time."
First meet within 2 weeks or I will never meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually after a couple of weeks. It’s important to move to a meet relatively swiftly, in order to establish if there’s any chemistry…..
I can have someone in a friend zone within 3 messages apparently. After 4 they stop replying.
((((Woody))))
A hug, as opposed to a representation of the Doppler Effect "
A Doppler effect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been chatting with folks on here for a good few years and we've not met not sure if I will meet them but it's nice to be social and you never know... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been chatting with folks on here for a good few years and we've not met not sure if I will meet them but it's nice to be social and you never know..."
If you enjoy the chats and have no expectations, that’s fine I guess. To me it would seem a bit pointless, but we’re all different |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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Heck, unless you live around the corner it's going to take a little bit of diary juggling and/or location matching ...so it's not going to be in the same day that's for sure |
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It depends on so many variables!
Now we're pretty much back to normal, I like to social in the first week or 2 after contact, then meet as soon as possible after that, depends on people's schedules. |
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