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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable? |
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"That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable? "
We’d rather just tell them that they aren’t for us.
We’d like to be told too rather than just blanked when picture is sent.
We know that people get a lot of messages. We get a few and try to let the ones who have bothered to read our profile know what we think.
If you haven’t bothered to read it then you’ll just be blanked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable? "
Depends on what yours and their definition of successful is |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable?
Depends on what yours and their definition of successful is"
Getting replies to their messages, acknowledged, having meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it does depend on why that person is here though, for example they may not have any meets and may behave in a particular manner but they may not actually be interested in meeting and just enjoy the social aspect of the site. You can never be so sure as to why someone may be using the site, and just cos you may think they wont have success based on your opinion of them, doesnt mean they havent had success in the past with ppl who have no issue with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable?
Depends on what yours and their definition of successful is
Getting replies to their messages, acknowledged, having meets. "
They may have to work harder than some but nothing is impossible. One persons trash is another ones treasure and all that shit |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable?
Depends on what yours and their definition of successful is
Getting replies to their messages, acknowledged, having meets. "
And have you some magic crystal ball to know that?
I think anyone has a chance, they might need to learn, grow etc... but I like to believe that everyone has the capability for growth |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is meant when someone is flat out asking what they can do to have some luck not just me picking a profile and thinking hmm you ain’t gonna do well on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neither because it's not for me to say what is successful and what isn't. For some people just chatting is what they want so therefore if they chat with people they are successful. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv"
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you know?
Say it if you want but it's just shitty of you to do so. And why you think if you can't do that you'd have to give them advice I do not know. |
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No,because one person's success could be anothers failure. It's all relative.
Everyone has the right to find their own way here at whatever level that may be without anyone else nudging them off the ledge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get very few messages, very rarely initiate chat and haven't had a shag off here in about 9 years
That said, I have enjoyed the company of some people from the forums (both on here and in person) and value those exchanges
I use Fab primarily because the forums offer me head space, laughs and some interesting insight
I also have a perve through the hot pics every day
Now, if I was here looking for a shag, as a 50+, short, speccy, chubby, slaphead, I dare say I'd struggle to get meets, but I'd know what to do to try and change it
So, from that perspective, Fab has been successful for me, just not in the way we would assume it to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No,because one person's success could be anothers failure. It's all relative.
Everyone has the right to find their own way here at whatever level that may be without anyone else nudging them off the ledge. "
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club "
They do say that birds of a feather flock together.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it odd to give people advice. Telling them to behave a certain way or change their profile so that it sounds good (and so not their words or personality in the profile) to get a shag just seems wrong.
People would be mighty pissed off if the person they met was not the amazing sounding person on the profile. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say it. Because I've got no way of knowing if they'll find what they're looking for on here or not, attraction is subjective.
Telling someone they've got no chance with anyone just because they don't ring my bell would cruel and arrogant of me. And I'm many things, but not those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it odd to give people advice. Telling them to behave a certain way or change their profile so that it sounds good (and so not their words or personality in the profile) to get a shag just seems wrong.
People would be mighty pissed off if the person they met was not the amazing sounding person on the profile. "
I don't agree that it's odd to give people advice that have asked for it. For example lots of people would like to know what others think. Advise doesn't have be given or taken. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t feel this is something you can just know…there’s 30 odd thousand people or more on here there absolutely no way of knowing what they all want or desire. I’d find telling someone there going to be unsuccessful a very presumptuous and judgmental premonition to have, leave people be, there’s plenty of room for everyone here - if someone were to say that to me off the back of some images and a small bio it tell me more about them than anything else x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
This "
My nah will be someones yeah. I do not presume to determine who will be successful and certainly there are not any surprises anymore. To me there are many complete arses (not being gender specific) who are successful.
So unless you are actively going to try and destroy someones successes (arse or not), seriously doubt it could be determined.  |
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club "
Get on tinder for meets it’s easier |
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"I find it odd to give people advice. Telling them to behave a certain way or change their profile so that it sounds good (and so not their words or personality in the profile) to get a shag just seems wrong.
People would be mighty pissed off if the person they met was not the amazing sounding person on the profile. "
When one of those threads pops up my advice is don't take advice from random people on the internet because you'll end up with a list of other people's suggestions and you will never live up to most of them.
Even the 3 guys who stole my entire profile in the last 18 months would have difficulty explaining the discrepancies. |
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club "
Wait a minute your 6’0 hung and good looking
Get the fuckkkk out of here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club
Wait a minute your 6’0 hung and good looking
Get the fuckkkk out of here "
Are your forgetting the chaos we've just caused by having an opinion on a different thread  |
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club
Wait a minute your 6’0 hung and good looking
Get the fuckkkk out of here
Are your forgetting the chaos we've just caused by having an opinion on a different thread "
Forum is like 2% of the site and they’re all miles away usually
you’ll do fine with those baby blues |
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"That someone isn’t going to be successful on here, do you cut straight to the point and say it or give a load of advice that won’t do fuck all to help and you’re just enabling the inevitable? "
Leave them be. If they ask for advice give it in a constructive way. They're an adult, they will figure it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club
Wait a minute your 6’0 hung and good looking
Get the fuckkkk out of here
Are your forgetting the chaos we've just caused by having an opinion on a different thread
Forum is like 2% of the site and they’re all miles away usually
you’ll do fine with those baby blues "
Not of them are as sweet as you though princess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here. "
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages? |
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club
Get on tinder for meets it’s easier "
Careful boys.... You'll get a name for yourselves |
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club
Get on tinder for meets it’s easier
Careful boys.... You'll get a name for yourselves "
I meant Grindr  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?"
Then surely if they are asking for advice suggest they may find it better if they have photos or change the bio. If they are not asking for advice it is actually against site rules to give profile advice. You should never assume that somebody isn't going to be successful or tell them as such. |
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"I’d tell guys unless your gonna make the effort to go clubs/social very regularly
Or your like a 6’2 model with a big knob
Don’t bother in here. Tinder is betterv
Me and you should join the lonely hearts club
Get on tinder for meets it’s easier
Careful boys.... You'll get a name for yourselves
I meant Grindr "
I know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it odd to give people advice. Telling them to behave a certain way or change their profile so that it sounds good (and so not their words or personality in the profile) to get a shag just seems wrong.
People would be mighty pissed off if the person they met was not the amazing sounding person on the profile.
When one of those threads pops up my advice is don't take advice from random people on the internet because you'll end up with a list of other people's suggestions and you will never live up to most of them.
Even the 3 guys who stole my entire profile in the last 18 months would have difficulty explaining the discrepancies. "
Many of the threads fill up with entirely opposite advice anyway.
The ones who stole your profile might be the type to just want wank fodder and wouldn't ever meet.  |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?"
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?"
I said it would be arrogant of me to tell anyone they shouldn't be on here. And I stand by that. Plenty of women and men have virtually no bio or pics and still get meets. Plenty have statuses up that are full of rants but still get meets just because I may not be interested in someone does not mean no one else will so yes it would be extremely arrogant of me to presuame I have a right to tell anyone to leave the site .
You can do whatever you want that is up to you,just like I shall continue on my fab journey the way I want to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them. "
Where did I mention I looked down on them? |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them? "
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here. "
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them. |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them. "
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way |
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"I'd give pointers to help them, if they seemed genuinely interested in getting fab to work better for them. "
This! I did exactly this for someone today who messaged me. Did it privately as I feel that’s the best way! To be clear he wanted the advice! |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way "
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after. |
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It’s not up to any of us to tell someone they won’t be successful on here, none of us can predict who will meet who. People ask for advice and people give advice (see I said “people” and not “men”) because we like to be helpful generally |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them. "
If it's a bloke I'd tell him to quit while he's ahead and make friends with his right hand again. The women on here are brutal I've considered switching to men numerous times. |
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"I'd give pointers to help them, if they seemed genuinely interested in getting fab to work better for them.
This! I did exactly this for someone today who messaged me. Did it privately as I feel that’s the best way! To be clear he wanted the advice! "
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after. "
True, not everyone does, it doesn’t mean that certain people aren’t at a massive physical/statistical disadvantage on here and might be better off just chatting someone up on a night out |
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"I'd give pointers to help them, if they seemed genuinely interested in getting fab to work better for them.
This! I did exactly this for someone today who messaged me. Did it privately as I feel that’s the best way! To be clear he wanted the advice!
Thanks again "
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No I’d leave them to it. A lot on here portray a profile that is fairly drab to the viewer, but sometimes you get a message from such profiles and sometimes they are hidden gems.
Sometimes those who put up a lot of negative status updates have other stuff going on and that is just a snapshot of them, they could be a hilarious sex god really, but they’re just having a bad day, or someone has said no thanks in a really shitty way and it’s knocked them.
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after.
True, not everyone does, it doesn’t mean that certain people aren’t at a massive physical/statistical disadvantage on here and might be better off just chatting someone up on a night out "
That's true of everyone regardless of gender etc. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm easy so I do alright lol
I'm surprised no one has jumped on you for saying its a sex site  |
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In the real world people get to see your personality more, your mannerisms, things like height don’t matter in the real world. Like seriously the height thing is stupid. You see women that are around my height (5’3) demanding all men be over 6 foot, I don’t understand that one.
But on here in the 2D you’re just a picture and some words. How many women openly state they instantly delete messages from guys with no profile picture? Or delete messages if they have disclaimers on their profile, or delete messages if they have negative status updates.
I dunno how thick your sun would have to be to constantly experience the level of rejection *some* men will get on here. God knows what that would do their mental health. I’d rather tell them not to bother. |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after.
True, not everyone does, it doesn’t mean that certain people aren’t at a massive physical/statistical disadvantage on here and might be better off just chatting someone up on a night out
That's true of everyone regardless of gender etc. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm easy so I do alright lol
I'm surprised no one has jumped on you for saying its a sex site "
Well it’s different for women on here isn’t it. Women usually don’t struggle with offers, they struggle finding an offer they like. So it’s worth it for them to me on here because the perfect offer could come through
It’s different for guys. Some guys are on here years without even a reply. If they put all that effort into going out on a Saturday might and chatting a few girl’s up, taking up a new hobby and seeing if they meet someone there, or even just saying hi to the cute girl in the supermarket they’d have better results
My 1st comment about being willing to go clubs/socials is most important for guys. Fabs is hard work without the willingness to do those things |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after.
True, not everyone does, it doesn’t mean that certain people aren’t at a massive physical/statistical disadvantage on here and might be better off just chatting someone up on a night out
That's true of everyone regardless of gender etc. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm easy so I do alright lol
I'm surprised no one has jumped on you for saying its a sex site
Well it’s different for women on here isn’t it. Women usually don’t struggle with offers, they struggle finding an offer they like. So it’s worth it for them to me on here because the perfect offer could come through
It’s different for guys. Some guys are on here years without even a reply. If they put all that effort into going out on a Saturday might and chatting a few girl’s up, taking up a new hobby and seeing if they meet someone there, or even just saying hi to the cute girl in the supermarket they’d have better results
My 1st comment about being willing to go clubs/socials is most important for guys. Fabs is hard work without the willingness to do those things "
I can vouch for that my mum said she gets tonnes of offers on here on a daily basis.. 'beating them off with a shitty stick' were her exact words. Shame it's not like that for the fellas |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after.
True, not everyone does, it doesn’t mean that certain people aren’t at a massive physical/statistical disadvantage on here and might be better off just chatting someone up on a night out
That's true of everyone regardless of gender etc. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm easy so I do alright lol
I'm surprised no one has jumped on you for saying its a sex site
Well it’s different for women on here isn’t it. Women usually don’t struggle with offers, they struggle finding an offer they like. So it’s worth it for them to me on here because the perfect offer could come through
It’s different for guys. Some guys are on here years without even a reply. If they put all that effort into going out on a Saturday might and chatting a few girl’s up, taking up a new hobby and seeing if they meet someone there, or even just saying hi to the cute girl in the supermarket they’d have better results
My 1st comment about being willing to go clubs/socials is most important for guys. Fabs is hard work without the willingness to do those things
I can vouch for that my mum said she gets tonnes of offers on here on a daily basis.. 'beating them off with a shitty stick' were her exact words. Shame it's not like that for the fellas "
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"In the real world people get to see your personality more, your mannerisms, things like height don’t matter in the real world. Like seriously the height thing is stupid. You see women that are around my height (5’3) demanding all men be over 6 foot, I don’t understand that one.
But on here in the 2D you’re just a picture and some words. How many women openly state they instantly delete messages from guys with no profile picture? Or delete messages if they have disclaimers on their profile, or delete messages if they have negative status updates.
I dunno how thick your sun would have to be to constantly experience the level of rejection *some* men will get on here. God knows what that would do their mental health. I’d rather tell them not to bother. "
But the point is you dont have to understand it. You can't just tell people they shouldn't bother because you wouldn't meet them.
Yes of course a good profile with good pictures is probably going to do better than one without. But absolutely nobody should tell someone else they shouldn't be.
If someone is saying they are struggling because of the amount of rejection they are getting then maybe a polite "have you considered taking a break" might be appropriate but unless that's the case it's your are anyone else's place. |
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
I get that. Why let someone suffer on here and have their confidence mushed into the dirt
It’s a fantasy that “everyone can do well if they try”
It’s a sad reality that in a sex site, where sex seems abs physical attraction is the main currency
Some guys are just gonna spin their wheels and waste their time on here
I think there’s a polite way to do it
“Your ugly mate don’t bother” probably isn’t the way
“It’s a sex site mate, they only want the tall handsome and hung, and your outnumbered 500 to 1. You’d be better off chatting up someone nice down the pub then sending 1000s of messages and getting nothing back” might be the kinder way
But not everyone want tall handsome and hung, do they?! It's not something I've ever cgsed after.
True, not everyone does, it doesn’t mean that certain people aren’t at a massive physical/statistical disadvantage on here and might be better off just chatting someone up on a night out
That's true of everyone regardless of gender etc. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I'm easy so I do alright lol
I'm surprised no one has jumped on you for saying its a sex site
Well it’s different for women on here isn’t it. Women usually don’t struggle with offers, they struggle finding an offer they like. So it’s worth it for them to me on here because the perfect offer could come through
It’s different for guys. Some guys are on here years without even a reply. If they put all that effort into going out on a Saturday might and chatting a few girl’s up, taking up a new hobby and seeing if they meet someone there, or even just saying hi to the cute girl in the supermarket they’d have better results
My 1st comment about being willing to go clubs/socials is most important for guys. Fabs is hard work without the willingness to do those things
I can vouch for that my mum said she gets tonnes of offers on here on a daily basis.. 'beating them off with a shitty stick' were her exact words. Shame it's not like that for the fellas
Tell her to reply to mine then the little hussy "
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"I don't presuame that just because I've no interest in someone that no one else will and I would never be so arrogant to think I have a right to tell anyone else they shouldn't be on here.
It’s not arrogance to know the type of profiles that aren’t going to have success. Do they the ones that constantly post status updates about how rude women are or saying nobody wants to meet me, do those kind of profiles get you going? Especially when you factor in they have one picture or no pictures at all, little to no bio or just a one liner and a massive Facebook disclaimer. You think it’s arrogant to assume that kind of profile isn’t going to be a hit with the ladies and get responses to all of their messages?
It's arrogant to tell them or to think that regardless of what they may have on their profiles that that gives you a right to look down on them.
Where did I mention I looked down on them?
You have judged their profiles and decided they aren't of sufficient quality as far as you are concerned and rather than leave it at that you feel you should then tell them they aren't good enough to be here.
That’s your interpretation.
Mine is more from a concern viewpoint. Knowing that that kind of profile, the pictures they have , the height they are, the negativity and frustration presented in the status updates, having no pictures. Over time the constant messages being deleted is going to grind on them.
If it's a bloke I'd tell him to quit while he's ahead and make friends with his right hand again. The women on here are brutal I've considered switching to men numerous times. "
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