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Jealousy on a first time full swap.
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On our first time full swap, we met up with a couple and went back to our hotel not knowing how we would feel during or after we had the swap. Afterwards I got a bit jealous of my husband having sex with another woman in front of me, though he didn't mind me with the other man. After the couple left we had sex again and the feelings went away, I have felt totally fine since and just don't get these feelings anymore.
What was your first time full swap like?
Did you feel any jealousy? Or was you totally fine with it all.
Was you a single person feeling jealousy from another female or male within a couple?
Are you totally fine with it now or do you still get jealous at time's? Xx
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When I introduced my non Fab lady friend to her first ever 3 sum last month I definitely wasn't jealous watching her playing with a male Fab friend of mine. A very erotic feeling watching them have foreplay and full on sex and joining in with them.
She enjoyed it so much that it will be a regular occurrence. |
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Mrs has never been interested in being with another man as is more bi but she was ok with mr being with another woman if the situation arose. As part of an ffm Mrs liked the idea of mr being fully with another woman whilst she watched and joined in.
We agreed as a first time full swap we would stop if anything became uncomfortable as sometimes reality can be different to fantasy.
During, she wasn't comfortable with full sex so we stopped and carried on with other bits. For example the other lady made me orgasm through a blow job and that was absolutely fine and hugely turned her on.
After she was fine and we talked it through as we always do as communication is key. for her it was initially seeing me with another woman for the first time that was a bit of a shock and then the act of kissing her whilst having sex almost made it feel like it was too much like us and she felt some jealousy at that. so for her she has said next time, if full sex comes up, we can try but no kissing whilst having sex and that one postion is out of bounds as that is for us only. For her it was more the kissing in the end than the sex but you sometimes can't help how you feel. There are also some things that she really loves that she didn't expect to so it can go both ways.
We are very lucky that the friend we meet with is very understanding of our journey.
So don't worry about the jealousy, it can be natural and not always a bad thing but if it is making you unhappy then maybe that part isn't for you.
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"Mrs has never been interested in being with another man as is more bi but she was ok with mr being with another woman if the situation arose. As part of an ffm Mrs liked the idea of mr being fully with another woman whilst she watched and joined in.
We agreed as a first time full swap we would stop if anything became uncomfortable as sometimes reality can be different to fantasy.
During, she wasn't comfortable with full sex so we stopped and carried on with other bits. For example the other lady made me orgasm through a blow job and that was absolutely fine and hugely turned her on.
After she was fine and we talked it through as we always do as communication is key. for her it was initially seeing me with another woman for the first time that was a bit of a shock and then the act of kissing her whilst having sex almost made it feel like it was too much like us and she felt some jealousy at that. so for her she has said next time, if full sex comes up, we can try but no kissing whilst having sex and that one postion is out of bounds as that is for us only. For her it was more the kissing in the end than the sex but you sometimes can't help how you feel. There are also some things that she really loves that she didn't expect to so it can go both ways.
We are very lucky that the friend we meet with is very understanding of our journey.
So don't worry about the jealousy, it can be natural and not always a bad thing but if it is making you unhappy then maybe that part isn't for you.
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No jealousy for us at all now, this was a long time ago in the beginning, just wanted to start the thread so people who maybe haven't done it yet will know what to expect when they do, it can be a worry for some and its nice to get the full picture. X |
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We’ve never felt any jealously but neither of us are jealous people to start with, never have been so I think that helps.
We have had a few meets where you can tell the female of the other half isn’t that comfortable seeing me with their husband. Just little things but it is noticeable and has made me feel uncomfortable at times.
We love seeing each other enjoying other people and find it hot to watch.
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"We’ve never felt any jealously but neither of us are jealous people to start with, never have been so I think that helps.
We have had a few meets where you can tell the female of the other half isn’t that comfortable seeing me with their husband. Just little things but it is noticeable and has made me feel uncomfortable at times.
We love seeing each other enjoying other people and find it hot to watch.
Kx"
We too find it super hot. X |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I never have but I think I have been part of a few 4’s when the women have been and / or other guys were conscious of their wife’s watching and couldn’t perform , separate room seems much better in this case |
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By *not123Couple
over a year ago
sp1 |
First couple meet I did feel a bit jealous think as they both seem to be more into each other than her partner was towards me. So they seem to be enjoying each other alot. Have also met for a mff at the time I didn't get jealous as it was a giggle but got jealous later when I found they were messaging each other on the quiet. |
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This thread is really interesting to read as I've felt under pressure knowing my partner did full swaps with his ex, we do mmf, mmmf etc but never involve another woman...I've been thinking of trying soft play with a woman and wondering about full swap...
My partners last relationship was really screwed up and that's where he started his swinging bi-curious journey, I'm worried I'll remind him of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was once invited to a threesome by a male Fwb to join him and his other female fwb. He introduced us and we started chatting. After a few weeks of chatting I decided it wasn’t going to be for me, I just felt jealous her talking about him so affectionately the same way that I did and talking about the experiences they shared. I never participated as I knew it would be an emotional disaster for me and it was time to move on and I stopped seeing him and left them to it. I honestly don’t think I could be involved in a threesome at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Took us a long while to have a mfm because doughnut, my husband isn't remotely turned on by seeing me with another guy, so took us a while to get to that point as I love seeing him with other women.
There has never been any jealousy from my part, I don't think there has on his part when we eventually did dip our toes with other men, I even go off on my own now so clearly he is fine with it. We talk all the time so if ever either of us felt something was up, we would talk about it. |
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By *illxxMan
over a year ago
motherwell |
I met a couple for there first time swap with a single guy. Everything was going fine we chatted in the lounge for a while and we then went to the bedroom. I got on the bed with mrs and we were having some fun and then mr started to get jealous and they started to argue it got a bit ugly so I promptly got dressed and left. It’s wasn’t a good night for me. But these things happen I suppose. Always be weary of meeting first time swap couples since then |
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"Mrs has never been interested in being with another man as is more bi but she was ok with mr being with another woman if the situation arose. As part of an ffm Mrs liked the idea of mr being fully with another woman whilst she watched and joined in.
We agreed as a first time full swap we would stop if anything became uncomfortable as sometimes reality can be different to fantasy.
During, she wasn't comfortable with full sex so we stopped and carried on with other bits. For example the other lady made me orgasm through a blow job and that was absolutely fine and hugely turned her on.
After she was fine and we talked it through as we always do as communication is key. for her it was initially seeing me with another woman for the first time that was a bit of a shock and then the act of kissing her whilst having sex almost made it feel like it was too much like us and she felt some jealousy at that. so for her she has said next time, if full sex comes up, we can try but no kissing whilst having sex and that one postion is out of bounds as that is for us only. For her it was more the kissing in the end than the sex but you sometimes can't help how you feel. There are also some things that she really loves that she didn't expect to so it can go both ways.
We are very lucky that the friend we meet with is very understanding of our journey.
So don't worry about the jealousy, it can be natural and not always a bad thing but if it is making you unhappy then maybe that part isn't for you.
No jealousy for us at all now, this was a long time ago in the beginning, just wanted to start the thread so people who maybe haven't done it yet will know what to expect when they do, it can be a worry for some and its nice to get the full picture. X"
can be pretty daunting at first I suppose  it depends who you meeting with too. My first full swap was shit...we just met wrong people really  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I've never felt jealous thankfully ,on our first swap we met a couple we'd had a previous social with ,at a hotel.
Full swap and I enjoyed watching jack with the other lady whilst I played with her hubby. |
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Me and j met during a swinging meet arranged through a different social site. Our first night together was a threesome so when we actually got together and had our first swap it was more natural and was no jealousy involved. I paid attention to what I was doing and he did with his (though making sure I was ok). Just remember that he comes home to you, as long as you are both truthful and honest with eachother it will work out. It’s when you both start doing things behind eachothers backs then it goes downhill. X |
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over a year ago
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I have been a third with a married couple and it was a little awkward when she & I were enjoying eachother and he climbed over and in between us out of what must have been jealousy as it was not to do anything with us, he just lay down like a big dividing bolster cushion 
Buzz kill
But if I was the one partnered up I'd not be okay sharing. 100% no chance. But I really enjoy exhibitionist fun in company. Very hot watching and being watched.
I love my independance in the day-to-day but I'm sexually very very possessive. I love love love totally mutual ownership-type play.
So am very careful to call time in good time if things aren't or can't work out that way.
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no jealousy at all....the only times it's been a bit "erm hang on" has been with couples where the bi female isn't bi at all and kinda doing a show and mainly fancying Willy more than her husband...therefore becomes a swap of partners. We are more about a 3 or 4 some hands on kinda time 