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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say you're doing well and doing the right things by going to a club. Getting involved is all you can do, along with a lot of patience. Don't have massive expectations, be yourself and join in a bit on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty faces are a dime a dozen, it’s all about clicking with somebody and having a good rapport I find, don’t lower your standards just to get your end |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude!! Iv been on and off here for 2 years and only met 3 people!! You have ten veris in three months!! You’re obviously doing something right. Stop whinging  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh. "
You'd be surprised how much 'big guys' are liked on here.
It's not all about size - ladies like a personality too.
You're doing fine - keep that chin up.  |
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh.
You'd be surprised how much 'big guys' are liked on here.
It's not all about size - ladies like a personality too.
You're doing fine - keep that chin up. "
Will do cheers |
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"Good guys finish first for me, I don't want to be dating a flaky arsehole that will drop me at the sight of a new play toy
Its all down to mutual attractions at the end of the day and that's what a lot of guys struggle with "
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"Good guys finish first for me, I don't want to be dating a flaky arsehole that will drop me at the sight of a new play toy
Its all down to mutual attractions at the end of the day and that's what a lot of guys struggle with "
Fair enough. There has to be a mutual attraction of course. I just need to work on my own stuff I guess. Thank you |
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"Hi op, welcome to the forum.
Actually the forum is the ideal place to show that you're a good guy, you get the opportunity to interact with people in a friendly way
Good luck on fab  "
I'm certainly stunned by the responses. Thank you |
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"Hi op, welcome to the forum.
Actually the forum is the ideal place to show that you're a good guy, you get the opportunity to interact with people in a friendly way
Good luck on fab
I'm certainly stunned by the responses. Thank you "
You're welcome.
What are your expectations of fab? Are you looking for sex or friendship or both? In my opinion there's no wrong answer to that but it can affect the way you perceive your experience  |
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"Hi op, welcome to the forum.
Actually the forum is the ideal place to show that you're a good guy, you get the opportunity to interact with people in a friendly way
Good luck on fab
Honestly I'm open to new experiences. I'm just in my own head at the moment. I didn't think I'd get any replies. But its good to know what people think.
I'm certainly stunned by the responses. Thank you
You're welcome.
What are your expectations of fab? Are you looking for sex or friendship or both? In my opinion there's no wrong answer to that but it can affect the way you perceive your experience "
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Compared to my club experiences OP, it looks like I need to start eating!
Seriously though; some guys have been in here over a year without a single veri, and covid has stopped many people meeting new people over the last 18 months too. Keep doing what you have been |
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"Compared to my club experiences OP, it looks like I need to start eating!
Seriously though; some guys have been in here over a year without a single veri, and covid has stopped many people meeting new people over the last 18 months too. Keep doing what you have been "
Nice one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh. "
If you’ve had meets within 5 months, you’re smashing it as a bloke on here. I’ve been here since 2018 and have yet to meet anyone.
Don’t put yourself down, chap! |
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh.
If you’ve had meets within 5 months, you’re smashing it as a bloke on here. I’ve been here since 2018 and have yet to meet anyone.
Don’t put yourself down, chap! "
Thanks fella. Good luck out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s just good manners to make sure your woman is well catered for before you finish yourself
What if your woman doesn't want to be well catered for until after you've finished? "
Then what the woman wants… |
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here."
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here.
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious."
I fully understand that, its also very very few people interact with me as well
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here.
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious."
Also well said - we all need to cautious and stay safe - no issue with meets carrying on, but you need to be extra extra safe and 100% fully vaccinated just in case
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"It’s just good manners to make sure your woman is well catered for before you finish yourself
What if your woman doesn't want to be well catered for until after you've finished?
Then what the woman wants…"
Correct answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something I seeing more and more are situations people find themselves in whereby they assume that because they are ‘losing’ then that means everyone else had to be ‘winning’, and concentrating on that rather than the rest of their life that they are happily ‘winning’ in. It gets old fast. Like being some sort of personality hypercondriact, defining ourselves by our least successful feature or moment. Please don’t do that, it’s not good for you. |
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here.
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious.
I fully understand that, its also very very few people interact with me as well
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Again I think it's mostly due to the pandemic. I know I am definitely not interacting with as many people as I was before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’ve got some great verifications it looks like you’ve had a good time at the club Keep on doing what you are doing
Cheers "
You must be easy to talk to and approachable at clubs?
If you're getting the chance to play there, then brilliant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im a big guy. Been here for a few months now and only spoken to 1 person online ??
I'm always better offline, get better results!"
Yeah im planning on making my first club visit soon when i cam pluck up the courage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im a big guy. Been here for a few months now and only spoken to 1 person online ??
I'm always better offline, get better results!
Yeah im planning on making my first club visit soon when i cam pluck up the courage "
Godddd......enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here.
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious.
I fully understand that, its also very very few people interact with me as well
Again I think it's mostly due to the pandemic. I know I am definitely not interacting with as many people as I was before."
Fully understand that. Its lack of interaction I get.
Could you look at my profile too see, what I can changec |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here.
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious.
I fully understand that, its also very very few people interact with me as well
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If what you’re doing isn’t working, change your approach? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh. "
Don't get any meets or attention .. some of us have no verifications so wot you moaning g about exactly ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh. "
Nice guys do have plenty of fun, and there’s someone for everyone on here. |
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"I'm a genuine nice good man. But just not getting a lot of opportunity to show that on here. Guess big guys don't have much fun huh.
Nice guys do have plenty of fun, and there’s someone for everyone on here. "
Thank you. Youre right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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good guys need to stop hiding behind the excuse that bad guys ruin it for them .... no it dont what ruins it is the moaning n groaning and hidding behind the so called bad guys thats the turn off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been here over a year now, very limited success. Few chats, get messages deleted, get blocked.
Seems not good enough to be here.
It's not about "not being good enough" People seem to forget that there is a pandemic going on and people are being more cautious.
I fully understand that, its also very very few people interact with me as well
If what you’re doing isn’t working, change your approach? "
What would you advise me too try as dont know what too write ? |
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"good guys need to stop hiding behind the excuse that bad guys ruin it for them .... no it dont what ruins it is the moaning n groaning and hidding behind the so called bad guys thats the turn off"
Note taken. Thank you. That makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck "
Think that will have to be approach going forward |
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I am the quintessential "nice guy". With women, I did terribly in my teens and 20s, got married in my 30s, and since the split-up in my 40s I have never gone without. I have had a few of life's lessons along the way and now I know where I was going wrong. The change in my fortunes with women is pretty big. It can happen. Luke |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
Think that will have to be approach going forward "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck "
This is the attitude you need |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need "
Definitely, won't be easy for me, but will give it a go.
What's best way to start a conversation?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need "
*He says, whilst suffering bouts of severe crippling depression, dropping cake crumbs down his chest in bed, crying “why does nobody love me” |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need
*He says, whilst suffering bouts of severe crippling depression, dropping cake crumbs down his chest in bed, crying “why does nobody love me”"
Ssssssshhhhh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need
Definitely, won't be easy for me, but will give it a go.
What's best way to start a conversation?
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On here or in real life?
On here just an introduction, pleasantries, compliments, make effort, take interest…
In real life I’d definitely go with a dick pic! Mines set as screensaver, saves time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need
Definitely, won't be easy for me, but will give it a go.
What's best way to start a conversation?
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Or just try and look like Ryan Reynolds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need
Definitely, won't be easy for me, but will give it a go.
What's best way to start a conversation?
Or just try and look like Ryan Reynolds"
This works 
Well not if you have to squint... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need
Definitely, won't be easy for me, but will give it a go.
What's best way to start a conversation?
Or just try and look like Ryan Reynolds
This works
Well not if you have to squint..."
Definitely not then |
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"I am the quintessential "nice guy". With women, I did terribly in my teens and 20s, got married in my 30s, and since the split-up in my 40s I have never gone without. I have had a few of life's lessons along the way and now I know where I was going wrong. The change in my fortunes with women is pretty big. It can happen. Luke "
Thank you. Good to hear |
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If you have to remind people that you are a good guy or a nice person it's often a sign that you are projecting a different image.
Otherwise why would you need to tell people if they can already see by your demeanor or your actions that you are indeed one.
If you are consistent in your approach with pics, bio, messages and forum interaction it gives a much broader picture of who you really are and people will be more relaxed about chatting and/or meeting and will feel more comfortable in your company.
Every time someone complains about not getting something on here the further away that goal will get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m fucking awesome and if somebody doesn’t like, want to talk, meet or engage with me then it’s their loss I’m also really good at not giving a fuck
This is the attitude you need
Definitely, won't be easy for me, but will give it a go.
What's best way to start a conversation?
On here or in real life?
On here just an introduction, pleasantries, compliments, make effort, take interest…
In real life I’d definitely go with a dick pic! Mines set as screensaver, saves time"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People don't come here looking for the good in people, they come for hot folks to shag
The thing is you need to be good AND hot to get anywhere
Good on its own doesn't cut it here
In the main |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't come here looking for the good in people, they come for hot folks to shag
The thing is you need to be good AND hot to get
anywhere
So this site then should not allow the not good looking ones on here !!
Good on its own doesn't cut it here
In the main"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have to remind people that you are a good guy or a nice person it's often a sign that you are projecting a different image.
Otherwise why would you need to tell people if they can already see by your demeanor or your actions that you are indeed one.
If you are consistent in your approach with pics, bio, messages and forum interaction it gives a much broader picture of who you really are and people will be more relaxed about chatting and/or meeting and will feel more comfortable in your company.
Every time someone complains about not getting something on here the further away that goal will get."
I have to see I agree with you about the "good, nice genuine nice guy" schtick! It's boring and meaningless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People don't come here looking for the good in people, they come for hot folks to shag
The thing is you need to be good AND hot to get
anywhere
So this site then should not allow the not good looking ones on here !!
Good on its own doesn't cut it here
In the main"
Everybody should be welcomed here
I just think you need to tailor your expectations accordingly
I fully accept there are 25,000 other guys here who folks would sooner shag before me, which is why I don't crib about it
The cribbing in itself is unattractive, even if you recognise that it comes from a point of frustration |
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Well I'm surprised by the difference in responses. Some people happy to give some encouragement, some happy to try and tear people down. Interesting approaches. I apologise to anyone I've offended. Just felt a little sorry for myself this morning. I certainly won't be making the same mistake again. Cant delete this forum. Wish I could. Good luck to you all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People don't come here looking for the good in people, they come for hot folks to shag
The thing is you need to be good AND hot to get
anywhere
So this site then should not allow the not good looking ones on here !!
Good on its own doesn't cut it here
In the main
Everybody should be welcomed here
I just think you need to tailor your expectations accordingly
I fully accept there are 25,000 other guys here who folks would sooner shag before me, which is why I don't crib about it
The cribbing in itself is unattractive, even if you recognise that it comes from a point of frustration "
Oh I do not going to get to meet a stunner. Know my limits.
Trying to change my outlook here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People don't come here looking for the good in people, they come for hot folks to shag
The thing is you need to be good AND hot to get
anywhere
So this site then should not allow the not good looking ones on here !!
Good on its own doesn't cut it here
In the main
Everybody should be welcomed here
I just think you need to tailor your expectations accordingly
I fully accept there are 25,000 other guys here who folks would sooner shag before me, which is why I don't crib about it
The cribbing in itself is unattractive, even if you recognise that it comes from a point of frustration
Oh I do not going to get to meet a stunner. Know my limits.
Trying to change my outlook here"
Go bi like me
Then you can have fellas knocking ya back as well as women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As people have said...10 verifications in 5 months is pretty good going despite a pandemic going on.
Patience is the key on this site.
Kind words"
What are your Friday night plans? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude seriously this is my 2nd time on this site in 3 years, in total I've been on here for 2 years an I've only had 1 meet. You can't moan about your 10 verifications to my 0. |
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