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By *ubandsub OP Couple
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
Aimed at everyone, whats your thoughts on seeing the same people more than once?
We enjoy the frill of one offs probably more than repeat visits even if the sex was good.
Fuck n go works for us, never had the courage to go dogging, but happy to play with random people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy both. Obvious answer I'm afraid. I enjoy the excitement of meeting new people for a one off. But it's also great to have someone you see regularly. Whilst it doesn't have the thrill of a first meet, it is more sensual when you know what turns each other on. |
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By *urenutsMan
over a year ago
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"Aimed at everyone, whats your thoughts on seeing the same people more than once?
We enjoy the frill of one offs probably more than repeat visits even if the sex was good.
Fuck n go works for us, never had the courage to go dogging, but happy to play with random people.
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Repeat if they up for it. I like to have chemistry |
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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago
Alcester |
I've met a few in clubs, from further afield.
If we happened to be in the same club, on the same night again, then definitely.
Some I've met and played with, we added as friends, so after all this covid stuff blows over, maybe we can actually plan to be in the same club together again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both have they place
Regular is good to build trust to movie in to more kink stuff that I wouldn’t do with randoms for safety reasons and trust I would be safe in retrospect
One off are good to just scratch an itch
As long as they upfront on what it is before hand no bs
If they only want a one off just say if I like them that way it happen regardless if it’s a one off or not
Not going to turn down a good night just because it’s only a one off
It’s the lies ghosting and all that I hate
You know the oooo I want this that next thing
Ok let’s meet build trust have a one night
Get home and say oooo it was grate but not for me or just start ghosting messages and stuff |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
My preference would be one offs until the right person comes along then it would be repeat,repeat,repeat.....
Alas that is all wishful thinking  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kink and fetishism takes ages to develop, so whilst on here, I'm looking for a regular.
Clubs is all about one-off's for me."
That's a good point. You can explore more with someone you see regularly and build up trust with. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Both. Regularity - I'm very much a slow burner and it can take me some time to be attracted to someone. I also like the ease, intimacy and relaxed state familiarity brings - it heightens orgasms, allows for kinkier exploration.
A "one off" for want of a better term? It's exciting, new, shiny. That would be occasional for me - something to add when the mood takes me. |
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One offs are great. You are having sex and exploring each other. You are sharing intimacy for thr first time.
But if they are great,why not repeat them. If you keep repeating the dynamic changes and a shared consciousness takes over the exploratory nature.
Does this lead to feelings? Not necessarily. I have feelings for anyone I have sex with. I am a kind and caring person. I want them to enjoy it as much as me. I hope they like and care about my pleasure.
I get that couples don't necessarily want to go that far emotionally and that's fine.
Just know that I will want to repeat.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the dynamic im happy with one offs if that's what happens but being a long term you get to no more about them what gets a reaction and what they really like also your all on a journey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found that the sex gets better if you repeat a meet."
We will never do one offs if we meet. We much prefer regular. You build a relationship which is more than sex alone, which all allows for a much more expressive, relaxed, enjoyable and fulfilling experiences.
You can also do things that you wouldn't or shouldn't do on a one off cos you know what is acceptable and what is not, allows for additional moments of excitement which you couldn't possibly have with strangers.
Without that established chemistry, my thoughts are that many miss out and less fulfilled. Everyone is different in their wants and needs.
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Repeat meets are always the preferred option because, I find that it can take up to around three times of intimacy together to find out what each other really likes, and what sends each other into orbit, be it together one on one, or in group scenarios.
However there is always the danger of one or other getting too close for comfort, so to speak. A glamourous couple who I am still very friendly with, have a policy where they only have sex once with the same people because of too many bad experiences with people becoming too attached, and I had to agree with their point of view because, It's happened to me as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Repeat meets are always the preferred option because, I find that it can take up to around three times of intimacy together to find out what each other really likes, and what sends each other into orbit, be it together one on one, or in group scenarios.
However there is always the danger of one or other getting too close for comfort, so to speak. A glamourous couple who I am still very friendly with, have a policy where they only have sex once with the same people because of too many bad experiences with people becoming too attached, and I had to agree with their point of view because, It's happened to me as well."
Your second point is true in any scenario, whether friends, work colleagues or social circles. I fear if people are worried about getting "to close for comfort", then I think that raises other questions. just my musings
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"Ideal is a regular friend, one offs are, to me, just a complicated wank. "
Surely they are the taster/amuse bouche that allows for the second and third?
Hard to have a repeat meet without a first meet.
I like to be taken for a test drive before you decide.
Apologies for the mixed metaphors. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both can work. Advantage of repeat meets is the build of trust which enables testing of boundaries. I find one offs tend to be less adventurous....but great in lots of other ways |
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The majority of my meets have been 'one-offs' - but it is, of course, always highly-flattering to be invited back for a repeat meet, or more...
....80% of my encounters to date were 'one-offs', and mostly that's all they were ever going to be - though in a number of instances the potential for a further meet (or meets) came up, but for one reason or another didn't happen...
....as for those that turned into 'repeats', they've ranged from once more to a handful of times to numerous times - the latter over the space of anything from three weeks to three months to three years...
....as to which I prefer - I love the thrill of 'one-offs' and getting to cum inside a women who I'm probably never going to see again...
....and at the same time, I love the thrill of having a playmate who wants more than just the once - when they want a repeat meet or more, it suggests I did something right the first time...
....both 'one-offs' and 'repeats' have their merits - for me, it's the best of both worlds... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer repeat meets because I find the more comfortable people feel the more people are willing to explore each other and things just get better. One offs also have there merit the thrill of someone new. |
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"Aimed at everyone, whats your thoughts on seeing the same people more than once?
We enjoy the frill of one offs probably more than repeat visits even if the sex was good.
Fuck n go works for us, never had the courage to go dogging, but happy to play with random people.
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We have had some fun with one offs but our regular friends are easily the best and we love seeing them. Connection is very important and when you have established this with some regular friends over time, it just makes the whole play side much more relaxed and enjoyable for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Aimed at everyone, whats your thoughts on seeing the same people more than once?
We enjoy the frill of one offs probably more than repeat visits even if the sex was good.
Fuck n go works for us, never had the courage to go dogging, but happy to play with random people.
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Fuck and go meets are good but also prefer more meets and possibly become Friends with benefits when trust is established X |
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"One offs as an audition for repeats for us.
Do we have to learn lines ?
I can't sing but can tap dance  "
No singing needed just a simple “script” to follow.
And try not to fall into the sink if tap dancing. |
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"Both. Regularity - I'm very much a slow burner and it can take me some time to be attracted to someone. I also like the ease, intimacy and relaxed state familiarity brings - it heightens orgasms, allows for kinkier exploration.
A "one off" for want of a better term? It's exciting, new, shiny. That would be occasional for me - something to add when the mood takes me."
I agree with this. Repeats are more comfortable, people I chat to in-between times, there's more trust.
One offs are usually the disappointing meets. I don't find them fulfilling. |
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We also like both, with our regular meets we have great friendship's, night's out and plenty of time to try new things out. We have a bond and know where each other stand. With new meets you get more of a buzz I suppose but you just don't know the outcome could go either way. Could end up disappointed or adding them to your circle of friends. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Mrs PD) prefer one offs, it's just sex, i don't want a relationship or connection beyond the sex, i don't want a connection with anyone other than my husband.
Mr PD likes a connection which can be difficult trying to get it right for both of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For guys I prefer the one off. Mine are usually spontaneous meets so difficult to plan,
For couples and ladies. I love to get to know them and explore our fantasies so definitely second, third or more meets with lots of chatting in between too!
Stimulate the brain as well as the sex organs |
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By *ubandsub OP Couple
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
I guess its all about what you want, id of thought more guys would be happy for fuck and go, me and boobs have the conection, we have a great sex life, just we like a extra oerson to join us. |
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We have done both. We enjoy the excitement of meeting someone new,lots of things to explore and buttons to press, finding out what they like, what makes them tic. but love the connection of a regular meet where we all know what each other likes, we all know boundaries, spent time getting to get to know each other and read each others bodies. This is a hard question to answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer repeated meets with the same people, just because I find the sex gets better the more you know someone. A little bit of a connection is important I have found. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love sex for the 1st time.
I love having sex with strangers for the first time..
I really do enjoy having sex with a stranger for the first time..
I want to fuck for that first time feeling... It's so addictive!! And I need it.. My fella's sex is out of this world! But when he can't fuck me I want someone new! I don't want to use the same person more then a few times..
Gallo can I have sex with Strangers please? I need to fuck Strangers |
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We enjoy a mixed combination. Meeting and playing with regular couples and single where a mutual friendship and interest in likes has been established. Being introduced to others via regular friends gives us the thrill of exploring a new dalliance. Then there is the excitement ( and hopefully no disappointment ) of meeting with new play friends for the first time. In general making friends ships and fun ships is what we enjoy in our social swing life journey. , |
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"Aimed at everyone, whats your thoughts on seeing the same people more than once?
We enjoy the frill of one offs probably more than repeat visits even if the sex was good.
Fuck n go works for us, never had the courage to go dogging, but happy to play with random people.
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Hey happy to arrange dogging sometime, with my female friend and I.... Been trying to arrange since before Xmas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a female regular and a male regular and the sex is a mazing with both but i do enjoy the excitment of meeting fuck n go's, gets my heart pounding.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One offs are great. You are having sex and exploring each other. You are sharing intimacy for thr first time.
But if they are great,why not repeat them. If you keep repeating the dynamic changes and a shared consciousness takes over the exploratory nature.
Does this lead to feelings? Not necessarily. I have feelings for anyone I have sex with. I am a kind and caring person. I want them to enjoy it as much as me. I hope they like and care about my pleasure.
I get that couples don't necessarily want to go that far emotionally and that's fine.
Just know that I will want to repeat. "
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