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"I totally agree that and kink shaming. If it’s not for you, then don’t shame them "Yes kink shaming is another one there shouldn't be a place for. Thankfully not seen any of that today as I just put the box away | |||
"People do it to make themselves feel better. To pull down others makes them feel like they have some kind of control. Everyone can see you're being a bully when you do it. It's not big and it's not clever. " I have no idea what people get out of it but when has it ever been okay to tell so_eone how they should look? Always been a huge bug bear of mine. | |||
"One of my huge pet peves! No one is entitled to body shame anyone else. If you don't like the way so_eone looks then look somewhere else, if you don't like the way so_eone describes themselves, then read something else and if you believe so_eone should makes change to their body, under NO circumstances do you actually tell them! Take that thought and crawl under a rock with it so it never sees the light of day. Happy new year everyone!
*Steps off soapbox* "Totally agree op body shaming shouldn't exist along with kink shaming! If isnt for you then move along! | |||
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"People do it to make themselves feel better. To pull down others makes them feel like they have some kind of control. Everyone can see you're being a bully when you do it. It's not big and it's not clever. I have no idea what people get out of it but when has it ever been okay to tell so_eone how they should look? Always been a huge bug bear of mine. " Never has been never will be ok. Some people just don't have manners | |||
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"Some people have to put others down to raise their own self esteem x " Exactly that! | |||
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"Some people have to put others down to raise their own self esteem x Exactly that!" 100% agree | |||
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"I totally agree that and kink shaming. If it’s not for you, then don’t shame them "100% agree | |||
"I’ve come to realise that we should feel very sorry for body shamers and kill them with kindness. They have deep rooted issues and project this onto others to try to feel better." I kind of agree with this. I suspect loneliness is behind a great deal of the refractory anger on this site. | |||
"Totally agree. I shame myself enough without others adding to it and I'm sure I'm not the only one " Yes, I agree. When you’re having a bad day, crap like this heaps on more damage x | |||
"Yes body shaming is a pretty awful thing. Mostly this is a pretty positive and supportive community but there are a few resentful hard done by types that lash out. Fabguys is worse. Women have a bit of a civilising effect on men but the carping and misogyny and body shaming over there is something else. " You've obviously missed the misandry on here then. | |||
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"Totally agree. I shame myself enough without others adding to it and I'm sure I'm not the only one Yes, I agree. When you’re having a bad day, crap like this heaps on more damage x " Definitely agree, it made me step away from the chocolate that's for sure. Some people are just horrible. | |||
"I’m ashamed of my body at the moment, so I don’t need any one else to add to that! " | |||
"Totally agree. I shame myself enough without others adding to it and I'm sure I'm not the only one Yes, I agree. When you’re having a bad day, crap like this heaps on more damage x " Exactly this.... I know I'm fat, I hate that I'm fat, my body makes it hard for me not to be fat... I don't need reminding by cockwombles that I'm fat. And it's not just us bigs that get shamed people get shamed for being too thin, no figure, not desired appendage, it really grinds me  | |||
"I’ve come to realise that we should feel very sorry for body shamers and kill them with kindness. They have deep rooted issues and project this onto others to try to feel better. I kind of agree with this. I suspect loneliness is behind a great deal of the refractory anger on this site. " I think so. Attacking so_eone's weight is seen as an easy target by those who are unhappy/feel invisible/whatever. Rather than tackle those issues they lash out others and try and hurt them - you only have to look at status updates, forum posts, even general conversations people have. It's almost like trying to make others feel unhappy because they are. I'm slowly getting to the point where I realise it's more about their frame of mind than my frame. | |||
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"I’ve come to realise that we should feel very sorry for body shamers and kill them with kindness. They have deep rooted issues and project this onto others to try to feel better. I kind of agree with this. I suspect loneliness is behind a great deal of the refractory anger on this site. I think so. Attacking so_eone's weight is seen as an easy target by those who are unhappy/feel invisible/whatever. Rather than tackle those issues they lash out others and try and hurt them - you only have to look at status updates, forum posts, even general conversations people have. It's almost like trying to make others feel unhappy because they are. I'm slowly getting to the point where I realise it's more about their frame of mind than my frame. " Upsetting people is also a way of getting attention for the attention starved. Hard not to let it get to you if you’re a target. Sorry you get this on here. | |||
"I’m ashamed of my body at the moment, so I don’t need any one else to add to that!
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"I'm in quite lot of bridal groups particularly on Facebook and I see this a lot directed at other women from other women. One yesterday shocked me particularly, A woman wasn't feeling particularly confident with the dress she had chosen and wanted reassuring. To be honest it didn't really fit her, Most of the comments were quite reassuring or tactfully saying that she may want to try and have it altered but one women said "you look like a stuffed sausage" The comments from that post absolutely shocked me with lots of women then piling on agreeing and saying how could anyone so fat even think about getting married. In fairness the vast majority of those commenting were supportive and thankfully those nasty comments were called out and removed but there's just no need for it. I don't understand the mentality of so_eone that would say something along those lines and some of the examples given on here. " That's shocking! Some people are awful | |||
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"Upsetting people is also a way of getting attention for the attention starved. Hard not to let it get to you if you’re a target. Sorry you get this on here. " Ah don't be, I don't really. I was talking more of friends experiences/what I've read in the forums. I've only had it on the odd status about me. Never had any negative bodyshaming messages or direct forum posts so quite lucky really. | |||
"There's much beauty to be found in us all, the only thing that's ugly are some peoples attitudes " This 100% ^^^^ | |||
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything " Does that include my love of Chelsea?  | |||
"Upsetting people is also a way of getting attention for the attention starved. Hard not to let it get to you if you’re a target. Sorry you get this on here. Ah don't be, I don't really. I was talking more of friends experiences/what I've read in the forums. I've only had it on the odd status about me. Never had any negative bodyshaming messages or direct forum posts so quite lucky really. " Ah fair enough. | |||
"Yes body shaming is a pretty awful thing. Mostly this is a pretty positive and supportive community but there are a few resentful hard done by types that lash out. Fabguys is worse. Women have a bit of a civilising effect on men but the carping and misogyny and body shaming over there is something else. You've obviously missed the misandry on here then. "
It's never ok whether is misogyny, misandry regardless of the gender projecting
Call it out each and every time no matter who | |||
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea? "Not sure that one can be forgiven  | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea?
Not sure that one can be forgiven "  | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything " Just stay away from those ones  | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea?
Not sure that one can be forgiven
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea? "No that's allowed as I'm a Liverpool fan | |||
"Yes body shaming is a pretty awful thing. Mostly this is a pretty positive and supportive community but there are a few resentful hard done by types that lash out. Fabguys is worse. Women have a bit of a civilising effect on men but the carping and misogyny and body shaming over there is something else. You've obviously missed the misandry on here then.
It's never ok whether is misogyny, misandry regardless of the gender projecting
Call it out each and every time no matter who"I think that’s true: call it out whenever. Still I think the general atmosphere on fabguys is much more toxic. | |||
"I totally agree that and kink shaming. If it’s not for you, then don’t shame them "I agree 100%. Unfortunately, there will always be so_eone out there that never has anything positive to say about anything. | |||
"Yes body shaming is a pretty awful thing. Mostly this is a pretty positive and supportive community but there are a few resentful hard done by types that lash out. Fabguys is worse. Women have a bit of a civilising effect on men but the carping and misogyny and body shaming over there is something else. You've obviously missed the misandry on here then.
It's never ok whether is misogyny, misandry regardless of the gender projecting
Call it out each and every time no matter who
I think that’s true: call it out whenever. Still I think the general atmosphere on fabguys is much more toxic. "Aw sorry you had the experience, it's never ok x | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything " Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence | |||
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea?
No that's allowed as I'm a Liverpool fan "Hence me lining you up… Looking forward to tomorrow? | |||
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"I get bodyshamed alot but just ignore it now. Im happy with what i got" I'm glad you're happy with yourself | |||
"People will always do it. Tek no notice. Sad bastards. Happy new year "One day I'll learn not to bite | |||
"People will always do it. Tek no notice. Sad bastards. Happy new year
One day I'll learn not to bite "I think I’ve done it!!! You can do it!! . If I can anyone can haha x | |||
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"I agree we should all be nice or say nothing it’s meant to fun on here so no abuse is way forward "I understand the sentiment but I actually disagree. Nobody said you have to come on the forums to have fun and they don't always have to be fun and we don't all have to agree and be nice. We should never bully or shame anybody though. | |||
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"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op " Yeah but | |||
"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op " Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed  | |||
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence "I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it | |||
"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op " It's highlighting an issue that we see time and time again and calling out that behaviour...there is a difference | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea?
No that's allowed as I'm a Liverpool fan
Hence me lining you up…
Looking forward to tomorrow? "You're looking forward to it because you know we have key players missing because they have covid | |||
"Body shaming one group to big up another is also my bug bear. All woman are real women and slimmer women shouldn't be put down to big up BBWs. " Just to be a pain though and look at it from a different angle (not like me I know! ) I have seen people accused of body shaming on the forums where it’s obvious they didn’t mean to and genuinely just fucked up their wording. They are then pounced on and people won’t let it drop. There is a difference and I think if people stopped and thought instead of pouncing it can often be obvious or wasn’t intentional x | |||
"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed "How dare you?! I love gherkins! | |||
"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed
How dare you?! I love gherkins! "food of the devil himself!! | |||
"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed
How dare you?! I love gherkins! food of the devil himself!!"There's a reason I don't give out my real name | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Does that include my love of Chelsea?
No that's allowed as I'm a Liverpool fan
Hence me lining you up…
Looking forward to tomorrow?
You're looking forward to it because you know we have key players missing because they have covid "Have you seen us play recently? I’m not looking forward to it in the slightest! | |||
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"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed
How dare you?! I love gherkins! food of the devil himself!!"I'm with Nora - in the bin with them! | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence
I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it"I meant the smell is unrelated | |||
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"I was told lack of fit women on here meant he was mailing fat women like me after I gave him a polite no thank you. I said I realised that men were none to choosy when it came to sex, but that also meant ironically that I had lots to take my pick from "Ive had that too but i just reminded him that even fat women rejected him | |||
"One of my huge pet peves! No one is entitled to body shame anyone else. If you don't like the way so_eone looks then look somewhere else, if you don't like the way so_eone describes themselves, then read something else and if you believe so_eone should makes change to their body, under NO circumstances do you actually tell them! Take that thought and crawl under a rock with it so it never sees the light of day. Happy new year everyone!
*Steps off soapbox* "Totally The only thing I don't like is the fact the site has Average No one is average. You have to be your own leading person in you own life. And as said before for most men sexy is a thing not a look. Sexy comes from the mind not a body shape. | |||
"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed
How dare you?! I love gherkins! "Gherkins should be banned, also I apologise if anyone wants to be identified as a gherkin | |||
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence
I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it
I meant the smell is unrelated "I'm confused | |||
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"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence
I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it
I meant the smell is unrelated
I'm confused "I'm clearly failing miserably at taking the piss | |||
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"Totally agree. I shame myself enough without others adding to it and I'm sure I'm not the only one " Love the figer and that cleavage I worked with so_eone your shape it was had to concentrate. Found myself talking to her chest lol So embracing | |||
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"People come in all ages shapes sizes and colours, true beauty comes from within. Speaking personally, I am acutely aware of all my imperfections. I find it difficult to accept why anyone finds me attractive. Not fishing for compliments its just the way I feel. I have dated some truly lovely ladies, but I always feel out of my league. Body shaming is not cool. " Same as don't have the confidence like some guys. | |||
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"One of my huge pet peves! No one is entitled to body shame anyone else. If you don't like the way so_eone looks then look somewhere else, if you don't like the way so_eone describes themselves, then read something else and if you believe so_eone should makes change to their body, under NO circumstances do you actually tell them! Take that thought and crawl under a rock with it so it never sees the light of day. Happy new year everyone!
*Steps off soapbox* "I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence
I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it
I meant the smell is unrelated
I'm confused
I'm clearly failing miserably at taking the piss "I guess I like you too much to care | |||
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"I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx" A lot of guys seem to thing “negging” is ok and a way to get women to see them as.. I dunno. I really don’t see how it works but it must do or they wouldn’t do it? | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence
I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it
I meant the smell is unrelated
I'm confused
I'm clearly failing miserably at taking the piss
I guess I like you too much to care "It's entirely affectionate | |||
"Bit of topic but I feel the same when people say smokers stink as it's still shaming, there's no need to put anyone down about anything Yeah, the fact you smoke is just a coincidence
I breath in flavoured air
I know it smells bad but I never said so_eone stank when I gave up for 2 years, there's no need to state the obvious but that's my take on it
I meant the smell is unrelated
I'm confused
I'm clearly failing miserably at taking the piss
I guess I like you too much to care
It's entirely affectionate "I'm sure it is | |||
"I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx A lot of guys seem to thing “negging” is ok and a way to get women to see them as.. I dunno. I really don’t see how it works but it must do or they wouldn’t do it? " Honestly I've never been called fat anywhere as much as on here. I can't figure out if it's that or just that there's so many angry people on here. | |||
"much as on here. I can't figure out if it's that or just that there's so many angry people on here. " Ffs there’s not a scrap of fat on you. | |||
"I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx A lot of guys seem to thing “negging” is ok and a way to get women to see them as.. I dunno. I really don’t see how it works but it must do or they wouldn’t do it? " I really don't get it!! How would anyone thing that verbally abusing so_eone would make them think anything positive about them?! | |||
"Body shaming one group to big up another is also my bug bear. All woman are real women and slimmer women shouldn't be put down to big up BBWs. Just to be a pain though and look at it from a different angle (not like me I know! ) I have seen people accused of body shaming on the forums where it’s obvious they didn’t mean to and genuinely just fucked up their wording. They are then pounced on and people won’t let it drop. There is a difference and I think if people stopped and thought instead of pouncing it can often be obvious or wasn’t intentional x"Read the comment was trying to work out whether he was asking a question or like the above trying to say something else, maybe words came out wrong or was simply trying to get a reaction In the end In the end I just thought "whatever".  | |||
"I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx A lot of guys seem to thing “negging” is ok and a way to get women to see them as.. I dunno. I really don’t see how it works but it must do or they wouldn’t do it? Honestly I've never been called fat anywhere as much as on here. I can't figure out if it's that or just that there's so many angry people on here. " Fat?!! You're having a laugh aren't you?!! You got an amazing figure, a body to die for!! Love your black heels BTW .......xx | |||
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"I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx A lot of guys seem to thing “negging” is ok and a way to get women to see them as.. I dunno. I really don’t see how it works but it must do or they wouldn’t do it? Honestly I've never been called fat anywhere as much as on here. I can't figure out if it's that or just that there's so many angry people on here. " Angry, and clearly blind  | |||
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"I have noticed an influx of body shaming posts in people's status updates over the past few months. Real shame " Sadly trolling appears to be a hobby for some. | |||
Sadly when I've chatted to many local women, one if the first things they will say to me is "do you realise I'm size 18-20" or bbw or similar, like they expect it'll make me run a mile or they are waiting for bad comments. That's heart breaking so many pretty & lovely women feel that way.
I hope soon I'll be lucky enough to find a curvy stunner all of my very own & worship the ground she walks on. Finding one with a penchant for tgirls is really hard going tho & going without boob snuggles in slowly killing me . Fingers crossed 2022 is a kinder year & I'll get some big boobies to play with | |||
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"I feel furious on your behalf! What an absolute wanker that person was. You are absolutely gorgeous, and let no fucker tell you otherwise x" Thank you. Inked said they’re just scum, and to ignore them. I’ve had a few messages on here, and from people taking the fact I have a profile on here, and another site, onto my social media ones. Most have been lovely, some vile and very invasive of my right to a personal life. It’s something I just don’t understand. I probably wasn’t the only one they messaged, and hope that if they did, the other people had such supportive people around them, as I have xx | |||
"I feel furious on your behalf! What an absolute wanker that person was. You are absolutely gorgeous, and let no fucker tell you otherwise x Thank you. Inked said they’re just scum, and to ignore them. I’ve had a few messages on here, and from people taking the fact I have a profile on here, and another site, onto my social media ones. Most have been lovely, some vile and very invasive of my right to a personal life. It’s something I just don’t understand. I probably wasn’t the only one they messaged, and hope that if they did, the other people had such supportive people around them, as I have xx" Never any need to put people down, says a lot about what type of person they're and I'm sorry you received so much abuse and on multiple platforms | |||
"I feel furious on your behalf! What an absolute wanker that person was. You are absolutely gorgeous, and let no fucker tell you otherwise x Thank you. Inked said they’re just scum, and to ignore them. I’ve had a few messages on here, and from people taking the fact I have a profile on here, and another site, onto my social media ones. Most have been lovely, some vile and very invasive of my right to a personal life. It’s something I just don’t understand. I probably wasn’t the only one they messaged, and hope that if they did, the other people had such supportive people around them, as I have xx Never any need to put people down, says a lot about what type of person they're and I'm sorry you received so much abuse and on multiple platforms " Thank you. It’s the negative part of public forums it seems. I try not to let it get to me, but sometimes it’s hard, but my friends and loved ones are great and I don’t stay upset for long. It’s their issue, not mine xx | |||
"I’m awful for pointing out that I’m not slim, when chatting to so_eone if we’re looking to meet. I was getting less self conscious about my weight gain (I have a newly diagnosed thyroid problem, and no weekly care for my disabled daughter, so have gained weight and been unable to exercise like I used to, pre lockdown) and starting to own my curves and not hate my body, until earlier in the week. I hid the profile over Christmas, as took a break, to focus on family. So_eone messaged me on another site, to ask if I’d hidden it because I’m a fat, ugly c*nt, and they didn’t blame him for wanting to fuck other people! It’s on the profile that he has his own profile for meeting on his own, it’s not an issue for either of us. Even update the status to say he’s looking to meet etc, but I guess some people are just horrible. I’m not stupid, I know I’m not in shape, but I don’t need others to tell me in such a vile way, especially when they hide behind anonymous profiles x I pity the type of person who feels that their looks make them superior in some way, to others (I’m assuming they must be a God/Goddess as they haven’t got any pics) as they seriously have confidence issues, as why else would they try to make themselves feel better, by attacking so_eone they don’t know? They’re not the first, as lots of people have had issues over the years, and attacked my size, or the fact I am not submissive to their demands for attention. They seem to feel women who dance/model/embrace their sexuality, should be a certain way, but they’re in the minority, as most people are more considerate and mature than that, and they’re the people I’m interested in x Viv xx" I’ve just looked at your profile and your photos are fabulous! From my point of view, there’s absolutely no need to describe yourself as anything, if they can’t see something beautiful, let them jog on! | |||
"I’m awful for pointing out that I’m not slim, when chatting to so_eone if we’re looking to meet. I was getting less self conscious about my weight gain (I have a newly diagnosed thyroid problem, and no weekly care for my disabled daughter, so have gained weight and been unable to exercise like I used to, pre lockdown) and starting to own my curves and not hate my body, until earlier in the week. I hid the profile over Christmas, as took a break, to focus on family. So_eone messaged me on another site, to ask if I’d hidden it because I’m a fat, ugly c*nt, and they didn’t blame him for wanting to fuck other people! It’s on the profile that he has his own profile for meeting on his own, it’s not an issue for either of us. Even update the status to say he’s looking to meet etc, but I guess some people are just horrible. I’m not stupid, I know I’m not in shape, but I don’t need others to tell me in such a vile way, especially when they hide behind anonymous profiles x I pity the type of person who feels that their looks make them superior in some way, to others (I’m assuming they must be a God/Goddess as they haven’t got any pics) as they seriously have confidence issues, as why else would they try to make themselves feel better, by attacking so_eone they don’t know? They’re not the first, as lots of people have had issues over the years, and attacked my size, or the fact I am not submissive to their demands for attention. They seem to feel women who dance/model/embrace their sexuality, should be a certain way, but they’re in the minority, as most people are more considerate and mature than that, and they’re the people I’m interested in x Viv xx I’ve just looked at your profile and your photos are fabulous! From my point of view, there’s absolutely no need to describe yourself as anything, if they can’t see something beautiful, let them jog on!" Thank you. I’m just good at clever angles, good lighting, haha, and I just report and block now. Leave it up to the sites to sort out xx | |||
"I feel furious on your behalf! What an absolute wanker that person was. You are absolutely gorgeous, and let no fucker tell you otherwise x Thank you. Inked said they’re just scum, and to ignore them. I’ve had a few messages on here, and from people taking the fact I have a profile on here, and another site, onto my social media ones. Most have been lovely, some vile and very invasive of my right to a personal life. It’s something I just don’t understand. I probably wasn’t the only one they messaged, and hope that if they did, the other people had such supportive people around them, as I have xx Never any need to put people down, says a lot about what type of person they're and I'm sorry you received so much abuse and on multiple platforms Thank you. It’s the negative part of public forums it seems. I try not to let it get to me, but sometimes it’s hard, but my friends and loved ones are great and I don’t stay upset for long. It’s their issue, not mine xx" Exactly that, the issue is within them xx | |||
"I cant imagine how anyone could bodyshame you, nothing at all to have any shame about your body.....xx A lot of guys seem to thing “negging” is ok and a way to get women to see them as.. I dunno. I really don’t see how it works but it must do or they wouldn’t do it? Honestly I've never been called fat anywhere as much as on here. I can't figure out if it's that or just that there's so many angry people on here. " Fat you? Wow they clearly are blind... your figure is gorgeous! | |||
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"Agreed unless it's to myself "Princess22abc we love your body. Just been having a nosy at your pics!!! | |||
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"The bullying on the thread that inspired this one isn't being done by the op Sorry that could be me. I just gherkin shamed
How dare you?! I love gherkins!
Gherkins should be banned, also I apologise if anyone wants to be identified as a gherkin "Love gherkinsssss!!! X Errr also I’ve been called a pickle, does that count | |||
"Agreed unless it's to myself "I felt this one. | |||
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"It is an issue with social media sites, people say what they like when they are behind a screen." ^ Exactly that, people spend so much time comparing themselves to others. Shame! | |||
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"I’m awful for pointing out that I’m not slim, when chatting to so_eone if we’re looking to meet. I was getting less self conscious about my weight gain (I have a newly diagnosed thyroid problem, and no weekly care for my disabled daughter, so have gained weight and been unable to exercise like I used to, pre lockdown) and starting to own my curves and not hate my body, until earlier in the week. I hid the profile over Christmas, as took a break, to focus on family. So_eone messaged me on another site, to ask if I’d hidden it because I’m a fat, ugly c*nt, and they didn’t blame him for wanting to fuck other people! It’s on the profile that he has his own profile for meeting on his own, it’s not an issue for either of us. Even update the status to say he’s looking to meet etc, but I guess some people are just horrible. I’m not stupid, I know I’m not in shape, but I don’t need others to tell me in such a vile way, especially when they hide behind anonymous profiles x I pity the type of person who feels that their looks make them superior in some way, to others (I’m assuming they must be a God/Goddess as they haven’t got any pics) as they seriously have confidence issues, as why else would they try to make themselves feel better, by attacking so_eone they don’t know? They’re not the first, as lots of people have had issues over the years, and attacked my size, or the fact I am not submissive to their demands for attention. They seem to feel women who dance/model/embrace their sexuality, should be a certain way, but they’re in the minority, as most people are more considerate and mature than that, and they’re the people I’m interested in x Viv xx" That's absolutely crazy. Remember they are an idiot and don't put any stock in the opinions of an idiot. You're clearly very sexy and hot. It's their issue, nothing to do with you. | |||
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Don't Cry For me.
Don't cry for me, this is the choice that I made,
To live in this body and the price that I've paid.
I know that I'm diffrent and I don't fit in,
for no other reason than not being thin.
They whisper, they comment,
they point and they stare.
Just because I don't look like you,
do you think that I care?
Your children are rude,
they judge the book by its cover.
It should be you that we point at,
not me or my mother.
What's your issues?? Where's the big deal?
why does it concern you I like a big meal?
Is your life so empty, you need to be cruel,
making those who are bigger feel so small.
Don't cry for me, this is the choice that I made,
To live in this body and the price that I've paid.
I know that I'm diffrent and I don't fit in,
for no other reason than not being thin.
Don't shorten my days with medical facts,
redesigning my lifestyle set out by newspaper hacks.
Persecution from adverts and day time telly,
I won't fit in your boxes, I love my big belly.
Don't critisise my body thats not the perfect eight,
pushing and shoving to be the right weight.
I'm happy for my curves, my chins and my thighs,
to me I am lovely just the right size.
My life is full and filled with joy and love,
I feel i've been blessed from him up above.
I embrace who I am without being vain,
my life could be worse in a world of poverty and pain.
Don't cry for me, this is the choice that I made,
To live in this body and the price that I've paid.
I know that I'm diffrent and I don't fit in,
for no other reason than not being thin. | |||
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"People do it to make themselves feel better. To pull down others makes them feel like they have some kind of control. Everyone can see you're being a bully when you do it. It's not big and it's not clever. I have no idea what people get out of it but when has it ever been okay to tell so_eone how they should look? Always been a huge bug bear of mine. Never has been never will be ok. Some people just don't have manners" And manners maketh the man. It’s usually an ego thing I think. Just block and walk away with a strut. | |||
"Totally agree. I shame myself enough without others adding to it and I'm sure I'm not the only one " | |||
