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Is there someone on your friends list who just doesn't bother anymore, you message them and they don't reply even though you seen they have been online numerous times. Should you remove them or just leave them there? X |
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over a year ago
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Remove them, they will probably see that you are no longer on their friends list and either, be bothered by it and so contact you, or not be bothered by it and not contact you. I’ve done that recently, we are now friends again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Literally just had this conversation about half an hour ago. On another note what if you added them as a friend but after a social didn't proceed because you weren't into them .... Is it bad etiquette to remove them from your friends list?  |
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"Literally just had this conversation about half an hour ago. On another note what if you added them as a friend but after a social didn't proceed because you weren't into them .... Is it bad etiquette to remove them from your friends list? "
It's a dilemma for sure. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just been through my friends list and removed any that have not been on line for a while or have not replied to any of my recent messages.
In other words I now have no friends ha ha. |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. "
I deleted some today. No conversation, no point.
I've also deleted "friends" after having a not so great social.
I'm pretty ruthless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. "
Me too 
My friend list only includes people I want to talk to and want to talk to me. No communication for a while and they are gone. Most of the time they don’t even notice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. I deleted some today. No conversation, no point.
I've also deleted "friends" after having a not so great social.
I'm pretty ruthless "
You have to be on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk.
Me too
My friend list only includes people I want to talk to and want to talk to me. No communication for a while and they are gone. Most of the time they don’t even notice "
Fyi I'd notice |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. I deleted some today. No conversation, no point.
I've also deleted "friends" after having a not so great social.
I'm pretty ruthless
You have to be on here!"
I also block them to be sure
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. I deleted some today. No conversation, no point.
I've also deleted "friends" after having a not so great social.
I'm pretty ruthless
You have to be on here! I also block them to be sure
haha "
Ah I sometimes unfriend then make friends again weeks later. I can be ruthless but quite fickle so I don't block, just incase! |
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I recently did this with someone who originally sent me a Friends invite shortly after we moved here over four years ago...
....apart from a couple of messages exchanged at the time, I've not had any contact with them since - I messaged them a few times when they were logged in at the same time as me, but they never replied...
....after yet another such message went unread and unanswered a few weeks ago, decided it was time to press 'delete'... |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
I’ve just had a look at my friends list. It seems a lot have deleted themselves by leaving the site. I think some others are just from forum ‘add a new friend’ games from years ago. I’d feel mean deleting anyone though. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
"Remove them, they will probably see that you are no longer on their friends list and either, be bothered by it and so contact you, or not be bothered by it and not contact you. I’ve done that recently, we are now friends again "
Just did this with same results, apart from the we’re friends again bit lol. We met up a few days ago (2nd meet though 1st and 2nd meet were 2 years apart). I was completely ghosted after the meet, I pull them out of my friends list, hey presto I get a “Happy New Year” message.
I have no time for that shizz |
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"Literally just had this conversation about half an hour ago. On another note what if you added them as a friend but after a social didn't proceed because you weren't into them .... Is it bad etiquette to remove them from your friends list? "
I’ve often wondered … so I wait a while and if they don’t delete me first , I usually do after a couple of weeks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't add friends now until we've met and we want to meet again, I found most people I accepted in the beginning just wanted to perv, no conversation or plans to meet so I removed them. Problem solved |
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"We need to do this…there’s some we haven’t spoken to for quite a while so will serve our divorce papers if they don’t respond
K
Thank goodness I messaged this morning "
Cookie…you’re a friend for life…whether you like it or not! |
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As all my friends are invariably people who I've met or at some time formed a strong connection with, I never delete any because, I do realise that people have a life outside of fab, and very often we just pick up where we left off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's probably a good idea to prune a bit now and again, if there's no contact. I do see quite a few people who put this on their status update, I wonder if this is a plea to be contacted or a 'look at me' type post. |
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"Is there someone on your friends list who just doesn't bother anymore, you message them and they don't reply even though you seen they have been online numerous times. Should you remove them or just leave them there? X"
Yeah. I just end up deleting them and blocking them. If they can’t be arsed, I’m not going to waste my time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Out with the old man, in with the new.
Clear the Cupboards of old clutter.
Give & surely make time,for those whom make time for you.
The most valuable thing is "time" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Literally just had this conversation about half an hour ago. On another note what if you added them as a friend but after a social didn't proceed because you weren't into them .... Is it bad etiquette to remove them from your friends list? "
Why the hangups. People know when anything has run its course. Let people and things go!!
Holding onto in insecurities of oneself.
Fear of being alone!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. "
Now well!
Your a person out of me own very heart.
Make room for new selective fresh blood.
Onwards n upwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly delete my friends if we don't talk. I deleted some today. No conversation, no point.
I've also deleted "friends" after having a not so great social.
I'm pretty ruthless "
It's a merry go round. Give a FCUK...
numbers never end.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there someone on your friends list who just doesn't bother anymore, you message them and they don't reply even though you seen they have been online numerous times. Should you remove them or just leave them there? X"
Delete ! have a clear out for new year ! dont look back your not going that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I recently did this with someone who originally sent me a Friends invite shortly after we moved here over four years ago...
....apart from a couple of messages exchanged at the time, I've not had any contact with them since - I messaged them a few times when they were logged in at the same time as me, but they never replied...
....after yet another such message went unread and unanswered a few weeks ago, decided it was time to press 'delete'..."
I sense. At that moment in time people feel that vibe with you. Then they add as a friend. And feel they have conquered you!
Then turn the corner. And onotjer shiny toy comes along they think will give them more than you. They then vampire n teeth into them. And it continues. It's all fictional friends.
How many exchange numbers?? Really chat and meet?
Most it's all a head fuck and game on the Internet.
All my meets n links have been before joining fab back in April 2021.
We all knew where we stood. In friendship,fwb,s,nsa relationships etc.
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So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active. |
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active."
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X |
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X"
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have half a dozen. And don’t want nor need anymore…… only people who are on the same wavelength. Why give yourself the headache of total randoms sprouting shite ? |
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas. "
That's exactly how I view friendship too which is why I don't have any old school or childhood friends.
It works both ways and when you spend years visiting, helping, funding and supporting and you suddenly realise they have never reciprocated it's not really friendship.
The same is true on here. If I'm the one initiating every conversation and the only time I ever hear from them is when they need backup in their latest drama it's easier just to move on and forget about them.
Fab friendships have to be mutual and not one way streets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm better on a block list "
The block list thread was a step to far
Those offenders who received a lifetime bar
But the shunning of friends is surely a crime
An action of regret over a period of time
So before that delete button is depressed
The friendship situation should be throughly assessed
Friends surely one cannot have sufficient
As without them life would be deficient
So refrain from pruning the list of mates
Instead focus on their positive traits
And remember Fab friends are for life not the Yuletide
As one day they maybe naked by your side
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas.
That's exactly how I view friendship too which is why I don't have any old school or childhood friends.
It works both ways and when you spend years visiting, helping, funding and supporting and you suddenly realise they have never reciprocated it's not really friendship.
The same is true on here. If I'm the one initiating every conversation and the only time I ever hear from them is when they need backup in their latest drama it's easier just to move on and forget about them.
Fab friendships have to be mutual and not one way streets. "
Fab is not real. It’s transient it’s a recreational sex site it’s not a for life association it’s taken far too seriously it’s about being flexible it’s just a bit of fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas.
That's exactly how I view friendship too which is why I don't have any old school or childhood friends.
It works both ways and when you spend years visiting, helping, funding and supporting and you suddenly realise they have never reciprocated it's not really friendship.
The same is true on here. If I'm the one initiating every conversation and the only time I ever hear from them is when they need backup in their latest drama it's easier just to move on and forget about them.
Fab friendships have to be mutual and not one way streets. "
A stark reality in our times... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas.
That's exactly how I view friendship too which is why I don't have any old school or childhood friends.
It works both ways and when you spend years visiting, helping, funding and supporting and you suddenly realise they have never reciprocated it's not really friendship.
The same is true on here. If I'm the one initiating every conversation and the only time I ever hear from them is when they need backup in their latest drama it's easier just to move on and forget about them.
Fab friendships have to be mutual and not one way streets.
A stark reality in our times... "
This is all a bit intense for New Year’s Day. |
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas.
That's exactly how I view friendship too which is why I don't have any old school or childhood friends.
It works both ways and when you spend years visiting, helping, funding and supporting and you suddenly realise they have never reciprocated it's not really friendship.
The same is true on here. If I'm the one initiating every conversation and the only time I ever hear from them is when they need backup in their latest drama it's easier just to move on and forget about them.
Fab friendships have to be mutual and not one way streets.
A stark reality in our times...
This is all a bit intense for New Year’s Day. "
Think it's interesting tbh. Think most of us are on the same page though. X |
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"Is there someone on your friends list who just doesn't bother anymore, you message them and they don't reply even though you seen they have been online numerous times. Should you remove them or just leave them there? X"
Think you’re right two on hotlist that don’t bother.
New year New start !
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"Is there someone on your friends list who just doesn't bother anymore, you message them and they don't reply even though you seen they have been online numerous times. Should you remove them or just leave them there? X
Think you’re right two on hotlist that don’t bother.
New year New start !
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Good for you haven't even thought of the hotlist tbh. X |
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"Is there someone on your friends list who just doesn't bother anymore, you message them and they don't reply even though you seen they have been online numerous times. Should you remove them or just leave them there? X"
If I followed through with this I'd have to delete pretty much all of them |
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"So many saying that they haven't spoken to in a while, well that cuts two ways....
Just saying like.
When did you drop in a little did to that got you talking to begin with. Doesn't take much to say good to see your both active.
What got this thread going for me was that there are 8 people on my friends list and I messaged them all individually wishing them all a happy xmas, they all got back apart from 1 who was online regularly over the period, they never opened the message we sent although they wouldn't have done this before, it was always the same day at least they would reply. Its as if we made the effort and they couldn't be bothered. X
Hooray, well done you. Genuinely.
So many moaning but can't be arsed to make that move themselves, we accept friendship here on the same basis as we do in real life. We see old friends that welcome us 20 odd years after we last spoke.
A friend is for life not just Christmas.
That's exactly how I view friendship too which is why I don't have any old school or childhood friends.
It works both ways and when you spend years visiting, helping, funding and supporting and you suddenly realise they have never reciprocated it's not really friendship.
The same is true on here. If I'm the one initiating every conversation and the only time I ever hear from them is when they need backup in their latest drama it's easier just to move on and forget about them.
Fab friendships have to be mutual and not one way streets.
Fab is not real. It’s transient it’s a recreational sex site it’s not a for life association it’s taken far too seriously it’s about being flexible it’s just a bit of fun!"
that's fine in your world, or anybody else's, in ours we give meaning to those in our friends list. Meeting them for pants on fun is as good as the pants off stuff too. True we met them here, but they'll be in our phones contact list long after we aren't here.
We're realistic about what fab means to different people and find compared to our own MO that its sad that friendships, both here and life generally have become so disposable.
Throw away society indeed, within an environment of fly tipped, using along with the fuck and go-ness. |
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