Have just seen this stupid comment typed into a chat room. I thought we were better than that here, I thought we celebrated all sexuality? Are there really men out there who still think this is a legitimate thing to think? |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R"
This definitely, not something I'd take to have been offensive. |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R"
I agree!
To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery 
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R"
That's how I read it so it's certainly not shaming anyone. It's like saying it's a pity they aren't compatible or its unfortunate we don't match. |
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"Blimey, to me it just seemed to say that her being gay was a bad thing,a sort of 'I'll cure you' comment. Hey ho.. "
Looks like you were projecting there.
I would take that as a comment of regret for opportunities lost, not homophobia.
Not necessarily tasteful or gentlemanly, but not obviously offensive, |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R
I agree!
To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery
D"
How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them. |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R
I agree!
To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery
D
How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them. "
Cool!! Having an opinion and airing it is fantastic eh!?  |
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Im not sure there was intent as you inferred from the comment OP - im more with the - ‘oooh what a shame your sexuality means we will never end up naked together’. If it was a pattern of comments that combined led to you inferring in the way you did- that’s different.  |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R
I agree!
To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery
D
How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them.
Cool!! Having an opinion and airing it is fantastic eh!? "
Yes it is if others can keep insults to themselves.  |
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"Blimey, to me it just seemed to say that her being gay was a bad thing,a sort of 'I'll cure you' comment. Hey ho..
Looks like you were projecting there.
I would take that as a comment of regret for opportunities lost, not homophobia.
Not necessarily tasteful or gentlemanly, but not obviously offensive,"
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It reeks of someone intent on taking offence on behalf of someone else regardless of the context. Harmless enough on here, I guess, but something that causes untold problems for people in wider society these days, leading to accusations of all sorts.
I have a gay friend who often says of other women she fancies, ‘What a pity she is straight.’ She certainly isn’t descrying heterosexuality |
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Well it's nice of uou to take a stand OP, though perhaps jumping the shark a bit.
I can tell you from lived experience that straight men (in particular but not exclusively) will say stuff which might be received as offensive when actually no malice was intended.
And I do see guys and think wish you were gay..
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R
I agree!
To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery
D"
Bang on |
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"Have just seen this stupid comment typed into a chat room. I thought we were better than that here, I thought we celebrated all sexuality? Are there really men out there who still think this is a legitimate thing to think? "
I agree with you OP. This is an example of how morally bankrupt we have become in the swinging community. We have let any miscreant/vagabond interlope into our rarefied lifestyle….
I believe there is only one way to regain the honor of our community….
You must have a duel with this dispicable character who has sullied our beloved community with his homophobic drivel.
This sound be held at dawn so it doesn’t interfere with anyone’s NYE plans….
Please choose your second wisely and God speed my friend. |
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"Have just seen this stupid comment typed into a chat room. I thought we were better than that here, I thought we celebrated all sexuality? Are there really men out there who still think this is a legitimate thing to think? "
Sounds like the poster is saying “pity (for me) that she is gay”, saying they they fancy the lady in question but realise that they have zero chance because of her sexuality.
I don’t see a massive problem with this. It’s not as thought they are criticising her sexuality. It’s like saying ah bollocks when you realise the hot girl / guy you spot lives 400 miles away: you’re not criticising the place they live, just cursing how far away it is.
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I've had a shame your bi message once when chatting to a women . Was nice actually someone found me attractive but I wasn't for them sexually . No offence meant or taken |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R
I agree!
To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery
D
How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them. "
Snowflake is just another modern term they gets trotted out way too often and is supposed to be devastating. It’s lame.
In this instance I’m scratching my head as to why OP left the comments unchallenged if he felt an strongly about them ... didn’t push back, didn’t report, came on here instead. |
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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually
R"
This.
Hardly offensive |
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