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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Alot of relationships are projected with expectations of sacking friends off and only having time for partner being that a gf,bf etc
What are your views on this???? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah own time and stuff but the realization is the fact that your own time goes out the window when entering a relationship, maybe that's just me folks. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Yeah own time and stuff but the realization is the fact that your own time goes out the window when entering a relationship, maybe that's just me folks."
But in a healthy relationship surely your partner is someone you would want to spend time with, whereas you make it sound like a chore!?!?
We each have the ability to go out on our own and do our own thing, but we choose not to as we want to share in our experiences.
Even if we are doing our own thing in the living room, we will engage with each other just to maintain an element of contact.
I don’t see that as a bad thing.
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"You need a healthy balance but the relationship has to come first,but friends are very important"
I agree with this ^ there does have to be a balance and based on honesty, trust and mutual understanding |
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It's healthy to have interests outside of the relationship, nothing wrong with spending time with friends who share your interests separately to your partner, I'd be weary of someone who wants all of my time. Mrs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah own time and stuff but the realization is the fact that your own time goes out the window when entering a relationship, maybe that's just me folks.
But in a healthy relationship surely your partner is someone you would want to spend time with, whereas you make it sound like a chore!?!?
We each have the ability to go out on our own and do our own thing, but we choose not to as we want to share in our experiences.
Even if we are doing our own thing in the living room, we will engage with each other just to maintain an element of contact.
I don’t see that as a bad thing.
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I love the element of sharing experiences etc, but my partner wants all of my attention all the time.
Even when I wanna see friends she gets jealous and has a go at me. I'm usually one of these people that goes with the flow to a extent.
I'm just putting my foot down and sick of taking it off her. She knows that I'm on here and stuff and respects that but it's the friendship side of our relationship she hates me having. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My relationship is my absolute priority and my partner's needs will come above those of anybody else. Having said that we both have separate interests and separate friends. We spend time apart as well as together I think being in a relationship is about being individuals who live their lives together if that makes sense. |
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"Oh god my worst nightmare is someone wanting to be in my pocket and not doing their own thing!!
I have vision of an action man figure in your pocket being ejected across the room  "
Literally!!!  needy men are not my bag… |
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"Oh god my worst nightmare is someone wanting to be in my pocket and not doing their own thing!!
I have vision of an action man figure in your pocket being ejected across the room
Literally!!! needy men are not my bag… "
Nope, nor mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a thought but maybe if she's accepting you're on here and meeting people, she maybe feels like you should compromise more on other stuff.
It could be she's totally fine and also seeing others but I just wonder if she's "tolerating" rather than supporting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My relationship is my absolute priority and my partner's needs will come above those of anybody else. Having said that we both have separate interests and separate friends. We spend time apart as well as together I think being in a relationship is about being individuals who live their lives together if that makes sense. "
That is top comment for this threat well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me personally I couldn't ask for my partner to spend all his time and attention on me. I would feel like I was isolating him if I resisted him seeing his own friends. In a former relationship I had a partner who was only ever away from me when he was at work. I like my own space and my independence and don't feel like I'm me without it. If I lived with my current partner I'd worry if either one is us didn't have our own space to be the people we are.
If you're in a relationship where things are too demanding or needy you need to sit down and talk like adults about it before it comes to a head in totally wrong way.
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