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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated? 
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then  |
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By *HoneyWoman
over a year ago
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Awe why is it so complicated? Maybe you should if you were happier x
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex with men is easy to find. Relationships are another matter. "
Surely that is just getting old? Relationships are easier when you're younger. Fact. As you get older the baggage gets bigger. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Sex with men is easy to find. Relationships are another matter.
Surely that is just getting old? Relationships are easier when you're younger. Fact. As you get older the baggage gets bigger. "
I think this is sadly true. I hope you find it easier soon OP. x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Sex with men is easy to find. Relationships are another matter.
Surely that is just getting old? Relationships are easier when you're younger. Fact. As you get older the baggage gets bigger. "
Very true. So how come it seems just about every woman at singles events or on fb is looking for a long term relationship and and someone to settle down with ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then "
Ermmm, this is probably the easiest, quickest way to earn myself a good kicking...
But, why don't you just stick with women? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
Ermmm, this is probably the easiest, quickest way to earn myself a good kicking...
But, why don't you just stick with women?"
I prefer the taste of cock to the taste of pussy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
Ermmm, this is probably the easiest, quickest way to earn myself a good kicking...
But, why don't you just stick with women?
I prefer the taste of cock to the taste of pussy. "
I'm not qualified to continue this conversation..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I finding is a lot about luck. Funding the right person at the right time. Is there a specific type you go for? "
As long as he’s taller than me and in reasonable shape and isn’t broke…. I’m not a good digger; just fed up of being the only one who pays. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe you relate to women emotionally more than you do men? So finding mutual feelings comes more naturally with a woman?
I dunno. Just my general musings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe you relate to women emotionally more than you do men? So finding mutual feelings comes more naturally with a woman?
I dunno. Just my general musings. "
I get what ur saying I relate 2 men easier but always get friend zoned cause most are taken lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe you relate to women emotionally more than you do men? So finding mutual feelings comes more naturally with a woman?
I dunno. Just my general musings. "
I’m very different physically since I was dating women and I’ve been concentrating on being physical with men only since I began making the changes.
I’m ready for a relationship again now and it’s just seems impossible to find. I’m looking away from here for the record. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe you relate to women emotionally more than you do men? So finding mutual feelings comes more naturally with a woman?
I dunno. Just my general musings.
I’m very different physically since I was dating women and I’ve been concentrating on being physical with men only since I began making the changes.
I’m ready for a relationship again now and it’s just seems impossible to find. I’m looking away from here for the record. "
Unfortunately dating sites aint no better it's just full of men wanting sex and 1 nighters that's y i gave up on dating and came on here at least men are honest on here more x |
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"I finding is a lot about luck. Funding the right person at the right time. Is there a specific type you go for?
As long as he’s taller than me and in reasonable shape and isn’t broke…. I’m not a good digger; just fed up of being the only one who pays. "
We need a night out don't we  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I finding is a lot about luck. Funding the right person at the right time. Is there a specific type you go for?
As long as he’s taller than me and in reasonable shape and isn’t broke…. I’m not a good digger; just fed up of being the only one who pays.
We need a night out don't we "
Sounds good to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then "
When you've given up on it, when you really can't be arsed to try again. When you decide no more relationships and maybe sex only. When you decide that you're self sufficient, know where you're at, and you're done.... that is when it'll happen.
I said no more, I was adamant, happy in my independent protective bubble and it was popped!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
When you've given up on it, when you really can't be arsed to try again. When you decide no more relationships and maybe sex only. When you decide that you're self sufficient, know where you're at, and you're done.... that is when it'll happen.
I said no more, I was adamant, happy in my independent protective bubble and it was popped!
PW "
I’m 52 and trans though. That seems to be my issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
When you've given up on it, when you really can't be arsed to try again. When you decide no more relationships and maybe sex only. When you decide that you're self sufficient, know where you're at, and you're done.... that is when it'll happen.
I said no more, I was adamant, happy in my independent protective bubble and it was popped!
PW
I’m 52 and trans though. That seems to be my issue. "
It won't be an issue at all when you meet the right one. And it's not an issue anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
When you've given up on it, when you really can't be arsed to try again. When you decide no more relationships and maybe sex only. When you decide that you're self sufficient, know where you're at, and you're done.... that is when it'll happen.
I said no more, I was adamant, happy in my independent protective bubble and it was popped!
PW
I’m 52 and trans though. That seems to be my issue.
It won't be an issue at all when you meet the right one. And it's not an issue anyway. "
I don’t mention it on my dating profile as I want to be fancied in spite of it rather than because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its dating in general, I have given up too. Met plenty of women off vanilla dating sites and usually turns bad after a few dates, more relaxed and then suddenly the mask slips. Im old school and always will be, I pay for nights out, open doors and pull out chairs etc etc. Maybe frowned on these days but just making a point that no matter what I do either it's just as bad for males too. Hope you get what you're looking for Rachel as I believe everyone deserves to have that someone to love and love them x |
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I find it hard met a lady who wants more than chat or even get chat messages started.
Last time was single 8yrs ago was so easy to meet chat and date, now it’s impossible been on sites for 4 months and get no likes or messages and when do they vanish or want paying.
Any tips ladies will be amazing or if anyone wants a single male am free |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then "
are you serious Rachel? You are absolutely stunningly gorgeous,you have such a beautiful smile,sparkling eyes and oh WOW such a beautiful sexy body.it can't be you doing anything wrong surely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel ya! My issue seem to be picking the wrong men that somewhere down the line turn out to be total dickheads and toxic as fuck!!!
Let me guess...6' tall, abs, fuckboys?"
Omg how do you know 
Probably more like 6’2” |
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"I feel ya! My issue seem to be picking the wrong men that somewhere down the line turn out to be total dickheads and toxic as fuck!!!
Let me guess...6' tall, abs, fuckboys?
Omg how do you know
Probably more like 6’2” "
So why the surprise? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then are you serious Rachel? You are absolutely stunningly gorgeous,you have such a beautiful smile,sparkling eyes and oh WOW such a beautiful sexy body.it can't be you doing anything wrong surely."
Aaargh, it’s not all about looks! Just because a woman is attractive, it doesn’t mean her love life is going to be uncomplicated, or that she’ll be treated well. |
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Frankly I'm just glad I'm not dating nowadays. There seem to be so many rules, so much overthinking, an awful lot of labels defining the actual status of any relationship and game playing.
From where I'm standing it seems to be extremely complicated |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel ya! My issue seem to be picking the wrong men that somewhere down the line turn out to be total dickheads and toxic as fuck!!!
Let me guess...6' tall, abs, fuckboys?
Omg how do you know
Probably more like 6’2”
So why the surprise? "
I’m admitting guilt this girl never learns her lesson  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then are you serious Rachel? You are absolutely stunningly gorgeous,you have such a beautiful smile,sparkling eyes and oh WOW such a beautiful sexy body.it can't be you doing anything wrong surely.
Aaargh, it’s not all about looks! Just because a woman is attractive, it doesn’t mean her love life is going to be uncomplicated, or that she’ll be treated well."
yes I know,which is a real shame,yes looks aren't everything,I love a lady who has a sense of humour ,and like myself doesn't take herself too seriously,but if you treat a lady with manners and respect,then there is no reason you both shouldn't get along,unless your a boring sod lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then are you serious Rachel? You are absolutely stunningly gorgeous,you have such a beautiful smile,sparkling eyes and oh WOW such a beautiful sexy body.it can't be you doing anything wrong surely.
Aaargh, it’s not all about looks! Just because a woman is attractive, it doesn’t mean her love life is going to be uncomplicated, or that she’ll be treated well.yes I know,which is a real shame,yes looks aren't everything,I love a lady who has a sense of humour ,and like myself doesn't take herself too seriously,but if you treat a lady with manners and respect,then there is no reason you both shouldn't get along,unless your a boring sod lol"
I’m not so interested in ‘boring’ but old school I can do.
I love ironing a shirt then watching him button it up with his biceps bulging and a glint in his eye.
Opening the car door for me to get in is nice too. I have no issue with these things.
I pay my own way though. I’m financially stable if not mentally! I jest, as I think I’m very down to Earth.
I wear my heart on my sleeve and I love with passion.
I get that some people don’t understand people like me and if they’re unwilling to learn, that’s fine. It hurts though.
I met a man I’d chatted on video with several times. He came across as naturally cautious so I decided to actually let him meet me and see me in person for the woman I am before revealing my history.
Even after, he still kept telling me I was beautiful and so special. He still saw me as very attractive and fun but he couldn’t progress things as he felt my being trans would always bother him.
I mistakenly got as far as oral sex with a man recently who I only later realised didn’t know my past. When I mentioned it he was gob smacked; ‘but I went down on you.,.’ Yes folks; the surgery really is that good!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There's irony for you. Going by my fabs, winks and views I could date a bloke far easier than I could a woman.. "
Finding sex with men is frighteningly easy. A relationship though, a different matter. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
Just stay single and enjoy both"
I’ve been single two years. Not all that long, I know. And there’s been this bug going round.
I get lonely.
My best friend has been the mistress to a married man for nearly six years. She moans about it but still gets taken out twice a week. Chats to him on the phone several times a day. She has someone special even if it’s not perfect.
I have no one to share my day with. No one to hold me at night. No one to go out on a date with.
There’s so much more to life than sex |
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By *lairekTV/TS
over a year ago
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I could understand why a guy might want children from a relationship, and use that to rule out a trans person...
But, otherwise, what's the difference? Great looks, even better smile, does it really matter what someone was born with?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I could understand why a guy might want children from a relationship, and use that to rule out a trans person...
But, otherwise, what's the difference? Great looks, even better smile, does it really matter what someone was born with?
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Thank you.
I did have that children conversation with a guy I met via online dating…. I’m 52!!!!!! I wouldn’t be having kids at my age even if I had a womb! |
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There seems to be more variables that people are happier with nowadays, guys or girls appear to want a FB, FWB or anything that's more casual without the commitment of a relationship.
Thing is being on dating sites or fab if you do find someone special they may appear up for commitment but if their profile is active they're more likely to see greener grass.
Internet dating in many ways might seem easier but I think creates its own dramas too so I've so far stayed away, that said I would love to find someone special so I'm just going to have to find out myself... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There seems to be more variables that people are happier with nowadays, guys or girls appear to want a FB, FWB or anything that's more casual without the commitment of a relationship.
Thing is being on dating sites or fab if you do find someone special they may appear up for commitment but if their profile is active they're more likely to see greener grass.
Internet dating in many ways might seem easier but I think creates its own dramas too so I've so far stayed away, that said I would love to find someone special so I'm just going to have to find out myself... "
Interesting point about an active profile providing the opportunity to keep finding greener grass. |
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"There seems to be more variables that people are happier with nowadays, guys or girls appear to want a FB, FWB or anything that's more casual without the commitment of a relationship.
Thing is being on dating sites or fab if you do find someone special they may appear up for commitment but if their profile is active they're more likely to see greener grass.
Internet dating in many ways might seem easier but I think creates its own dramas too so I've so far stayed away, that said I would love to find someone special so I'm just going to have to find out myself...
Interesting point about an active profile providing the opportunity to keep finding greener grass. "
I'm quite sure its happened to me but not entirely sure.
Its a bit like seeing a beautiful diamond ring in a jewelers window, you express interest and drop a deposit or maybe buy it outright. Yet no matter how much you think its yours you don't get to take it home...it stays in the window still sparkling and attracting others and who knows, maybe a better looking buyer comes? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There seems to be more variables that people are happier with nowadays, guys or girls appear to want a FB, FWB or anything that's more casual without the commitment of a relationship.
Thing is being on dating sites or fab if you do find someone special they may appear up for commitment but if their profile is active they're more likely to see greener grass.
Internet dating in many ways might seem easier but I think creates its own dramas too so I've so far stayed away, that said I would love to find someone special so I'm just going to have to find out myself...
Interesting point about an active profile providing the opportunity to keep finding greener grass.
I'm quite sure its happened to me but not entirely sure.
Its a bit like seeing a beautiful diamond ring in a jewelers window, you express interest and drop a deposit or maybe buy it outright. Yet no matter how much you think its yours you don't get to take it home...it stays in the window still sparkling and attracting others and who knows, maybe a better looking buyer comes? "
Well, when I met someone I really liked away from here, I vanished from this site the following morning as soon as I could see straight from the previous night’s seeing to! |
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By *lairekTV/TS
over a year ago
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I find the point about hiding one's past interesting.
I have dated trans women in the past, and if anything, the journey they had been on, fascinated me.
I probably asked too many questions!
It's not just the obvious changes they had gone through, but things like how their sense of smell had changed.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find the point about hiding one's past interesting.
I have dated trans women in the past, and if anything, the journey they had been on, fascinated me.
I probably asked too many questions!
It's not just the obvious changes they had gone through, but things like how their sense of smell had changed.
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I’m not aware my sense of smell has changed. I know my body odour quickly became female, especially down there. More so now I have a vagina!  |
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I’ve been trying to properly date men for a while now….. why is it so bloody complicated?
Perhaps I should go back to dating women; life was so simple then
When you've given up on it, when you really can't be arsed to try again. When you decide no more relationships and maybe sex only. When you decide that you're self sufficient, know where you're at, and you're done.... that is when it'll happen.
I said no more, I was adamant, happy in my independent protective bubble and it was popped!
PW "
This! I was happily plodding along looking for fwbs and nothing more, was done with relationships....and yet here we are, he changed all of that.
It'll happen when you least expect it x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's irony for you. Going by my fabs, winks and views I could date a bloke far easier than I could a woman..
Finding sex with men is frighteningly easy. A relationship though, a different matter. "
Never a truer word said.
I think in reality there comes a point when you get so tired of games and bs over the years that your tollerance drops and dare I say, you become more fussy. (in an already small pool of emotionally available men. That certainly seems to be my issue.
I don't know what the answer is, perhaps the not looking is the secret, but that's hard, I don't want to give up hope.
Good luck lovely x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just don't date lol
But then I'm no good with advice lol
I’m lonely. Meaningless sex doesn’t give me someone to wake up with. "
I know exactly what you mean. Meaningless sex can actually make you feel more empty inside.
I’m always happy to chat x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find this interesting. From knowing various straight M and F.
M- Sometimes dont mean to come across as direct, however F can take this to heart.
F- I know a lot that are very demanding of their partners. It's their way or no way. They treat them like second best. Tell them to be more romantic etc, however don't tell them what they like.
Moral of the story - learn to listen-not hear what you want to hear/choose to hear and communicate between each other better.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found if you stop looking for a relationship you tend to attract more people that do want one"
Kinda true! Seems like a lot of potentials come when you are in the “I really need to be and stay single”
Or at least so, It seems |
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"I've found if you stop looking for a relationship you tend to attract more people that do want one
Kinda true! Seems like a lot of potentials come when you are in the “I really need to be and stay single”
Or at least so, It seems "
Thing is, I wasn't looking before I found someone that was before they then changed their mind and decided they didn't |
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Have completely given up on dating apps. I think with the internet people have lots of options and choice, and people are flaky. I’ve never dated as I was with my ex partner for 20 years but it’s a fucking scary world. Haven’t found anyone on the same page as me or wanting any commitments. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find this interesting. From knowing various straight M and F.
M- Sometimes dont mean to come across as direct, however F can take this to heart.
F- I know a lot that are very demanding of their partners. It's their way or no way. They treat them like second best. Tell them to be more romantic etc, however don't tell them what they like.
Moral of the story - learn to listen-not hear what you want to hear/choose to hear and communicate between each other better.
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As a girlfriend, I’ve been told I’m a breath of fresh air. No silent treatment or unexplained moods.
I’m very open about my feelings and encourage my man to talk openly too.
I still don’t understand the male psyche very well but I do pander to their egos when required.
My elevated hormone levels do make me even more emotional than I used to be though; who knew that was possible?! |
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