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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here. |
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here."
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that.  |
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I’m 6ft tall and a big girl, I prefer men a similar height to me. I can feel very beastly next to a smaller man.
I think I have a similar problem to you though, I’m not many men’s cup of tea because I’m so tall.
We are what we are, nothing we can do about it. Folk will either like us or they won’t. |
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that. "
Why shouldn’t it matter to some? It matters to me. Bit of an odd comment. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I have a completely irrational aversion to shorter men. I know it is irrational and unfair, but it is because the two guys I've dated who were shorter than me were abusive narcissists and made my life hell. One still tries.
So I won't meet men who are shorter than me.
And I'm aware that not all shorter guys are the same. I also, however, have twice "given a short guy a chance" (their words, not mine) and they've turned out to be complete arseholes. So I'm sticking to my guns.
Saying that, one of my favourite men is shorter than me and he is an absolute diamond. So it absolutely isn't all shorter guys.
Sadly, OP, there are a lot of women with a lot of reasons for not meeting a lot of men. And height will always be a reason. Same as the tall women often find shorter guys won't meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that. "
It shouldn't matter? So people should just fuck whoever asks. Their attraction requirements are irrelevant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here."
It does matter to some people. In which case you're not compatible.
There's about a trillion men to every 1 woman on here. So more likely it's just that they have too many offers already. Don't take it personally.  |
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I'm only 5ft 3, I really do prefer guys to be taller than me. The last 2 were 5ft 7, great in bed as we're pretty evenly matched. But then I also like much taller guys as it makes me feel tiny/cute/feminine, and they can pick me up to kiss them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm only 5ft 3, I really do prefer guys to be taller than me. The last 2 were 5ft 7, great in bed as we're pretty evenly matched. But then I also like much taller guys as it makes me feel tiny/cute/feminine, and they can pick me up to kiss them."
My wife is 5'3"
Can confirm it's a perfect size match  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, there's no point in worrying about something you cannot change.
Yes, your height will be an issue for some but not all.
Maybe try clubs. Personality can trump profile preferences in person."
Yeah I agree I've been wanting to go to some clubs and socials, I've been told i'm much more charming in person |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here."
I wouldn't agree but height is as important as you think I'm not far ahead of you and all my meetings have been taller even close to 6 foot even my past away from the site has been taller than myself so it could be how you approach someone something's are unchangeable but some can hit the gym  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, there's no point in worrying about something you cannot change.
Yes, your height will be an issue for some but not all.
Maybe try clubs. Personality can trump profile preferences in person.
Yeah I agree I've been wanting to go to some clubs and socials, I've been told i'm much more charming in person "
Definitely do that.
The demands on this site are so far removed from what you see in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have preferences on your profile, then why can other people not have them too?
Simple answer... they can.
You just need to be patient to find who you are looking for, someone for everyone on this place! |
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I'm tall. But I am bald and old.
Ladies disregard me for these reasons that are out of my control (amongst many others).
I don't whine about it. I read a profile, see that wouldn't be interested and move along.
Simples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that.
It shouldn't matter? So people should just fuck whoever asks. Their attraction requirements are irrelevant. "
I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying.  |
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that.
It shouldn't matter? So people should just fuck whoever asks. Their attraction requirements are irrelevant.
I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying. "
Why shouldn’t it be a factor? |
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that.
It shouldn't matter? So people should just fuck whoever asks. Their attraction requirements are irrelevant.
I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying.
Why shouldn’t it be a factor?"
I'll ask the same as Nora, why shouldn't it be a factor?
There are loads of things that I don't find attractive and would put me off meeting someone and every single one of them matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that.
It shouldn't matter? So people should just fuck whoever asks. Their attraction requirements are irrelevant.
I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying.
Why shouldn’t it be a factor?"
Well if someone finds him attractive finds him decent and genuine. I don't think height comes in to it really. Obviously some prefer tall but if all his other attributes tick your box but he just happens to be short, big deal. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying.
Why shouldn’t it be a factor?
I'll ask the same as Nora, why shouldn't it be a factor?
There are loads of things that I don't find attractive and would put me off meeting someone and every single one of them matters. "
It should and is a factor, everyone is welcome to have their preferences. My point is that a lot of women care about height which is fair, but it makes it more difficult for shorter men regardless of how hard they try or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was meeting just for sexual encounters, I couldn't care what height they were.
But if it was a girlfriend, I'd prefer a taller girl (not taller than me though). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things you can be certain of on Fab:
Post about thin people... Load of fat people get angry
Past about short people... Load of tall people get angry
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Have the same Fab name as a toilet cleaning block, loads of toilets will get angry!
Sorry couldn't help myself ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But nobody knows how tall you are off your pics and I'm not sure anyone actually reads your profile for your height ..I could be mistaken though.
First thing I look at is height. "
Well you are like a Giant Nora |
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I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying.
Why shouldn’t it be a factor?
I'll ask the same as Nora, why shouldn't it be a factor?
There are loads of things that I don't find attractive and would put me off meeting someone and every single one of them matters.
It should and is a factor, everyone is welcome to have their preferences. My point is that a lot of women care about height which is fair, but it makes it more difficult for shorter men regardless of how hard they try or not. "
No it doesn't
Their stating of a height preference actually saves you time and effort contacting them.
In the same way as all preferences do.
Stop seeing the negative, worrying about ascribed attributes and just get on with finding some people right for you. |
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"If you have preferences on your profile, then why can other people not have them too?
Simple answer... they can.
You just need to be patient to find who you are looking for, someone for everyone on this place! "
Completely agree with this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying.
Why shouldn’t it be a factor?
I'll ask the same as Nora, why shouldn't it be a factor?
There are loads of things that I don't find attractive and would put me off meeting someone and every single one of them matters.
It should and is a factor, everyone is welcome to have their preferences. My point is that a lot of women care about height which is fair, but it makes it more difficult for shorter men regardless of how hard they try or not. "
Nonsense, it's more how you come across on your profile/first conversation that's all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not trying to be negative or anything just telling my experience, but I generally think I'm having a much harder time on this site because I'm short. I'm sure there's other factors to it, but outside of the forums, my interactions with people have been just difficult. And with 80% profiles asking for guys to be muscular and 5’10 or above, I feel hopeless that I can have a genuine connection with someone here.
It does matter to some but it shouldn't. It has no bearing on who you are, how you perform or what kind of personality you have.
Try not let it piss you off, we all have things with ourselves that we would love to change, such is life. Best foot forward and all that.
It shouldn't matter? So people should just fuck whoever asks. Their attraction requirements are irrelevant.
I never said that. Height in my opinion shouldn't really be a factor, but it obviously is for some people. Just stating it has no bearing on the type of guy he is and to keep trying. "
Apologies x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have the same Fab name as a toilet cleaning block, loads of toilets will get angry!
Sorry couldn't help myself ha ha "
Well I do like to tackle people chatting shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have the same Fab name as a toilet cleaning block, loads of toilets will get angry!
Sorry couldn't help myself ha ha
Well I do like to tackle people chatting shit "
Someone has too ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But nobody knows how tall you are off your pics and I'm not sure anyone actually reads your profile for your height ..I could be mistaken though.
First thing I look at is height. "
really ? Can I ask why height matters so much to you |
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"But nobody knows how tall you are off your pics and I'm not sure anyone actually reads your profile for your height ..I could be mistaken though.
First thing I look at is height. really ? Can I ask why height matters so much to you "
Yes really.
Because I don’t like to be taller than a man and I’m tall. Yes it matters very much to me. |
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"But nobody knows how tall you are off your pics and I'm not sure anyone actually reads your profile for your height ..I could be mistaken though.
First thing I look at is height.
Well you are like a Giant Nora "
Exactly and I hate it. Always have hated it. But of course I’m the shallow one! Nobody thinks to wonder that it might be my issue why I won’t meet men shorter than me. That I absolutely hate being tall, that it’s not easy for me to find men to meet either! But hey ho that’s fab for ya! |
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Nonsense, it's more how you come across on your profile/first conversation that's all.
From my experience it's not been the case."
And as much as you’d like to be taller you can bet your life id like to be shorter just as much. We are what we are and there’s nowt we can do about it. But yes I do feel your pain. |
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Ove just done a very extensive (lies) sample, and say it's about a quarter mention height or muscles. About the same as no bi men pls.
So I'd maybe challenge the belief to some extent. Possible confirmation bias?
And I'd ignore the fuck out of it. Not much you can do. And at least you know not to message. Time saver !! |
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Unfortunately women do seem slightly obsessed with height. Especially if they're taller themselves.
You're just going to have to keep plugging away until you find someone who doesn't care about height. There are, of course, out there, just not as plentiful.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Nonsense, it's more how you come across on your profile/first conversation that's all.
From my experience it's not been the case.
And as much as you’d like to be taller you can bet your life id like to be shorter just as much. We are what we are and there’s nowt we can do about it. But yes I do feel your pain. "
I really appreciate that :') |
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Nonsense, it's more how you come across on your profile/first conversation that's all.
From my experience it's not been the case.
And as much as you’d like to be taller you can bet your life id like to be shorter just as much. We are what we are and there’s nowt we can do about it. But yes I do feel your pain.
I really appreciate that :') "
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ove just done a very extensive (lies) sample, and say it's about a quarter mention height or muscles. About the same as no bi men pls.
So I'd maybe challenge the belief to some extent. Possible confirmation bias?
And I'd ignore the fuck out of it. Not much you can do. And at least you know not to message. Time saver !!"
This.
I fall comfortably outside enough target demographics to think fuck it. I don't let it bother me. Lifes too short and too interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had to declare to be slightly shorter otherwise I'd be too recognisable, I'm 6f 8' and I wish I was a bit shorter, it's not easy to live in a "small" world. |
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OP you are right, apparently women are subconsciously more attracted to men taller than themselves.
I am the same.
But for those that don't mind, you have a really lovely smile
Men seem to think the 'mean and moody' look is hot. It just makes a man look mean and moody |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nonsense, it's more how you come across on your profile/first conversation that's all.
From my experience it's not been the case."
To be honest , until you can accept your own height and the fact some (not all) people have preferences it doesn't matter what anyone says to you, you will always walk around with this opinion in your own mind!
You say you're happy with your height but I honestly believe 100% you are not fully. Hence this post.
I wish you luck on fab though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP you are right, apparently women are subconsciously more attracted to men taller than themselves.
I am the same.
But for those that don't mind, you have a really lovely smile
Men seem to think the 'mean and moody' look is hot. It just makes a man look mean and moody "
I love your honesty! And thanks a bunch, I was attempting a Zoolander kind of look but ended up with my profile picture instead lol. I think I'll change it to the smiling one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the height criterion is just in case things move to a new level and you're required to get plates from the top shelf of the kitchen cupboard...
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"I think the height criterion is just in case things move to a new level and you're required to get plates from the top shelf of the kitchen cupboard...
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Oi! I can't help it that I'm only 5 ft 3 
PW |
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"I think the height criterion is just in case things move to a new level and you're required to get plates from the top shelf of the kitchen cupboard...
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Oi! I can't help it that I'm only 5 ft 3
PW "
I wouldn't have it any other way 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But nobody knows how tall you are off your pics and I'm not sure anyone actually reads your profile for your height ..I could be mistaken though."
It's actually one of the first things I look at. I'm not looking for mega tall, just taller than me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What would put me off more, would be that you’re looking for incredible women, I don’t know how many women class themselves as incredible really?"
It's not to be taken literally lol, what would you suggest I say instead? |
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In all honesty any guys shorter than me I just don’t feel attractive and certainly don’t in turn find them attractive
Much prefer to feel smaller in stature to a man as it makes me feel more feminine |
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"What would put me off more, would be that you’re looking for incredible women, I don’t know how many women class themselves as incredible really?
It's not to be taken literally lol, what would you suggest I say instead? "
But I would read that and think, how will I live up to that standard? I don’t class myself as incredible, and I don’t know any women that do, you know? |
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We live in a society where tall guys are attractive and being taller than a woman is apparently an important factor. That being said, I wouldve been 6ft 2 but God decided to put the extra inches elsewhere  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We live in a society where tall guys are attractive and being taller than a woman is apparently an important factor. That being said, I wouldve been 6ft 2 but God decided to put the extra inches elsewhere "
No need to show off Pinocchio |
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"We live in a society where tall guys are attractive and being taller than a woman is apparently an important factor. That being said, I wouldve been 6ft 2 but God decided to put the extra inches elsewhere
No need to show off Pinocchio"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm tall. But I am bald and old.
Ladies disregard me for these reasons that are out of my control (amongst many others).
I don't whine about it. I read a profile, see that wouldn't be interested and move along.
Simples. "
And very sexy |
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I’d say it’s the number 1 physical requirement for woman
It’s huge. And some might say it’s not, don’t listen, it really is
Nothing you can do about it though. Shit luck, just make the best if what you got |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"But I would read that and think, how will I live up to that standard? I don’t class myself as incredible, and I don’t know any women that do, you know? "
yeah I see what you mean now, I won't call anyone incredible from now one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But I would read that and think, how will I live up to that standard? I don’t class myself as incredible, and I don’t know any women that do, you know?
yeah I see what you mean now, I won't call anyone incredible from now one "
I think you could use the word, about others, but that’s different, if that makes any sense. |
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By *rKeefyMan
over a year ago
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"I’m 6ft tall and a big girl, I prefer men a similar height to me. I can feel very beastly next to a smaller man.
I think I have a similar problem to you though, I’m not many men’s cup of tea because I’m so tall.
We are what we are, nothing we can do about it. Folk will either like us or they won’t."
Being Tall means no neck ache when kissing. Also means and forgive my crudeness here cock and pussy line up easier when in doggy or standing positions. I have found with mch shorter women I have to spread or bend my legs to lower myself down to their heights. Hence why I usually prefer missionary |
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