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By *affron40 OP Woman
over a year ago
manchester |
Do you randomly say hello and introduce yourself to folks on here?
Non sexual.. just a hey I’ve noticed you’re new on the forum or I like the way you post… just random messages to let someone know they’re visible? I’m sure we all feel invisible here sometimes.
I do this occasionally and most likely sound a bit nuts as I very much write as I think.. it makes perfect sense to me and me alone…
Anyways.. if you don’t.. why not give it a go. Just say hi… Christ now I’m singing bloody reaching out (sweet Caroline) in my head… 
Anyone else feeling slightly sociable?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had a few messages like this - about my contributions in the forum and so on - and they have been very well received.
Would I send one off my own bat? I’m not sure. Perhaps if someone really made an impression on me. |
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I’ve put up a few emotional comments on threads, especially over marriage break up or my health issues.
I’ve always been appreciated when both men and women have private messaged me over each issue I’ve shared. No sexual content just checking I’m alright, often I wasn’t, but their messages did help.
There’s more good than bad out in the World and on this site, hidden at times but available if needed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t but it’s always nice when someone does it to us. If the talk turns sexual we usually end the conversation but we like just having a little chat every now and again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do yes, I think its lovely to receive such messages and therefore I like to send them and make someone smile 
NBVN x"
I think we are alike in our thinking here!! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have received random hellos that I've really appreciated, when feeling low etc. Which have sometimes led to months of conversations. Always seem to come along when most needed. x |
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I do sometimes but it’s not always welcome by the curt reply, or no reply at all. It’s only usually a really pic I’ve seen or an amusing status update I like. They are not usually forum users though |
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Not a random hello but I have messaged a couple of times due to forum threads. Once to admit they were on our hotlist, once when a man seemed particularly low and I wanted him to know he was appreciated and noticed.
Other people messaging us off the back of forum stuff is how I've made friends. And very lovely they are too |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
cognito |
I have done a couple of times when someone looked like they needed a ear to listen (well an eye to read as it’s text based) or if I knew of something that might help them when the discussion has been serious like domestic abuse.
Generally though I keep to myself or say hello in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try a "hey how you doing, this place is mad" which lets be honest it is mental some of us kinksters and whatnot being here but surprisingly barely ever had much success  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm never sure if people view chatty messages as something good (i.e. something better than just "hey bby wanna fuck"), or something bad (in the kind of "oh just get to the point, this is a swinger's site" sorta way). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I admit even when you do say something that person blocks yiu is disheartening though. Specially when yiubare offering support or agreeing with them"
Maybe they just don't have the headspace for chatting. Not necessarily your fault.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting. That many don't respond (females). On the brother site, if any guy was to message they would message back even to say sorry not for me. Interesting how the others don't.... |
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I think it's only natural as the site has a messaging function for this purpose unfortunately it's not always warranted and/or welcomed for whatever reason but that's fabs for you.
Rather than be guarded break out and say hello |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel that it’s not always taken the right way from a guy..
I know some guys don’t help themselves with shitty one line messages.
It’s a lovely concept and a lovely thing to do , but I feel that some might find it creepy from a guy.. just my opinion
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What can get tiresome though, is messages sent as an extension to something said on a thread. So for example, on the ‘fuck, kiss, avoid’ threads, when someone comes back to you to say why they chose ‘fuck’.
Just keep it to the forum!
That’s different to what the OP is asking though. Non-sexual messages of appreciation are always lovely. |
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"What can get tiresome though, is messages sent as an extension to something said on a thread. So for example, on the ‘fuck, kiss, avoid’ threads, when someone comes back to you to say why they chose ‘fuck’.
Just keep it to the forum!
That’s different to what the OP is asking though. Non-sexual messages of appreciation are always lovely."
Fully agree on the private messages vs forum responses. There are some topics that suit a more private discussion but the vast majority send the first message related to the forum thread then follow it up with a FAF message or a request for wank fodder.
It gets old quickly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did. But as it comes from a single male,a lot of women probably think I’m saying it to try and get more out of it so it usually goes ignored. I don’t bother much now tbh saff "
What this guy has said.
Single males unfortunately get tarnished with the same brush (mostly) and a lot of people on here (single or coupled up) think a nice message has other agendas than just an appreciation of who they are, their pics or their input to forum topics.
I don’t bother now and will quote and reply in a forum.
Have received some lovely ones though so thank you to the ones who have sent to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. Some are receptive and others are not.
I’ve had a couple of really good exchanges but they are rare. I some are just small talk and fizzle to nothing but they were polite too.
I often drop an icebreaker or a quick hello, why shouldn’t we.
(You quickly find out who is too busy to give you time on here)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every now and then yes but due to the way some people message I probably get deleted as another stalking pervert. Normally just ask how they are doing and how fab is going for them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a hello as such but I’ve sent messages of support, at the end of the day there’s always a human behind a profile and they might not always be feeling their most confident "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think if a woman sends the message it will get seen and responded to, the other way not so sure as I know most women get inundated with messages from complete ********
Although the same, really nice thing to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did. But as it comes from a single male,a lot of women probably think I’m saying it to try and get more out of it so it usually goes ignored. I don’t bother much now tbh saff
What this guy has said.
Single males unfortunately get tarnished with the same brush (mostly) and a lot of people on here (single or coupled up) think a nice message has other agendas than just an appreciation of who they are, their pics or their input to forum topics.
I don’t bother now and will quote and reply in a forum.
Have received some lovely ones though so thank you to the ones who have sent to me "
You should. You’re a great guy to chat to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did. But as it comes from a single male,a lot of women probably think I’m saying it to try and get more out of it so it usually goes ignored. I don’t bother much now tbh saff
What this guy has said.
Single males unfortunately get tarnished with the same brush (mostly) and a lot of people on here (single or coupled up) think a nice message has other agendas than just an appreciation of who they are, their pics or their input to forum topics.
I don’t bother now and will quote and reply in a forum.
Have received some lovely ones though so thank you to the ones who have sent to me
You should. You’re a great guy to chat to "
We got chatting because I messaged you to steal your profile text some months back. I do randomly message people, usually once I have a sense of what they're like from the forums. I've messaged to say thank you for backing me up in a thread / for contributing to a thread I started / to ask if they're ok. If people message me randomly (and don't appear to be after sex) I will reply. |
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By *HoneyWoman
over a year ago
Hertfordshire |
No because people might think I want to fuck them on a site like this unless they explicitly say in their message. I’ve not said hello either for that reason. But I’m actually generally up for good banter without sexy intentions |
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.. only works if it’s completely unexpected and is so random they wonder why the hell you’ve chosen them… 
