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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I find this a tricky subject for many so would be interesting to see what people think. Me personally I think there has to be an initial first attraction but I think it’s more about how they engage the mind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah but it’s not the most important thing is it ? Someone can be not your usual type but if they get your mind going then it makes them become more attractive I feel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find this a tricky subject for many so would be interesting to see what people think. Me personally I think there has to be an initial first attraction but I think it’s more about how they engage the mind "
its the absolute most important step, i wont talk to someone if im not attracted.
personality comes second. if the personality sucks, i move on, rinse and repeat till i find a happy balance or someone who ticks most/all boxes.
i cant sleep with someone im not attracted to no matter how engaging they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There has to be an attraction that doesn't necessarily mean stunning looks, it can be personality also for me."
I agree. I’ve met people in the past that I’ve not been attracted to at the beginning but once got to know each other I felt myself becoming attracted to them. I get that there has to be a sexual attraction but I think sometimes that grows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but it’s not the most important thing is it ? Someone can be not your usual type but if they get your mind going then it makes them become more attractive I feel "
I can like someone as a person without being sexually attracted to them but if we are talking about getting jiggy, then there has to be physical attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There has to be something that catches my eye in how they look initially but it's when we meet and their personality comes across, that's when I'm more attracted to them x"
Yh absolutely. Your first impression is how they look or how well present themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me looks is not important at all
I hate to say tho there are a few people on here that disagree and they are the ones that can’t find anyone "
think you'll find that those who know what they like are more suscessful than those who will shag anything as the latter is a massive turnoff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally the personality is more important for me if the person is bubbly and fun person to be with and be around 
This is just my personal opinion and can’t be used against me in deed or thought  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Finding someone sexually attractive is important. I frequently find men attractive who aren't good-looking by society's standards though. But looks are not the most important thing for me. How we connect with each other is. The energy between us. Whether he is trustworthy. And kinky. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Looks are subjective thankfully or we’d all fancy the same person . There’s something in the way someone looks that might draw my eye but attraction beyond initial “phwoaaar” would quickly fade for me if there wasn’t more. So I’d say it’s important to a degree but not the everything.
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Looks are vital...initially. Doesnt have to be classic beauty, but sexiness is good.
However, being "Hot" does not make you sexy. There is one top 10 regular who looks great, but when you see the videos, well, my interest wanes.
A sparkle in the eye, a naughty smile on kissable lips. They indicate a sexy soul and make me want to know more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look for height.. But nothing else
How high 
At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels 
Sorry, I am taller.
I don't mind tilting my head though  "
 ... My DD is the perfect height!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look for height.. But nothing else
How high
At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels
When you don’t wear heels? "
In the shower |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look for height.. But nothing else
How high
At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels
Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo  "
No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment  |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"I look for height.. But nothing else
How high
At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels
Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo
No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment "
Good job we are the same height then you best be barefooted too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look for height.. But nothing else
How high
At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels
Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo
No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment
Good job we are the same height then you best be barefooted too "
Weirdo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look for height.. But nothing else
So Lurch would be in with a chance?"
Well that depends if he has intelligence +wit... The Q was how important are looks |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
Doire Theas |
"I look for height.. But nothing else
How high
At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels
Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo
No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment
Good job we are the same height then you best be barefooted too
Weirdo "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on what you are looking for. For fwb or just hookups, looks are foremost.
For long term relationships, looks still matter but only a little bit. Good chemistry is more important there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to find someone good looking, so looks are very important to start with. However, if their personality is dire, the attraction to their looks soon disappears |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady’s not gonna sit on your face if it looks like a melted welly… "
In fairness if she's sat on your face it probably doesn't matter what it looks like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady’s not gonna sit on your face if it looks like a melted welly…
In fairness if she's sat on your face it probably doesn't matter what it looks like "
You have a point |
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Looks are generally unimportant but a person who maintains a healthy body will always be more attractive to me.
I don’t mean a Greek god or goddess, just someone who does the best with what they have been given.
It shows the person has a level of self discipline and a level of self esteem and appreciation of how others will view them.
How long your legs are, how nuch your ears stick out, how big your nose is, is of no consequence.
How you treat others and if you present yourself as a clean and respectful person then you are getting it spot on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An individual can have the best personality going but if they aren’t appealing to the eye of the beholder it’s not going anywhere . Thats just the way it rolls. |
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We all look for chemistry and a connection otherwise are interactions are soulless however, would we pursue that interaction in the first place if we weren’t appeased with what our eyes saw. There is alway a minimum lever of visual attraction. That being said it’s not always the model looks it’s what we as individuals find attractive. It’s all very personal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They are important. But I don't think you need to be on trend with your looks or subscribe to some standard to be attractive. I'd rather be myself and happy than Kim Kardashian look a like/aspiring to.. Or whatever is the current celebrity craze/style to copy. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Somewhat important, i can find people attractive but it doesn’t automatically constitute that I’d have sex with them, there needs to be a balance of attraction and personality, you can be a good looking person but have a really ugly attitude, it’s the full package xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After reading the replies in here I need to stop doing face pic Friday "
I got sent "Thursday face pic' despite not being in the thread and my profile clearly saying no face pix! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Somewhat important, i can find people attractive but it doesn’t automatically constitute that I’d have sex with them, there needs to be a balance of attraction and personality, you can be a good looking person but have a really ugly attitude, it’s the full package xx"
Also this! X I think for first impression it is important but then there has to be some sort of chemistry and yes someone can have a totally ugly personality and that’d turn me off!
I met a guy back in the summer, and he was SO stunningly handsome. But his personality was off so, it just didn’t work out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"BOBFOC all the way for me
Big old boobies free of charge 
Body off Baywatch Face off Crimewatch "
Ohhh this made me laugh, I've not come across it before! |
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Very no matter what anyone says, you have to have that initial spark. That said, everyone's idea of good looks are different. Mr it's natural ginger hair and freckles. Mrs, it's big and slightly toned of that makes sense with nice hair. On short great looks may work short term but comprise lasts longer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has to be something that attracts me and that's not always text book good looks either but it has to be there. If, on getting to know something about them they turn out to have an ugly personality then they become ugly to me. On here it's looks that attract, in real life maybe not so much as you get to know the person. Someone who can make me laugh, chew the fat with me and basically just gets me will hold my attention way longer that a hunk within an empty shell. |
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Absolutely essential initially ...their personality may or may not hold my interest, but without that initial attraction I'm not likely to engage enough to find out what their personality is like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very important. I need to like your face more than your body. I only sleep with people that I’m attracted to. I would also expect the same. I don’t want someone sleeping with me if they don’t find my attractive. I have no face pics on here, so when people message me anything like “hi gorgeous, beautiful” etc… I just laugh and ignore. |
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"After reading the replies in here I need to stop doing face pic Friday
I got sent "Thursday face pic' despite not being in the thread and my profile clearly saying no face pix! "
I had to think then if it was me you were talking about! I’m glad it wasn’t. I’ll make a note to never send you a face pic |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"There has to be something about them…but personality and a connection is equally important too. A sexy mind is very sexy
K"
This. I usually find they just have an innate sexiness about them that turns my head. |
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I pull no punches in this department.
For what I am doing HERE?
Yes, they are very important.
I am not looking for a relationship on here and if we are just 'playing', then yes, I want someone attractive and physically and hopefully mentally as well.
That means, if I am being propositioned by a couple, then BOTH need to be attractive.
If a 'hot wife' contacts me, then they'd better be hot or I am not interested.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does depend what you're looking for and what you need in order to have sex with people? For me I need an emotional connection of some kind. I am "demi sexual" apparently. So looks don't matter as much as that connection. Yes I know some people would say I'm on the wrong site... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While looks undoubtedly get my attention, I'm far more likely to play with someone I don't consider to be necessarily good-looking but whose personality I like than the other way around.
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Attraction opens the door, personality and how you are as a person decides whether they walk straight back out that door or not. "
This is nicely put and accurate I’d say  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The scene is all about looks.
Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.
Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The scene is all about looks.
Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.
Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks."
We are not all the same... |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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It's a tricky one. I think at first there is am initial attraction by the way they look. But fond when they start talking that attraction immediately goes.
Subsequently it can work that some one yiu are not initially attracted to can turn out to be some you become attracted to later |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are not all the same..."
Those with a text book gym fit or runway height swimsuit model body will always turn heads first over the flabby Dad bodied or short and dumpy fat chick.
It’s that initial wow factor is what grabs the attention and makes people think about chatting them up….. thankfully though them pretty people do more often or not turn out to have no real substance as they always have got by on their beautiful looks that they never have had to work on having any personality….. but when you are dealing with the shallow world of online dating profiles, that snap decision is made on the strength of a single photograph. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are not all the same...
Those with a text book gym fit or runway height swimsuit model body will always turn heads first over the flabby Dad bodied or short and dumpy fat chick.
It’s that initial wow factor is what grabs the attention and makes people think about chatting them up….. thankfully though them pretty people do more often or not turn out to have no real substance as they always have got by on their beautiful looks that they never have had to work on having any personality….. but when you are dealing with the shallow world of online dating profiles, that snap decision is made on the strength of a single photograph."
As I said we are not all the same and you speak for yourself. You don't speak for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can honestly say that looks are rarely important to me.
Personality and how the conversation goes has always been what tends to attract me when I'm looking for something more regular.
A great cock attracts me when I just want to get fucked |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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We are not all the same...
Those with a text book gym fit or runway height swimsuit model body will always turn heads first over the flabby Dad bodied or short and dumpy fat chick.
It’s that initial wow factor is what grabs the attention and makes people think about chatting them up….. thankfully though them pretty people do more often or not turn out to have no real substance as they always have got by on their beautiful looks that they never have had to work on having any personality….. but when you are dealing with the shallow world of online dating profiles, that snap decision is made on the strength of a single photograph."
Everyone gets an opinion, but I have to say, I don’t agree with yours. There are some huge sweeping statements in there.
No attractive doctors? No attractive scientists? Politicians? Heads of industry? Senior cops? Senior Firefighters? Academics? They never earned those positions as they got by on their looks? Is that what you really think?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone gets an opinion, but I have to say, I don’t agree with yours. There are some huge sweeping statements in there.
No attractive doctors? No attractive scientists? Politicians? Heads of industry? Senior cops? Senior Firefighters? Academics? They never earned those positions as they got by on their looks? Is that what you really think?
Gbat "
You might have missed what I’m saying….
The initial attraction for most people is made on a whim judged on physical appearance…. Hence why a platform such as Tinder is so brutal with people dismissed on a nanosecond swipe rather than to ask about peoples occupations or educational backgrounds….. why do people look as things like homes and cars as status symbols?
You can say these things don’t matter but you know it’s way better impression to made at a high class restaurant than to have a meal from a kebab van!
And for the record, ALL politicians are ugly…. Having a job that consists of lying makes for horrible people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can honestly say that looks are rarely important to me.
Personality and how the conversation goes has always been what tends to attract me when I'm looking for something more regular.
A great cock attracts me when I just want to get fucked "
I think this may be Ginge's way of telling me I'm not very good looking!
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"The scene is all about looks.
Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.
Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks."
I disagree completely because any meets I've had on here have been based on communication, mutual interests and mutual respect.
Of course looks play a part but it's amazing how many people with amazing profile pics turn ugly as soon as they open their mouths or start to type so I've never ever based my decision to meet someone on pics alone. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"The scene is all about looks.
Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.
Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks.
I disagree completely because any meets I've had on here have been based on communication, mutual interests and mutual respect.
Of course looks play a part but it's amazing how many people with amazing profile pics turn ugly as soon as they open their mouths or start to type so I've never ever based my decision to meet someone on pics alone. "
There’s truth in what you say, but for us it’s still looks first and foremost. All the other factors must align, but if we don’t fancy them (and they us!) then we’ll never find out about everything else, because if there’s no mutual attraction then there’s no interest in meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Initial attraction is obviously very important but attraction isn’t alway based on looks. It could be mannerisms, the way they carry themselves, confidence and many other things. |
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If someone can be fitted in a latex catsuit and a latex hood.
Looks don't matter at all.
I get horny around latex clad figures. All I'll see is eyes and a mouth. And perhaps a cock, vagina and asshole.
The rest is hidden in this wondrous material... |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are."
Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The scene is all about looks.
Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.
Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks.
I disagree completely because any meets I've had on here have been based on communication, mutual interests and mutual respect.
Of course looks play a part but it's amazing how many people with amazing profile pics turn ugly as soon as they open their mouths or start to type so I've never ever based my decision to meet someone on pics alone. "
agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.
Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?"
If they have all that I won't find them unattractive |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.
Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?
If they have all that I won't find them unattractive"
Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attraction all the way for me, obvious once the connection is made you hope the convo flows and the personality attraction builds but defo the first attraction is physical |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.
Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?
If they have all that I won't find them unattractive
Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question."
Attraction = sex, enough of an answer for you? |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.
Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?
If they have all that I won't find them unattractive
Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question.
Attraction = sex, enough of an answer for you?"
Think that had already been well established before this thread!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.
Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?
If they have all that I won't find them unattractive
Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question.
Attraction = sex, enough of an answer for you?
Think that had already been well established before this thread! "
So why ask the question then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For meets they're absolutely vital, I need to like and enjoy the company and personality of the person too but if there's no attraction they'll be no meet!
For group play it's less so as I like my husband to stay up near my head so I can kiss him or suck him, and then other guys can just take turns fucking me at the other end, I don't have to interact with them as much. But I still prefer them to be in my preferred age range and not unattractive.
Female glory holes and blindfolded is another story, anyone can have a go, but I've not tried that yet xx |
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Very, if I'm having sex with someone it's because I find them physically attractive, not just because I like their jokes and the way their mind works. If I'm getting into an actual relationship then obviously the latter is important too but I still have to fancy them, and that physical attraction has to remain in the relationship as well or I lose interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a nice face. They don't need to be ripped, gym fit and hot as hell. I like a dad bod, I don't mind hairy guys etc. Body language and mannerisms play a big part for me though.
People can grow on me though as personality is a big factor. |
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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When I was younger physical looks were everything, as I got older I realised sex, sexuality and attraction start in the mind.
I’ve been in a relationship with a stunning woman who could’ve done modelling and the sex was boring.
But I’ve also been with traditionally “leas attractive women” and the sex was mind blowing.
Why? Because the second had confidence and an innate sexuality that meant they were ten times more attractive and sexy. |
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