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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A bio can certainly put us off.
When looking to meet, we always read."
I’m good with criticism get it lots on here it’s all fun and games to me !
So feel free would a profile like mine be a turn off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A bio can certainly put us off.
When looking to meet, we always read.
I’m good with criticism get it lots on here it’s all fun and games to me !
So feel free would a profile like mine be a turn off "
I see it as tongue in cheek, though there are many a truth said in jest.
Your comment about deep meaningful relationship may well put us off, with us being a couple rather than single lady.
I think though, that many may not see the humour in your profile and could skip you by. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A bio can certainly put us off.
When looking to meet, we always read.
I’m good with criticism get it lots on here it’s all fun and games to me !
So feel free would a profile like mine be a turn off
I see it as tongue in cheek, though there are many a truth said in jest.
Your comment about deep meaningful relationship may well put us off, with us being a couple rather than single lady.
I think though, that many may not see the humour in your profile and could skip you by. "
Great advice there thanks
The relationship part m is also a joke but I can see how that could definitely be misconstrued |
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This is a swinging site, many profiles read as if the writer is seeking a date for a long term relationship and ramble on about hobbies etc. It is not surprising that "single" straight(they usually mean fab "straight!" men struggle to get meets.   |
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"This is a swinging site, many profiles read as if the writer is seeking a date for a long term relationship and ramble on about hobbies etc. It is not surprising that "single" straight(they usually mean fab "straight!" men struggle to get meets. "
Yeah long bios and to the point as in every aspect of them is been touched on are very boring they usually loose me on the 3rd sentence |
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We always read the bio. I think yours would put us off, as it’s very difficult without knowing someone’s personality to gauge the tone of text.
But saying that if you sent a good first message I think we would go with that.
Have a lovely Christmas xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We always read the bio. I think yours would put us off, as it’s very difficult without knowing someone’s personality to gauge the tone of text.
But saying that if you sent a good first message I think we would go with that.
Have a lovely Christmas xx "
Much appreciated thank you guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read the bio. Majority of men don't  as the questions start and the answers are in the bio if the care to read it.
Hopefully they tell you a little about the person and what there looking for and also if its worth messaging them or not... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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I like yours btw, funny is better than demanding and serious! |
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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Depends if you are looking to meet men or women  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
I like yours btw, funny is better than demanding and serious! "
Yeah everyone has there preference I much prefer off the cuff funny ones gives me a glimpse about there sense of humor which for me personally is a big thing on here !
Appreciate that thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
Depends if you are looking to meet men or women "
Ye reckon mate ? Why’s that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"… would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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Maybe, it may make them more attractive too. It’s not that important to me, for the same way I have not been thorough with mine, there’s some fun finding out about friends, and somethings are better to find out in together.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"… would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
Maybe, it may make them more attractive too. It’s not that important to me, for the same way I have not been thorough with mine, there’s some fun finding out about friends, and somethings are better to find out in together. "
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"I always read the bio. Majority of men don't as the questions start and the answers are in the bio if the care to read it.
Hopefully they tell you a little about the person and what there looking for and also if its worth messaging them or not..."
This! I find it really frustrating when men message and something they say/ask shows that they clearly haven't read my profile.
I will also always check a profile if someone messages me before I even open the message. Any profile with no photos/bio or poorly written is likely to be ignored as no point when there's not even something to intrigue me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always read the bio. Majority of men don't as the questions start and the answers are in the bio if the care to read it.
Hopefully they tell you a little about the person and what there looking for and also if its worth messaging them or not...
This! I find it really frustrating when men message and something they say/ask shows that they clearly haven't read my profile.
I will also always check a profile if someone messages me before I even open the message. Any profile with no photos/bio or poorly written is likely to be ignored as no point when there's not even something to intrigue me."
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"I always read the bio, so much can be said about a person 
And yes it can put me off
I think women obviously pay more attention then men "
I disagree. Consistency is key on here and if a bio doesn't match the pics or visa versa I won't engage at all. A bad or lazy bio and I won't even look at the pics because that tells me they expect others to do all the work. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always read the bio, so much can be said about a person
And yes it can put me off
I think women obviously pay more attention then men
I disagree. Consistency is key on here and if a bio doesn't match the pics or visa versa I won't engage at all. A bad or lazy bio and I won't even look at the pics because that tells me they expect others to do all the work. "
A tad blunt mate !
But look it’s your opinion your welcome to it so if there bio is lazy what do you mean by they expect you to do all the work ?
What work do you mean ? |
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"I always read the bio, so much can be said about a person
And yes it can put me off
I think women obviously pay more attention then men
I disagree. Consistency is key on here and if a bio doesn't match the pics or visa versa I won't engage at all. A bad or lazy bio and I won't even look at the pics because that tells me they expect others to do all the work.
A tad blunt mate !
But look it’s your opinion your welcome to it so if there bio is lazy what do you mean by they expect you to do all the work ?
What work do you mean ? "
If they take a lazy approach to their bio they will have a lazy approach to conversation as well. One sided conversations go nowhere. A lazy bio puts the onus on others to ask questions and it becomes a q&a session. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always read the bio, so much can be said about a person
And yes it can put me off
I think women obviously pay more attention then men
I disagree. Consistency is key on here and if a bio doesn't match the pics or visa versa I won't engage at all. A bad or lazy bio and I won't even look at the pics because that tells me they expect others to do all the work.
A tad blunt mate !
But look it’s your opinion your welcome to it so if there bio is lazy what do you mean by they expect you to do all the work ?
What work do you mean ?
If they take a lazy approach to their bio they will have a lazy approach to conversation as well. One sided conversations go nowhere. A lazy bio puts the onus on others to ask questions and it becomes a q&a session."
Ah Get you mate I wasn’t been rude I was genuinely interested in what you meant |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always read it and yes, it can be off-putting. But some are great! Generally if they’re well-written, positive, humorous and with good spelling and grammar, my interest is captured (when coupled with decent pics of course!). |
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I always read the bio and I love it when they're funny. It shows a personality and makes me think I'd probably get on well with them.
It isn't essential that it's well written and funny. I find forumites seem to show more humour than local people who message. But I'm more likely to bed local people because of proximity.
But a good chat and friendliness comes from the forum. And if a funny forumite happens to be within a convenient distance then who knows...? |
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Bios are important as it gives us a glimpse of the person and if there is humour we are way more likely to click.
If they can't be bothered to write one or give a big list of dos and don'ts then it's a bit of a turn off. Yes we all have dos and don'ts but a long list of them is off putting.
Give us humour or random facts or some mad hobby you have or mad little story then we're gonna be intrigued and want to find out more.
Like our bio says if we're not laughing we're not playing x |
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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There's plenty that puts me off and not much that interests me but I aways read them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always read them if I have a spark of interest, but always with a pinch of salt. A lot will put me off straight away. I rely far more on chatting to get to know someone. If they are not interested in chatting, then clearly we are incompatible. |
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"I've given up on mine and deleted it, it must have been putting everyone off. Well, couldn't be my rugged good looks and rapier wit coukd it.  "
From your pictures, small bio and forum contributions, I'd message you to invite you for a coffee although I'm not meeting and you may not want to of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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If they had something really stupid like a cake recipe as profile text it would turn me right off. No matter how incredibly sexy and hot they are.  |
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"This is a swinging site, many profiles read as if the writer is seeking a date for a long term relationship and ramble on about hobbies etc. It is not surprising that "single" straight(they usually mean fab "straight!" men struggle to get meets. "
My bio is long and rambling.
The whole point is to show why I am different to the hundreds of other single men and why people should choose to spend time with me, rather than other people.
It's my 'shop window'.
I generally prefer a long languorous meet, not a blow-and-go or gloryhole session, and that is why my profile isn't just a dick-pic, with the words 'fancy a fuck'
In the headline
It tends to filter out the sort of swingers I wouldn't meet, so job done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont like the ones that say put a certain word in the heading..what is that all about.."
I sometimes have my profile text as just one sentence, nothing else:
"Put 'lawnmower' as your message subject to prove you read my profile."
It works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I always always read the profile. All of it. What's included, and what is left out says a lot about a person. And helps me decide if they might be for me. |
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"If the buo is shorter than their legal defense that's a turn off. The language they use and if they just have a huge list of demands (not preferences - demands) then that's the same.
LvM"
100% this. Your warning to Sydney University really shouldn't be the main feature (it's also meaningless, but hey). Almost as annoying as "will fill in later".
So, yes, profile is important to me - it's the chance to give the world a bit about you, so feels like a missed opportunity not to bother with one? |
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"If the buo is shorter than their legal defense that's a turn off. The language they use and if they just have a huge list of demands (not preferences - demands) then that's the same.
LvM
100% this. Your warning to Sydney University really shouldn't be the main feature (it's also meaningless, but hey). Almost as annoying as "will fill in later".
So, yes, profile is important to me - it's the chance to give the world a bit about you, so feels like a missed opportunity not to bother with one?"
We actually met a fill in later profile, at a party at the weekend, they are absolutely fantastic as a couple and certainly enthusiastic and very real.
We didn't know their FiL status and only discovered it on the ferry home... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it does. I like the funny ones. I hope mine comes across that way.
Really wasn't sure if you were meeting guys?  "
I think I need to meet another guy to determine whether I want to definitely keep men off the agenda. But then if I meet another guy my bio is one big lie, isn't it? I'm not sure what to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont like the ones that say put a certain word in the heading..what is that all about..
I sometimes have my profile text as just one sentence, nothing else:
"Put 'lawnmower' as your message subject to prove you read my profile."
It works. "
A biiiiig long sentence? You punctuate though surely? I use good grammar as a filter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Grammar?? Love London Grammar! Is there any other Grammer?
Some say profiles are there to give a flavour of the individual...others say they are there for an irreverent and tongue in cheek perspective designed to tease, amuse or just annoy the reader depending on their own perspective.... |
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"If the buo is shorter than their legal defense that's a turn off. The language they use and if they just have a huge list of demands (not preferences - demands) then that's the same.
LvM
100% this. Your warning to Sydney University really shouldn't be the main feature (it's also meaningless, but hey). Almost as annoying as "will fill in later".
So, yes, profile is important to me - it's the chance to give the world a bit about you, so feels like a missed opportunity not to bother with one?
We actually met a fill in later profile, at a party at the weekend, they are absolutely fantastic as a couple and certainly enthusiastic and very real.
We didn't know their FiL status and only discovered it on the ferry home..."
Haha! Not saying a FiL wouldn't be a great person, and I'm sure most are, which just makes it harder to understand why they wouldn't spend even a few minutes writing about themselves. I should have caveated my comments with "FiL, but have been on the site for ages!"... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would never interact with anyone on here (exept on the forums) without reading their bio. Some help attract, some repel, many are fairly neutral. Humour certainly wouldn't put me off though the subject of the humour may. Assuming I found it funny it would make the person more attractive on personality level even if it didn't really tell me much about them sexually.
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
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I always read the bio just to make sure it says "no single guys". I don't know why bcos I completely disregard it anyway 
I read the bio to see if there is anything in there that I can use in a message and to make sure we're looking for something similar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can’t know a person by a few pics and words on a screen… "
This ^
Even if you read their profile and get some sense of who they are, and get to "know" them a bit better through messaging, you can always be totally fooled when you actually meet them, and its happened many times on fab.
Plus you might allow yourself to be turned off someone you could actually have a great time with, just purely basing your decision on an initial perception of what you think they are like, rather than meeting for a social to start with and actually seeing what kind of a person they are |
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We don't interact with people without a bio. As little as it means, it gives a sense of someone, a starting point for conversation and some indication that they've bothered to consider their 'shop front'. We don't go for FAF types, we like to have some affinity with people, otherwise you're just part of the vast sea of invisible annoniminity on here, which to us, is pretty pointless.
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my humble opinion
If the face and body don't fit, it doesn't matter how good the bio/profiles is constructed if your looking to meet.
It's good if your looking for a penpal, I guess |
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A bio is incredibly important for me. I’m not just looking to pick someone on looks alone, I want a bit of an insight into their attitude, personality and interests.
No bio and I’m not interested at all.
And some bio’s are plenty enough to turn me off, especially if it’s full of views or perspectives I fundamentally disagree with |
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When it's single guys messaging us, the bio is a bit less important than a set of decent, consistent pics. But we have to have a way of filtering and unfortunately poor grammar, loads of clichés, text speak, too graphic, or simply no effort at all, means we often decline based on profile text.
We're aware that we've overdone our own profile but figure any guy that reads all our crap is showing some willing
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By (user no longer on site)
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It definitely can make a difference because it can give you something to start a conversation with. With 1 line you can't really do much but even those with long bios can sound arrogant depending on the content.
I'm not sure how great mine is as I'm shit at writing about myself and not sure how I can make it stand out from the loads of men's profiles in here. |
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"It definitely can make a difference because it can give you something to start a conversation with. With 1 line you can't really do much but even those with long bios can sound arrogant depending on the content.
I'm not sure how great mine is as I'm shit at writing about myself and not sure how I can make it stand out from the loads of men's profiles in here."
If there are some good pictures you can say to them that the pictures interesting and perhaps they have a backstory to match.
Some people will have the same lack of confidence in the profile ad they would in compiling a CV.
This site works brilliantly if you can sell yourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've given up on mine and deleted it, it must have been putting everyone off. Well, couldn't be my rugged good looks and rapier wit coukd it. "
Maybe just don’t care and put up some madness
Not saying it works but I genuinely don’t care but it’s definitely more interesting then I thought it would be reading through everyone’s perspective |
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"I’d happily take any kind of feedback on my profile. I’ve not had any meets from Fab in months, so I’m clearly doing something wrong. "
Then instead of hijacking someone's thred, do a forum search then start your own. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What I meant was fire away mate I don’t care but you won’t get much sympathy on here trust me !
But give it a go
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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A bio is important. If its a piss take and done well its appreciated. If its poorly done then its a negative as it can mean their sense of humour is not quite there.
However no bio replaces talking to people. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
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For me it's very important as much as the pictures available nothing would put me off unless their wasn't a connection between each others bio and we found each other attractive in some way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My bio is a pure piss take but not everyone sees it that way so I’m
Asking how important is a bio to you would it turn you off someone you really found attractive cause you didn’t like something in there bio ?
A bio is important. If its a piss take and done well its appreciated. If its poorly done then its a negative as it can mean their sense of humour is not quite there.
However no bio replaces talking to people."
Yeah good point,It really is preference I’m certainly not saying mine is funny trust me
just basically saying it’s obviously me not taking this place to seriously!
But honestly some people genuinely get offended !
Should I take this place seriously?
Eh nope ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It definitely can make a difference because it can give you something to start a conversation with. With 1 line you can't really do much but even those with long bios can sound arrogant depending on the content.
I'm not sure how great mine is as I'm shit at writing about myself and not sure how I can make it stand out from the loads of men's profiles in here."
Look personally I think how you come across on threads is basically your foot in the door that at least might get someone looking !
the bio can be a pro or con depending on who’s looking wouldn’t stress to much about that !
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By (user no longer on site)
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It does. But how much difference? That depends a lot on what you are looking for. If it's usual stuff, maybe some basic intro without coming across like a douche should be enough. If you are looking for something niche like me, then you would probably have to be clear on what you are looking for in your bio. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It definitely can make a difference because it can give you something to start a conversation with. With 1 line you can't really do much but even those with long bios can sound arrogant depending on the content.
I'm not sure how great mine is as I'm shit at writing about myself and not sure how I can make it stand out from the loads of men's profiles in here.
Look personally I think how you come across on threads is basically your foot in the door that at least might get someone looking !
the bio can be a pro or con depending on who’s looking wouldn’t stress to much about that !
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That's one of the reasons I started posting here, can be a bit if an issue if you're trying to look locally, otherwise you have to rely on your pics and bio so it appeals. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah look all great points and definitely if you have something that might seem out of the box that some would find rare best of stating that no point wasting time !!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you can't be arsed to right what you want, what your into etc. Why should you expect somebody to reply to
a message sent - that's my view "
sent that to early but me personally id like to gauge that as the conversation goes on !
It’s better that way I feel |
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