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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that?

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By *luebell888Woman  over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am Emotionally Detatched. This I know is caused by my past. My friends think I need counselling but I am quite happy. Think it is quite common to feel this way.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman  over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud


"I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that? "

Did you two know each other, or at least been chatting for a while?

If not it seems a strange thing to say off the cuff, especially it was said on here.

I would say lots of people would feel the same way as you on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that?

Did you two know each other, or at least been chatting for a while?

If not it seems a strange thing to say off the cuff, especially it was said on here.

I would say lots of people would feel the same way as you on Fab. "

Never met, although I do appreciate her honesty. I think this is an amazing community very supportive and its good to be able to express yourself.

It's nice to hear other people's thoughts.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman  over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that? "

Hmmm, whether you’re emotionally detached or not, I don’t think it’s very nice for that to be pointed out, based on your current wants and needs. At least you’re being honest, which seems to be quite rare here. a lot of people get led down the garden path.

Maybe respond with that. At least you aren’t leading her on.

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By *3nsesMan  over a year ago

Dublin

I'd take it as a compliment.

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By *akie32Man  over a year ago

winchester

if that was a lady you met on a swinging site then thats surely a plus, if not then maybe not

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'd take it as a compliment."

Totally agree

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By *ex HolesMan  over a year ago

Up North

It sounds like a lazy & needy comment to me.

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By *agic.MMan  over a year ago

Orpington


"I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that? "

I would respond with " I believe you are right, I am emotionally detached from relationships at this point in my life. But I am also mature and emotionally intelligent enough to be honest about it"

As a matter of fact, I've been saying this quite a lot in the past year

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Emotionally detached.

What does that mean? I'm not sure displaying emotional attachment to people you have only ever communicated with on the net is a wise thing.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It actually doesn’t matter if someone else thinks that. What do YOU think?

If it’s something you think might be true, and you WANT to do something about it, then do…

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By *uxom redCouple  over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that? "

Because everyone is an expert theses days and actually have no clue on how the mind works or reasons for peoples behaviours or reactions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I was speaking to a lady and I said I am not ready for a relationship, but would like some company. She told me I was "Emotionally Detached".

Not sure if that's fair, although what I have been through: it's possibly correct.

How would you respond to that?

I would respond with " I believe you are right, I am emotionally detached from relationships at this point in my life. But I am also mature and emotionally intelligent enough to be honest about it"

As a matter of fact, I've been saying this quite a lot in the past year

"

Totally agree, being mature enough not to lead or be led by someone when not ready, can save a lot of hurt further down the road.

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By *ambofkMan  over a year ago

Hamilton

I know I may be young and foolish but I’ve had some experience with cheaters and heartbreaks and honestly I agree with you OP I am not actively seeking a relationship anymore and like you just prefer the company however I wouldn’t say I’m emotionally detached At all

not sure if she was in the right to say that to you since the only person that knows how you feel, is you! Hope your alright and keeping the chin up mate good luck to ya

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By *affron40Woman  over a year ago

manchester

I think that’s an odd thing to say to someone you’ve not met. Sounds like someone who needs a level of attention you’ve been straight enough to explain isn’t you. I’m detached with everyone outside of my close circle.. it’s just how I am. But that’s factual, not a plus or minus.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral.


"It actually doesn’t matter if someone else thinks that. What do YOU think?

If it’s something you think might be true, and you WANT to do something about it, then do…"

This!

Also, if you are, it's not necessarily a bad thing. Too many people on here become too emotionally attached. X

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS  over a year ago

Carlisle

You are allowed to feel like that! If you are honest and open to the person i don't see the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Tell her that there is a reason and that you’re being honest and responsible. You’re not ready to commit to a relationship because you don’t have the emotional spare capacity to thoroughly invest in it. Therefore you both would suffer in the long run. it doesn’t change the fact that a little company occasionally is nice, you’re only human.

If she doesn’t understand that, find another fish!

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By *asmeenTV/TS  over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

only you can answer this

Op

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By *hisisntpofMan  over a year ago

bristol

Take things in your own stride and at your own pace,if it works it works ,we all know when things are right and wrong,too many people judge too quickly as that comment proves,each to their own ,you were just being honest,thats the best way

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

cockwomble.. her.. not you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

On here I'm inclined to think that anyone who makes a point of mentioning this is likely to be a bit flaky

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By *irginieWoman  over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Why on Earth would someone be assuming there is a potential relationship brewing after chatting online for a bit. If it were me I would not appreciate the analysis from someone that barely knows me.

V x

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By *inx.x3Woman  over a year ago

Bath

I’d just respond by saying yeh something like that.

It doesn’t really need to be labelled. You don’t want a relationship and You have been honest.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’d just respond by saying yeh something like that.

It doesn’t really need to be labelled. You don’t want a relationship and You have been honest. "

it's a matter of knowing what you want, and what you don't want, and being up front about it

Do that and no one can say s**t to you after that, because you told them so to being with

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I wouldn't have thought that an initial interaction would have required much emotional engagement?!

I think being up front that you are not looking for a relationship is also fine?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It sounds like a lazy & needy comment to me. "

Yes this. Unless it is made after lengthy discussion in which real insight could be built. Otherwise if after only a short period of conversation likely to be an emotive reaction to a need that was not instantly gratified; a compliment or such.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

In my experience being emotionally detached on a swingers site isn't really a negative...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my experience being emotionally detached on a swingers site isn't really a negative... "

Almost a requirement we thought. But there’s a difference between emotional detachment and a complete lack of empathy or personal engagement. Nobody like to be treated like an object (well some do but that’s a particular fetish).

Some people are just plain strange full stop. That’s that too

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By *ob08Man  over a year ago

Macclesfield

Tell her you're more of a semi detached kind of guy.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my experience being emotionally detached on a swingers site isn't really a negative...

Almost a requirement we thought. But there’s a difference between emotional detachment and a complete lack of empathy or personal engagement. Nobody like to be treated like an object (well some do but that’s a particular fetish).

Some people are just plain strange full stop. That’s that too "

This

Emotional attachment is absolutely great, but there is still a need for respect, and nobody wants to feel used afterwards... everyone wants to feel safe, and special, and looked after. But that's more down to professionalism and humanity than anything else.

In my opinion too many people use Fab as a dating site. Needy folk should stick to pof

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Dont think much interest in a semi on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Emotional detachment is great. Moreso on a swinging site where we are all trying to get laid, rather than form any meaningful attachments.

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By *organ DeanWoman  over a year ago

Belfast

Not wanting a romantic relationship is valid, just as wanting one is valid.

I think its healthy to have different emotional attachments with different people. Not everyone deserves equal access to your inner you. It doesn't make you emotionally detached.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't want a full on relationship ever again - christ knows what that makes me, but it's my choice to make, and I certainly think I wouldn't want anyone commenting negatively about it. It's common decency to tell someone right from the off that is what your intentions are, so really, this is her problem, not yours! You were being honest, that's not emotionally detached.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford

I'm deffo emotionally detached when it comes to men it's what I decided to be and more than happy with that x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't see that as a negative thing. That's the whole point of NSA, you can hook up without getting too deep. If one person is more emotionally invested than the other, that's the time to call it a day.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS  over a year ago

Central

She's probably unable to make a good assessment of you and maybe used that as a cover for not being compatible. If you recognise problems, investigate them further and get support.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Definitely a compliment in my opinion. Only thing that matters is how you feel about it.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I thought it just meant "you're not into her" or you're not ready yourself to give the time, energy and emotion to someone else. Being in a romantic relationship puts people in an very vulnerable position and only can be done naturally if both people trust, respect and care for eachother. I get the impression alot of people I met on here, enjoy sex but find it difficult to give their emotions away to someone. So they come on here to find like minded people.So does that make alot of fabbers emotionally detached from sex?

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I get that occasionally , I find it quite offensive , I just choose not to fall in love ! It’s my decision, I’m actually very emotionally aware and in control , not detached

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By *idnight RamblerMan  over a year ago

Pershore

At the outset that's the best possible mindset to take imho.

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By *ylvie 888Woman  over a year ago

Cleethorpes


"It sounds like a lazy & needy comment to me. "

I agree. Wo is anyone to pass what appears to be such a spontaneous judgement on another human being? And when this person barely knows you.... what's it coming to eh?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm not emotionally detached but I am emotionally detachable. I am very selective who I share my emotions with. You will never see them on my sleeve. I think it's common with people who work/worked in EMS and areas where you deal with people in traumatic circumstances. You can't do your job properly if you indulge your emotions too much. that doesn't mean that you don't feel compassion or empathy.

On fab, if you are looking for emotional attachment, that's something else again, and doesn't really fit with sex just for mutual pleasure and pleasant company.

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By *ecretlivesCouple  over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

You care about why she said it, what it means and it's implications. That says you are not emotionally detached - just not emotionally attached to her. You may have shared in an open and unfiltered way when she wanted to be engaged at an emotional level. Her telling you her *opinion* says more of her than you.

Move on and digest at your leisure but not hers.

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By *host63Man  over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Op. I’m not here or anywhere looking for a relationship. I find it hard explaining that to anyone. But, I did have a mate understand what I meant as he knew someone that lives his life the same way.

Has lots of girlfriends but never serious. He’s gone through something and that changed the way he would expose his feelings to new people. As people - We build walls to protect getting hurt I suppose.

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By *ebjonnsonMan  over a year ago

Maldon

A woman said that of me just the other day, right in the middle of us having sex. I was upset at the accusation so I put my phone down to focus on my reply!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello O.P.

I have NOT read all other replies so I apologise if I am repeating.

Do NOT dwell any longer on what the woman said.

Is there any reason you need to be 'emotionally ATTACHED' to anything or anyone at the moment ?

Beware of believing bullshit and bollocks from someone who learned a phrase and was stupid enough to use it toward another.

Seriously, give yourself a break. You will emotionally attach and detach throughout life....... we all do.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I get called an ice queen quite a lot. I'm not, but im not an emotional supermarket where I my feelings are on display and easy to access. It seems quite natural not to have feelings about something or someone you barely know.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"A woman said that of me just the other day, right in the middle of us having sex. I was upset at the accusation so I put my phone down to focus on my reply! "

Healthy Seb healthy x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I get called an ice queen quite a lot. I'm not, but im not an emotional supermarket where I my feelings are on display and easy to access. It seems quite natural not to have feelings about something or someone you barely know.

"

Correct! Beware the stranger huggers

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By *ettaManMan  over a year ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


".

How would you respond to that? "

Ask her how much you owe her for her expert psychoanalysis.

Ask her what level of emotional attachment she's looking for on here. She probably won't respond, then simply move on.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


".

How would you respond to that?

Ask her how much you owe her for her expert psychoanalysis.

Ask her what level of emotional attachment she's looking for on here. She probably won't respond, then simply move on."

Correct ! That'll be 2/6d thanks.

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By *omerset1976Man  over a year ago

Burnham

We’re not all made the same. Some people are more open than others, more emotional… doesn’t mean there’s something wrong…. Just because they don’t sit on the average person line. We’re all individuals with our own ways. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship."

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

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By *inger_SnapWoman  over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I must be emotionally detached too

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By *uitednbooted2Man  over a year ago

Berkshire

There is a big difference between emotional detachment in someone and not wanting emotional involvement.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed "

It doesn't really matter why the platform was created, it's how people use it the really counts. If forum posts are anything to go by many people seek, even need a connection and some form of feeling or intimate emotional bond, at least for the duration of their meet. If they genuinely experience that I'm not going to argue with them.

We've only ever used it for sex without involvement and the people we've met have been the same however you can't deny that long term friendships and emotional bonds are formed via fab.

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By *rincess peachWoman  over a year ago

shits creek


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed "

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

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By *odgerMooreMan  over a year ago

Nowhere

I think there are degrees of connection - most people on here have a grasp on a level of connection they want from or with someone they meet. I think when they are mismatched theres an issue. If one party goes into the meet thinking this is a bit of fun with someone I find attractive and the other thinks - i hope this is the start of something substantial there will-or could potentially be an issue because of the expectations.

I have to have some form of connection with people i Meet as i have to like them. Ive been lucky that I haven’t had someone tell me im emotionally disconnected because luckily we’ve been on the same page.

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By *uitednbooted2Man  over a year ago

Berkshire


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case."

I often like your posts and I do know you have had some shit to cope with in the past. However if the majority of men on here are low life scum bags I really don’t understand what you are still here for???? Also I dont agree with you. There are tons of good respectful men on here me being one of them and I get tired of being tarred with this brush. Sort your filters out or you would be better leaving tbh

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

It doesn't really matter why the platform was created, it's how people use it the really counts. If forum posts are anything to go by many people seek, even need a connection and some form of feeling or intimate emotional bond, at least for the duration of their meet. If they genuinely experience that I'm not going to argue with them.

We've only ever used it for sex without involvement and the people we've met have been the same however you can't deny that long term friendships and emotional bonds are formed via fab. "

A level of emotion and intimacy for the duration of sex, is natural...bonds formed through long time encounters ditto

..but it's just the neediness from the outset, that boggled the brain, like why here, of all places?

And that those particular people don't get it when you put that reasoning to them, just goes right over their heads

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"if that was a lady you met on a swinging site then thats surely a plus, if not then maybe not"

Surely if you want non commitment on a swingers site then that’s exactly what is needed. If she wants emotional commitment then you are not a match.

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By *rincess peachWoman  over a year ago

shits creek


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

I often like your posts and I do know you have had some shit to cope with in the past. However if the majority of men on here are low life scum bags I really don’t understand what you are still here for???? Also I dont agree with you. There are tons of good respectful men on here me being one of them and I get tired of being tarred with this brush. Sort your filters out or you would be better leaving tbh "

When did I say the majority?

When did I tar YOU or anybody with that brush?

I tarred nobody, I simply explained one reason why some people want those things - to feel valued in the most basic areas.

You're right, I probably shouldn't be here. I'm not looking for sex, the thought of letting anyone near my body makes me wanna vom and if anything, it probably does more harm than good.

But what it does do, every single day, is remind me how fucking cruel people are, how little respect they show one another and that alone is enough to make sure I never make the mistake of trusting anyone with my heart ever again.

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By *host63Man  over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case."

A bit defensive from you I tbink. And I can day for myself I never treat anyone like dirt, and I have very good reason for that. And yes I come across as a bit detached. Again I have a reason for that. Dosnt mean I don't have feelings though. Woukd I have a relationship on here I would be open to it but wouldn't expect it.

You attack men in your post, which I find interesting. So you think women are nor looking for casual sex too?

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By *ellhungvweMan  over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think I am going to become emotionally detached from this thread.

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By *rincess peachWoman  over a year ago

shits creek


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

A bit defensive from you I tbink. And I can day for myself I never treat anyone like dirt, and I have very good reason for that. And yes I come across as a bit detached. Again I have a reason for that. Dosnt mean I don't have feelings though. Woukd I have a relationship on here I would be open to it but wouldn't expect it.

You attack men in your post, which I find interesting. So you think women are nor looking for casual sex too?

"

I didn't attack men

I pointed out that SOME men treat women like shit.

If that ain't you, cool beans you've got fuck all to stress about.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case."

Gate crashed by those who don't see the the site for what it is...

I've seen profiles on here, from people who made it clear that they were here actively seeking marriage...

There is a clear disparity between what the site actually is, and what some people want and expect

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By *host63Man  over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

A bit defensive from you I tbink. And I can day for myself I never treat anyone like dirt, and I have very good reason for that. And yes I come across as a bit detached. Again I have a reason for that. Dosnt mean I don't have feelings though. Woukd I have a relationship on here I would be open to it but wouldn't expect it.

You attack men in your post, which I find interesting. So you think women are nor looking for casual sex too?

I didn't attack men

I pointed out that SOME men treat women like shit.

If that ain't you, cool beans you've got fuck all to stress about."

Not stressing at all just found your answer intriguing. Far as I am concerned this is just a debate about an interesting topic

How we come across is not always how we are. And I like to hear other people's viewpoints and sometimes challenge them. I may be right or wrong. It does come into another question though woukd you refuse to engage at any level with someone on a first impression alone?

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By *rincess peachWoman  over a year ago

shits creek


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

A bit defensive from you I tbink. And I can day for myself I never treat anyone like dirt, and I have very good reason for that. And yes I come across as a bit detached. Again I have a reason for that. Dosnt mean I don't have feelings though. Woukd I have a relationship on here I would be open to it but wouldn't expect it.

You attack men in your post, which I find interesting. So you think women are nor looking for casual sex too?

"

Oh, of course women are looking for casual sex.

Some women are looking for the dudes who DO treat them like a hole to be abused.

Some are looking for mutual respect and consideration.

I don't think it's all that difficult to see. There's people for everyone it's finding the right ones to meet both wants.

I do think that porn has a lot to do with the geezers whom act in the use n abuse ya way, the ones who view women as a hole and have zero respect for them as a person. It worries me that it's not a role being played out for the enjoyment of those involved, it's an actual mindset.

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By *affron40Woman  over a year ago

manchester


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

Gate crashed by those who don't see the the site for what it is...

I've seen profiles on here, from people who made it clear that they were here actively seeking marriage...

There is a clear disparity between what the site actually is, and what some people want and expect"

And what is it?! What about those of us who have been here so long our needs have changed? Do we get evicted?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

Gate crashed by those who don't see the the site for what it is...

I've seen profiles on here, from people who made it clear that they were here actively seeking marriage...

There is a clear disparity between what the site actually is, and what some people want and expect

And what is it?! What about those of us who have been here so long our needs have changed? Do we get evicted? "

Nope. Like you said your needs have changed.. but you didn't start off with particular expectations...

And I imagine if fab doesn't fore fill your current needs, you'll put it to one side and go elsewhere

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By *host63Man  over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

A bit defensive from you I tbink. And I can day for myself I never treat anyone like dirt, and I have very good reason for that. And yes I come across as a bit detached. Again I have a reason for that. Dosnt mean I don't have feelings though. Woukd I have a relationship on here I would be open to it but wouldn't expect it.

You attack men in your post, which I find interesting. So you think women are nor looking for casual sex too?

Oh, of course women are looking for casual sex.

Some women are looking for the dudes who DO treat them like a hole to be abused.

Some are looking for mutual respect and consideration.

I don't think it's all that difficult to see. There's people for everyone it's finding the right ones to meet both wants.

I do think that porn has a lot to do with the geezers whom act in the use n abuse ya way, the ones who view women as a hole and have zero respect for them as a person. It worries me that it's not a role being played out for the enjoyment of those involved, it's an actual mindset. "

Never coukd understand anyone needing to.be abused in that way myself. Takes all.sorts I guess

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By *host63Man  over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Sounds like she is the one with the problem not you. Most people on here are not lookinhbfor a relationship. Let's face it this site is for those seeking sexual gratification with other like minded people. Nothing wrong with this and dosnt necessarily mean one night stands. Some if us are happy being alone but occasionally just want to have company and to satisfy what we need.

Maybe relationships develop maybe not. I woukdnt question yourself but her, she is obviously more suited to A sight for people who want a relationship.

I except that fab can be anything to anybody. But I can't get away from the idea that it is a platform created for a specific reason, for people of a certain mindset...

Recreational sex, sex without involvement. Just fun... sometimes it seems like fabs been gate crashed

Why gatecrashed?

What, by people who need to feel respected and cared about on a human level to want to get jiggy with someone?

If anything, I'd say the site has been gatecrashed by blokes who disrespect women at every opportunity, treat them like absolute fucking dirt, abuse them, and don't view them as human, just as a hole to be abused.

So, to counteract and avoid those types, some folks need to raise the bar and do what makes them comfortable, and that means ensuring they're viewed as an actual person who's shown respect, compassion and empathy. Basic human behaviour you'd like to think? Alas, that's far from the case.

Gate crashed by those who don't see the the site for what it is...

I've seen profiles on here, from people who made it clear that they were here actively seeking marriage...

There is a clear disparity between what the site actually is, and what some people want and expect

And what is it?! What about those of us who have been here so long our needs have changed? Do we get evicted? "

No.yiu go with jow you feel but make it clear on your bio what yku want.

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By *ecretlivesCouple  over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Fab forgive us for we know not what we do, and why we are here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Brings to mind this quote from the movie Heat:

Neil McCauley: “Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.”

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Brings to mind this quote from the movie Heat:

Neil McCauley: “Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.”

"

Don't get me wrong when I am ready, I will be ready. It's all about time

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We’re not all made the same. Some people are more open than others, more emotional… doesn’t mean there’s something wrong…. Just because they don’t sit on the average person line. We’re all individuals with our own ways. Simples."

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"We’re not all made the same. Some people are more open than others, more emotional… doesn’t mean there’s something wrong…. Just because they don’t sit on the average person line. We’re all individuals with our own ways. Simples."

Isn't it more to do with our past why one person can be more emotional than the other? Like our parental upbringing, culture, past experiences in love and lust?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Brings to mind this quote from the movie Heat:

Neil McCauley: “Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.”

"

What are you? A monk?

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