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"Aww bless you OP you have a caring heart. Sorry to hear about your loss x "Thank you. | |||
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"A simple smile goes a long and costs nothing x so matter how low you feel today raise a smile its worth it , who else could have put it any better than the legend spike milligan, Smiling is infectious, you catch it like the flu, When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner and someone saw my grin. When he smiled I realized I'd passed it on to him. I thought about that smile, then I realized its worth. A single smile, just like mine could travel round the earth. So, if you feel a smile begin, don't leave it undetected. Let's start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected!" Most know this. If only it was applied. The state has taken away people's smiles. Many are hurt and damaged.. | |||
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"A simple smile goes a long and costs nothing x so matter how low you feel today raise a smile its worth it , who else could have put it any better than the legend spike milligan, Smiling is infectious, you catch it like the flu, When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner and someone saw my grin. When he smiled I realized I'd passed it on to him. I thought about that smile, then I realized its worth. A single smile, just like mine could travel round the earth. So, if you feel a smile begin, don't leave it undetected. Let's start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected! Most know this. If only it was applied. The state has taken away people's smiles. Many are hurt and damaged.. " Which state and how? | |||
"Some of us fight battles nobody sees or knows about. I don't care what it is your going through or who you are? Text me and let's fight together. You're never alone... "love the care and passion in your message, but this is a big problem your friend doesn't want to wring as he doesn't want to bother burden You , there busy you make the call | |||
"Some of us fight battles nobody sees or knows about. I don't care what it is your going through or who you are? Text me and let's fight together. You're never alone...
love the care and passion in your message, but this is a big problem your friend doesn't want to wring as he doesn't want to bother burden You , there busy you make the call "The passion comes from the pain of losing my son to suicide caused by an ongoing battle with depression. I know the pain from both sides... | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional "I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! | |||
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"Some of us fight battles nobody sees or knows about. I don't care what it is your going through or who you are? Text me and let's fight together. You're never alone...
love the care and passion in your message, but this is a big problem your friend doesn't want to wring as he doesn't want to bother burden You , there busy you make the call
The passion comes from the pain of losing my son to suicide caused by an ongoing battle with depression. I know the pain from both sides..."So sorry. Can’t comprehend the pain and loss x | |||
"We all suffer in diff ways. This world easily judges. That's why people are amongst many yet very alone. A very sad reality. Trust is priceless. " “The world easily judges”. True, and judges often feel that they have to be harsh in order to seek clever or knowledgeable. And social media is the worst because judges are braver / harsher with a cloak of anonymity. Best thing to do is not to allow the world to judge you, to simply not care what people say. This is hard, | |||
"A simple smile goes a long and costs nothing x so matter how low you feel today raise a smile its worth it , who else could have put it any better than the legend spike milligan, Smiling is infectious, you catch it like the flu, When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner and someone saw my grin. When he smiled I realized I'd passed it on to him. I thought about that smile, then I realized its worth. A single smile, just like mine could travel round the earth. So, if you feel a smile begin, don't leave it undetected. Let's start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected! Most know this. If only it was applied. The state has taken away people's smiles. Many are hurt and damaged.. Which state and how?" Not state of mind.. the running state. The state that rules. Look around the proof is in the put in. Or non put in shall I shall. | |||
"Aww bless you OP you have a caring heart. Sorry to hear about your loss x
Thank you. "You are welcome! x | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! "Hubby does get it as he himself has serious mh issues himself, he is able to access more support than me as he only has to pick up the phone and tell his psychiatrist he needs help, I can see the pain he's in both physically and mentally but won't speak to her as he feels its unfair that he can access mh services and I can't. | |||
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"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! "? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking. | |||
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"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking. "You're right, hubby has had EMDR, CBT and music therapy and although the nightmares have become less he still has flashbacks, he has expressed desire to die but he thinks of our kids and me and can't bear the thought of leaving us. He has never grieved for his parents, his dad died in 2013 and his mum in 2020 and you can see the love he has for them but he has switched off emotionally, he has more feelings for his friend that was murdered but he says that she died violently where his parents died of illnesses and lived into their 70's which makes a difference, he spoke to his psychiatrist who said its normal to feel that way. He would do anything for anyone while ignoring his own issues. | |||
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"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking.
You're right, hubby has had EMDR, CBT and music therapy and although the nightmares have become less he still has flashbacks, he has expressed desire to die but he thinks of our kids and me and can't bear the thought of leaving us.
He has never grieved for his parents, his dad died in 2013 and his mum in 2020 and you can see the love he has for them but he has switched off emotionally, he has more feelings for his friend that was murdered but he says that she died violently where his parents died of illnesses and lived into their 70's which makes a difference, he spoke to his psychiatrist who said its normal to feel that way.
He would do anything for anyone while ignoring his own issues. "Thank you! How are you yourself? Bless your husband i know what it's like. I think people who have been through bad things like to help others, Because they don't want them to suffer like they do. It's not always easy to ask for help yourself at times | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking.
You're right, hubby has had EMDR, CBT and music therapy and although the nightmares have become less he still has flashbacks, he has expressed desire to die but he thinks of our kids and me and can't bear the thought of leaving us.
He has never grieved for his parents, his dad died in 2013 and his mum in 2020 and you can see the love he has for them but he has switched off emotionally, he has more feelings for his friend that was murdered but he says that she died violently where his parents died of illnesses and lived into their 70's which makes a difference, he spoke to his psychiatrist who said its normal to feel that way.
He would do anything for anyone while ignoring his own issues. Thank you! How are you yourself? Bless your husband i know what it's like. I think people who have been through bad things like to help others, Because they don't want them to suffer like they do. It's not always easy to ask for help yourself at times "I can see the physical pain he is in as he has a few medical conditions which is part of the reason he has mh issues but he will almost kill himself for us, I have seen him in so much pain washing dishes (our 16 year old has been repeatedly asked) that he knows I will do and although I tell him to stop he will do them all. I need help from a professional but I just can't get it, hubby feels abandoned by the NHS as they won't help anymore with his pain and to be fair so do i. Hubby is the only one that knows why I have mh issues as the doctors just don't want to know, I need to see someone as soon as I can, just hope I can get help, it's taken over 20 years of trying but hubby is certain I will be seen xx | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking.
You're right, hubby has had EMDR, CBT and music therapy and although the nightmares have become less he still has flashbacks, he has expressed desire to die but he thinks of our kids and me and can't bear the thought of leaving us.
He has never grieved for his parents, his dad died in 2013 and his mum in 2020 and you can see the love he has for them but he has switched off emotionally, he has more feelings for his friend that was murdered but he says that she died violently where his parents died of illnesses and lived into their 70's which makes a difference, he spoke to his psychiatrist who said its normal to feel that way.
He would do anything for anyone while ignoring his own issues. Thank you! How are you yourself? Bless your husband i know what it's like. I think people who have been through bad things like to help others, Because they don't want them to suffer like they do. It's not always easy to ask for help yourself at times
I can see the physical pain he is in as he has a few medical conditions which is part of the reason he has mh issues but he will almost kill himself for us, I have seen him in so much pain washing dishes (our 16 year old has been repeatedly asked) that he knows I will do and although I tell him to stop he will do them all.
I need help from a professional but I just can't get it, hubby feels abandoned by the NHS as they won't help anymore with his pain and to be fair so do i.
Hubby is the only one that knows why I have mh issues as the doctors just don't want to know, I need to see someone as soon as I can, just hope I can get help, it's taken over 20 years of trying but hubby is certain I will be seen xx"Aww bless you both! So sorry you are both struggling. Unfortunately because of the pandemic we can only get so much help, It seems Covid has been prioritised over everything else. Theirs only so much NHS etc can do! Even cancer patients got forgotten about, Just like my best friend who got diagnosed last year in October and is terminal but he is still here for now. Sending you big hugs and best wishes xx | |||
I'm grateful my husband knows how to diffuse my mind, but then I get concerned that I'm putting too much pressure on him. Tone of voices from people can really divert my mind in totally different directions so I've never trusted any sort of GP/mental health charity to help in the right way.
Manageable for now thank goodness and I'm learning to ask for help when I'm desperate. | |||
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Stay positive, stay strong
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"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking. "I haven’t suffered from depression, but have had several extended stressful periods in my life. Most recently, I talked to family members a lot, and the mere exercise of verbalising and explaining what was going on and how I felt about it, was massively valuable. Not one of my family members tried telling me what I should do, but they all listened, questioned and listened more, and that was more valuable. Once I had clearly explained things to others, I knew what to do. Their help in achieving that was massively valuable | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking.
I haven’t suffered from depression, but have had several extended stressful periods in my life.
Most recently, I talked to family members a lot, and the mere exercise of verbalising and explaining what was going on and how I felt about it, was massively valuable.
Not one of my family members tried telling me what I should do, but they all listened, questioned and listened more, and that was more valuable.
Once I had clearly explained things to others, I knew what to do. Their help in achieving that was massively valuable "Aww bless you! You are lucky to have nice family. Mine are let's just say not decent humans, But won't go into all that as they ain't worth my breath. Not everyone will understand! But they can still be kind and not ignorant. | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking. "True but if a cuppa and chat solved mental illness, it wasn’t mental illness in the first place,,, there’s a vast difference between feeling a bit a lonely and down vs someone desperately ill needing professional therapy and medication. A lot of people don’t know the difference, and deny severe anxiety and depression is an illness etc telling people just to talk to a friend or go for a regular walk isn’t helpful if you are illl | |||
"Thank you Sadly I am left to deal with it alone as the GP couldn't give a toss and every mental health charity my support worker refers me to never gets back, hubby tries his hardest but he's not a professional
I can be really hard to get interventions at the moment , the whole system is under so much pressure. You are right , partners, friends, relatives are not professionals, they can help a bit with mental well-being but not mental illness , a lot of people don’t realise this, illness needs treating with therapy, medication , retreats etc not kinds words and a cuppa ! ? As a sufferer myself! Kind words actually go along way and love a cuppa. Lol But yes you can get therapy etc doesn't mean it goes away though completely! Don't under-estimate the power of kindness and just talking.
True but if a cuppa and chat solved mental illness, it wasn’t mental illness in the first place,,, there’s a vast difference between feeling a bit a lonely and down vs someone desperately ill needing professional therapy and medication. A lot of people don’t know the difference, and deny severe anxiety and depression is an illness etc telling people just to talk to a friend or go for a regular walk isn’t helpful if you are illl"You don't know people personality to say what they don't suffer with? You don't even know me or my diagnosis. I've not denied anything? Having a chat can help lift someone's mood etc also people talking about it can make some seek help instead of suffering in silence, I didn't say it cures it by having a chat and cuppa. Lol | |||
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"I’ve lost of a lot of friends over the years to things that might not have happened had I or someone else reached out. One very recently Reach out if you can, and if you don’t, try not to beat yourself up about it. People can be masters of hiding things. You never know what’s going on behind the scenes and how much of a brave face they put on." That's what i do at times and did over the years! It's so easy to hide it because it becomes normal. Though getting help sometimes is the hardest part! But people should talk and reach out it might help someone, I actually lost my dad and friend to suicide but didn't know my dad well until i was an adult. Sorry for your loss of your friends x | |||
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