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"Absolutely. I am right now  .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share 
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do . "
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex? |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?"
I live with one of them  . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships. |
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over a year ago
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"If we find the right guy for Mrs P, we'll let you know! Lol
I hope you do and when you do, you know where to find me "
We do too! And yes watch this space lol  |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships. "
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions "
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet  . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind . |
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"Yes and its a great feeling. I have been in a polyamarous relationship for years many moons ago. They never seem to last open relationships? Is that another word for it?  "
No open relationships are open to sex with other people. Polyamorous relationships can be open or closed. |
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"Yes and its a great feeling. I have been in a polyamarous relationship for years many moons ago. They never seem to last open relationships? Is that another word for it? "
It's not an open relationship as such. It was only us in our dynamic. I believe an open relationship is different as both people can go date/sleep with who ever they want. (Forgive me if I'm wrong) but I'd personally never want to be in an open relationship.
We was working amazingly but 1 unfortunately had to move away for work. It was very long distance,and so we decided to end our dynamic as the other partner could have missed the chance of finding a vanilla relationship and starting a family. Which he eventually did.
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"Yes and its a great feeling. I have been in a polyamarous relationship for years many moons ago. They never seem to last open relationships? Is that another word for it?
It's not an open relationship as such. It was only us in our dynamic. I believe an open relationship is different as both people can go date/sleep with who ever they want. (Forgive me if I'm wrong) but I'd personally never want to be in an open relationship.
We was working amazingly but 1 unfortunately had to move away for work. It was very long distance,and so we decided to end our dynamic as the other partner could have missed the chance of finding a vanilla relationship and starting a family. Which he eventually did.
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Oh i see! Interesting i don't really know much about polyamorous relationships. I've never been in love with 2 people but think you can love people in different ways. |
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"Yes and its a great feeling. I have been in a polyamarous relationship for years many moons ago. They never seem to last open relationships? Is that another word for it?
No open relationships are open to sex with other people. Polyamorous relationships can be open or closed. "
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
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Theres too much focus on the 'poly' and not enough on the 'amory'. It's absolutely possible to be in love with more than one person. We love more than one friend, family etc. No reason romantic relationships should be any diferrent. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
You can love both your parents and if you have kids then when the second one comes along you love that one as much as you do the first without either of them losing some of the love. Why can’t relationships be the same? |
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By *not123Couple
over a year ago
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I've been in love with a partner but totally heart wrenching In love with another that I couldn't have. But known him 80% of my life with a break in-between and apart from being older felt exactly the same |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind . "
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic? |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic? "
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic?
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along "
So what happens when they meet new partners? How do you picture this arrangement in the future? Would you have children with both? |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic?
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along
So what happens when they meet new partners? How do you picture this arrangement in the future? Would you have children with both? "
What do you mean what happens? I don't want children. |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic?
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along
So what happens when they meet new partners? How do you picture this arrangement in the future? Would you have children with both?
What do you mean what happens? I don't want children. "
It seems like they are both dating so it's only a matter of time until they find what they are looking for and move on. The way you described, it sounded like a 3 way relationship but they are both dating? I'm confused |
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By *smCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes and its a great feeling. I have been in a polyamarous relationship for years many moons ago. They never seem to last open relationships? Is that another word for it?
It's not an open relationship as such. It was only us in our dynamic. I believe an open relationship is different as both people can go date/sleep with who ever they want. (Forgive me if I'm wrong) but I'd personally never want to be in an open relationship.
We was working amazingly but 1 unfortunately had to move away for work. It was very long distance,and so we decided to end our dynamic as the other partner could have missed the chance of finding a vanilla relationship and starting a family. Which he eventually did.
Oh i see! Interesting i don't really know much about polyamorous relationships. I've never been in love with 2 people but think you can love people in different ways. "
Not read the whole thread but
“The ethical slut” by Dossie Easton and Janet Harding is a fantastic read on poly and more relationships, both for those curios and those starting out . |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic?
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along
So what happens when they meet new partners? How do you picture this arrangement in the future? Would you have children with both?
What do you mean what happens? I don't want children.
It seems like they are both dating so it's only a matter of time until they find what they are looking for and move on. The way you described, it sounded like a 3 way relationship but they are both dating? I'm confused"
As I'm buying a flat with one of them I don't think he's planning on going anywhere . The other also stayed with me when he was seeing someone else too. Its not a three way relationship. That exists but isn't the most common way people practice polyamory. They're usually separate relationships as is the case here. |
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic?
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along
So what happens when they meet new partners? How do you picture this arrangement in the future? Would you have children with both?
What do you mean what happens? I don't want children.
It seems like they are both dating so it's only a matter of time until they find what they are looking for and move on. The way you described, it sounded like a 3 way relationship but they are both dating? I'm confused
As I'm buying a flat with one of them I don't think he's planning on going anywhere . The other also stayed with me when he was seeing someone else too. Its not a three way relationship. That exists but isn't the most common way people practice polyamory. They're usually separate relationships as is the case here. "
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"Absolutely. I am right now .
Okay, I'm curious to know more if you care to share
I have two partners.
Do they know about this arrangement?
Haha yes they do .
Do you meet with them together or separately? Also is it a full on relationship or just sex?
I live with one of them . The other I mostly meet with separately though sometimes we all hang out with friends. We hung out just the three of us a few weeks ago and it was awesome. They are full on relationships.
Do other people know, like your friends, family and colleagues? Sorry I have so many questions
All our close friends know yes, most of my family know. Neither of them have told their family yet but I know both their families individually. They're just trying to find the right time. It was more obvious with me though and I didn't want to hide the partner I got with second. Colleagues for me is a no as I'm not very close to them and just can't be arsed with that conversation. I talk about both my partners though, tgey just haven't clicked on yet . One of my partners has told some of his work colleagues though and both their work colleagues know of me as their partner. Coming out is a bit of a process unless you do a dramatic announcement. Especially as one of my relationships began a couple of months before the first lockdown so there hasn't been as much mixing with friends and family as there otherwise would be. Haha its okay, I don't mind .
I keep thinking about it, how do the guys feel about the dynamic?
They're happy. It's what they want too. One has another partner of over 3 years but they don't see each other super regularly as she has health problems. Me and her are really good friends too. He's also recently started seeing someone new and it seems to be going well. My other partner had another partner at one point but things didn't work out between them. He's been dating on and off but nothing serious has come of it yet but he's open to it if the right person comes along
So what happens when they meet new partners? How do you picture this arrangement in the future? Would you have children with both?
What do you mean what happens? I don't want children.
It seems like they are both dating so it's only a matter of time until they find what they are looking for and move on. The way you described, it sounded like a 3 way relationship but they are both dating? I'm confused
As I'm buying a flat with one of them I don't think he's planning on going anywhere . The other also stayed with me when he was seeing someone else too. Its not a three way relationship. That exists but isn't the most common way people practice polyamory. They're usually separate relationships as is the case here.
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Of course you can. Love is shared by many people at the same time. I'm Poly and have been for a long time, I just didn't realise it was a thing or had a name back then. |
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"I've been in love with a partner but totally heart wrenching In love with another that I couldn't have. But known him 80% of my life with a break in-between and apart from being older felt exactly the same "
sounds like me...
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Being 'in' love. I can only speak from my experience, but the few times I was properly in love (in my 20s and 30s), I remember it being such an all consuming experience which consumed all my energy and focus, that I personally couldn't have felt that for 2 people at the same time. It would have been impossible.
So I'd say no. Not in a consummate way.
But I think it's possible to have strong romantic and/or sexual feelings for multiple people simultaneously.
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