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What do people see the purpose of a social is?
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over a year ago
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To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A) to make sure you clock
B) to make sure they don't kiss like a washing machine
C) I'm not inviting a random stranger to my place
D) I'm not going to some random strangers place |
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For me its to see if there is chemistry and attraction in person.. people can come across very differently online in my experience so meeting with no expectations takes the pressure off. I'm looking for more fwbs so I need to be able to like/have a laugh with them before anything sexual happening  |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"What do people think the main reason to hold a social is?"
The clue is in the name. That’s the main reason. Go with no expectations of anything else and any connections or otherwise is a bonus. Oh and they are usually a pre social to a club night up here so a good icebreaker.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin. "
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are happy to have play with anyone that comes along and their is nothing wrong with that when everyone consents.
For others that is not the case there needs to be attraction or something there before play can be considered, so a social meet gives the opportunity to meet and see others for real. |
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Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.
He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.
I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha "
Nope, smaller the better for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me "
Hello.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me "
Well that rules out a jam sandwich then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me
Hello...."
As soon as I read that post I thought of you  |
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"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.
He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.
I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself."
We recently attended the Manchester social and it was a wide mix of ages, good mix of guys, gals, couples and people who identify in different ways. It was bloody ace and I wouldn't like there to be any restrictions on the ages etc.
The purpose was to have fun, meet like minded people and socialise among (hopefully) non judgemental folks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me
Hello....
As soon as I read that post I thought of you "
Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks. |
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"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.
He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.
I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself.
We recently attended the Manchester social and it was a wide mix of ages, good mix of guys, gals, couples and people who identify in different ways. It was bloody ace and I wouldn't like there to be any restrictions on the ages etc.
The purpose was to have fun, meet like minded people and socialise among (hopefully) non judgemental folks. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me
Hello....
As soon as I read that post I thought of you
Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks. "
Just trying to play matchmaker  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me
Hello....
As soon as I read that post I thought of you
Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.
Just trying to play matchmaker "
Thanks, I need all the help I can get so I really appreciate it. Unfortunately Appletree is only looking for women on here so I think we’re wasting our time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me
Hello....
As soon as I read that post I thought of you
Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.
Just trying to play matchmaker
Thanks, I need all the help I can get so I really appreciate it. Unfortunately Appletree is only looking for women on here so I think we’re wasting our time. "
but you're right, sorry! Women to the front of the queue please.. *tumble* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.
Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha
Nope, smaller the better for me
Hello....
As soon as I read that post I thought of you
Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.
Just trying to play matchmaker
Thanks, I need all the help I can get so I really appreciate it. Unfortunately Appletree is only looking for women on here so I think we’re wasting our time.
but you're right, sorry! Women to the front of the queue please.. *tumble*"
That’s just my luck, if it isn’t my tiny cock that puts someone off it’s the fact that I have a cock at all. |
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To ensure that the WOW factor is there! Which is invariably apparent from the eye contact, followed by the uncontrollable mutual desire to be touchy feely with each other when you instantly know that you are both mentally undressing each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To ensure that the WOW factor is there! Which is invariably apparent from the eye contact, followed by the uncontrollable mutual desire to be touchy feely with each other when you instantly know that you are both mentally undressing each other. "
Would you still have sex with someone it the WOW factor wasn’t there? The way you said ‘ensure’ it’s there implies that you have to have it to take things further. Would you not be interested in someone if you liked them but didn’t like them enough for there to be a WOW factor?
Personally I don’t need there to be a WOW factor for me to have sex with someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A) to make sure you clock
B) to make sure they don't kiss like a washing machine
C) I'm not inviting a random stranger to my place
D) I'm not going to some random strangers place"
Ace always clocks. |
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1. Check they are who they say they are.
2. Check their general attitude
3. Have some cool conversations
4. Confuse other patrons in bar/pub
5. Gather more members for the hive Queen
6. Kiss as many people as possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1. Check they are who they say they are.
2. Check their general attitude
3. Have some cool conversations
4. Confuse other patrons in bar/pub
5. Gather more members for the hive Queen
6. Kiss as many people as possible "
Love this x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1. Check they are who they say they are.
2. Check their general attitude
3. Have some cool conversations
4. Confuse other patrons in bar/pub
5. Gather more members for the hive Queen
6. Kiss as many people as possible "
#6 - yeah #6 for sure! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.
He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.
I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself."
Do you mean a group forum social?
Or a social meet with someone you're looking to fuck? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A group forum social "
Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.
Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.
I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies. |
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"To see if i am comfortable enough with that person to do more than a social. Can't always judge this through messages and video call "
This! Especially as I meet at home. Works both ways too: I'm larger than my playmates and use restraints, hot wax etc ...they have to be confident, comfortable with me. |
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"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.
He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.
I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself."
I've hosted group socials for years, all hosts are entitled to place whatever restrictions they want on them, we do it for the craic, not profit.
My rules are that they have to be verified by a single woman or couple and I decide based on their communication.
So many ask to attend a social in a pub on a Sunday afternoon and attach dick pics.
Single men bombard me with messages about coming to socials and most don't turn up and don't let me know.
Some of them are too scared to even enter the pub and ask me to meet them outside but none of the single women do. |
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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago
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"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin. "
Damn it, you mean we can't measure with my shrunken tape, I'll bring it with me!
To answer OP, to check there is the same spark in person as in messages, and to check that their photos aren't fake, and ripped off from the Sydney University prospectus!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Group social would be a nice opportunity to put faces and real people to those I have interacted with on fab.
Individual social is to see if a chemistry we may have felt on fab is true for real life and whether there could be anything more.
Both are without expectation or obligation on all sides. |
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"A group forum social
Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.
Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.
I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies."
We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. |
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"A group forum social
Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.
Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.
I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.
We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. "
You’ve still got to try to talk to people! All an organised social is is a room of people who are open to being approached. We’ve been to 4 now and each time we’ve been a bit bolder! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Anticipation. That moment when you both know you’re going to have each other, like being at the top of the roller coaster, the emotional equivalent of edging. |
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"To be social. Also to blind people with blingy dresses 
You do that so well!"
Thank you  You were someone I'd never met before, had no interaction with before Saturday, but I think we hit it off pretty well?! Maybe you were just dazzled  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be social. Also to blind people with blingy dresses
You do that so well!
Thank you You were someone I'd never met before, had no interaction with before Saturday, but I think we hit it off pretty well?! Maybe you were just dazzled "
Of course I was! But back to your dress, you wore it very well |
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Good to have a social just to check all ok, not a serial killer, they are what there pictures display, have teeth, hold a conversation
On the plus side its pretty good way to meet people and make friends even if we don't end up shagging the life out of each other x |
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I've had a couple of socials that were genuinely pretty fucking frightening from a safety aspect.
Imagine that had been in an isolated environment where I couldn't just get up and walk away or didn't have the public around me.
Yes, people can not take no for an answer once they've got you on your own, so socials aren't foolproof in that respect, but if they ain't taking no for an answer or behaving disrespectfully or inappropriately in public that's a pretty huge red fucking flag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hopefully to just observe the person in a public setting to see if you can trust them in a private one and also to see if you click and have chemistry (especially if you haven't really talked much with the person etc) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had a couple of socials that were genuinely pretty fucking frightening from a safety aspect.
Imagine that had been in an isolated environment where I couldn't just get up and walk away or didn't have the public around me.
Yes, people can not take no for an answer once they've got you on your own, so socials aren't foolproof in that respect, but if they ain't taking no for an answer or behaving disrespectfully or inappropriately in public that's a pretty huge red fucking flag."
Well that's crap. I thought group socials were supposed to be a friendly, safe environment. Are we just talking sausage fest then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A group forum social
Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.
Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.
I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.
We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. "
Hundreds?....  .....that's me in the corner with my back to the wall.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A group forum social
Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.
Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.
I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.
We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. "
Is that the only one you've been to?
I found the MLS people really friendly the times that I went. |
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"A group forum social
Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.
Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.
I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.
We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view.
Is that the only one you've been to?
I found the MLS people really friendly the times that I went. "
The only big group one, yes. Had small scale socials before with maybe 10-12 people, down to 1:1. |
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"To ensure that the WOW factor is there! Which is invariably apparent from the eye contact, followed by the uncontrollable mutual desire to be touchy feely with each other when you instantly know that you are both mentally undressing each other.
Would you still have sex with someone it the WOW factor wasn’t there? The way you said ‘ensure’ it’s there implies that you have to have it to take things further. Would you not be interested in someone if you liked them but didn’t like them enough for there to be a WOW factor?
Personally I don’t need there to be a WOW factor for me to have sex with someone "
To be honest if I don't actually fancy someone, they have more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile, as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror after taking a shower, although it doesn't happen very often. You would be surprised how many guys I know feel the same way. Even when I've played with lady friends as a couple at parties, or same room fun with another couple, it's invariably been agreed that although the girls can always take one for the team, if one or other of us didn't fancy someone, neither of us would play, and I always respected that. We would have a special word or phrase to get the message across to each other whether it was going to be a goer, or a non starter. |
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