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So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying. |
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"Look on the bright side.
You got a few days warning before he ghosted you on Friday.
Every cloud n all that."
Very true and I am going to Cjs Xmas party on Saturday so have that to look forward to as know people will turn up. |
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"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying."
His loss  consider it a lucky escape but it’s disappointing when you’ve invested all that time and effort. |
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over a year ago
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I'd not take it to heart, people leave for many reasons, it's probably nothing to do with you. I'd guess this place is pretty low on most people's list of priorities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Join the club, the vast majority i talk to seem to just disappear or completely forget i exist
Makes me wonder why i even make any kind of effort to begin with.. |
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"if all his message have disappeared he's deleted his profile, if not he's either blocked you or been suspended by admin 
Messages gone."
deleted his profile then.
That's a shame. Hope he's ok and you're not too disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re very beautiful OP and it’s definitely his loss. He obviously wasn’t serious about meeting up with you and it’s better that you found out sooner rather than later. You’re not going to struggle to find other men who want to meet up with you and some of them might even be genuine. Good luck OP. |
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"Join the club, the vast majority i talk to seem to just disappear or completely forget i exist
Makes me wonder why i even make any kind of effort to begin with.."
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Don't give up young man. 
Change your name to "Once_Tasted_Never_Forgotten"   |
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"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency. "
I just know that if I had changed my mind or had an emergency I would have messaged to say so to the person I had planned to meet. A message takes 10seconds to send. |
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"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency.
I just know that if I had changed my mind or had an emergency I would have messaged to say so to the person I had planned to meet. A message takes 10seconds to send."
oh I agree, its horrible when people just disappear off the radar. Its just the guy will probably get a drubbing on here and he isn't here to defend himself.
Its still not nice for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency. "
One that would give him enough time to delete his profile before dealing with it?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The bright side. Better now than after the meet.
Good riddance"
As bad as it is when someone goes missing before a meet it’s even worse when they do it after a meet because then you have to go over everything you said and did with them in your head and analyse it to try and work out if you did something wrong to make them lose interest. |
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"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying."
Being ghosted is terribly frustrating!!
But as all the others have stated…don’t waste any more thoughts on him and look forward to your party Saturday….his loss lovely not yours |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
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"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying."
Maybe he's just emulating the approach of Spanish commander Hernán Cortés during the 1519 Spanish conquest of Mexico, when he infamously ordered his men to “burn the boats”?
He did this to ensure that the only choices his men had were to emerge victorious or die.
Perhaps he is deleting his Fab account so that he ensures his only two choices are woo you into bed or never have another fab meet again.
Either way, this individual sounds pretty unstable and you're probably better off avoiding him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying.
Maybe he's just emulating the approach of Spanish commander Hernán Cortés during the 1519 Spanish conquest of Mexico, when he infamously ordered his men to “burn the boats”?
He did this to ensure that the only choices his men had were to emerge victorious or die.
Perhaps he is deleting his Fab account so that he ensures his only two choices are woo you into bed or never have another fab meet again.
Either way, this individual sounds pretty unstable and you're probably better off avoiding him."
How did that work out for Hernan Cortes and his men? Did they emerge victorious or all die? They could also have been captured alive by the enemy and held as a prisoner, enduring years of torture and neglect, so there was a third option for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Either way, this individual sounds pretty unstable and you're probably better off avoiding him."
Given he deleted his profile, I think that's inevitable |
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"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency. "
What sort of emergency, other than your wife discovering, means your first thought is to remove your Fab profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Join the club, the vast majority i talk to seem to just disappear or completely forget i exist
Makes me wonder why i even make any kind of effort to begin with..
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Don't give up young man.
Change your name to "Once_Tasted_Never_Forgotten" "
Ah I dont give up, i dont hold many expectations to begin with for me to give up on them
Though quite the apt name i must admit, i definitely do leave a deep impression, pun intended  |
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"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency.
What sort of emergency, other than your wife discovering, means your first thought is to remove your Fab profile?"
Haha that actually happened to me years ago.. the guy said his wife discovered his fab profile.. on the day of the meet. What are the chances ?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe he did message you and because he deleted his account the message has gone
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This is an excellent point, the poor man is being slated for not messaging you and just disappearing when he could have send a really apologetic message, explaining everything, in a polite and respectful way, without realising that you wouldn’t be able to see it once he deleted his profile. |
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