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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?
What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?
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Yes, we've all met that kind of person. They are toxic and like to project their negativity onto others. Personally, I think emotional detachment is the best tactic - imagine people as an artist would a subject or doctor a patient. At least until you want to let your guard down. |
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"How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?
What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?
Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down "
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Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.
I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.
I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Part of my decision to leave my job was because nearly everyone I worked with was negative. It was draining spending 8 hours in the company of misery. "
Out of the frying pan and into the fire being a mod on here lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try to avoid the drains and seek out the radiators
That’s me too! Love radiators  "
I'm a radiator  . I try and warm my drains up a little each time I come across one ... But some people are happiest being miserable |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
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I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it? |
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it? "
It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads! |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.
I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.
I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything. "
The point of the thread is how draining
Negativity is |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads! "
But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.
I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons. |
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"Part of my decision to leave my job was because nearly everyone I worked with was negative. It was draining spending 8 hours in the company of misery.
Out of the frying pan and into the fire being a mod on here lol x"
Lol nah.
Everyone where I worked was ground down by boredom, bad management and uncertainty. Eventually pessimism and misery became the default setting. It was a very difficult atmosphere. |
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!
But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.
I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons. "
I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!
But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.
I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.
I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x"
I like your posting its always fun xxx
You have never once mentioned
Your painful wisdom teeth or gout or rate your bathroom tiles
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!
But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.
I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.
I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x
I like your posting its always fun xxx
You have never once mentioned
Your painful wisdom teeth or gout or rate your bathroom tiles
Xxx"
. I’m slacking then!! My bathroom tiles are definitely a 10 though  |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!
But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.
I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.
I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x
I like your posting its always fun xxx
You have never once mentioned
Your painful wisdom teeth or gout or rate your bathroom tiles
Xxx
. I’m slacking then!! My bathroom tiles are definitely a 10 though "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it? "
But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self
The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair |
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By *eliWoman
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"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self
The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair "
Ah my post was meant to say hoover rather than radiator.
I do understand the concept of hoover/radiator - I normally use the term energy vampire, like a Colin Robinson. I don't think you can be a true radiator in the depths of despair because it wouldn't resonate in the right way. It can be sensed.
Having typed all this though, I do see what you're saying Midnight!
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self
The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair
Ah my post was meant to say hoover rather than radiator.
I do understand the concept of hoover/radiator - I normally use the term energy vampire, like a Colin Robinson. I don't think you can be a true radiator in the depths of despair because it wouldn't resonate in the right way. It can be sensed.
Having typed all this though, I do see what you're saying Midnight!
And I'm maybe thinking I should post more banal fun. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Are there people who are positive and happy all the time??
Those kind of people freak me out.
I had a friend who proclaimed to be one of those people, when in reality his was hiding very deep pain.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?
But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self
The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair
Ah my post was meant to say hoover rather than radiator.
I do understand the concept of hoover/radiator - I normally use the term energy vampire, like a Colin Robinson. I don't think you can be a true radiator in the depths of despair because it wouldn't resonate in the right way. It can be sensed.
Having typed all this though, I do see what you're saying Midnight!
And I'm maybe thinking I should post more banal fun. "
well that would have saved me 7 mins of my life tapping on my tiny phone screen
How about Robin Williams?? Apparently very positive in his daily interactions and described as a radiator but still took his own life  |
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"Are there people who are positive and happy all the time??
Those kind of people freak me out.
I had a friend who proclaimed to be one of those people, when in reality his was hiding very deep pain.
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I think you answered your own question? Some people are very good at how they present themselves to the world but shield what they are feeling /thinking. You probably described half the population |
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I think there is a difference between poor mental health and being a negative person. I am usually a positive person, sure I can be cynical about others and life in general but when I think about my own feelings I'm usually up-beat. That didn't stop me going through a bout of depression - though it may well have helped limit that period. In just the same way a person who is constantly negative may not be dealing with MH issues, they just have a negative personality.
We all tend to judge others based on how we see things, how we experience life and how we react so when we meet people like this we assume that they could be like us but are choosing not to be. The reality is very different, the free will we believe has allowed us to make ourselves into the people we are is, in all probability, an illusion. We are the way we are as a product of things that to a large extent are outside our control - genetics and environment. Someone who is instinctively negative likely has no more chance of changing than you or I have of becoming a virtuoso pianist - we could put in hours and hours of practice and achieve a reasonable degree of competency but no matter how hard we try we will never be as good as those blessed with the "right" genes.
I tend to feel sorry for people who are relentlessly negative because if I felt like that I would be really miserable but presumably for them it feels normal which makes me wonder how I would even know if I was like that?
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You know that friend who always rings up to complain,yet refuses to do anything about the situation or take any action to better themselves?
Yes you do..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Some very interesting posts! Food for thought indeed.
I do think there is a difference between having a bad day, time in your life, being in a mood, feeling sad, having depression, personality disorder or a mental health issue and someone who is a mood hoover.
What do I know  I’m off to soak in a crystal bath and recharge my energy |
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.
I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.
I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything.
The point of the thread is how draining
Negativity is"
I read the O.P.
I understood the O.P.
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?
What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?
Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?
What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?
Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down "
Fun sponge!! Which sounds so cute it immediately starts counter acting the negative vibes! Duel effects, like a strepsil |
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I seem to have this effect on people but it's completely unintentional.
Everyone is laughing and having fun but the mood changes when I appear.
I don't know why because I like to share laughs and be silly sometimes.
It's hurtful to know that the only way to make sure everyone is having a good time is to leave them alone. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I seem to have this effect on people but it's completely unintentional.
Everyone is laughing and having fun but the mood changes when I appear.
I don't know why because I like to share laughs and be silly sometimes.
It's hurtful to know that the only way to make sure everyone is having a good time is to leave them alone."
I don't believe that
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"I seem to have this effect on people but it's completely unintentional.
Everyone is laughing and having fun but the mood changes when I appear.
I don't know why because I like to share laughs and be silly sometimes.
It's hurtful to know that the only way to make sure everyone is having a good time is to leave them alone."
Honestly we all tend to massively overestimate the impact we have on others. If you're not making negative comments, saying negative things about yourself, others or the situation then you really aren't having this effect even if you believe it. Unfortunately negativity can be self fulfilling, if you believe you're a negative person you'll make negative comments (like the one you posted on this thread about yourself) and that then portrays you as a negative person and justifies your statement. There's an old saying, if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing and it works incredibly well. If you only speak to say positive things about yourself and others then you will not be seen as a negative person.
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I try not to say any negative things, I think it's more down to difficulties in communication.
I'm very stoic and unreactive. I rarely smile or laugh even if I find something funny. I'm a stand up comedian's nightmare.
Conversely I find it difficult to read people and tell if they are joking or not, so it's hard to know how to respond. |
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I very pleasant and overly nice to them. Because when they flip, they'll hopefully spare me...
Though to be fair I'd rather avoid people at the other end of the spectrum, those people that declare themselves 'fun' and 'crazy'. |
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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.
There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.
Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.
Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.
Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.
Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.
I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.
I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything. "
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