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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase? |
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase? "
 you except so much from them that a lack of interest makes you think |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase?
you except so much from them that a lack of interest makes you think "
I suppose you have a point, why is that sexy guy talking to your mate and seemingly ignoring you? Now if he genuinely fancies her, that is fine. But sometimes you guys use that tactic to make us keener , dont you? DONT YOU? |
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I fancy very few men, whether they chase me or not.
I wouldn't think twice about most who only show a marginal interest as that would make me think they either weren't interested, or were only interested when a 'better' option wasn't available.
I'm nobody's port in a storm so I'd move on.
I've lusted from afar a couple of times, knowing that it wouldn't work, but I've only badly wanted someone who showed marginal interest once. He was upfront from the beginning that he wanted occasional NSA, so I knew where I stood. Man, he was addictive though. Couldn't stay away but it tore me up every time I met him. I had to walk away and burn the bridge after about a year.
Took me ages to get over him and I still feel regret he wasn't that into me.
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I fancy very few men, whether they chase me or not.
I wouldn't think twice about most who only show a marginal interest as that would make me think they either weren't interested, or were only interested when a 'better' option wasn't available.
I'm nobody's port in a storm so I'd move on.
I've lusted from afar a couple of times, knowing that it wouldn't work, but I've only badly wanted someone who showed marginal interest once. He was upfront from the beginning that he wanted occasional NSA, so I knew where I stood. Man, he was addictive though. Couldn't stay away but it tore me up every time I met him. I had to walk away and burn the bridge after about a year.
Took me ages to get over him and I still feel regret he wasn't that into me.
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I can totally understand and empathise with that. |
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase? "
I have more than marginal interest, but hope that doesn't turn you off |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase?
I have more than marginal interest, but hope that doesn't turn you off "
The margins are getting closer as we speak
PS delivery expected between 4th and 8th October  |
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase?
I have more than marginal interest, but hope that doesn't turn you off
The margins are getting closer as we speak
PS delivery expected between 4th and 8th October "
Sounds promising - chosen one |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase?
I have more than marginal interest, but hope that doesn't turn you off
The margins are getting closer as we speak
PS delivery expected between 4th and 8th October
Sounds promising - chosen one "
ANd that is just the ingredient |
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"It's a cocktail - all parts needed to make it what it is I appreciate the delicay, fullness of cock- tails"
It is all about fullness and strength; a long aftertaste that brings a smile to your lips |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's a cocktail - all parts needed to make it what it is I appreciate the delicay, fullness of cock- tails
It is all about fullness and strength; a long aftertaste that brings a smile to your lips"
licking them as I speak... I mean write...;-) |
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase? "
Is that a hint of DESPERATION I read there Aphrodite ???? xxx |
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"It's a cocktail - all parts needed to make it what it is I appreciate the delicay, fullness of cock- tails
It is all about fullness and strength; a long aftertaste that brings a smile to your lipslicking them as I speak... I mean write...;-)"
I hope so! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"why are men that do NOT chase us, that only show a "marginal" interest in us ... drive us mad? Why do we want what we think we might not be able to have? Is it about the chase?
Is that a hint of DESPERATION I read there Aphrodite ???? xxx"
If you are asking me this evening... I think I probably am Fancy coming over ?;-) xx |
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There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lol |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lol"
Totally!!! |
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!"
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now?  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now? "
You know what? This evening I am feeling exceptionally... err... well... errr... I like my inbox being active this evenig  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now? You know what? This evening I am feeling exceptionally... err... well... errr... I like my inbox being active this evenig "
Ours is dead tonight ....everyone must be out shagging each other  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now? You know what? This evening I am feeling exceptionally... err... well... errr... I like my inbox being active this evenig
Ours is dead tonight ....everyone must be out shagging each other "
I think most are stuffing their.... faces |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?"
True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get?
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get? "
Oh well in that case id still have no interest, thats the sort of thing we did in our younger day. You can play to hard to get and im not the sort to fawn over people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now? You know what? This evening I am feeling exceptionally... err... well... errr... I like my inbox being active this evenig
Ours is dead tonight ....everyone must be out shagging each other I think most are stuffing their.... faces "
I've finished eating, get your coat, you've pulled...finally! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get?
Oh well in that case id still have no interest, thats the sort of thing we did in our younger day. You can play to hard to get and im not the sort to fawn over people"
Maybe I did not explain myself properly. I was not thinking of fawning over people. It is a more subtle "game" in want of a better word. I mean a subtle toing and fro- ing... a flirtatious push and pull, carefully adapted to make the chase more exciting. Well, that is what it feels llike but sometimes it can be soooo frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now? You know what? This evening I am feeling exceptionally... err... well... errr... I like my inbox being active this evenig
Ours is dead tonight ....everyone must be out shagging each other "
My mailbox is fairly quiet, which is nice as that was the intention when I hid my profile.
I considered making my first visit to a club tonight but I'm too sleepy and dopey.
I wouldn't mind a good shag but only if it doesn't involve the effort of getting all dressed up and stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is something about me (frock) making the first move... if they make the first move (wink, message etc.) it's gonna be very hard for them to grab and hold my attention.
If I make the first move, it obviously means I'm interested and working on getting what I want is very rewarding
Does that make any sense? lolTotally!!!
Phew! Now I know it isn't just me
....I wonder if our inbox is going to calm down a little now? You know what? This evening I am feeling exceptionally... err... well... errr... I like my inbox being active this evenig
Ours is dead tonight ....everyone must be out shagging each other
My mailbox is fairly quiet, which is nice as that was the intention when I hid my profile.
I considered making my first visit to a club tonight but I'm too sleepy and dopey.
I wouldn't mind a good shag but only if it doesn't involve the effort of getting all dressed up and stuff."
Surely getting dressed defeats the object!..lol |
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get?
Oh well in that case id still have no interest, thats the sort of thing we did in our younger day. You can play to hard to get and im not the sort to fawn over peopleMaybe I did not explain myself properly. I was not thinking of fawning over people. It is a more subtle "game" in want of a better word. I mean a subtle toing and fro- ing... a flirtatious push and pull, carefully adapted to make the chase more exciting. Well, that is what it feels llike but sometimes it can be soooo frustrating. "
I know what you mean. I have little patience for game playing though. They're either interested, or not. I'm either interested, or not. Schedules don't always align well to be able to act on things quickly, of course. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get?
Oh well in that case id still have no interest, thats the sort of thing we did in our younger day. You can play to hard to get and im not the sort to fawn over peopleMaybe I did not explain myself properly. I was not thinking of fawning over people. It is a more subtle "game" in want of a better word. I mean a subtle toing and fro- ing... a flirtatious push and pull, carefully adapted to make the chase more exciting. Well, that is what it feels llike but sometimes it can be soooo frustrating.
I know what you mean. I have little patience for game playing though. They're either interested, or not. I'm either interested, or not. Schedules don't always align well to be able to act on things quickly, of course."
Do you think, that perhaps having a "dom" streak makes people less patient with those games? |
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get?
Oh well in that case id still have no interest, thats the sort of thing we did in our younger day. You can play to hard to get and im not the sort to fawn over peopleMaybe I did not explain myself properly. I was not thinking of fawning over people. It is a more subtle "game" in want of a better word. I mean a subtle toing and fro- ing... a flirtatious push and pull, carefully adapted to make the chase more exciting. Well, that is what it feels llike but sometimes it can be soooo frustrating.
I know what you mean. I have little patience for game playing though. They're either interested, or not. I'm either interested, or not. Schedules don't always align well to be able to act on things quickly, of course.Do you think, that perhaps having a "dom" streak makes people less patient with those games? "
Depends on the Dom, I'd think.
An uber-dumbinant, do as I say now type would probably expect their word obeyed instantly and may well be intolerant.
A decent Dom would be at least as patient as anyone else. Doms, good ones, need to be understanding with nervous subs. It takes self control and calm to take charge of someone else, not impatience.
That said, most give respect and expect at least a basic level of respect in return, even from strangers and may tire quickly of those not taking things seriously, (i.e. wasting their time).
Decent Doms recognise that submission is a consensual thing and not everyone is submissive to them. That means they realise they can't expect anything more from a person than anyone else would.
So, bad Dom, very possibly. Good Dom, not necessarily.
That's just my thoughts (at 6am with no sleep). Others may disagree. Hell, give it a couple of hours and I may see things differently.
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"I thought you were feeling sleepy and dopey tonight, kinky? (I bet the other dwarfs were gutted!)
That's a well thought out and nicely worded post for 06:00 "
I couldn't sleep. I'm fairly shattered. My eyes feel gritty and as though they are too large for my eye sockets.
I just can't sleep at night for some reason. I can sleep all day with no trouble but even when I'm really tired I find sleeping at night virtually impossible. My brain won't shut down.
I've got a Transvision Vamp song going round and round in my head - just a few lines - and I have had all night. It's driving me round the twist. It's not even a song I like much. |
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"I thought you were feeling sleepy and dopey tonight, kinky? (I bet the other dwarfs were gutted!)
That's a well thought out and nicely worded post for 06:00
I couldn't sleep. I'm fairly shattered. My eyes feel gritty and as though they are too large for my eye sockets.
I just can't sleep at night for some reason. I can sleep all day with no trouble but even when I'm really tired I find sleeping at night virtually impossible. My brain won't shut down.
I've got a Transvision Vamp song going round and round in my head - just a few lines - and I have had all night. It's driving me round the twist. It's not even a song I like much."
I really suffered with this too, was given a white noise generator that helped quite a bit. Was told it was my mind processing all info from day and brain not shutting down  |
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There is a guy at the BMFC party who is in charge of the food. He is not a swinger but a caterer. He is gorgeous. He's a very sexy american and when I'm there I spend a little time sitting where I can see and hear him just to stare.
He was wandewring around the playareas once and my OH asled him if he wanted to join us. The guy explained that he wasn't a swinger and his gf was downstairs but he came and gave me a lovely hug and whispered in my ear 'if I could I would, you are gorgeous'.
Now I know he was just saying it to be pleasant but it made me smile. It is just a daft lust thing when I'm at the party, a bit of a jokey thing, as obviously I don't seriously fancy and dream about wanting him, but its nice to admire from afar. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"To be honest if a guy was paying me very little interest i wouldnt give him a second thought. Im not a mind reader. How are you supposed to know they are interested?True. Maybe I should have said that it seems that they are interested but then they almost "play" hard to get?
Oh well in that case id still have no interest, thats the sort of thing we did in our younger day. You can play to hard to get and im not the sort to fawn over peopleMaybe I did not explain myself properly. I was not thinking of fawning over people. It is a more subtle "game" in want of a better word. I mean a subtle toing and fro- ing... a flirtatious push and pull, carefully adapted to make the chase more exciting. Well, that is what it feels llike but sometimes it can be soooo frustrating.
I know what you mean. I have little patience for game playing though. They're either interested, or not. I'm either interested, or not. Schedules don't always align well to be able to act on things quickly, of course.Do you think, that perhaps having a "dom" streak makes people less patient with those games?
Depends on the Dom, I'd think.
An uber-dumbinant, do as I say now type would probably expect their word obeyed instantly and may well be intolerant.
A decent Dom would be at least as patient as anyone else. Doms, good ones, need to be understanding with nervous subs. It takes self control and calm to take charge of someone else, not impatience.
That said, most give respect and expect at least a basic level of respect in return, even from strangers and may tire quickly of those not taking things seriously, (i.e. wasting their time).
Decent Doms recognise that submission is a consensual thing and not everyone is submissive to them. That means they realise they can't expect anything more from a person than anyone else would.
So, bad Dom, very possibly. Good Dom, not necessarily.
That's just my thoughts (at 6am with no sleep). Others may disagree. Hell, give it a couple of hours and I may see things differently.
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Makes a lot of sense to me -Thanks  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"There is a guy at the BMFC party who is in charge of the food. He is not a swinger but a caterer. He is gorgeous. He's a very sexy american and when I'm there I spend a little time sitting where I can see and hear him just to stare.
He was wandewring around the playareas once and my OH asled him if he wanted to join us. The guy explained that he wasn't a swinger and his gf was downstairs but he came and gave me a lovely hug and whispered in my ear 'if I could I would, you are gorgeous'.
Now I know he was just saying it to be pleasant but it made me smile. It is just a daft lust thing when I'm at the party, a bit of a jokey thing, as obviously I don't seriously fancy and dream about wanting him, but its nice to admire from afar. "
That is a lovely thing to experience - alomst kind of "romantic" in a way and certainly one that made me smile. |
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