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This is getting tedious

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

Now I’m being told that I must have upset lots of people because they’re all discussing that I’m a fake (feel like a celebrity that I’m the topic of conversation hahaha) if true, but it’s getting really tedious!

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use your filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Use your filters "

Filter everyone from messaging? I mostly like chatting here on the whole though, that would stop me doing that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block everyone and message those who you’re interested in. Failing that roll with the punches.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore as you are doing hun xx

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By *ue and robCouple over a year ago

ware

Agree use filters block unverified profiles take your pics off its there loss we're all here for different things

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Block non verified..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just try your best to ignore. There can be some right nasty arseholes on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx"

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would definitely block unverified profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just try your best to ignore. There can be some right nasty arseholes on here. "

I know and I’m usually really tough skinned but you know when you think “fuck me! What more can I do?” It just gets you down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would definitely block unverified profiles! "

I’ll do that

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

Report as abusive and block.

Don't log in if you know you're in a sensitive mood, cos there are an awful lot of twattish ppl around. But remember there are also some very lovely ones too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Report as abusive and block.

Don't log in if you know you're in a sensitive mood, cos there are an awful lot of twattish ppl around. But remember there are also some very lovely ones too

Thank you, you’re completely right!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much. "

Play with couples and girls

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

As others have said block unverified, those without public photos, new accounts etc.

If you do block men/women/couples then those you have been talking to can still message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jealous makes people do and behave very strangely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just try your best to ignore. There can be some right nasty arseholes on here.

I know and I’m usually really tough skinned but you know when you think “fuck me! What more can I do?” It just gets you down."

Aye...had a few occasions like that. But you need to remember if this is all some individuals have to do to get their rocks off then they really are sad fuckers. Rise above it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much.

Play with couples and girls

xx"

If only I wasn’t straight! It would be soooo much easier!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As others have said block unverified, those without public photos, new accounts etc.

If you do block men/women/couples then those you have been talking to can still message."
m

Thank you, will do

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just try your best to ignore. There can be some right nasty arseholes on here.

I know and I’m usually really tough skinned but you know when you think “fuck me! What more can I do?” It just gets you down.

Aye...had a few occasions like that. But you need to remember if this is all some individuals have to do to get their rocks off then they really are sad fuckers. Rise above it.

Sad aren’t they

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much.

Play with couples and girls

If only I wasn’t straight! It would be soooo much easier!!!

Yeah lol. Bless you. Maybe give it a try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Use your filters

Filter everyone from messaging? I mostly like chatting here on the whole though, that would stop me doing that."

No it wouldn't

It would put you in control of who you chat to

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’ve been accused of being fake, take it with a pinch of salt, why let strangers ruin your time on here, as others have said block and filter, people like that want a response/reaction don’t give it to them, your better then that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much.

Play with couples and girls

If only I wasn’t straight! It would be soooo much easier!!!

Yeah lol. Bless you. Maybe give it a try

xx"

If this shit continues, I might just do that!!! I’m getting to the end of my rope!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a fake what? Fake person fake profile, fake tits?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

You know your genuine

That's all that matters xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve been accused of being fake, take it with a pinch of salt, why let strangers ruin your time on here, as others have said block and filter, people like that want a response/reaction don’t give it to them, your better then that x"

I usually do, I think it’s just increased in frequency and it used to be younger lads, now it’s older guys who I wouldn’t expect it from! It’s a shame, there are some lovely people on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Being a fake what? Fake person fake profile, fake tits?"

The fake tits I can’t deny haha

No, a fake profile, not real!

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By *hubby CoupleCouple over a year ago

Essex

You don’t have anything to prove to anyone….although a voice video of you telling the haters to do one, would be funny

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

You know your genuine

That's all that matters xxx"

True but it’s just relentless at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Upload a verification type photo with your name and the date on it and make it public? Xx

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly my suggestion would be to do what I've done and turn on every filter and just message the people I want because it's just really not worth dealing with these bellends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re a very attractive woman, but your profile pic is heavily filtered. It almost doesn’t look real. So I’m not condoning their behaviour in any way, but maybe it’s that they’re focusing on.

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

You know your genuine

That's all that matters xxx

True but it’s just relentless at the moment. "

Block them xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much.

Play with couples and girls

If only I wasn’t straight! It would be soooo much easier!!!

Yeah lol. Bless you. Maybe give it a try

If this shit continues, I might just do that!!! I’m getting to the end of my rope!

Ignore the haters and the evils of society…block the wankers that infect this site and keep those levels of self-worth, confidence and elegance high!!

You have nothing to prove to anyone!!

BLOCK, SMILE, BLOCK, SMILE, BLOCK, SMILE until there’s that one message that just piques your interest…there’s some gems on here and you’ll find one I’m sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly my suggestion would be to do what I've done and turn on every filter and just message the people I want because it's just really not worth dealing with these bellends

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Can you message me please Lacey? I have a new profile but we used to talk before xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Block unverified accounts...

Filters are a wonderful thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Honestly my suggestion would be to do what I've done and turn on every filter and just message the people I want because it's just really not worth dealing with these bellends

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That’s what I’m going to do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t let them get to you and don’t let them win

You can throw up all the filters so no one can message you but if you message them it will open a line off communication

If you don’t want to go down that root

You can block new profile from messages

Or unverified profile

Or you can put it to site supoter only

Hugs hope you feel better soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely block unverified profiles!

I’ll do that

I like to chat too but I do restrict some people such as non photo verified, non verified, no public pics and I set age limits... I lower these for forum challenges occasionally.... and these restrictions really do help.

Don't get disheartened my lovely, just restrict the access and carry on with what you want from here.

Good luck

NBVN x

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Who's discussing?

You've just got to leave them to it and get on with your own business.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"You’re a very attractive woman, but your profile pic is heavily filtered. It almost doesn’t look real. So I’m not condoning their behaviour in any way, but maybe it’s that they’re focusing on.

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant."

That's her it's not filtered xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Who's discussing?

You've just got to leave them to it and get on with your own business. "

Probably no one and I think it was just said to make it more dramatic but it did really annoy me!

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I’ve not read up there ^^ but if it’s not been said then block anyone who’s not verified and tighten your filters up more. Some will still sneak through but that’s the nature of the beast I’m afraid

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant.

That's her it's not filtered xx"

It only has a coloured effect over it, I haven’t changed my appearance other than that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would definitely block unverified profiles!

I’ll do that

Don't get disheartened my lovely, just restrict the access and carry on with what you want from here.

Good luck

NBVN x"

Thank you

I’ve put all of my filters on now

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant.

That's her it's not filtered xx

It only has a coloured effect over it, I haven’t changed my appearance other than that

I know xxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I’ve not read up there ^^ but if it’s not been said then block anyone who’s not verified and tighten your filters up more. Some will still sneak through but that’s the nature of the beast I’m afraid

Blocked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is her, yes, but it’s got that blurry fake look that filters can give you when you’re looking to enhance your appearance. So not a total misrepresentation, but a very slight one maybe.

Anyway, that’s just my thought. I’ll shut my piehole now

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By *acDreamyMan over a year ago

Wirral

Perhaps turn it around. What they are saying is that you look more attractive and seem more lovely than they expected they would find on fab. Their tiny brains just can't articulate it very well, especially because they are cross that that dick pic they sent didn't trigger an immediate meet!

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It is her, yes, but it’s got that blurry fake look that filters can give you when you’re looking to enhance your appearance. So not a total misrepresentation, but a very slight one maybe.

Anyway, that’s just my thought. I’ll shut my piehole now

xx"

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant.

That's her it's not filtered xx

It only has a coloured effect over it, I haven’t changed my appearance other than that

Sorry, missed that! X

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant."

I’d agree with this. The pic essentially looks like a cgi image rather than a real photo. Tbh I thought that level of photoshop/filtering was against fab rules - but apparently not.

I’ve no doubt that you’re very pretty - so all I’d recommend is that you show pics that aren’t so heavily filtered/photoshopped.

That and some veris will call bullshit on anyone saying you’re not real.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you to everyone for all of your lovely and helpful comments.

I’ve got all of my filters up now so hopefully it should stop

Appreciate it millions, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You get on with it, I’m unverified and to be honest I don’t need to jump through the hoops as I’m only here really for the forums and the odd bit of banter, I’d block all unverified and try and filter the idiots, I’m aware you probably get hundreds of messages per day so that’s difficult but if you are getting abusive messages especially from those to I have turned down then report them for unacceptable behaviour

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Thank you to everyone for all of your lovely and helpful comments.

I’ve got all of my filters up now so hopefully it should stop

Appreciate it millions, thanks

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant.

I’d agree with this. The pic essentially looks like a cgi image rather than a real photo. Tbh I thought that level of photoshop/filtering was against fab rules - but apparently not.

I’ve no doubt that you’re very pretty - so all I’d recommend is that you show pics that aren’t so heavily filtered/photoshopped.

That and some veris will call bullshit on anyone saying you’re not real. "

If people don’t like my photo, surely the fact that I’m showing a veri from a club and have lots of other meets (as well as being photo verified by admin) should be enough?

It’s not the greatest quality of photo but it literally has a colour effect over it and nothing else (my other photos don’t even have that!)

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By *esthetic21Man over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

If you write your username on your hand and post a pic how can they call you fake after that? Not that you should have to but...

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"If you write your username on your hand and post a pic how can they call you fake after that? Not that you should have to but..."

Why should she

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

You can't help being that pretty

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You get on with it, I’m unverified and to be honest I don’t need to jump through the hoops as I’m only here really for the forums and the odd bit of banter, I’d block all unverified and try and filter the idiots, I’m aware you probably get hundreds of messages per day so that’s difficult but if you are getting abusive messages especially from those to I have turned down then report them for unacceptable behaviour "

I do report and block abuse but some days it just gets to you doesn’t it.

The only person that should be arsed about my realness is the person I’m meeting and I always video call first so it really shouldn’t matter to anyone else

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By *olymalelincsMan over a year ago

southend

To the OP please don't let the jealous fuckers grind you down as others have said set your filters up and keep growing that block list, some people on here get so shitty if you don't reply and fail to understand that you are under no obligation to do so if you are not interested in them, my ex used to get some absolutely vile messages from guys if she didn't respond to them. You are fully verified so I find it really hard to see how you could possibly be fake unless you have managed to create your own conspiracy lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haters will always hate, there’s no point in denying that. The filters will help and just block anyone who doesn’t take the hint

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you write your username on your hand and post a pic how can they call you fake after that? Not that you should have to but..."

I’ve already done that and been verified by admin. You can see that I’m photo verified from my profile.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

Block new, and unverified users? That won't fix it but it would hopefully stem the tide a little. You could always go full shields up and block everyone, then if you like you can send the first messages or wink a profile you like so they can message you.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Modern society is fairly toxic, doesn't matter what platform. Industry, area, sexuality, clothing taste, race, I mean even what games console you use! Most people just can't seem to handle the idea that everyone is different and that we're all human.

I obviously don't know you at all. You could be 90% plastic (or fake at least) or 100% natural, it really doesn't matter, your personality seems to be great and that's the more important thing. At the end of the day, you're an attractive person, and everything you choose to do, or not to do, should be for you. I'm certainly not going to be sending messages to anyone saying anything negative, quite the opposite! The world needs some positivity ffs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To the OP please don't let the jealous fuckers grind you down as others have said set your filters up and keep growing that block list, some people on here get so shitty if you don't reply and fail to understand that you are under no obligation to do so if you are not interested in them, my ex used to get some absolutely vile messages from guys if she didn't respond to them. You are fully verified so I find it really hard to see how you could possibly be fake unless you have managed to create your own conspiracy lol"

I think that’s why it’s so infuriating!! I’m both photo and meet verified, showing one from a very reliable source and it’s still not good enough!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Block new, and unverified users? That won't fix it but it would hopefully stem the tide a little. You could always go full shields up and block everyone, then if you like you can send the first messages or wink a profile you like so they can message you.

LvM"

I’ve got maximum filters now, hopefully that will help

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Modern society is fairly toxic, doesn't matter what platform. Industry, area, sexuality, clothing taste, race, I mean even what games console you use! Most people just can't seem to handle the idea that everyone is different and that we're all human.

Thank you

I’m all about the positivity as much as possible, even though I’m currently moaning haha

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

The ones that are insulting you are usually the dreamers remember that xx

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

It's just the downside of being very hot, everyone thinks you're a cat fish. I of course, get it all the time...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The ones that are insulting you are usually the dreamers remember that xx"

I know, the problem is with them - not me, and I do try to keep that in mind but some days it’s a bit much. Must be my mood. Usually I can ignore and laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that’s why it’s so infuriating!! I’m both photo and meet verified, showing one from a very reliable source and it’s still not good enough! "

Trying to rationalise the claims and insults is where your going wrong.

People lash out at others through jealousy and frustration on here.

It doesn't really have anything to do with them thinking you are fake

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"The ones that are insulting you are usually the dreamers remember that xx

I know, the problem is with them - not me, and I do try to keep that in mind but some days it’s a bit much. Must be my mood. Usually I can ignore and laugh

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's just the downside of being very hot, everyone thinks you're a cat fish. I of course, get it all the time...

Haha if get that I’d I was asking them for something but I literally just read the forums these days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think that’s why it’s so infuriating!! I’m both photo and meet verified, showing one from a very reliable source and it’s still not good enough!

Trying to rationalise the claims and insults is where your going wrong.

People lash out at others through jealousy and frustration on here.

It doesn't really have anything to do with them thinking you are fake"

You’re right

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By *olymalelincsMan over a year ago

southend

I think that’s why it’s so infuriating!! I’m both photo and meet verified, showing one from a very reliable source and it’s still not good enough! "

At times I think some people are just so bitter that they have to try and make someone else feel bad so that in some sick way it makes them feel better about themselves by putting someone else down

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

Fortunately there are some nice people on here, unfortunately there are lots of keyboard warriors also.

Let them think what they like as you know you and that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get exactly the same….funnily enough always from people I say no too. They can’t take rejection…don’t give it any thought x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use the filters and move to Dublin

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Use the filters and move to Dublin

She only drinks champagne

Not

Guinness x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s a compliment in a way

but I totally see your point

And as for groups chatting about you, well if they are it’s just pure jealousy on their part, you look and come as absolutely lovely

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By *jorkishMan over a year ago

Seaforth

Ignore them they're wimps and really sad. Groups talking about you - really? If their is then there's a few very sad individuals on this site

Chin up, you're a Liverpool girl and Liverpool expects every girl to do her duty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep going hunny you have as much right to be here as anyone with pictures, oh and a photo verification.

Short sighted some people!!!

More of your great posts would be good to read again too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make use of the messaging filters. It's improved my experience massively.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Use the filters and move to Dublin

She only drinks champagne

Not

Guinness x"

Haha love it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Use the filters and move to Dublin

She only drinks champagne

Not

Guinness x

Haha love it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

We or I should say I as I manage the account got fed up with 300/400 + messages a day so we closed that account and opened a new one but never used verifications ever and it’s worked like a charm.

We get about 15 or so messages a day and for us it works well keeping the chaff away.

You do you and let them worry about their own life’s and not yours.

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Thank you to everyone for all of your lovely and helpful comments.

I’ve got all of my filters up now so hopefully it should stop

Appreciate it millions, thanks

Hope you enjoy fab life more now x

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Aw sorry you're getting such negativity, it's really out of order.

I'm sure this has been said already but you don't need to change a thing regarding your profile unless YOU want to. But if youre wanting to appear more natural.. Could you use less filter on your top pic.

Use your message filters too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being a fake what? Fake person fake profile, fake tits?"

Why the hell does it matter? I consider almost everyone here fake until I actually meet them..

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

I do report and block abuse but some days it just gets to you doesn’t it.

The only person that should be arsed about my realness is the person I’m meeting and I always video call first so it really shouldn’t matter to anyone else

Hopefully the change to filters will stop some of the nonsense, and will let you get back to finding this place fun again.

Ultimately you don't owe a damn thing to anyone on here. If they want to talk about you then fuckit, let them.

I've always said anyone is free to start any rumours they want about me. If they're interesting enough or funny enough I'll even play along with it. I'm not about to justify myself to anyone though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks all

I’m hopeful that it will stop now and will continue to block and report any abuse. It’s sad but I suppose it has to be expected in this day and age

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks all

I’m hopeful that it will stop now and will continue to block and report any abuse. It’s sad but I suppose it has to be expected in this day and age

No it doesn’t….these people should be highlighted and educated on the values of being nice and supportive!!

But as I said earlier….ignore the jealous arseholes as they ain’t important and they don’t define who you are or what you represent…you are you and don’t need to prove anything!!

THEY DONT MATTER!!

As the penguins from Madagascar say;

Smile and wave boys, just smile and wave!! (Obviously you’re not a boy…or are you…please talk as light hearted humour!!

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After being on and off here for years with now five different profiles abuse is rife and it’s unfortunate but for all the idiots there will sometimes be that diamond that will make it all worthwhile, don’t lose who you are for anyone, you me everyone reading this

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By *hil most chillMan over a year ago

South East & Europe

At the risk of being accused of white knighting, I’m guessing the haters are out because your pics are pretty damn hot! They refuse to believe such a hottie could be on a site like this and unfortunately they feel the need to share these views.

It’s shit that it happens, and that it’s bothering you, all I can suggest is block and report. But keep on being you of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who's discussing?

You've just got to leave them to it and get on with your own business.

Probably no one and I think it was just said to make it more dramatic but it did really annoy me! "

People talk in chat groups off site. Their opinion is worthless, ignore it.

It will just be sad jealous people. Sometimes they say a woman is fake so she gets mad and says she will meet them to 'prove' she is real. Just manipulation.

Hope you feel better now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whatever you do, they are gonna claim fake. Any picture can be claimed to be photoshopped. Even with meet veris I can claim that you did this when your origiel has "real" pics and these are new ones.

Id say haters gonna hate, but I'd not wanna get pulled into a plagurism lawsuit.

Just read the message as "I can't believe beauty like you exists outside of magazines" and dylelete, block, and move on.

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

Sorry, genuinely no offence meant.

I’d agree with this. The pic essentially looks like a cgi image rather than a real photo. Tbh I thought that level of photoshop/filtering was against fab rules - but apparently not.

I’ve no doubt that you’re very pretty - so all I’d recommend is that you show pics that aren’t so heavily filtered/photoshopped.

That and some veris will call bullshit on anyone saying you’re not real.

If people don’t like my photo, surely the fact that I’m showing a veri from a club and have lots of other meets (as well as being photo verified by admin) should be enough?

It’s not the greatest quality of photo but it literally has a colour effect over it and nothing else (my other photos don’t even have that!) "

Then you’re totally blemish and wrinkle free and I hate you worse than poison!

(Joking ofc - it’s a quote from a children’s book!)

Tbh if you look that ‘perfect’ in reality then let the lucky guys you meet find that out for themselves.

The only opinions that matter on here are the opinions of those that you like/want to be friends with and those you might want to shag at some point - all the others are completely superfluous. X

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By *ltra72Man over a year ago

edinburgh

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

Nobody should be getting nasty messages on here, it’s a site for meeting people with the same interests as ourselves. Report and block them x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t understand why they’d call you a fake when you are clearly verified in every possible way. I bet they just say it because you don’t answer or whatever x and they hate that they get ignored

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By *ilver Fox 60Man over a year ago

Southport

No idea as I get "This profile is not available for you to view"

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

When someone messages saying you're fake tell them to prove it.

Then ignore every message thereafter.

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

Maybe hide profile and message people who interest yourself. Unhide briefly just for them. I have had that a couple of times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just own it.

I’ve had some great fun replying to people that think my face pictures are fake.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

perhaps the contradictions on the profile might be an issue.

"Please don’t message me if you are married or cheating. please.

Looking For

Not looking for single guys

Men"

If you are looking for men but not looking for single guys then you are either looking for married men even though you say you aren't or are you possibly looking for multiple men at the same time?

Let's face it, it is easy to confuse men and they get upset at that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could start trolling them back. Say they're right and you're actually a man with a ginormous purple penis. Then ask them if they want to see it. If they ignore you, message them repeatedly asking them if they will be your friend until they block you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"perhaps the contradictions on the profile might be an issue.

"Please don’t message me if you are married or cheating. please.

Looking For

Not looking for single guys

Men"

If you are looking for men but not looking for single guys then you are either looking for married men even though you say you aren't or are you possibly looking for multiple men at the same time?

Let's face it, it is easy to confuse men and they get upset at that. "

Some men

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"perhaps the contradictions on the profile might be an issue.

"Please don’t message me if you are married or cheating. please.

Looking For

Not looking for single guys

Men"

If you are looking for men but not looking for single guys then you are either looking for married men even though you say you aren't or are you possibly looking for multiple men at the same time?

Let's face it, it is easy to confuse men and they get upset at that.

That comes up when you turn on message filters to block single men.

It's also entirely possible to meet men who have partners but aren't cheating.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I think, as someone else has put, that they’re hoping you’ll be so miffed that they think you’re fake that you say I’ll prove it, and give out more pics or a meet.

I mean most rational folk know that the chance of a proof meet will be rarer than rocking horse shit, but sometimes folk use their knob to think with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Afraid it's part of this sites make up. abuse from all avenues. Goods looking girls like you are in high demand, and a lot of jealous and envious people can't accept you for what you are. It's hard but just block them and ignore, you know who you are that's all that counts.

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

I dunno, maybe ignore strangers on the internet? Sounds hard but I’m sure you can do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d like blood

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"I think, as someone else has put, that they’re hoping you’ll be so miffed that they think you’re fake that you say I’ll prove it, and give out more pics or a meet.

I mean most rational folk know that the chance of a proof meet will be rarer than rocking horse shit, but sometimes folk use their knob to think with.

Judging by some of the messages I get some folk are also using their knob to type with.

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

Use your filters so no one can message you, and just message the ones you want to speak to...it's technology an easy solution. I know it's scary for sone women to message first, but what other options do you have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

Hi Liverpoolgirl1234

Me and my wife are so sorry to read about the abuse your suffering on here.

No one should have to tolerate being bullied or suffer false accusations on any social platform.

We have been through a similar situation when a couple of guys were told that we were not interested in them. They then began to send abusive messages and we had to block them and pass on their profile details to the administration.

So If you would be open to some advice this is something that I have learnt over the years.

Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

And it sounds like you are dealing with idiots.

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By *aiseiMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

Other than courtesy within the ruling limits of this site, you don’t owe anyone anything. Not an explanation of who you are, what you do, why this, that or the other.

You could turn up on such detractors’ respective doorsteps with your parents, a birth certificate and a pile of family photo albums…..they’d still invent some bullshit to avoid admitting they were wrong.

You know who you are and the people that matter do too.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

I do usually but there’s comes a point doesn’t there. I’m fairly sure that I’m not the topic of a group conversation and that it was said to try to upset me but it’s getting a bit much. "

Bingo and to get a reaction from you. Guess what. It worked.

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By *ltra72Man over a year ago

edinburgh

"You could start trolling them back. Say they're right and you're actually a man with a ginormous purple penis. Then ask them if they want to see it. If they ignore you, message them repeatedly asking them if they will be your friend until they block you. "

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By *itzi999Woman over a year ago

Slough

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

You’re photo verified, so only the blind (or really stupid) could accuse you of being fake! Just block any idiot you do not wish to speak to and if they send you offensive messages, report them to the mods!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

Ignore it. Don't give it the time of day. If they're too busy trying to work out if you're fake or not it's wasting time and showing they aren't interested in meeting. So block them. I've had it a few times.

I sent a face pic to someone and I was told my collarbone didn't match. Its ridiculous. Just eyeroll, block and move on to normal folk that don't get caught up in bullshit and actually want to meet or chat.

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By *inkylipsWoman over a year ago

Debauchery

Obviously they don’t believe someone as beautiful as you would be on this site. Just delete them, don’t even say anything to them, they aren’t worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I feel much better after reading all of your responses. I’m only going to message people that I’d like to chat with from now on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone, I feel much better after reading all of your responses. I’m only going to message people that I’d like to chat with from now on

You are an amazing person and don’t let anyone tell you differently and don’t let anyone drag you down to their low levels.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Thanks everyone, I feel much better after reading all of your responses. I’m only going to message people that I’d like to chat with from now on

Best of luck! It's massively improved my fab experience!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was in the same boat OP. People always told me I stole Henry Cavill's pics when it's the other way round

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be yourself and be comfortable with it.

You can't worry for other people's vulnerabilities or insecurities.

People like you will find you and there will be fabtimes to be had.

Enjoy.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"Just try your best to ignore. There can be some right nasty arseholes on here.

I know and I’m usually really tough skinned but you know when you think “fuck me! What more can I do?” It just gets you down."

Nothing. You can’t do anything. They’re jealous or bored trolls and you shouldn’t give them a second more of your time or thought. That’s your precious time! Block unverified users and report abuse, genuine people shine through all the crap

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By *rank speakerMan over a year ago

Worcester

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

You certainly look genuine to me as you can't beat live verifications? I think you're probably to good to be true and the accusations are from your knockbacks? Try displaying a couple more verifications from verified profiles and ignore the sad keyboard warriors that seem rife here atm? Best of luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

So sorry you're having a tough time. If you can just ignore them. They are just jealous. Youporn real to me and many I say beautiful too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all

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By *oeBeansMan over a year ago

Derby

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

So sorry you're having a tough time. If you can just ignore them. They are just jealous. Youporn real to me and many I say beautiful too "

I think autocorrect has really stitched you up there mate

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By *immyinreadingMan over a year ago

henley on thames

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

So sorry you're having a tough time. If you can just ignore them. They are just jealous. Youporn real to me and many I say beautiful too "

“Youporn”. D’oh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

So sorry you're having a tough time. If you can just ignore them. They are just jealous. Youporn real to me and many I say beautiful too

“Youporn”. D’oh! "

I’m definitely not on youporn hahaha

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Aside from adjusting your filters there are a couple of things you can do.

1. never read a message sent after midnight, just delete them, they seldom have anything nice to say and are sent by (mostly) lonely/d*unk people

2. Never read a message from a “shadow” avatar, just delete them, anonymity breeds abhorrent behaviour

3. Only read messages from verified people (filter out unverified people), they have more to lose and tend to stay within the tracks.

4. Only read messages from me, I’m lovely

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Aside from adjusting your filters there are a couple of things you can do.

1. never read a message sent after midnight, just delete them, they seldom have anything nice to say and are sent by (mostly) lonely/d*unk people

2. Never read a message from a “shadow” avatar, just delete them, anonymity breeds abhorrent behaviour

3. Only read messages from verified people (filter out unverified people), they have more to lose and tend to stay within the tracks.

4. Only read messages from me, I’m lovely "

Haha, some valid and useful points. I will take them on board

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By *ich_ChesterMan over a year ago

Chester

Think everyone has mentioned all the valid and useful points to protect yourself and the amount of messages being sent to you, hope it helps x

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By *inx and NymphCouple over a year ago

bristol

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

I had something similar when I first joined. I just filled out my profile a bit more and added a very and it got better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But are you fake?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But are you fake?

Some parts are me definitely are

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"But are you fake?

Some parts are me definitely are

Its not fake if you can squeeze it and make a clown horn noise!

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By *irth VaderMan over a year ago

glasgow

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

Haters gonna hate. Women who are envious of your oils and perceived lifestyle and by men who n on ow they have a snowballs chance in hell of being with you.

Fuck them. Metaphorically speaking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never been accused of being a fake profile on fab, but I have been on tinder so I know how that feels like. Met people in person already who told me to my face they swiped left on me because they thought I was fake lol.

Good that you have tough skin, amd just ignore those who are against you, focus on yourself and you'll be fine in the long run, keep your head up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd recommend not using Snapchat type filters on your photos. That may be giving people the wrong impression about the authenticity of your profile.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"But are you fake?

Some parts are me definitely are

To be honest the first picture does look fake , like a cartoon in my opinion , but your other photos are nice / fine, maybe it’s just that pic?

It’s no excuse for abuse , just ignore , it’s spam, bin it , block , do your thing and don’t give a fuck what others think or say

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By *ilverjagMan over a year ago

swansea

If it's any consolation, I'm getting similar messages from muppets thinking I'm fake despite my track record because, I'm having to turn down people regularly using the excuse that I have taken on the role of carer for my mum who has vascular dementia and athrites in both knees leaving her virtually wheelchair bound. My mum is not going to be hived off into a granny farm to vegetate, nor am I kissing goodbye to around £1,500 a week to keep my mum in such an institution. That's why I've not got recent verifications, but those that on here says more about me than I ever could if these idiots had the intelligence to go and read them along with the content of my profile. Most of my friends who I've helped out with accommodation over the years know my current situation, and understand that those days will eventually return, but there are two in particular people that I've pissed off because, I won't simply give them keys for houses so as they can help themselves to my hospitality without the need for me to be there, They won't be on my guest list in the future. There's also some clowns who think the reason why I am rarely meeting off here these days is because I must have got married now and only playing away fixtures. Such individuals I simply see as vexations of their own inadequacy, I'd look on these people in much the same light if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd recommend not using Snapchat type filters on your photos. That may be giving people the wrong impression about the authenticity of your profile.

IS"

I can remove the addition of colour (which is all that’s on it, a “summer hue” as it’s called) but my face will not look any different and I do show another face shot with no lovely colour addition.

This to me is irrelevant when I’m verified (by a reputable source) that yes, that is me and yes, that’s what I look like (thanks to Botox and surgery).

Part of me wonders why people I’m never going to cross paths with are so concerned (not aiming this at you btw), surely only the people I’m meeting should be concerned and I insist on a video call anyway (for my own reassurance) so where’s the harm?

If I’m only really here for the forums and the occasional club visit these days, what would it matter if I added bunny ears or a dog nose?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Delete your account, run away to vegas with me, get married by Elvis… problem solved!!

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Delete your account, run away to vegas with me, get married by Elvis… problem solved!!

Just saying "

Can I wear a bunny nose and ears ? Haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh god no… deals off, sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"oh god no… deals off, sorry

Damn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could just about handle “cute” stamped on your face several times…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women in their 40's arent meant to be fit or attractive. It always seems to come as a shock to people on here that 40+ doesnt mean freshly pulled from the grave. I suspect green eyed monsters of both sexes. Easy said but ignore, block, ignore and carry on shining.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I could just about handle “cute” stamped on your face several times… "

Haha that’s ok then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Women in their 40's arent meant to be fit or attractive. It always seems to come as a shock to people on here that 40+ doesnt mean freshly pulled from the grave. I suspect green eyed monsters of both sexes. Easy said but ignore, block, ignore and carry on shining.

That is so true!!! To be fair, I’ve had a shit load of work done but still, it’s quite offensive to every female in their 40’s (myself included) to hear “I can’t believe you’re 43!”.

But that’s a whole other thread

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That’s a bit pessimistic.. Iv not been reading the forums long but surely this place isn’t as superficial as that. Is it?!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That’s a bit pessimistic.. Iv not been reading the forums long but surely this place isn’t as superficial as that. Is it?!? "

Nooooooo, not at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

40+ is a good age for a women , they have found them self, they k ow what they want and their life is on track, some don't look in 40s but who cares if your nice and treat people with respect age is just a number,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

Play with couples and girls

If only I wasn’t straight! It would be soooo much easier!!!

I used to say the same thing all the time Haha, but there's pros and cons either way, trust me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ignore as you are doing hun xx

Play with couples and girls

If only I wasn’t straight! It would be soooo much easier!!!

I used to say the same thing all the time Haha, but there's pros and cons either way, trust me

Oh, I can imagine!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, and I'm the living 2 legged example that I usually telling that to Woman.

I think ..

Being fit as a teen is just a one thing .. knowing that I can lie off 20years it is make internally proud.. But to hear this from someone or repeatedly hear this from people That is giving the feeling that is a payback for the hard work.

And I will keep make the day for those ..

(until now nobody told me off)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Block non verified..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I can do with my profile (other than hide it!) as I’m getting really fed up now!

Ever since I joined, I get DAILY messages accusing me of being a fake, some quite abusive (which I report and block).

I’m photo verified, meet verified and verified by the lovely peeps at club play after a night there!

What more do people want? Blood?

Now usually (albeit annoying and boring!), I let it go over my head but todays messages have really annoyed me!

The funny thing is, a lot of these messages come from unverified accounts!!

Any advice guys and girls?

So others struggle with this? What do you do?

I know right !!!!

It’s a curse been beautiful i also have that burden ha

just carry on and who cares if people think your fake so what !!!!

I’m not attractive enough to be accused of been fake but if I was I really wouldn’t give a second thought to what anyone thought of me on here !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just go along with it when it happens to me.

You could always block messages from unverified profiles if that's where the main abuse is coming from.

You know you're real and I am sure others who you're interested know too and that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just go along with it when it happens to me.

You could always block messages from unverified profiles if that's where the main abuse is coming from.

You know you're real and I am sure others who you're interested know too and that's all that matters. "

Exactly It’s really not difficult to prove you are who you say you are but I’d very rarely go out of my way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’ve blocked all messages now so that’s definitely put a stop to it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd recommend not using Snapchat type filters on your photos. That may be giving people the wrong impression about the authenticity of your profile.

This to me is irrelevant when I’m verified (by a reputable source) that yes, that is me and yes, that’s what I look like (thanks to Botox and surgery).

If I’m only really here for the forums and the occasional club visit these days, what would it matter if I added bunny ears or a dog nose?

Many don't even bother to read the veris (possibly because they can't read), but more importantly if you're only on here for the forums and the occasional club visit, you might as well go full Ronald McDonald with your look, because whether someone thinks you're fake or not really isn't relevant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve blocked all messages now so that’s definitely put a stop to it

I love getting called fake it’s hilarious some women get so infuriated and I do absolutely nothing to try calm the situation !

You might get bored now

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By *urious_Female89Woman over a year ago

great yarmouth

Happens to me also! Apparently many around my area think I'm fake/its a guy running my profile even after pic verifing and phone chats! It has gotten to me so I completely understand x

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By *r SproutMan over a year ago

the middle

Strangely enough I’ve never been called fake

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Strangely enough I’ve never been called fake

That’s cause we all know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But are you fake?

Some parts are me definitely are

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