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Swinging, it's not that bloody complicated!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not one to usually start threads but i saw something on the chat forum that prompted me to write this.
In light of the continual trickle feed of new offerings from folk who feel hard done by, let down, abused or simply ignored on this swing site I thought I would offer a couple of very salient points for consideration.
I fully appreciate that some people will vehemently disagree with some of what I suggest, but as the list defines exactly how we conduct our selves when looking for new playmates you can probably guess how we may view your opposing thoughts, apologies in advance.
1. As a member of this site the site owners, apart from ensuring you are treated in accordance with the site rules owe you absolutely nothing.
2. As a member of this site apart from treating you in accordance with the site rules no other site member owes anything what so ever
3. Treat others in the manner that you would LIKE them to treat you, but be mature and sensible enough to accept that, just as in life there are folk out there who will not adhere to what you perceive to be good manners. Your version of polite will always differ from others and tolerance with regard to that is a really handy virtue
4. Read other folks profiles carefully and be totally honest and realistic when considering your suitability, as in totally honest and realistic. God may well love a tryer but most swingers do not
5. Despite supposed popular opinion a one liner PM can work. A message saying “Hi, have a look at our profile and if we look the sort of folk you like to meet then let us know” is perfectly acceptable, there is absolutely no need for War and Peace on first contact provided your profile is up to date, pertinent and full. It goes without saying that a message stating “you wanna fuck” is going to get you no where fast
6. Unsolicited friends invites and inappropriate winks are about as popular as a cup of cold sick, think long and hard about both and apply rule 4 stringently before doing either
7. No reply simply means thanks but no thanks and this without doubt appears to the most difficult rule for some to grasp. Just because YOU think your profile is suited and just because YOU have written a polite pm does not mean that THEY, the recipients do not think “No feckin way” See rules 2 and 4 for reference but NO reply means, and always will do, THANKS BUT NO THANKS, so man up, deal with it and move on
8. Expect to be messed about, ignored and treated poorly, if you start from this position you will avoid disappointment and anything better is simply a bonus
I expect others to add snippets to this in the same way I expect others to take us to task but in 8 years of swinging the above has worked perfectly well for us so not too sure why others have to make such a feckin drama out of it
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reading the OP has given me a headache! 
