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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I miss C.
I used to do voluntary befriending work, for a charity that supports vulnerable women. I was matched with someone and we really hit it off from the start. We’d meet up for a couple of hours every week at the Project, and just chat. She was isolated, her mum had died, she had just had a baby, and I was someone to talk to. I loved it too.
After a couple of years when the charity ran out of funding and could no longer facilitate the meets, she and I exchanged numbers and met up like regular friends. Well, sort of, as we only ever met at my place for several reasons. We kept this up for another couple of years.
Then she moved house (still within the same city) and we had a fall out, as she went off radar and I was worried sick. She finally got in touch and promised she wouldn’t do that again. Then she did! Feeling like the relationship had run its course on her side, I stepped aside and let her get on with it.
But here’s the thing, I miss her! I miss our chats, seeing her child who I’d known since birth, and she always had my back. At this time of year particularly, we’d be chatting excitedly about what food we were going to have, our decorations, the presents we’d bought for our kids, etc.
I’m glad I knew her, and I hope she feels the same. I hope I made her realise that she was 100% worthy as a friend, and as a person in general. I hope she has made new friends, in spite of her social anxiety and acute lack of confidence.
Who do you miss from your past? x
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over a year ago
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I miss a school friend. Two school friends actually.
One of them we just drifted apart. She did say some horrible stuff about me which I could never forget but we would spend hours every night just walking, talking, laughing, crying. I miss it. I don't like the toxic person she's become though.
The other school friend was like a big sister to me. A good head on her shoulders although she was the one getting into trouble at school, I was clever enough to not get caught. She then went to college with my younger brothers. But she ended up going through cancer treatment at the same time as my brother. In the same hospital and same ward. We talked often and arranged to meet a couple of weeks later when I took my brother for his treatment. Unfortunately she passed away before we got chance to see her again.  |
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My oldest school friend. She told a relative she didn’t know what to say to me after my husband died. So just chose to ignore me at the worst possible time in my life. We haven’t spoken for 7/8 years |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My old English teacher from secondary school. I'd a hard time with bullies for a couple of year's. He'd talk to me about it, real hard bastard old school teacher, told me to start defending myself not to be taking crap. He got me out of a real slump. |
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over a year ago
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My friend Kris. We met when we were 16 on xbox live, we played games together all day, everyday. We became brothers though we had never met. As we got older and other aspects of life became priorities we drifted apart.
Ive kept trying to arrange for us to meet up finally after all these years but ive seen less and less enthusiasm and interest from him to finally do it.
We're still on each others friends list on social media and xbox live, but now i feel his lack of effort to contribute and communicate spells the end of our friendship.
We made many good memories together while we played games together, a dynamic duo, partners in crime, brothers in the virtual world, best friends in our teenage years. I miss those times. But unfortunately all good things come to an end. The worst part is i know he wouldnt be as upset as i would be if the friendship is ended |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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My grandmother, every day. I miss her FaceTime calls where she would try and lip read as her hearing wasn’t great, her home cooked meals, her warm hugs, her voice, her guidance…just everything about her xx |
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I miss my older brother. He used to be full of life and and real joy to be around as he would do the most random things to make us laugh and you could have a great conversation with him. I don't know if it was work or just life in general but as the years have passed, he just seems to be the exact opposite where you don't want to be around him anymore as he can really bring the mood down... |
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I had a very close friend, probably for many years my best friend. We'd known each other for years, but had run into some issues when I got back in touch with my dad and my friend thought I should've kept my distance (there's a whole heap of history there).
We bumped along but there was some unaccustomed tension between us. He was German and went back to visit family and he died in a car crash over there.
There was the shock of his death, then it was a very sudden Jewish funeral, so I didn't have the sort of ritual closure I'd have had from a funeral in English or a Christian funeral - not that I'm religious but I understand the symbolism and meanings of a Christian service where the Jewish symbols and rituals were alien to me.
It all left me feeling slightly adrift, and at times I can't quite believe he's not going to phone me and give me shit. He died in 2015 but I still miss him every single day. Truth told I miss him more than my dad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't miss anyone from my childhood as I'm still in contact with the very few I want to be.
However, I do miss my best friend, she commited suicide four and a half years ago and not a day passes by when I don't think of her, I miss our nights at the pub together so much. She was so beautiful but never thought it.
Danish x
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My mum  we used to speak daily and her death came as a huge shock. Since I’ve had my little boy I miss her even more as she was such a good support with my first son. It’s strange but I was worried I couldn’t do childbirth without her, when I went into the delivery suite the midwife said I could put my phone on blue tooth so I did and just put on 80s tunes from Amazon music, the first song that came on was her favourite song which we had at her funeral- I sobbed but felt so at ease as I knew she was with me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My friend Kris. We met when we were 16 on xbox live, we played games together all day, everyday. We became brothers though we had never met. As we got older and other aspects of life became priorities we drifted apart.
Ive kept trying to arrange for us to meet up finally after all these years but ive seen less and less enthusiasm and interest from him to finally do it.
We're still on each others friends list on social media and xbox live, but now i feel his lack of effort to contribute and communicate spells the end of our friendship.
We made many good memories together while we played games together, a dynamic duo, partners in crime, brothers in the virtual world, best friends in our teenage years. I miss those times. But unfortunately all good things come to an end. The worst part is i know he wouldnt be as upset as i would be if the friendship is ended "
He might just have life stuff going on. Don't give up on him.   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wow sorry this is such a depressing thread"
It was never intended to be, but if that’s your perception then I can understand.
Personally, I feel quite touched that people have opened up in the way that they have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow sorry this is such a depressing thread
It was never intended to be, but if that’s your perception then I can understand.
Personally, I feel quite touched that people have opened up in the way that they have."
To have SO LITTLE respect for this thread says it all.
I find it refreshing and as stated touching. |
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"Wow sorry this is such a depressing thread
It was never intended to be, but if that’s your perception then I can understand.
Personally, I feel quite touched that people have opened up in the way that they have."
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I miss T. An amazing Kyrgyz-Russian woman who I spent a few years working with on a project, who had ice blue eyes and who changed her hair colour to suit the seasons. We spent 3 years travelling all over her fair country, laughing, working and drinking. I would fly in and out (as would she) and I was always happy to see that infectious maniacal grin that meant mischief was afoot whenever I landed.
The only person I couldn’t second guess, the only one that could say my name in a “you’re in trouble mister” kinda way. And the shock on her face when I admitted I spoke fluent Russian after 2 years was a picture, watching her wrack her brains for all the times she insulted me in her mother tongue (there were lots) and turning a blushed peach colour as I winked at her
We weren’t lovers (she wasn’t orientated towards male partners) but by the gods being around her was to feel alive, last time I saw her was 10 years or so ago, we went to see a herpetologist at London zoo, one frosty winter morning (she had a problem with snakes in one of her projects in Tanzania), walking around the zoo grounds before it opened to the public was a joy, I said goodbye to her on the bridge in London nearest the London Eye that evening and then she was gone from my life (and I from hers).
But T, your eyes put the stars to shame, forever be well, you are a cherished memory in my beautiful life x |
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"I miss C.
I used to do voluntary befriending work, for a charity that supports vulnerable women. I was matched with someone and we really hit it off from the start. We’d meet up for a couple of hours every week at the Project, and just chat. She was isolated, her mum had died, she had just had a baby, and I was someone to talk to. I loved it too.
After a couple of years when the charity ran out of funding and could no longer facilitate the meets, she and I exchanged numbers and met up like regular friends. Well, sort of, as we only ever met at my place for several reasons. We kept this up for another couple of years.
Then she moved house (still within the same city) and we had a fall out, as she went off radar and I was worried sick. She finally got in touch and promised she wouldn’t do that again. Then she did! Feeling like the relationship had run its course on her side, I stepped aside and let her get on with it.
But here’s the thing, I miss her! I miss our chats, seeing her child who I’d known since birth, and she always had my back. At this time of year particularly, we’d be chatting excitedly about what food we were going to have, our decorations, the presents we’d bought for our kids, etc.
I’m glad I knew her, and I hope she feels the same. I hope I made her realise that she was 100% worthy as a friend, and as a person in general. I hope she has made new friends, in spite of her social anxiety and acute lack of confidence.
Who do you miss from your past? x
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That’s a great story. Thanks for sharing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I think about my first love. The way we were so innocent and explored the sins of the flesh together, trying new things and pushing boundaries which unlimited made us fall in love. Those days always make me smile and my hear skip a beat.
But the one I miss the most is myself. Life kind of gets in the way.... career, kids, marriage. Who you become is never who you expected to be I suppose.
One thing is certainly clear to me given the way the world is turning out, is the need to prioritise myself. To do things that make me happy and what my heart desires to hopefully find that carefree energetic man I once was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My oldest school friend. She told a relative she didn’t know what to say to me after my husband died. So just chose to ignore me at the worst possible time in my life. We haven’t spoken for 7/8 years "
Maybe she is looking back and regretting not being there for you at such a difficult time.
Why don’t you reach out to her ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow sorry this is such a depressing thread"
…….you could of just said nothing. People are opening their hearts here, reliving past loves and past lives. Sorry that’s killed your buzz |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I miss T. An amazing Kyrgyz-Russian woman who I spent a few years working with on a project, who had ice blue eyes and who changed her hair colour to suit the seasons. We spent 3 years travelling all over her fair country, laughing, working and drinking. I would fly in and out (as would she) and I was always happy to see that infectious maniacal grin that meant mischief was afoot whenever I landed.
The only person I couldn’t second guess, the only one that could say my name in a “you’re in trouble mister” kinda way. And the shock on her face when I admitted I spoke fluent Russian after 2 years was a picture, watching her wrack her brains for all the times she insulted me in her mother tongue (there were lots) and turning a blushed peach colour as I winked at her
We weren’t lovers (she wasn’t orientated towards male partners) but by the gods being around her was to feel alive, last time I saw her was 10 years or so ago, we went to see a herpetologist at London zoo, one frosty winter morning (she had a problem with snakes in one of her projects in Tanzania), walking around the zoo grounds before it opened to the public was a joy, I said goodbye to her on the bridge in London nearest the London Eye that evening and then she was gone from my life (and I from hers).
But T, your eyes put the stars to shame, forever be well, you are a cherished memory in my beautiful life x "
Oh this was such a lovely read ! |
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"My husband. Goes without saying. But he’s in the present, not past - in the faces and hearts of my beautiful children "
My ex lives on in our children and grandchildren, I tell my son and daughter that every time I see them. I have a 3 rd grandchild due in feb who will be named after her nanna |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I miss so many people I left behind because my stupid ex didn't like them for whatever reason. I've reconnected with a few but it's never been the same as when we were really close. I fear reaching out to some of the others for this reason. |
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