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Would you date someone who rejected you/friendzoned you
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Simple enough question. Would you date someone who once friendzoned you or rejected your romantic advances? (even if that person was extremely attractive)
This could be fab or other dating site or people you've met in the real world.
For me personally I can't do it, if you say no to me once, I'm good, moved on. I have been friendzoned once in my life(that was this year) and I was so confused as to what was happening I didn't even realise I was friendzoned until a year had passed.
But anyway, curious to hear your thoughts on this forumites
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. I dont play those games. Im not someone they can just throw away and pick back up whenever they want to. Especially if they think ill still be the same the second time around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the circumstances. If she said no first in a respectful manner, then why not? I have changed opinions about people multiple times. So can others. |
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"Depends on how much time. Things change, relationships change, what people want in life changes. So yes maybe"
That's what I was thinking. At the time of rejection, that person was experiencing different things in their life etc. As time progresses, people's situations change. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope. If you reject me one day then that’s it. I’m done and will move on"
Ditto bruv, I don't care these days I'm really harsh, too harsh at times but yea for me it's a pride thing. I don't even let women get away with little stuff anymore and forgive them and stuff, too many bad experiences have made me really toughen up. |
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This happened with my ex wife I made a pass one week and she rejected me, a few weeks later we bump into each other and she makes that pass at me .....fast forward many years were now divorced ...
But still friends
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"Sorry but, .....what on earth is friendzoned????"
It's a term mostly used by men who feel that being friends with women is a poor second to being in a sexual relationship with them or who are disappointed even they discover that a woman who's been friendly towards him isn't interested in him sexually. Women do use it but not as often in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of no, but depends on the circumstances of the no, I wouldn’t expect every decision I make now to definitively be one that stands the test of time, so I’d I can get things wrong, so can others. It may well be a no in most circumstances, but never an automatic no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being friends is half the battle. I probably would yes if I thought we still had a connection. Circumstances change, and if they hadnt been mean in their rejection of me then yes maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I've been friendzoned when I was younger, it was after being physical..which in some ways is even worse..
Eons ago, one lady said to me that I "fucked like Alan partridge "..I probably should have friend zoned her, as I was never really attracted to her. I didn't have the maturity, backbone etc. at the time.
Ridiculous (and shameful) behaviour now, when I look back..
I wouldn't venture there now, no, to answer the original question.
-I don't think I'd ever get into that situation, or put someone else in it though, as I'm much more honest as I've got older. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
It's not really a situation I can relate to. But if they had rejected me then the barriers will go up, never to come down again. So I'd fuck em but I'd never give them any more than that. But if I was really smitten with them I'd probably be vulnerable and could never handle being just a friend and fucking them would probably mindfuck myself even further. Answer is no!! |
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It depends.
If I've said I'm not interested in a sexual or romantic relationship with someone then I would expect them to respect that, it's hellish when someone keeps pushing and I keep having to reject them (rejection is no fun for either party).
That said sometimes feelings will build over time and someone I've viewed purely as a friend will come to be more.
There are occasions where I've judged someone on behaviour I've observed only to find that's not truly representative of who they are, and as I've got to know them better my opinion of them has changed.
Sometimes I've been turned down due to circumstances. Circumstances change, and if someone comes back to me at a later point I won't dismiss them out of hand just because the timing wasn't right when I first approached them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dated someone for 8 years ..then all of a sudden friend zoned found out she was seeing someone who subsequently died suddenly ...she wanted to re start our "relationship" was never the same and we drifted apart ..im never someone's 2nd best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once I’m parked in the friends zone, I’m done. Happy to be friends but won’t push for anything more
As for returning once it’s ended, he’ll no. Once thrown back I’m going to be moving on. |
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I can't say that I've ever been in the friendzoned situation, but on straight dating sites where I've been on and off a few times, I have painted the funnel with women who turned me down first time round, presumably because they were spoilt for choice at the time. Obviously they did not have a clue that it was me who was originally on their reject pile tha time around. They all ended up as history though by my choice only because, I don't believe in flogging a dead horse.
With fab being more casual and laidback, no pun intended, it's different and I probably wouldn't even realise that they didn't fancy me at one time unless they actually told me. It may have even happened after socials that people who didn't like the sound of me online thought that I didn't seem such a bad guy after all, and I didn't know it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, if we had remained friends. I would certainly meet for a social. The internet is not a great medium for meaningful communication and I'm an acquired taste. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I wasn’t good enough the first 5 times I asked what has changed now?
Nope. No thanks.
6 might just be your lucky number 
Should I ask you again then? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I’d never be able to get past that they thought there was something they didn’t like enough about me to date. It would always be at the back of my mind that I was a ‘last resort’ or and ‘alternate choice’. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
Sorry I am not the brightest so I had to google what friendszone means the answer I got is.Where one person wants to take things to the next level whilst the other just wants to be friends.From a personal perspective I would rather keep that friendship than risk losing it all together so I probably wouldn’t make the first move in case I upset the other person. |
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If I was interested in a man romantically but he made it clear he just wanted to be friends I'd be disappointed but happy to have made a friend. If after getting to know me he found that my personality made me attractive to him I don't think I'd pass up the opportunity for a potentially great relationship.
I see loads of people in the forum and in profiles say that personality is more important to them than looks. It seems b that isn't strictly true if people aren't prepared for someone to get to know their personality before they find them attractive |
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