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Advice re running a small party?
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Hi all.
We're thinking of running a few house parties next year as we have a big empty house and plenty of space.
If anyone else has done this, some pointers and tips (on how to NOT bollox it all up) would be appreciated.
Probably gonna invite 10-12 couples. No single men (sorry).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have plenty condoms in the rooms, you won’t believe how many people “forget” them
Also refreshments, tea, coffee nothing fancy, just something to break the ice
A bin of some description in the rooms for used condoms |
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from our experience admittedly limited, of going to parties I would say the following.
Make sure one of you is hosting at all times ie alert and sober, limit alcohol some people get nasty with a drink and you don't want to be cleaning up after someone who had one too many babychams, have a social only area, put anything valuable away safely eg bank cards, money jewellery for your guests sake as well as your own, explain your house rules clearly to your guests on the invitation along with dress code.
Are you going to invite people you already know? |
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Been to a well run house party…
They provided a buffet and soft drinks.
It was in Summer so everyone was in the garden chatting.
Then moved into the kitchen for socialising and the playroom was downstairs and you could come and go…
Was 6/7 couples and there was no pressure.
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By *HoneyWoman
over a year ago
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Get waterproof mattress covers, make an e-flyer that sets out your rules, arrival time, no drugs etc…
Plenty of snacks and some drinks and charge people a small fee to cover your own fees as it will end up costing a lot otherwise and that way you’re almost guaranteed people turning up
I’ve only ever been to one private party, with a set amount of single guys/girls and couples |
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"from our experience admittedly limited, of going to parties I would say the following.
Make sure one of you is hosting at all times ie alert and sober, limit alcohol some people get nasty with a drink and you don't want to be cleaning up after someone who had one too many babychams, have a social only area, put anything valuable away safely eg bank cards, money jewellery for your guests sake as well as your own, explain your house rules clearly to your guests on the invitation along with dress code.
Are you going to invite people you already know? "
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"Get waterproof mattress covers, make an e-flyer that sets out your rules, arrival time, no drugs etc…
Plenty of snacks and some drinks and charge people a small fee to cover your own fees as it will end up costing a lot otherwise and that way you’re almost guaranteed people turning up
I’ve only ever been to one private party, with a set amount of single guys/girls and couples"
This also |
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Thanks everyone for the sound advice.
Numbers likely to be 10-12 couples as we can probably muster 5 or 6 couples from our friends, so it seemed to be a good idea to mix it up a bit. Most will probably be friends of friends though or people we've communicated with on Fab or fetlife, so we'll have some idea of who's coming.
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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"Hi all.
We're thinking of running a few house parties next year as we have a big empty house and plenty of space.
If anyone else has done this, some pointers and tips (on how to NOT bollox it all up) would be appreciated.
Probably gonna invite 10-12 couples. No single men (sorry).
Regards J&S"
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Be prepared for cancellations. If supplying food, restrict it to nibbles. Nothing worse than wasted food. Ensure fragile ornaments are put away. Only invite people you know. Keep rooms locked apart from toilet, party room and kitchen if possible. |
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Make sure you invite people that's fit your democratic make sure you have structure rules in place ie areas of play areas of no good in a home for instance you don't want anybody f****** in your garden
If you have neighbours overlooking. |
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Have a "invite only" space.
No means no. Don't allow safe words. Unless everyone really knows everyone.
Set the ground rules before hand. And at the start.
Have a plan for if shit hits the fan.
Plenty of condoms.
Report any thing non consensual. |
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I used to host the odd party, but from my experience, make certain that you are sure of the people you are inviting, stick with people who you are fairly certain will be comfortable with one another. As has already been mentioned, make sure that one of you is sober. I used to have pomegranate juice in the fridge, everyone thought that I was drinking red wine, and apart from the fact that it meant that I was always the last man standing so to speak, being sober came in very handy when two women began fighting in the middle of my lounge floor when one got jealous over the other one seeing her husband with another woman for the first time, and I drove the culprits away from my place when things got out of hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have a plan for if shit hits the fan.
What would you suggest ?"
Not easy, and the biggest risk of a party. At the very least make sure you have a phone easily to hand and are prepared to call the police. (Another reason to not have drugs).
Having a few mates to hand may be useful.
But even if it is just "I'm gonna call the police" think about it now, and when you may have to, so that you arent panicking if one of the guys gets lairy because he thinks another has touched up his wife inappropriately.
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"from our experience admittedly limited, of going to parties I would say the following.
Make sure one of you is hosting at all times ie alert and sober, limit alcohol some people get nasty with a drink and you don't want to be cleaning up after someone who had one too many babychams, have a social only area, put anything valuable away safely eg bank cards, money jewellery for your guests sake as well as your own, explain your house rules clearly to your guests on the invitation along with dress code.
Are you going to invite people you already know? "
Funking hell by sound of it you had some right scumbags over what did they nick.
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"from our experience admittedly limited, of going to parties I would say the following.
Make sure one of you is hosting at all times ie alert and sober, limit alcohol some people get nasty with a drink and you don't want to be cleaning up after someone who had one too many babychams, have a social only area, put anything valuable away safely eg bank cards, money jewellery for your guests sake as well as your own, explain your house rules clearly to your guests on the invitation along with dress code.
Are you going to invite people you already know?
Funking hell by sound of it you had some right scumbags over what did they nick.
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My dignity
Nobody has ever nicked anything. I just think that if you're having people over that you don't know well it makes sense to take certain precautions. If you mislay your favourite necklace it's easy to think a party guest pinched it. That can cause bad feeling. |
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