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So I told my new partner about my crossdressing…
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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Typical response.
You’d expect if your being honest and truthful about a part of your personality that’s your true self, they’d be a bit more sympathetic and happy you told them at the beginning of a relationship. No lies or sneaking around or being caught unawares.
However just like all of my previous relationships it came out the same.
Totally accepting,
interested in why I crossdress, found it fascinating, have I any pictures, thanked me for telling her early in the relationship and it makes no difference to her. Another message this morning asking when we are going out on our next date.
So another relationship with another woman who doesn’t see the issues with crossdressing. Every single previous relationship the same, just different levels of involvement that’s all.
So for any other crossdressers, transvestites or people with a part of themselves they’d like to find a relationship with someone who’ll understand that kink or desire. Be honest as soon as possible, you never know until you tell them if they are accepting or not and if it goes wrong, well it’s better to know sooner than later.
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That's great. I often wonder if it's because a part of their partners life has been hidden from them that people get upset. Although I have had conversations with people who've told me they'd consider divorce if their partner told them they cross dressed, ironically some of these people were women who often wore men's clothes eg trousers and a shirt  |
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"That's great. I often wonder if it's because a part of their partners life has been hidden from them that people get upset. Although I have had conversations with people who've told me they'd consider divorce if their partner told them they cross dressed, ironically some of these people were women who often wore men's clothes eg trousers and a shirt "
In my experience, what you say is far more likely. No logic, no real reason, they just dont like it, thats men and women  |
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"That's great. I often wonder if it's because a part of their partners life has been hidden from them that people get upset. Although I have had conversations with people who've told me they'd consider divorce if their partner told them they cross dressed, ironically some of these people were women who often wore men's clothes eg trousers and a shirt
In my experience, what you say is far more likely. No logic, no real reason, they just dont like it, thats men and women "
These people were all very shocked when I said that being in a very long marriage if it was something my partner was interested in I'd have to at least give it consideration. |
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"That's great. I often wonder if it's because a part of their partners life has been hidden from them that people get upset. Although I have had conversations with people who've told me they'd consider divorce if their partner told them they cross dressed, ironically some of these people were women who often wore men's clothes eg trousers and a shirt
In my experience, what you say is far more likely. No logic, no real reason, they just dont like it, thats men and women "
Because when all is said and done, human law are just plain weird |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Cheshire |
"That's great. I often wonder if it's because a part of their partners life has been hidden from them that people get upset. Although I have had conversations with people who've told me they'd consider divorce if their partner told them they cross dressed, ironically some of these people were women who often wore men's clothes eg trousers and a shirt "
I like to get it out of the way as soon as possible. If you’re making plans to have a full on relationship then find out they can’t accept it, then it’s better to walk away.
It’s a credit to the majority of people who do know about me, that the majority think it’s no big deal. The only negativity I received was from a gay friend. |
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So glad it went so well for you!
This really goes for everybody's kinks and fantasies though.
If you're in a relationship. share your stuff - including your likes and wants. If it goes down like a lead balloon then either the two of you are not really compatible, or you're a fucking weirdo with very odd fantasies. 
Either way, honesty is the best policy.
"Typical response.
You’d expect if your being honest and truthful about a part of your personality that’s your true self, they’d be a bit more sympathetic and happy you told them at the beginning of a relationship. No lies or sneaking around or being caught unawares.
However just like all of my previous relationships it came out the same.
Totally accepting,
interested in why I crossdress, found it fascinating, have I any pictures, thanked me for telling her early in the relationship and it makes no difference to her. Another message this morning asking when we are going out on our next date.
So another relationship with another woman who doesn’t see the issues with crossdressing. Every single previous relationship the same, just different levels of involvement that’s all.
So for any other crossdressers, transvestites or people with a part of themselves they’d like to find a relationship with someone who’ll understand that kink or desire. Be honest as soon as possible, you never know until you tell them if they are accepting or not and if it goes wrong, well it’s better to know sooner than later.
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"You’ll get to go clothes shopping together. She’s probably realising she has found her dream man. Wise woman it seems. Looking good is this "
On our third date we were looking at vibrators in a lingerie shop. As we were having a laugh about it and being open as she has a few, It was then that I realised I may as well tell her. |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"So glad it went so well for you!
This really goes for everybody's kinks and fantasies though.
If you're in a relationship. share your stuff - including your likes and wants. If it goes down like a lead balloon then either the two of you are not really compatible, or you're a fucking weirdo with very odd fantasies.
Either way, honesty is the best policy.
Typical response.
You’d expect if your being honest and truthful about a part of your personality that’s your true self, they’d be a bit more sympathetic and happy you told them at the beginning of a relationship. No lies or sneaking around or being caught unawares.
However just like all of my previous relationships it came out the same.
Totally accepting,
interested in why I crossdress, found it fascinating, have I any pictures, thanked me for telling her early in the relationship and it makes no difference to her. Another message this morning asking when we are going out on our next date.
So another relationship with another woman who doesn’t see the issues with crossdressing. Every single previous relationship the same, just different levels of involvement that’s all.
So for any other crossdressers, transvestites or people with a part of themselves they’d like to find a relationship with someone who’ll understand that kink or desire. Be honest as soon as possible, you never know until you tell them if they are accepting or not and if it goes wrong, well it’s better to know sooner than later.
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It’s why I wanted to share. It may be crossdressing with me but for others it may be BDSM or another lifestyle choice. Talk and try to get them to understand if they don’t then move on or not, but at least it’s no longer hidden. Maybe in time things will change. |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"I love this! - really great to see that you have found someone so accepting and open minded 
Thank you for sharing - you've made my heart smile on a tough day!
Bob. X"
Thanks Bob, it’s Christmas time so I’d hoped to give some hope to those who think there’s no hope.
Hope tomorrow isn’t so tough for you. |
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"That's great. I often wonder if it's because a part of their partners life has been hidden from them that people get upset. Although I have had conversations with people who've told me they'd consider divorce if their partner told them they cross dressed, ironically some of these people were women who often wore men's clothes eg trousers and a shirt
In my experience, what you say is far more likely. No logic, no real reason, they just dont like it, thats men and women
These people were all very shocked when I said that being in a very long marriage if it was something my partner was interested in I'd have to at least give it consideration. "
Yep Ive seen it from both sides and when people dont realise you dress you get to hear what they really think! Same as racism and everything else.... to be fair, i can see why ladies dont want my arse getting all the attention lol one female hit her husband in a club for telling me i had a nice arse and then she said to him.. I dont believe you just said that!
how very fucking dare she! |
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In this day and age I would expect people to be ok with it. After all women have been wearing trousers for decades, millennia even… if you believe in God and read the bible if does say in there that women will not cross dress….. and yet we do and it’s not considered a sin… I am not religious one iota, but I know people who are and it’s ridiculous what they believe in yet do the complete opposite
Good on ya OP… you obviously attract the same type of ladies if you always get a good response  |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Happy for you OP. How do you feel having got it out in the open?  "
I always know it’s a subject to be brought up eventually. Sooner or later I have to ‘have the talk’.
I prefer as soon as possible, so any break up isn’t too bad on either side. We both walk away after a few pleasant hours together or stay together and build on what we have.
It’s no guarantee for the future but it is the cement that’ll help us build a relationship without secrets. |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"In this day and age I would expect people to be ok with it. After all women have been wearing trousers for decades, millennia even… if you believe in God and read the bible if does say in there that women will not cross dress….. and yet we do and it’s not considered a sin… I am not religious one iota, but I know people who are and it’s ridiculous what they believe in yet do the complete opposite
Good on ya OP… you obviously attract the same type of ladies if you always get a good response "
I do think it could be the women I’m attracted to, often share the same opinions on subjects close to my heart. It did help when we went into a lingerie shop and talked about sex toys and I knew then very little was off the table.
The next date will be interesting  |
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I agree in being honest with your partner .I will be dressing at home today with my wife .Will do some chat rooms and then wank off .Cant stand these admirers who slink out while the wifes at Tescos.After all we all enjoy sex.Its the same with admirers that want to meet somewhere safe.Safe from what .I always go for a walk up and down a layby to see whose interested .Claire xx |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Was she accepting of your bisexuality too or did she already know about that? I’m hoping if I ever have another relationship, that he’s bi "
Not yet, that’s to come. We met up yesterday and went to Blackpool for a walk, meal and had a drink in Wetherspoons …so we went full on Blackpool chic
She has talked about pleasuring herself to Lesbian porn and our conversations can be quite frank.
Not seeing her till New Years Eve now but it’ll be the night for more openness as she’s coming to mine for dinner and champagne at midnight. So it’s bound to end with sex, so I’ll turn the conversation towards my bisexuality. The good news is her Daughter is Bi, so it’s a good omen  |
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"Was she accepting of your bisexuality too or did she already know about that? I’m hoping if I ever have another relationship, that he’s bi
Not yet, that’s to come. We met up yesterday and went to Blackpool for a walk, meal and had a drink in Wetherspoons …so we went full on Blackpool chic
She has talked about pleasuring herself to Lesbian porn and our conversations can be quite frank.
Not seeing her till New Years Eve now but it’ll be the night for more openness as she’s coming to mine for dinner and champagne at midnight. So it’s bound to end with sex, so I’ll turn the conversation towards my bisexuality. The good news is her Daughter is Bi, so it’s a good omen "
Aww that’s great to hear
Best of luck to you both |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone and nice to see my thread resurrected.
It’s meant as hope for everyone, don’t think you’ll never find someone who’ll accept you for what you are. They’re out there you just need to find them. |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Was she accepting of your bisexuality too or did she already know about that? I’m hoping if I ever have another relationship, that he’s bi
Not yet, that’s to come. We met up yesterday and went to Blackpool for a walk, meal and had a drink in Wetherspoons …so we went full on Blackpool chic
She has talked about pleasuring herself to Lesbian porn and our conversations can be quite frank.
Not seeing her till New Years Eve now but it’ll be the night for more openness as she’s coming to mine for dinner and champagne at midnight. So it’s bound to end with sex, so I’ll turn the conversation towards my bisexuality. The good news is her Daughter is Bi, so it’s a good omen
Aww that’s great to hear
Best of luck to you both "
good luck with the Bi guy, he’ll be a lucky chap. |
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"Was she accepting of your bisexuality too or did she already know about that? I’m hoping if I ever have another relationship, that he’s bi
Not yet, that’s to come. We met up yesterday and went to Blackpool for a walk, meal and had a drink in Wetherspoons …so we went full on Blackpool chic
She has talked about pleasuring herself to Lesbian porn and our conversations can be quite frank.
Not seeing her till New Years Eve now but it’ll be the night for more openness as she’s coming to mine for dinner and champagne at midnight. So it’s bound to end with sex, so I’ll turn the conversation towards my bisexuality. The good news is her Daughter is Bi, so it’s a good omen
Aww that’s great to hear
Best of luck to you both
good luck with the Bi guy, he’ll be a lucky chap. "
Haven’t found one yet! But thank you |
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"Was she accepting of your bisexuality too or did she already know about that? I’m hoping if I ever have another relationship, that he’s bi
Not yet, that’s to come. We met up yesterday and went to Blackpool for a walk, meal and had a drink in Wetherspoons …so we went full on Blackpool chic
She has talked about pleasuring herself to Lesbian porn and our conversations can be quite frank.
Not seeing her till New Years Eve now but it’ll be the night for more openness as she’s coming to mine for dinner and champagne at midnight. So it’s bound to end with sex, so I’ll turn the conversation towards my bisexuality. The good news is her Daughter is Bi, so it’s a good omen
Aww that’s great to hear
Best of luck to you both
good luck with the Bi guy, he’ll be a lucky chap. "
Hope your New Years Eve went well, hope to see you both at Sparkle, Linda |
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By *tephTV67 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Was she accepting of your bisexuality too or did she already know about that? I’m hoping if I ever have another relationship, that he’s bi
Not yet, that’s to come. We met up yesterday and went to Blackpool for a walk, meal and had a drink in Wetherspoons …so we went full on Blackpool chic
She has talked about pleasuring herself to Lesbian porn and our conversations can be quite frank.
Not seeing her till New Years Eve now but it’ll be the night for more openness as she’s coming to mine for dinner and champagne at midnight. So it’s bound to end with sex, so I’ll turn the conversation towards my bisexuality. The good news is her Daughter is Bi, so it’s a good omen
Aww that’s great to hear
Best of luck to you both
good luck with the Bi guy, he’ll be a lucky chap.
Hope your New Years Eve went well, hope to see you both at Sparkle, Linda"
Funnily enough I told her about Sparkle yesterday and actually meeting other girls. She’s definitely interested, but not sure how much involvement in the social side she wants. Plus she works in Manchester City Centre and doesn’t want any awkward conversation at work if she’s seen.
We are still in the early stages of our relationship but it’s all positive so far. So come June I may have a partner with me |
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I am sat reading this ,drinking Gin and tonic with my wife . I am fully dressed as Claire . I feel very relaxed in female clothes. I sympathise with TV's who cant tell their wife that they like dressing as a woman and are going off for the day of cock sucking. Enjoy sex whilst you can.
Claire xxx |
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Brilliant news! 
