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By *xb82 OP Woman over a year ago

kent

I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s scary but a huge turn in x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ohhhhh it's the adrenaline wow it's unreal like defo a massive turn on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh alright! Yes damn it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That poor guy..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)"
the usual he’s have his balls ripped from him

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins) the usual he’s have his balls ripped from him

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he’d

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)"

His arsehole would be a ribbony, ragged mess by now.

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

Not me, I get repulsed by them personally.

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By *aughty but nice...Man over a year ago

Staffs

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)

His arsehole would be a ribbony, ragged mess by now.

Lol too right there the double standards on this site are illustrated right there......lol

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"
would you happily play if you knew they had a partner?

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By *irky_coupleCouple over a year ago

kirky

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)"

Is there double standards on fab?

Personally we wouldn't care. Their life,their issue.

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By *jorkishMan over a year ago

Seaforth

"That poor guy..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)

His arsehole would be a ribbony, ragged mess by now.

To start with, then petrol bombed to finish

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"

Oh I get it. At first I thought they were turning on you and I wondered why. Now I realist they turn you on, not turn on you. There's a big difference. Dozy me.

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope because I know what it feels like to be cheated on

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"

Cheating has real world consequences. What part turns you on the most; the emotional toll put on to the other partner and their families or the fact cheating is viewed as a social taboo?

Each to their own, but having experienced it first hand as well as dealing with the fall out of friends having to deal with cheating partners its not something I would actively seek out or promote.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"

Does it have to be without his knowledge? I'm perfectly happy for Hannah to be with a woman and there's no reason she wouldn't tell me. Would that scenario do anything for you? Luke

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Not particularly. Although her relationship status wouldn’t bother me if I fancied her. I don’t really get the old turned on by someone taken thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel like you can never judge someone’s situation. They might be cheating because of a controlling relationship they can’t leave due to fear etc? I feel as long as they’re honest and open with you about their situation then you make your own judgement as long as it’s discreet. It personally doesn’t turn me on as such but nor would it put me off and that works for men cheating and women.

Each to their own.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I feel like you can never judge someone’s situation. They might be cheating because of a controlling relationship they can’t leave due to fear etc? I feel as long as they’re honest and open with you about their situation then you make your own judgement as long as it’s discreet. It personally doesn’t turn me on as such but nor would it put me off and that works for men cheating and women.

Each to their own.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm against cheaters and liars so wouldn't be turned on by them. If they are untrustworthy to their partner why should I trust them ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)

His arsehole would be a ribbony, ragged mess by now.

Lol too right there the double standards on this site are illustrated right there......lol"

No they are not. That's a fallacy.

For it to be a double standard, the standard has to be applied differently by the SAME person and you have no way of knowing who objects or not on all the other threads you read. Unless you kept notes.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Not in the slightest.

It hurts my heart knowing people can be so cruel as to allow the person they "love" to live a lie. It crushes people, breaks their spirit, tips people over the edge and into depression or suicide and a whole lot more.

Would I want to be the cause of that? Would I fuck. I'm the result of that and it's no fucking fun at all, believe me.

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By *rmbtsTV/TS over a year ago

stockport

Just need a naughty lady to lead my wife astray slowly and turn her to a cock hungry wife while out together lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m really anti-cheating, but each to their own.

I feel like all I ever do is come on here and basically shoot fantasies down in flames

Maybe I should try to fit the brief and act more sexy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not nice when you're at the receiving end...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not nice when you're at the receiving end...

Exactly.

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By *arry monk40Man over a year ago

Telford

Love nailing another chumps wife

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Love nailing another chumps wife"

Fucking wow man. The disrespect is massive as it is and then you put the cherry on the top by calling an innocent casuality a chump. You disgust me to my core.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"It's not nice when you're at the receiving end...

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Love nailing another chumps wife"

Another man with a fiver and an erection who doesn't understand this lifestyle.

Lady Astor

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

"That poor guy..

This...I'd keep clear of women like that.

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By *andonmessMan over a year ago

A world all of his own

"Not in the slightest.

Would I want to be the cause of that? Would I fuck. I'm the result of that and it's no fucking fun at all, believe me.

Couldn't have put it more succinctly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not in the slightest.

Would I want to be the cause of that? Would I fuck. I'm the result of that and it's no fucking fun at all, believe me.

Totally on the same page as you with this x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"

Wow its dareing fun,excieting .gets the Adrenaline pumping. The chase. The setup meets and return home. All smug full of play n full use!!

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

having been cheated on by our previous partners, neither of us would do that to each other, no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get why it could be a turn on for some the thrill of being caught etc but it's a no from me. I came to this lifestyle as its all about trust, respect and enjoyment for all involved either directly or indirectly. I wouldnt want to be the one being cheated on so I'm not going to facilitate it. But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The thought of being the reason for someone else's hurt makes my stomach turn. I couldn't.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"Love nailing another chumps wife"
looking at you’re profile I’d say you’d prefer to nail the chump

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s not great for the Other Half. But it is hot

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

No, never cheated and don't want to help anyone cheat either. They could be absolutely stunning but if I know she is with someone and cheating, I'm not interested.

I guess it all comes down to if you care more about if anyone is being wronged than getting your leg over.

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By *ouplecu2015Couple over a year ago

Reading

Its very exciting idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unless you have been on the receiving end of being cheated on you will never understand the hurt. Nothing exciting about it.

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By *entleman of GirthMan over a year ago

Forest Row

The whole concept of cheating is _ased on the idea that monogamy is the ideal or norm. It isn’t, largely it’s a social convention which holds us all back.

Free yourself and break the chains. Love one another but give others freedom to love too.

There is nothing more liberating and beautiful in this world than a free adult with complete choice over their actions, with others with the same freedoms.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The whole concept of cheating is _ased on the idea that monogamy is the ideal or norm. It isn’t, largely it’s a social convention which holds us all back.

Free yourself and break the chains. Love one another but give others freedom to love too.

There is nothing more liberating and beautiful in this world than a free adult with complete choice over their actions, with others with the same freedoms. "

Great if you’re all on the same page

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own.

Yes, it’s rarely as simple as it sounds is it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Each to their own.

Yes, it’s rarely as simple as it sounds is it. "

No it isn’t. Everyone’s situation is different. I don’t agree with tarring everyone with the same “scumbag” brush. I meet married men but I wouldn’t meet one who was doing it just for the thrill of cheating. Hate these kind of threads. So judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love married or taken ladies more than singles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well it ain’t swinging.

Is there a fabcheaters.com ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No,not in the slightest, it causes destruction to everyone around it.. not nice at all.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

Cheating is cheating at the end of the day and any woman or man who help facilitate those who are fucking people behind their spouses back are equally responsible for any fallout that may occur (especially if they know the person was married)

I, for one could never hurt another woman that way so definitely NOT turn on for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women have needs also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The whole concept of cheating is _ased on the idea that monogamy is the ideal or norm. It isn’t, largely it’s a social convention which holds us all back.

Free yourself and break the chains. Love one another but give others freedom to love too.

There is nothing more liberating and beautiful in this world than a free adult with complete choice over their actions, with others with the same freedoms. "

Except monogamy kinda is the norm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a sex site if your looking to find love try a dating site .. its fabswingers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own.

Yes, it’s rarely as simple as it sounds is it.

Well said Nora, completely agree with you. There are many shades and many levels of it. People should not be judged for what they do

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By *ookingforfun9970Man over a year ago

nearby

If a woman has needs them so be it, this Is a none judgemental site where we can all enjoy each other

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The whole concept of cheating is _ased on the idea that monogamy is the ideal or norm. It isn’t, largely it’s a social convention which holds us all back.

Free yourself and break the chains. Love one another but give others freedom to love too.

There is nothing more liberating and beautiful in this world than a free adult with complete choice over their actions, with others with the same freedoms.

Except monogamy kinda is the norm"

Not on Fab it isn't

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Cheating is cheating at the end of the day and any woman or man who help facilitate those who are fucking people behind their spouses back are equally responsible for any fallout that may occur (especially if they know the person was married)

I, for one could never hurt another woman that way so definitely NOT turn on for me."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would rather be with a cheating women less chance she be clingy lol and vice versa lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is funny how as a society we look at cheating differently if it's a man or woman. Men are usually more likely to have the angry mob and women get a free pass.. Oh she must be really unhappy, lonely or in a controlling relationship. Cheating is cheating, gender equality and all that.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Certainly doesn’t turn me on.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope,I don't meet women, but anyone cheating is a total turn off to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dislike cheating women!

I’m not judging or hating on others who have done that before, BUT, as someone who has been cheated on and betrayed and heart broken, it’s really a touchy issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love nailing another chumps wife"

You didn't fall for this bait surely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love nailing another chumps wife"

Ludicrous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love it. The buzz of having fun where her husband sits, lays or eats. Love the buzz.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

I, for one could never hurt another woman that way so definitely NOT turn on for me."

LvM

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Would rather be with a cheating women less chance she be clingy lol and vice versa lol"

Until feelings do emerge and you end up potentially tearing families apart!

Personally I’d rather just have a wank than meet someone who I know is cheating on their partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love nailing another chumps wife"

You really are a gentleman.

I wasn’t going to give the post the decency of a reply but you don’t seem to be nailing anything but other women’s husbands!

Straight guy? I think not!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love it. The buzz of having fun where her husband sits, lays or eats. Love the buzz."

Another fab gentleman.

No concern for anything but the buzz!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get this OP and I agree it’s a turn on. Probably because it’s “wrong”.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get this OP and I agree it’s a turn on. Probably because it’s “wrong”."

Why is it a turn on exactly?

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman over a year ago

Cambs

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved. "

Exactly this x

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

No, anyone cheating is a turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Exactly this x "

I totally agree. Sleep with other people but no-one gets hurt.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved. "

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"

I don’t get turned on by the thought of some big angry bloke at my door wanting to batter me when she’s left her phone unlocked or confessed

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

. "

That sounds adorable

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get this OP and I agree it’s a turn on. Probably because it’s “wrong”.

Why is it a turn on exactly?"

I think it’s because of the “wrongness” of it, and the danger element of it.

If that makes sense. I guess maybe.

Oh I don’t know. I mean really who can describe these thing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My opinion on cheating. It's your life so do what you feel is right. Stay out of my life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They’re great for country songs

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

That sounds adorable

LvM"

I'm still all gooey over it.

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

I don't understand how people can correlate what the OP said with "polygamy " it's two completely different things. And I agree that circumstances are different for different people and cheating can be very complex and the reasons might even be understood in some cases...but to come out and say you are getting turned on by someone cheating is wrong on so many levels. If you are someone that gets turned on by cheating on your partner, or if you get turned on or derives pleasure by someone cheating on their partner, you are a full on narcissist with some sociopathic behaviour (because you don’t care that your direct actions are hurting someone) and you need a psychological evaluation fast! There's something wrong with you! And honestly I don't give a fuck if anyone gets offended by my comments.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't understand how people can correlate what the OP said with "polygamy " it's two completely different things. And I agree that circumstances are different for different people and cheating can be very complex and the reasons might even be understood in some cases...but to come out and say you are getting turned on by someone cheating is wrong on so many levels. If you are someone that gets turned on by cheating on your partner, or if you get turned on or derives pleasure by someone cheating on their partner, you are a full on narcissist with some sociopathic behaviour (because you don’t care that your direct actions are hurting someone) and you need a psychological evaluation fast! There's something wrong with you! And honestly I don't give a fuck if anyone gets offended by my comments. "

The only comment mentioning polyamory literally says that there's nothing sexy about being involved with cheating but that polyamory/ethical non-monogamy on the other hand is sexy. I can't see anyone saying they're the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Polyamory not polygamy. And the point being made was that people could consider being more ethical about non-monogamy. Those who find it a "turn-on" to cheat or to be with someone who is cheating and the chance that it will hurt/destroy others - well, I will never, ever understand that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)"

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

A big turn on for me

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Getting a thrill out of someone else’s misery is just grim.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

On the plus side we've got some lovely additions to the block list

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

. "

Which one is your favourite?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Getting a thrill out of someone else’s misery is just grim. "

This lady has summed it up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On the plus side we've got some lovely additions to the block list

LvM"

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By *r IneffableMan over a year ago

Bedfordshire

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get this OP and I agree it’s a turn on. Probably because it’s “wrong”.

Why is it a turn on exactly?

I think it’s because of the “wrongness” of it, and the danger element of it.

If that makes sense. I guess maybe.

Oh I don’t know. I mean really who can describe these thing!"

I am sure the injured party could assist with a description of those things?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Steady on there...kink shaming is usually frowned upon

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"[Removed by poster at 06/12/21 13:37:18]"

Don't worry I got this one for ya without needed to make any corrections or hide what you said once you realised it wasn't all favourable. You're in the pro cheating camp and get a kick out of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get this OP and I agree it’s a turn on. Probably because it’s “wrong”.

Why is it a turn on exactly?

I think it’s because of the “wrongness” of it, and the danger element of it.

If that makes sense. I guess maybe.

Oh I don’t know. I mean really who can describe these thing!

I am sure the injured party could assist with a description of those things?"

No I mean being turned on by it. I can’t really describe it.

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

"If you are someone that gets turned on by cheating on your partner, or if you get turned on or derives pleasure by someone cheating on their partner, you are a full on narcissist with some sociopathic behaviour (because you don’t care that your direct actions are hurting someone) and you need a psychological evaluation fast! There's something wrong with you! And honestly I don't give a fuck if anyone gets offended by my comments.

Steady on there...kink shaming is usually frowned upon "

Not as much as cheating or hurting people through cheating.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

"[Removed by poster at 06/12/21 13:37:18]

Don't worry I got this one for ya without needed to make any corrections or hide what you said once you realised it wasn't all favourable. You're in the pro cheating camp and get a kick out of it."

LvM

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

Which one is your favourite?"

I can't choose a favourite pizza!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I dearly love my wife. I have always had a higher sex drive, hers has diminished with age, menopause, and illness. I stayed monogamous for over 40 years. We still enjoy occasional vanilla sex together, but frequency has dwindled beyond my "reasonableness" threshold.

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware. "

I bet your wife would be hurt/devastated if she was aware.

But it seems like you think you have a reasonable excuse. I just hope to god your wife never finds out what a selfish person you are.

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By *aseMan over a year ago

Gourock

Didn't think the women on here did such thing lol

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware. "

As far as you know she's unaware. She may very well have worries about it, or gut instinct tells her but she suffers in silence, feeling guilty due to her own health issues.

She may be blissfully unaware... for now.

Her heart is in your hands.

She may understand and even encourage you to seek elsewhere if she was given the choice to make an informed decision over it all. Sometimes people can surprise you, and surprises that soothe the soul are far better than those that crush it.

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By *permdonorMan over a year ago

driffield

Nothing better than sending a woman home to her hubby with her knickers full of spunk

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware. "

You don't need a reason or an explanation for meeting on here, at the end of the day as long as you are upfront about it to any potential friends thats all you need to do. They can then make the decision of whether to get involved with you or not.

Looking for understanding on here is a pointless exercise with such an emotive subject.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

Which one is your favourite?

I can't choose a favourite pizza! "

You spoiled my punch line!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware. "

You must be drowning in offers of sex now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware. "

Well aren't you a catch

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Nothing sexy for me in knowingly being part of a situation which would cause someone else pain. Ouch.

I'm poly/ethically non monogomous.. Now that's incredibly sexy and liberating.. For all involved.

Last night I had both my partners home with me and we got pizza together and watched south park together and it was

Which one is your favourite?

I can't choose a favourite pizza!

You spoiled my punch line!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about cheating on a cheater? Do the two negatives cancel each other out?

What about keeping the cheater’s confidence? Is there a moral obligation to do that, or because they’re being economical with the truth is it a case of fk ‘em who cares?

Where’s Jeremy Kyle when you need him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

huge turn on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some truly wonderful people in the world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get turned on by women who are playing behind her husband or bf back

Is there any one who is the same like me ?"

Is that not what Ash*** Mad*** was for?

Does it turn you on even more if she has a family?

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By *ixi n DogCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Love nailing another chumps wife"
Until the 'chump' turns out to have a few screws loose and ends up nailing you to the floor by your cock..

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By *othianGuy41Man over a year ago

Eureka

People who cheat are scum!

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware.

As far as you know she's unaware. She may very well have worries about it, or gut instinct tells her but she suffers in silence, feeling guilty due to her own health issues.

She may be blissfully unaware... for now.

Her heart is in your hands.

This

Tell your wife how you feel and try and reach a compromise where you're satisfied without the need for going behind your wife's back. You will eventually feel guilty and it will destroy you, let alone your wife when she finds out (if she doesn't already know).

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By *edheadjMan over a year ago

High Wycombe

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware. "

And do you think your wife wouldn't be hurt if she found out?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never cheated just not me at all .

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By *omptationMan over a year ago

liverpool

I was seeing a woman older than myself about 10 years ago now, and we would go out for dates, have naughty skype sessions, and fuckfests that lasted for hours and were totally bestotted with each other...

After a couple of months she admitted to me that she was married and wanted to leave him, but I instantly ended it with her.

I didnt want to be THAT guy who ended someones marriage, even if they werent happy she should have ended it first before sleeping with me.

I did see her again a few years later when she was single, but I couldnt bring myself to go back there.

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By *andC1000Couple over a year ago

Ashford

"For those of you with a blanket "against cheaters" stance, read my reason for "cheating"...

I don't want a girlfriend, or a fwb. I enjoy occasional nsa fun sessions. I have ticked some non vanilla boxes, lived out fantasies, and having a great time. I am happier, nobody is hurt.

My wife is unaware.

As far as you know she's unaware. She may very well have worries about it, or gut instinct tells her but she suffers in silence, feeling guilty due to her own health issues.

She may be blissfully unaware... for now.

Her heart is in your hands.

This

so true. Chances are she knows everything already and suffering in silence. Sadly so many in this position will never feel guilty and only think of their own satisfaction, not that of those around them or their health and carry on regardless without a thought of the hurt they may be causing

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By *merald Eyes XWoman over a year ago

Can you find me….

How do people know if they go to a club they are not sh*gging a married woman or married man? Do they ask for there credentials?

So is that ok? As long as you don’t know them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way."

Have you ever cheated?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated? "

No i haven't....

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't...."

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have

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By *andC1000Couple over a year ago

Ashford

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have "

Do you have any idea how damaging and soul destroying it is to be cheated on??

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By *ulldog_71Man over a year ago

Sedgefield

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have

Do you have any idea how damaging and soul destroying it is to be cheated on?? "

It's not the people that cheat that know the pain and damage it causes it's those that are cheated on, people who have been cheated on are in the perfect position to say how wrong cheating is.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have

Do you have any idea how damaging and soul destroying it is to be cheated on??

It's not the people that cheat that know the pain and damage it causes it's those that are cheated on, people who have been cheated on are in the perfect position to say how wrong cheating is."

That's what I said

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By *ulldog_71Man over a year ago

Sedgefield

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have

Do you have any idea how damaging and soul destroying it is to be cheated on??

It's not the people that cheat that know the pain and damage it causes it's those that are cheated on, people who have been cheated on are in the perfect position to say how wrong cheating is.

That's what I said

I know I was just expanding on it lol

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By * U mineMan over a year ago

Fun

Cheating rules.

Don't get caught.

If you do deny it.

If you're going to cheat hide your money.

Don't feel guilty your going to get shafted.

If the above doesn't put you off, make sure you enjoy it.

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By *ungry CatCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Cheating rules.

Don't get caught.

If you do deny it.

If you're going to cheat hide your money.

Don't feel guilty your going to get shafted.

If the above doesn't put you off, make sure you enjoy it."

I just threw up a little in my mouth.

Missus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No that does not work for me, if Bf plays away without my knowledge and pre agreed his balls will feel my wrath

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reckon if bf found out who you where, you'd be fucked up and not in a good way lol. Which is right in my eyes.

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have

Do you have any idea how damaging and soul destroying it is to be cheated on??

It's not the people that cheat that know the pain and damage it causes it's those that are cheated on, people who have been cheated on are in the perfect position to say how wrong cheating is.

That's what I said

Everybody knows that so it’s stating the obvious. Cheating is bad, cheating is wrong. I get it. What staggers me is the hatred shown towards others when people have know idea of the circumstances. Worse on Fab than anywhere else .

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By *fweonlymeettwiceMan over a year ago

Madrid

I once fucked a cheating wife in a garden centre in Cheshire she couldn't get enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheating rules.

Don't get caught.

If you do deny it.

If you're going to cheat hide your money.

Don't feel guilty your going to get shafted.

If the above doesn't put you off, make sure you enjoy it."

That is possibly the most vile comment I’ve ever read on here.

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Cheating rules.

Don't get caught.

If you do deny it.

If you're going to cheat hide your money.

Don't feel guilty your going to get shafted.

If the above doesn't put you off, make sure you enjoy it."

Rule 1 don’t talk about cheating

Rule 2 don’t talk about cheating!

Also tinder has lots of functions now to help you cheat and not get caught. Do with that what you may

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have

Do you have any idea how damaging and soul destroying it is to be cheated on??

It's not the people that cheat that know the pain and damage it causes it's those that are cheated on, people who have been cheated on are in the perfect position to say how wrong cheating is.

That's what I said

Why do you think that is?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life! "

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheating by male or female = lower than a snakes belly..

Its disrespectful, hurtful, dishonest and down right nasty..and not in a good way.

Have you ever cheated?

No i haven't....

Great. So you are not in a position to be so vitriolic and damning of those that have "

Isn't that a bit like saying judges and juries should be made up of murderers, thieves and r#pists?

Most people will have some experience of infidelity, having cheated doesn't give you a unique insight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher. "

I can’t think why that would be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher. "

The bit that used to confuse me was the pride taken in announcing they cheat and claiming their honesty was honourable.

Then I realised, that most of these people aren't getting meets, they're clearly not in a happy home situation, and they don't have enough strength of character to do anything about or. They're lonely, and a little hopeless. So they start a club! Like minded souls getting together to talk about how unfair it is on here, how tough their lives are at home, and how they have a right to fuck! There's more than a hint of incel about a lot of these profiles and posts.

Sadly, that's the opposite of why we're here. We want to have fun. We want to share and be open with each other, and our playmates. We want to try and enjoy new things, without feeling guilty, or worrying about someone else getting hurt.

There are days when it really spoils it for us.....

Then we remember. We're awesome, and fun, and open, and honest and have nothing to worry about apart from finding out we've hit the block list limit!

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher. "

And let me guess, your exempt from that

How convenient

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life! "

In all fairness, it really is an eye opener and makes you think. What the fuck is the point?

Anyway…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

And let me guess, your exempt from that

How convenient "

Is it convenient to not be a cunt?

Or just normal?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

The bit that used to confuse me was the pride taken in announcing they cheat and claiming their honesty was honourable.

There are days when it really spoils it for us.....

Then we remember. We're awesome, and fun, and open, and honest and have nothing to worry about apart from finding out we've hit the block list limit!

Yeah I was being sarcastic.

I’m really not that shocked by it.

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

And let me guess, your exempt from that

How convenient

Is it convenient to not be a cunt?

Or just normal?

Regularly slate an entire gender but exclude yourself from said slating. Yeah that’s very convenient

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

And let me guess, your exempt from that

How convenient

Is it convenient to not be a cunt?

Or just normal?

Regularly slate an entire gender but exclude yourself from said slating. Yeah that’s very convenient "

Don’t take it personally, I hate everybody equally.

Sometimes I’ll slate myself too, if I’m deserving of it.

On this occasion I’m not.

Your reaction suggests you are.

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By *hesexpeopleCouple over a year ago

s wales

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

And let me guess, your exempt from that

How convenient

Is it convenient to not be a cunt?

Or just normal?

Love that

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

And let me guess, your exempt from that

How convenient

Is it convenient to not be a cunt?

Or just normal?

Regularly slate an entire gender but exclude yourself from said slating. Yeah that’s very convenient

Don’t take it personally, I hate everybody equally.

Sometimes I’ll slate myself too, if I’m deserving of it.

On this occasion I’m not.

Your reaction suggests you are."

Fair enough, just an observation. I tend to think most people are shit, but that opinion doesn’t get as much fab attention so all the best to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking glad I’m single! This site is enough to put anyone off a relationship for life!

I’’m perplexed as to why women think men are cunts…

It’s a real head-scratcher.

The bit that used to confuse me was the pride taken in announcing they cheat and claiming their honesty was honourable.

There are days when it really spoils it for us.....

Then we remember. We're awesome, and fun, and open, and honest and have nothing to worry about apart from finding out we've hit the block list limit!

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Does nothing for me. Sorry.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman over a year ago

Can you find me….

In religion some would say even swinging is still cheating.

Each to their own…. Who am I to judge another persons life….

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By *erfectman122Man over a year ago

from somewhere nice

People cheat for all sorts of reasons.. I don’t judge

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By *ts there to be usedMan over a year ago

Manchester

100% agree takes strong person to say no ??

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

The trouble with cheating is that it’s the innocent parties who are left with the emotional scars that follow them around and taint every relationship they have there on in.

That’s a pretty shitty thing to do to someone just cos you had an itch that needed scratching.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple over a year ago

Middle England

How would all those who think it's fine feel if they were on the receiving end?

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By *omer47Man over a year ago

leigh

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)"

He would have been shot down by the females on here quicker than a fart in a sandstorm.FACT.but as its a female cheating on her husband/bf, its fine...and every guys on her quicker than a fly to shit,and she loves it. Its whats called DOUBLE STANDARDS.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple over a year ago

Middle England

"In religion some would say even swinging is still cheating.

Each to their own…. Who am I to judge another persons life….

Religion is a whole different can of worms, eg sex outside of marriage, arranged marriage etc etc. Guess here behind a partner's back etc is about consent or being underhand. If say two couples decide to swap, that's consensual. For some that's important for others it's not.

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By *ungry CatCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"(Thinks.

"Wonder what would have happened if a man started this thread?"

Grins)

Have you read this thread at all?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would all those who think it's fine feel if they were on the receiving end? "

They obviously wouldn’t judge as everyone has their reasons blardy blah - or is that opinion only directed at the cheaters?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think no-one knows a relationship except the two people in it. And because I don't know the details, I stay well away. I haven't cheated. But I've wanted to. That's why I don't judge.

I feel very sorry for those who have been cheated on. But I also have pity for those in relationships where they feel utterly stuck and have no intimacy for years. I've spoken to enough people in that situation to see that you can love someone and still want intimacy your partner don't/won't provide. It's really easy to say "just leave then".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think no-one knows a relationship except the two people in it. And because I don't know the details, I stay well away. I haven't cheated. But I've wanted to. That's why I don't judge.

But if the choice is leave or destroy that person that you(not you personally) proclaim to love?

I’ve been both cheated on and in a sexless relationship so I’ve seen both sides (I left).

It ruins self esteem, confidence, trust for others and ruins relationships to come (that’s if you can ever trust again to have a relationship, I can’t).

I don’t believe (I hope) that cheaters don’t realise the horrific after effects that the trauma of cheating causes. It destroys lives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think no-one knows a relationship except the two people in it. And because I don't know the details, I stay well away. I haven't cheated. But I've wanted to. That's why I don't judge.

But if the choice is leave or destroy that person that you(not you personally) proclaim to love?

I’ve been both cheated on and in a sexless relationship so I’ve seen both sides (I left).

It ruins self esteem, confidence, trust for others and ruins relationships to come (that’s if you can ever trust again to have a relationship, I can’t).

I don’t believe (I hope) that cheaters don’t realise the horrific after effects that the trauma of cheating causes. It destroys lives."

Of course none of this really matters to me now really, I’m single for life now.

I couldn’t survive another betrayal and unfortunately I now wouldn’t trust another man as far as I could throw one.

So crack on cheaters, fill ya boots

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I think no-one knows a relationship except the two people in it. And because I don't know the details, I stay well away. I haven't cheated. But I've wanted to. That's why I don't judge.

But if the choice is leave or destroy that person that you(not you personally) proclaim to love?

I’ve been both cheated on and in a sexless relationship so I’ve seen both sides (I left).

It ruins self esteem, confidence, trust for others and ruins relationships to come (that’s if you can ever trust again to have a relationship, I can’t).

I don’t believe (I hope) that cheaters don’t realise the horrific after effects that the trauma of cheating causes. It destroys lives."

I've only seen one scenario where I could understand the person seeing someone else and it was difficult to watch as I knew how much they really did love their partner. The majority though are not in that scenario and will use every excuse in the book to cheat x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think no-one knows a relationship except the two people in it. And because I don't know the details, I stay well away. I haven't cheated. But I've wanted to. That's why I don't judge.

But if the choice is leave or destroy that person that you(not you personally) proclaim to love?

I’ve been both cheated on and in a sexless relationship so I’ve seen both sides (I left).

It ruins self esteem, confidence, trust for others and ruins relationships to come (that’s if you can ever trust again to have a relationship, I can’t).

I don’t believe (I hope) that cheaters don’t realise the horrific after effects that the trauma of cheating causes. It destroys lives.

I do know what that feels like.

I was in a completely sexless relationship in my early 30’s (my sexual peak!) and for 7, nearly 8 years we didn’t even kiss! I loved him with my soul but I had a huge libido.

We had kids together, a home - the lot.

Having experienced cheating for myself and knowing that it destroys you, I just couldn’t do it and eventually had to leave. I loved him too much to betray him, it would have ruined him. I wouldn’t have been able to sleep at night. I also wouldn’t have enjoyed the sex knowing that I was destroying someone else in the process.

I think this subject is really difficult for many who’s lives have been irreparably damaged by betrayal.

Hey ho, as I said, not something I’ll ever have to worry about again

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By *merald Eyes XWoman over a year ago

Can you find me….

"In religion some would say even swinging is still cheating.

Each to their own…. Who am I to judge another persons life….

In religion it’s still cheating whether consensual…. X

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By *merald Eyes XWoman over a year ago

Can you find me….

"How would all those who think it's fine feel if they were on the receiving end?

They obviously wouldn’t judge as everyone has their reasons blardy blah - or is that opinion only directed at the cheaters? "

I have been on the receiving end… but I’m still not judging another person!

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