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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Just this morning I spied a fabulous pair of Timberland boots that looked great on me. They were pricey but something easily offordable, and while not necessary, I'd certainly give them good use.
Seems a no brainer right? Still I didn't buy them which is somewhat annoying as I do this all the time! I've a 5 year old Huawei which needs putting out of its misery, yet as it still works I haven't bought a new one.
I had a crappy laptop I was always complaining about and only upgraded when a certain someone gave me loads of positive reinforcement.
I've always found it much easier to spend money on others but when it comes to me I always grit my teeth and avoid spending 
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Yep! I'm like this as well.
Anything nice or so on I look at and think "Hmm, nope, too much". My psychiatrist actually said it's defense mechanism, I was like "err... explain?!"
My current Macbook is 6 years old, I only just built a new PC as my old one died. It seems I buy things out of necessity rather than "Just because".
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"Just this morning I spied a fabulous pair of Timberland boots that looked great on me. They were pricey but something easily offordable, and while not necessary, I'd certainly give them good use.
Seems a no brainer right? Still I didn't buy them which is somewhat annoying as I do this all the time! I've a 5 year old Huawei which needs putting out of its misery, yet as it still works I haven't bought a new one.
I had a crappy laptop I was always complaining about and only upgraded when a certain someone gave me loads of positive reinforcement.
I've always found it much easier to spend money on others but when it comes to me I always grit my teeth and avoid spending
Anyone else like this?"
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Kind of....
I still use an old, cracked screen phone because a) I'm fond of it and b) don't want to spend on myself. Daft really when I've happily spent a generous amount on a decent smartwatch for the other half.
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Yep! I'm like this as well.
Anything nice or so on I look at and think "Hmm, nope, too much". My psychiatrist actually said it's defense mechanism, I was like "err... explain?!"
My current Macbook is 6 years old, I only just built a new PC as my old one died. It seems I buy things out of necessity rather than "Just because".
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I came from a modest background and grew up being frugal. I guess old habits die hard. |
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I've always been bad at spending money on myself. But if it's something I need I will. It's so much easier buying something for the kids or my husband that I know they'll like and appreciate.
When I went to Stratford upon Avon about 12 years ago I bought myself a Shakespearian quote fridge magnet as I was wanting to buy a house and it resonated. "There is money. Spend it. Spend it. Spend more." I do actually think of that quote if I'm unsure about buying something  |
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"You still have that awful phone!!!! 
Still do! It refuses to die, clinging stubbornly to life "
Good for you. Why buy something you don't need? For electronics it's very bad for the environment and just puts more on the list of things to do of Chinese children in sweatshops. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Yes, I'm like this, but I don't see it as a bad thing. I have more money in my pension pot as a result which gives me a more secure future. I'm pleased about that. Luke "
Sounds very much like the reasoning I was brought up with. Save it for a rainy day |
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"Yep! I'm like this as well.
Anything nice or so on I look at and think "Hmm, nope, too much". My psychiatrist actually said it's defense mechanism, I was like "err... explain?!"
My current Macbook is 6 years old, I only just built a new PC as my old one died. It seems I buy things out of necessity rather than "Just because".
I came from a modest background and grew up being frugal. I guess old habits die hard."
^^^This is us. I was largely brought up by my Grandparents. My Grandad was brought up in Victorian levels of poverty and so he instilled in me a need to be careful/frugal and not to waste things. We buy or take used/secondhand items, we recycle stuff, we don't really have much in the way of tech devices, other than phones and our work laptops. We don't see the need for a massive cinema size TV or multiple computers etc and we only renew our phones when they don't function anymore.
We're far from penny pinchers, we spend our money on experiences and activities for the family; on Mr KC's model hobby and my wheelchair sports. And we support my Dad financially and sometimes my brother  |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Nope, I'm the opposite. I'm far to frivolous. I like pretty things. Good job I'm a fussy bugger and don't find too many things pretty "
Nothing wrong with being fussy  |
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I've always been frugal.
I raised a family and paid off my mortgage 7 years ago despite earning minimum wage.
I repair rather than replace and that actually gives me a sense of achievement as well as saving money.
I buy what I need rather than what I want but I'll treat myself now and again.
However even on those occasions I will never pay full price for anything and prefer to buy during flash sales. |
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I don't have the funds to buy, but when I have in the past I'm not one for spending it on myself.
Think it's probably something to do with feeling deserving or worth it. Even necessities as a child were for Christmas, never really got birthday presents. When my sons dad got me gifts I felt a bit fraudulent accepting them, like I hadn't earned them.
Then in the relationship after that (the mega abusive one) gifts were "a waste of money" apparently and my shoes would literally have to be falling apart to be able to get a new pair without taking a beating. If I got myself new clothes no matter how badly I needed them I'd get the third degree and accused of buying them to impress someone else or wasting money when I could be putting food in the cupboards.
So yeah, got used to going without and feeling like I wasn't worth the spend. Now and then I'll treat myself to something like a face cream but most of anything left from my wages goes on things for the house. |
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"Wouldn't say I skimp on myself, but I like to get my money's worth. I'll use something to rack and ruin before I replace it"
Most of my clothes are thread bare and falling off me, before I bin them. I have a limited amont of clothes too. They don't owe me anthing,when I do get rid. - fem. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Kind of....
I still use an old, cracked screen phone because a) I'm fond of it and b) don't want to spend on myself. Daft really when I've happily spent a generous amount on a decent smartwatch for the other half.
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Exactly this! |
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Grew up in poverty, froozen indoor windows were the norm. Winter coats were Christmas gifts from my grandparents.
That means if something works or if I can fix something I will. But I now do buy quality when I can rather than buy multiple cheap
things. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I'm the same.
I've spent thousands on other people over the years, yet hum and ha over buying myself a new pair of winter boots because "No one will notice there's a buckle missing.""
Very much like me. Splurge on others, skimp on myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely treat myself to anything. I use tech and clothes to destruction. I'm not playing Scrooge I just have everything that I need. It's a big event to get something just because I like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm the same, there's loads of things I want to buys for myself but keep talking myself out of it because I don't NEED it. Last time I did impulsively buy something, I bought a lovely stone coloured suede jacket. It looks very good on me so no regrets there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't have the funds to buy, but when I have in the past I'm not one for spending it on myself.
Think it's probably something to do with feeling deserving or worth it. Even necessities as a child were for Christmas, never really got birthday presents. When my sons dad got me gifts I felt a bit fraudulent accepting them, like I hadn't earned them.
Then in the relationship after that (the mega abusive one) gifts were "a waste of money" apparently and my shoes would literally have to be falling apart to be able to get a new pair without taking a beating. If I got myself new clothes no matter how badly I needed them I'd get the third degree and accused of buying them to impress someone else or wasting money when I could be putting food in the cupboards.
So yeah, got used to going without and feeling like I wasn't worth the spend. Now and then I'll treat myself to something like a face cream but most of anything left from my wages goes on things for the house."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Life’s too short. If you’ve got the money and you want the shoes. Buy those shoes  "
Someone clever (not me obvs) once said why do we keep things 'for best'.
Use the good plates, wear that nice frock every frickin day if you feel good in it. Enjoy it.
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I’m much the same but that’s mainly from having the monsters, I’ve always put myself and my needs last because their needs come first "
My mom once jokingly said kids were a 20+ year money pit. How right she was |
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"Life’s too short. If you’ve got the money and you want the shoes. Buy those shoes
Someone clever (not me obvs) once said why do we keep things 'for best'.
Use the good plates, wear that nice frock every frickin day if you feel good in it. Enjoy it.
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That’s so true. And I’ve been guilty of doing that! 20 years those Crystal glasses and posh cutlery set sat in the boxes from my wedding . |
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"I’m much the same but that’s mainly from having the monsters, I’ve always put myself and my needs last because their needs come first
My mom once jokingly said kids were a 20+ year money pit. How right she was "
You could always buy yourself a cheesecake Chill |
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"Yep! I'm like this as well.
Anything nice or so on I look at and think "Hmm, nope, too much". My psychiatrist actually said it's defense mechanism, I was like "err... explain?!"
My current Macbook is 6 years old, I only just built a new PC as my old one died. It seems I buy things out of necessity rather than "Just because".
I came from a modest background and grew up being frugal. I guess old habits die hard."
I am the same. Poor background and everything fought for by mu single parent mother was valued and used to it's max.
I am comfortable now but still won't spend money on myself without
a) Shopping around
b) Checking ebay for new or nearly new equivalent
c) Deferring until it comes down in price.
In fairness, I don't need anything and so my needs are really only wants.
But for others, I am more than happy to buy on a whim 
Weird really. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"You still have that awful phone!!!!
Still do! It refuses to die, clinging stubbornly to life
Good for you. Why buy something you don't need? For electronics it's very bad for the environment and just puts more on the list of things to do of Chinese children in sweatshops."
That so reminded me of my dad. Virtually everything electrical with exception of TV was bought for pennies at the Saturday flea markets and fixed by him. I had a professional double tape recorder with gauges and various settings for noise characteristics. The envy of my friends. Mix tape creation heaven |
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I’m the same. The lad gets what he needs but I have had the same clothes for the last 3/4 years at least.
My last tv you couldn’t turn off or else sounded like a machine gun whilst it warmed up for 5 minutes, worked perfectly fine when on after 13 years. It only got replaced as my dad found out and sent one to home.
Parents hate Christmas/birthday as I never have any ideas for them, if I don’t need it I don’t want it, don’t buy for the sake of buying. |
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I'm the opposite, kids come first then me then the house. I have a smart nose for a bargain and can afford to eat and wear brands all the time at smart prices.
The majority of my spend is on holidays and weekends away as memories are more important to me than materials, after all you can't take it with you |
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"Just this morning I spied a fabulous pair of Timberland boots that looked great on me. They were pricey but something easily offordable, and while not necessary, I'd certainly give them good use.
Seems a no brainer right? Still I didn't buy them which is somewhat annoying as I do this all the time! I've a 5 year old Huawei which needs putting out of its misery, yet as it still works I haven't bought a new one.
I had a crappy laptop I was always complaining about and only upgraded when a certain someone gave me loads of positive reinforcement.
I've always found it much easier to spend money on others but when it comes to me I always grit my teeth and avoid spending
Anyone else like this?
Lend us £50 will you "
Seen as he holds onto everything, he probably give it to you out of his communion money.. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I've always been frugal.
I raised a family and paid off my mortgage 7 years ago despite earning minimum wage.
I repair rather than replace and that actually gives me a sense of achievement as well as saving money.
I buy what I need rather than what I want but I'll treat myself now and again.
However even on those occasions I will never pay full price for anything and prefer to buy during flash sales. "
That's amazing. Really goes to show what you can accomplish with financial discipline |
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