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So we’re new…obviously 
Surely there’s some type of etiquette single guys follow to flirt with the wife of a couple? The husband in essence is allowing you that close to his wife. First impressions I thought would be paramount yet guys message like it a single ladies profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The woman is bait. They want to fuck the wife and the husband is irrelevant.
If they are disrespectful in messages they will be the same in person. Use it as a filter- don't spend time chatting to them as you're not compatible.  |
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"The woman is bait. They want to fuck the wife and the husband is irrelevant.
If they are disrespectful in messages they will be the same in person. Use it as a filter- don't spend time chatting to them as you're not compatible. "
This is why we blocked single males  |
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It's common sense, and common courtesy to address both when you are in contact with a couple. It takes two seconds to conclude a message by saying, "And best regards to you both." However I'm given to understand that common sense, and common courtesy is often a rare commodity on here. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
Use it as a filter, if someone isn't respectful to you both and takes time to always address both of you in every message then they will be unlikely to respect any rules or boundaries if you should decide to meet. It's a very special thing being allowed into a couples playtime and needs treating with high regard from the start. I suppose some just don't get it and it surely makes your decisions easier. |
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If I'm talking to a couples profile I usually talk to both but sometimes they will say you're talking to just one of them at the time.
I tend to keep conversations clean unless they switch it up. It's always important to remember you're talking to someones partner but you should be respectful regardless, no matter who you're messaging. |
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"So we’re new…obviously
Surely there’s some type of etiquette single guys follow to flirt with the wife of a couple? The husband in essence is allowing you that close to his wife. First impressions I thought would be paramount yet guys message like it a single ladies profile "
show respect and share the banter i say ,then see how things pan out ,but prefer to speak to hubby first in all fairness,it can come across a bit creepy otherwise,everyone has to feel comfortable,thats my view anyway lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always assume both are replying back until told otherwise! "
I actually asume they are both reading it, and just one of them is typing the reply. Unless I know differently.
Is nice when you are aware. |
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We welcome guys messaging us but they’ve got to come across as respectful and be wanting to engage with us both.
I would say the best advice for any guys messaging couples is to mirror the chat. Talking about holidays, stick to holidays…let the other person lead the conversation. Once you’ve been approved by both, conversations will naturally turn to sex/meeting.
But if you go in giving the ‘I’m gonna show you what a real man can do’ mentality then you won’t get far.
We are after respectful friends (with benefits  )
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During a recent social one of the guys asked "is she greedy" within 2 mins of conversation, later the same chap was attempting to rub the Mrs from behind, mind you this was an organised social we were really put off by behavior and Mrs has vowed never to say hello to a bloke on his own again (I know this is harsh and not everyone is like this). |
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"So we’re new…obviously
Surely there’s some type of etiquette single guys follow to flirt with the wife of a couple? The husband in essence is allowing you that close to his wife. First impressions I thought would be paramount yet guys message like it a single ladies profile "
We just block them when they do that. |
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This is very common. We have had very respectful guys contact us but also a fair few that don't seem to care that we are a couple. One guy recently specifically said he wanted to talk to Hannah. When I pointed out that there are actually two of us, he did concede to let me join the conversation, as he so generously put it, "if you want to".
As others have said on here, use attitude as a filter. Don't bother replying to the ones who don't treat you respectfully. |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
winchester |
we had this on our couple profile, single males would send messages obviously aimed at her, things like hi babe etc, little did they know that i waas the one answering the messages, my fave reply was hay babe yourself, que indignation, we then blocked single guys, they really dont help themselves, and yes i get the irony, we both have single profiles as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't meet guys but our rule when we did was if they aren't respectful via fab (messages, profile language, profile pictures) then they sure as hell aren't going to be respectful in person.
And the guys that have straight on their profile but mention they're bi when you say you both are.. Yeah yeah. If you're bi just put it on your profile, it's the 21st century.
There are some very genuine and lovely guys on here though - you just have to them out from the toss pots |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
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"During a recent social one of the guys asked "is she greedy" within 2 mins of conversation, later the same chap was attempting to rub the Mrs from behind, mind you this was an organised social we were really put off by behavior and Mrs has vowed never to say hello to a bloke on his own again (I know this is harsh and not everyone is like this)."
do get where you are coming from, weve had similar, i just have a word, normaly they leave after that, nothing heave, not my way, just pay some respect etc |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
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"We don't meet guys but our rule when we did was if they aren't respectful via fab (messages, profile language, profile pictures) then they sure as hell aren't going to be respectful in person.
And the guys that have straight on their profile but mention they're bi when you say you both are.. Yeah yeah. If you're bi just put it on your profile, it's the 21st century.
There are some very genuine and lovely guys on here though - you just have to them out from the toss pots "
oh and dont get me started n the bi thing |
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"So we’re new…obviously
Surely there’s some type of etiquette single guys follow to flirt with the wife of a couple? The husband in essence is allowing you that close to his wife. First impressions I thought would be paramount yet guys message like it a single ladies profile show respect and share the banter i say ,then see how things pan out ,but prefer to speak to hubby first in all fairness,it can come across a bit creepy otherwise,everyone has to feel comfortable,thats my view anyway lol "
If only everyone did this  |
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There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
At least, you'd be forgiven for thinking that with some of the messages we receive.
Couldn't be further from the truth for us...
Guys that are totally respectful and meet our criteria are often added to a shortlist of people we'd like to meet...
It may take some time to meet but it's worth it in the end.!
The outwardly aggressively sexual types just receive a block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
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That right there!! I reel when I see or hear it. |
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"There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
That right there!! I reel when I see or hear it. "
Exactly.
Becky just rolls her eyes and reaches for the block button...
Those that have met us will know this is SO far from the truth.. |
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I am sure a lot of this goes on OP but as always there is a flip side to couples. The number of messages I get saying ‘ love to see you fuck my wife’ etc etc, when it is clear that a) there is no wife b) the wife has no idea she is on fab part of a couples profile c) The husband gets a cheap thrill talking to single guys and had no intention of sharing his wife, and d) The wife gets a cheap thrill teasing guys but has no intention of meeting one . |
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"There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
At least, you'd be forgiven for thinking that with some of the messages we receive.
Couldn't be further from the truth for us..."
Haha this is so true I think this plays into these peoples fantasies that they are somehow better than the male half of the couple
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am sure a lot of this goes on OP but as always there is a flip side to couples. The number of messages I get saying ‘ love to see you fuck my wife’ etc etc, when it is clear that a) there is no wife b) the wife has no idea she is on fab part of a couples profile c) The husband gets a cheap thrill talking to single guys and had no intention of sharing his wife, and d) The wife gets a cheap thrill teasing guys but has no intention of meeting one . "
Exactly this, fake profiles or fantasists, rude in all profile groups be it males, females or couples sadly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being courteous and respectful should be the default position everywhere, so it should be integral to any message. I strive to ensure my messages are balanced between what both the lady and the man want from a meet. It's a big thing he's doing inviting you in and his feelings are of the utmost importance. To go in all guns blazing with what you want to do to the lady with no mention of the man is just plain insulting and would inevitably result in no reply or a block! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
At least, you'd be forgiven for thinking that with some of the messages we receive.
Couldn't be further from the truth for us...
Guys that are totally respectful and meet our criteria are often added to a shortlist of people we'd like to meet...
It may take some time to meet but it's worth it in the end.!
The outwardly aggressively sexual types just receive a block."
Wuu2
Fuck now?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I message couples I will direct the messages as if I am talking to both. Even if it states on the profile that the profile is run by the wife/husband.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just had a other one saying my pics make him hard as fk in assuming he means me but I got hubby to reply saying "I know my cocks ace isn't it?"
I just despair sometimes.... "
Your tag line is "make us laugh", was hi Bi or Fab straight, he may well have liked your guys cock |
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"The woman is bait. They want to fuck the wife and the husband is irrelevant.
If they are disrespectful in messages they will be the same in person. Use it as a filter- don't spend time chatting to them as you're not compatible.
This is why we blocked single males "
..and us!
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"There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
At least, you'd be forgiven for thinking that with some of the messages we receive.
Couldn't be further from the truth for us...
Guys that are totally respectful and meet our criteria are often added to a shortlist of people we'd like to meet...
It may take some time to meet but it's worth it in the end.!
The outwardly aggressively sexual types just receive a block.
Wuu2
Fuck now?
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Ok.. you got us... we can't resist....
I know that some guys are just trying to be all 'alpha' at that some couples like that but it just comes across as ignorant.
Then, when they get blocked, they'll bleat to the forum en masse about how crap it is here..
I despair sometimes..
Makes the guys we have met seem extra special..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a subset of some guys on here who seem to think that the female part of a couple is obviously seeking some kind of stud to replace her pathetic partner...
At least, you'd be forgiven for thinking that with some of the messages we receive.
Couldn't be further from the truth for us...
Guys that are totally respectful and meet our criteria are often added to a shortlist of people we'd like to meet...
It may take some time to meet but it's worth it in the end.!
The outwardly aggressively sexual types just receive a block.
Wuu2
Fuck now?
Ok.. you got us... we can't resist....
I know that some guys are just trying to be all 'alpha' at that some couples like that but it just comes across as ignorant.
Then, when they get blocked, they'll bleat to the forum en masse about how crap it is here..
I despair sometimes..
Makes the guys we have met seem extra special..
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There's lovely guys on here. I know the Fab bar isn't very high but some really are nice. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I think sometimes that the male half of couples have it tougher than single guys at times.
The vast majority of messages are aimed at the female half and the ones that aren’t are addressing the male to get to the female!
At least if a single guy receives messages, they’re meant for them.
I’ve found that I want to get to know the guy, actually be friends with both and that makes interactions far nicer |
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By *obby1Man
over a year ago
newcastle |
Must always remember they are a couple and should be treated equally.they are allowing you to be part of their private life. The male half is giving you something special and respect must be given at all times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've stopped using any IM services now and will only talk to people on Fab.... far too many men out there who start messaging the wife privately out of the group conversation. They've instantly got no chance, because its obvious why they are doing it. No interest in the dynamic of a mmf, they just want sex with the pretty lady. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"So we’re new…obviously
Surely there’s some type of etiquette single guys follow to flirt with the wife of a couple? The husband in essence is allowing you that close to his wife. First impressions I thought would be paramount yet guys message like it a single ladies profile "
I have a suggestion.
Use the search function on the site and look for those you seek yourselves.. afterall you know better than any words you or anyone could use, what you're looking for.  |
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"I think sometimes that the male half of couples have it tougher than single guys at times.
The vast majority of messages are aimed at the female half and the ones that aren’t are addressing the male to get to the female!
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Haha well said, Male here and tbh happy playing supporting act, it has worked well so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We welcome guys messaging us but they’ve got to come across as respectful and be wanting to engage with us both.
I would say the best advice for any guys messaging couples is to mirror the chat. Talking about holidays, stick to holidays…let the other person lead the conversation. Once you’ve been approved by both, conversations will naturally turn to sex/meeting.
But if you go in giving the ‘I’m gonna show you what a real man can do’ mentality then you won’t get far.
We are after respectful friends (with benefits )
K"
Great post….I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've stopped using any IM services now and will only talk to people on Fab.... far too many men out there who start messaging the wife privately out of the group conversation. They've instantly got no chance, because its obvious why they are doing it. No interest in the dynamic of a mmf, they just want sex with the pretty lady."
Why would they even do that?…total lack of respect |
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