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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does it put you off a woman if she's part of a couple bit able to play alone?
And if so why?
Does the thought that she's getting some lead you to think it's more likely she wouldn't be interested?
Would you feel like she might not think you're good in bed as someone else clearly knows her and what she likes in bed and feel like you'd have to match up maybe?
Are there any other reasons?
As always I'm curious.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it depends on the boundaries in place with that couple. If theres a long list of "do's and don'ts" im just not gonna bother. It feels more like youre just their to satisfy her (or him) and not feel like your own desires are even remotely considered.
I get some have certain boundaries like no cumming insider her and such, but it feels like youre just trying to be a matching candidate and that aint fun even for the sake of getting your dock wet, that is if i even gets wetted at the end of the day |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Not really no, if she is able and willing to play alone we wouldn’t care if she is part of a couple.
Sex isn’t our main focus, so we wouldn’t waste time worrying about comparing ourselves to their partner.
Our main considerations would be finding a suitable time where everyone is available to play as well as ensuring everyone (including their partner) is happy with whats being planned.
We don’t want to cause drama when we send them home with additional holes, marks, bruising or less hair then they came with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it put you off a woman if she's part of a couple bit able to play alone?
And if so why?
Does the thought that she's getting some lead you to think it's more likely she wouldn't be interested?
Would you feel like she might not think you're good in bed as someone else clearly knows her and what she likes in bed and feel like you'd have to match up maybe?
Are there any other reasons?
As always I'm curious.
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Honest that doesn't bother me as I look as it as we're both trying to scratch a sexual itch, I try not to over think things when it comes to sex. As long as there's a vibe, sexual chemistry and we understand that we're exploring our animalistic urges then it's a go for me whether they are single, a couple or even married xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends and it’s a anorther story
Dose the there parner know
If yes than is it ok to talk with them if yes then no wouldn’t put me off
If the answer is no to any off the top two then yes it would be put off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This isn’t limited to guys thinking. It happens maybe more so when the male is part of a couple, women don’t approach as readily.
This does come down to the thinking that men are more likely to want to meet with a woman that is in a relationship in the sense that they are proving that they can meet with another man’s woman so therefore must be better than said man.
With women I think there is more of an unwritten code that is coupled with respect for the other woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, no. In many ways it gives some reasurrance this will stay as just *play*.
Plus, given in also on the other side of that dynamic, be slightly hypocritical! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it put you off a woman if she's part of a couple bit able to play alone?
And if so why?
Does the thought that she's getting some lead you to think it's more likely she wouldn't be interested?
Would you feel like she might not think you're good in bed as someone else clearly knows her and what she likes in bed and feel like you'd have to match up maybe?
Are there any other reasons?
As always I'm curious.
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Put off? I don't know. I admit I'm more likely to contact single women, than married ones playing alone, and I'm not sure why.. I'll have to ponder that one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My red flag would be getting the feeling that she is not doing it purely for herself (or rather, predominately), I’ve seen a number of profiles saying they would need to send pics back and so on, and that wouldn’t feel right being so obviously partly the other man’s desires playing out, if it’s not a 3, and you’re flying solo, then no one else is taking party by proxy or otherwise. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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If there’s chemistry and we can create a dynamic that’s about us , it doesn’t bother me what else she’s doing. But if it feels just about her , or them as a couple then I’d be wary investing too much time and energy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've noticed that my inbox on fab goes quieter at the mere mention of another man. If I've named someone I play with or now the fact I'm part of a couple, it quietens.
I'm just curious as to what the thought process is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me, no. In many ways it gives some reasurrance this will stay as just *play*.
Plus, given in also on the other side of that dynamic, be slightly hypocritical! "
See I would imagine also that the fact they are taken and its just play would appeal more. It would if it were me going for a guy from a couple for that exact reason.
I'd just be borrowing him now and again.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me, no. In many ways it gives some reasurrance this will stay as just *play*.
Plus, given in also on the other side of that dynamic, be slightly hypocritical!
See I would imagine also that the fact they are taken and its just play would appeal more. It would if it were me going for a guy from a couple for that exact reason.
I'd just be borrowing him now and again.
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to be clear: no, wouldnt put me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've noticed that my inbox on fab goes quieter at the mere mention of another man. If I've named someone I play with or now the fact I'm part of a couple, it quietens.
I'm just curious as to what the thought process is. "
Perhaps some think that it will become subject to other conditions later on, or they are looking for an exclusive playmate. Could be a lot of things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t say I’ve ever thought differently about a person I’m with whether they’re single, coupled up, or not. I’m far to engrossed in being with them at that moment, and having knowledge of an absent 3rd party doesn’t alter my perceptions of the person I’m with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn’t put me off at all I really enjoy the dynamic. I’m a pleaser and as long as everyone is happy you & your partner/husband then that makes me happy |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
No, it doesn’t put me off, though it can make it more difficult to arrange meets depending on whether their partner knows or not, but also if it’s all agreed with their partner, then there are often still constraints with how often the person is allowed to play with others. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"I've noticed that my inbox on fab goes quieter at the mere mention of another man. If I've named someone I play with or now the fact I'm part of a couple, it quietens.
I'm just curious as to what the thought process is. "
I can agree with that....tumble in mine since I updated that I'm now part of a couple |
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No, not at all, so long as her partner is aware of her meeting and that could be verified through a chat or the profile's verifications.
I wouldn't go so far as to say it would be a turn on but I think it would be a slightly different dynamic to meeting a purely single woman, in an interesting way rather than good or bad.
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I can't see us being too worried. The main issue for us related to somebody being in a relationship would be if they are reliable. If a relationship stops somebody from keeping to a prearranged plan, that would really put us off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I've been involved in this lifestyle long enough for it to be a "normal" thing for me as it still feels as if I shouldn't be involved with a woman who is already in a relationship. It might change once I meet a couple for the first time but that's just how I feel at present  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've been involved in this lifestyle long enough for it to be a "normal" thing for me as it still feels as if I shouldn't be involved with a woman who is already in a relationship. It might change once I meet a couple for the first time but that's just how I feel at present "
That's an interesting thought.
I wonder if the traditional sense of unavailable just means they bypass without thinking twice about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've been involved in this lifestyle long enough for it to be a "normal" thing for me as it still feels as if I shouldn't be involved with a woman who is already in a relationship. It might change once I meet a couple for the first time but that's just how I feel at present
That's an interesting thought.
I wonder if the traditional sense of unavailable just means they bypass without thinking twice about it. "
I think it depends, I assume most couples on here tend to look for single females or other couples so if a single female's profile states they are part of a couple then I always think it's an extension of that search if that makes sense? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"My red flag would be getting the feeling that she is not doing it purely for herself (or rather, predominately), I’ve seen a number of profiles saying they would need to send pics back and so on, and that wouldn’t feel right being so obviously partly the other man’s desires playing out, if it’s not a 3, and you’re flying solo, then no one else is taking party by proxy or otherwise. "
Isn’t this always the case though? If you’re meeting another’s partner, then you’re feeding their dynamic, not building a connection in exclusion.
I always make the basic assumption that their relationship is the priority and I’m an addition to that. Yes the connection between myself and the person I’m meeting is important but anything that we share will always be seen or heard by the partner or at least agreed within boundaries.
Thinking that you’re not party to the other partners desires is ignorant of how the hot wife dynamic works |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I've noticed that my inbox on fab goes quieter at the mere mention of another man. If I've named someone I play with or now the fact I'm part of a couple, it quietens.
I'm just curious as to what the thought process is.
I can agree with that....tumble in mine since I updated that I'm now part of a couple "
I think that new couples are always subject to this.
I know that I wouldn’t get involved with a couple in the first flush of a relationship, mainly out of respect but also because I know how hard it is to build and develop a dynamic that fits. |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
I much prefer seeing a wonan who's part of a couple (once he knows).
Guarantees it will remain casual and there's no expectations on her part that I'll provide her with anything more than that.
Makes for a much more relaxing and enjoyable dynamic. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I don’t have an issue with it, I’ve done it many times in the past but I think that it requires an understanding of how the dynamic works.
I’ve found that most single guys think that they’re competing with the lady’s partner or that the guy can’t satisfy her, hence her wanting another. Either that or they feel that they’re being watched over and dislike that they feel that they can’t say whatever they want.
In the past, I generally seek to understand boundaries, then go from there. I know that I’m not a stunt cock but I’m also just a piece of their primary dynamic, working out how I fit in that is important for me and them |
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