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"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. " Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from” 
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
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I know my heritage, it helped that I visited both sets of grandparents in their home countries a fair bit when younger. I did learn a bit of one language (the other is an English speaking country), enough for a basic conversation. 
I'm a proper mix of nationalities and being very honest, when I was younger I hated it. You're right with the whitewashing term; the world felt so very whitewashed.
Like you I always felt like an outsider, I'd get conflicting messages about what was attractive from different family members, at school I was one of four non-white pupils... it led to me trying desperately belong to one group. Being ashamed of my features and skin colour and hair because I didn't fit in, I wasn't seen as one of the pretty girls because I wasn't white... I mean look at Tumblr and Myspace and all that. Oh and the half caste comments. Fuck I hate that.
Anyway, now I love my myriad heritage self. I like my curly hair, the freckles on my darker skin tone. I'm not ashamed that I don't fit into a particular group, I get to be me. Unique, a tale of love across borders and languages and hope and defying the expected.
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"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
"Are those considered rude questions to ask? | |||
"Yes I can wholeheartedly!
I know my heritage, it helped that I visited both sets of grandparents in their home countries a fair bit when younger. I did learn a bit of one language (the other is an English speaking country), enough for a basic conversation.
I'm a proper mix of nationalities and being very honest, when I was younger I hated it. You're right with the whitewashing term; the world felt so very whitewashed.
Like you I always felt like an outsider, I'd get conflicting messages about what was attractive from different family members, at school I was one of four non-white pupils... it led to me trying desperately belong to one group. Being ashamed of my features and skin colour and hair because I didn't fit in, I wasn't seen as one of the pretty girls because I wasn't white... I mean look at Tumblr and Myspace and all that. Oh and the half caste comments. Fuck I hate that.
Anyway, now I love my myriad heritage self. I like my curly hair, the freckles on my darker skin tone. I'm not ashamed that I don't fit into a particular group, I get to be me. Unique, a tale of love across borders and languages and hope and defying the expected.
"Sluteyyy! I so can relate with what you said. Especially kids can be mean as fuck. I had some boys who’d call me a chink because they knew my mum has filipina blood. Which, isn’t Chinese. I don’t have oriental eyes either but somehow that really sucked! So I totally get where you come from when you said you hated it when younger I used to LOATHE my big lips and wish I had thinner lips like the other girls. I’m so thankful for my full lips as a lot of women pay for them x | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask? "I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks. | |||
"Yes I can wholeheartedly!
I know my heritage, it helped that I visited both sets of grandparents in their home countries a fair bit when younger. I did learn a bit of one language (the other is an English speaking country), enough for a basic conversation.
I'm a proper mix of nationalities and being very honest, when I was younger I hated it. You're right with the whitewashing term; the world felt so very whitewashed.
Like you I always felt like an outsider, I'd get conflicting messages about what was attractive from different family members, at school I was one of four non-white pupils... it led to me trying desperately belong to one group. Being ashamed of my features and skin colour and hair because I didn't fit in, I wasn't seen as one of the pretty girls because I wasn't white... I mean look at Tumblr and Myspace and all that. Oh and the half caste comments. Fuck I hate that.
Anyway, now I love my myriad heritage self. I like my curly hair, the freckles on my darker skin tone. I'm not ashamed that I don't fit into a particular group, I get to be me. Unique, a tale of love across borders and languages and hope and defying the expected.
Sluteyyy!
I so can relate with what you said. Especially kids can be mean as fuck. I had some boys who’d call me a chink because they knew my mum has filipina blood. Which, isn’t Chinese.
I don’t have oriental eyes either but somehow that really sucked! So I totally get where you come from when you said you hated it when younger
I used to LOATHE my big lips and wish I had thinner lips like the other girls. I’m so thankful for my full lips as a lot of women pay for them x "I feel you both 100% | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask? "Not rude. Just “annoying” I guess. I am not ashamed of my genes, they are working great as I am not really aging bad at all. But Im not an open book for everyone if I don’t want to be?! So why ask these silly questions to begin with? | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks."Right ok, it’s normally something I’ll ask if I meet someone and I’m getting along with them because it interests me. I’ve never had a bad reaction from it, the opposite actually, but maybe they’re just being polite | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks."Exactly! I’m sure it isn’t done maliciously at all. But it’s like… you don’t belong anywhere. This can be said even by folks from the non-Caucasian side. Trust me, they can also be very “BUT YOU ARENT ONE OF US” U end up in this limbo of not belonging anywhere. Personally to make it easy, because of my different sides, I tend to just put white (other) when I get asked to disclose my race on forms etc | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks.
Right ok, it’s normally something I’ll ask if I meet someone and I’m getting along with them because it interests me. I’ve never had a bad reaction from it, the opposite actually, but maybe they’re just being polite "I think it’s totally okay if you are getting to know them. Its from strangers who you don’t care about and are having a random conversation about the weather and then they might look at you and go “But where are your parents from” It makes me wanna go “NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”
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"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks.
Right ok, it’s normally something I’ll ask if I meet someone and I’m getting along with them because it interests me. I’ve never had a bad reaction from it, the opposite actually, but maybe they’re just being polite
I think it’s totally okay if you are getting to know them.
Its from strangers who you don’t care about and are having a random conversation about the weather and then they might look at you and go
“But where are your parents from”
It makes me wanna go
“NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”
Like we probably never meet again so why does it matter? "Ahhh ok that makes sense. Yeah I’d never ask someone unless I was confident that we’re gonna become a part of my life Like I went on a date a few weeks ago and I really wanted to ask where she was from, but was hesitant. Eventually it come up anyways and we ended up having a great conversation about her heritage, her cultures, the differences. It was really interesting But I can see how me starting the date with that wound be not cool. And even more so to a stranger Despite being 110% plain white British people often ask me if I have any black in my family. And they ask it exactly like thaf. “Any black”. Because I have extremely tight curly hair. Strangers at the pub will ask to like wtf  | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks.
Right ok, it’s normally something I’ll ask if I meet someone and I’m getting along with them because it interests me. I’ve never had a bad reaction from it, the opposite actually, but maybe they’re just being polite
I think it’s totally okay if you are getting to know them.
Its from strangers who you don’t care about and are having a random conversation about the weather and then they might look at you and go
“But where are your parents from”
It makes me wanna go
“NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”
Like we probably never meet again so why does it matter?
Ahhh ok that makes sense. Yeah I’d never ask someone unless I was confident that we’re gonna become a part of my life
Like I went on a date a few weeks ago and I really wanted to ask where she was from, but was hesitant. Eventually it come up anyways and we ended up having a great conversation about her heritage, her cultures, the differences. It was really interesting
But I can see how me starting the date with that wound be not cool. And even more so to a stranger
Despite being 110% plain white British people often ask me if I have any black in my family. And they ask it exactly like thaf. “Any black”. Because I have extremely tight curly hair. Strangers at the pub will ask to like wtf "I can’t believe they’d ask “any black” What the Fuck. Some people tho!!! I’m laughing because it’s like so … forward to even say. Inappropriate
Trust me, most of us are proud of being mixed in the end. I think we do have a bit of a tough childhood for not conforming
But that can be said even for a white kid, going to Japan and attending school there. He’s gonna be the odd one.
Personally I think it makes me interesting that I’ve got aunties and uncles scattered around the globe and they all have mixed kids (my cousins who live in Canada are filipina/Latina + Indian for example and they are beautiful)
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"Without adding fuel to the fire the U.K. was a very white country once despite some suggesting every other person in Tudor England was black. When I grew up probably the most numerous people of colour were those with some Roma heritage. There are many around Southampton and not all lived in any kind of Roma environment. Most were white. But you just noticed some kids were dark skinned with brown eyes but otherwise as scruffy and everyday as us British kids. There were a handful of black and Asian kids and we had the city’s first black woman teacher. But my parents were very much educational on civil rights etc so I never called our teacher ‘chocolate biscuit’ like many others. Now, I’m married to a black woman. We have no kids which is a shame. Our extended family is very mixed and even I describe some environments as ‘too white’. Incidentally the first use of racist language I witnessed was a mixed race bully picking on the new West Indian kid at school. To be fair that kid rose to be secondary school’s toughest nut that few ever took on." Especially as certain areas of the U.K. (take London out of it) still has a majority of white folks. With blonde hair and blue eyes and pale skin | |||
"Yes I can wholeheartedly!
I know my heritage, it helped that I visited both sets of grandparents in their home countries a fair bit when younger. I did learn a bit of one language (the other is an English speaking country), enough for a basic conversation.
I'm a proper mix of nationalities and being very honest, when I was younger I hated it. You're right with the whitewashing term; the world felt so very whitewashed.
Like you I always felt like an outsider, I'd get conflicting messages about what was attractive from different family members, at school I was one of four non-white pupils... it led to me trying desperately belong to one group. Being ashamed of my features and skin colour and hair because I didn't fit in, I wasn't seen as one of the pretty girls because I wasn't white... I mean look at Tumblr and Myspace and all that. Oh and the half caste comments. Fuck I hate that.
Anyway, now I love my myriad heritage self. I like my curly hair, the freckles on my darker skin tone. I'm not ashamed that I don't fit into a particular group, I get to be me. Unique, a tale of love across borders and languages and hope and defying the expected.
"Half caste comments. Total HATE!! Our mix genes are clearly gonna help us out in the London run. I’m convinced I will stay looking pretty young till I’m 59 then I’ll probably age in one go when I turn 60
But hey, I’m happy to be looking fresh for that long | |||
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"Without adding fuel to the fire the U.K. was a very white country once despite some suggesting every other person in Tudor England was black. When I grew up probably the most numerous people of colour were those with some Roma heritage. There are many around Southampton and not all lived in any kind of Roma environment. Most were white. But you just noticed some kids were dark skinned with brown eyes but otherwise as scruffy and everyday as us British kids. There were a handful of black and Asian kids and we had the city’s first black woman teacher. But my parents were very much educational on civil rights etc so I never called our teacher ‘chocolate biscuit’ like many others. Now, I’m married to a black woman. We have no kids which is a shame. Our extended family is very mixed and even I describe some environments as ‘too white’. Incidentally the first use of racist language I witnessed was a mixed race bully picking on the new West Indian kid at school. To be fair that kid rose to be secondary school’s toughest nut that few ever took on. Especially as certain areas of the U.K. (take London out of it) still has a majority of white folks. With blonde hair and blue eyes and pale skin " That’s not a conspiracy though and to be honest most Brits are not Nordic looking. | |||
"Starting early today and I’m wondering if there’s any girls or boys who are mixed race on the forum? Do you know exactly your ancestry? Also, what do most people consider as mixed race? Did you have particular issues growing up mixed? I’m 50% white Caucasian from dad side, and my mum has filipina and Latina genes in her. So I’m an odd mix. Growing up it was kinda odd because I feel like I’ve been pretty white washed from day 1. My friends were all white, same as my parents friends and the setting we lived in. And my mum “rejected” a bit her roots , so she only spoke to me and my siblings in English and never in her language. Also we didn’t have much connection with aunties or cousins as they are all scattered around the world. But I used to spend time in the US and Canada also (visiting my auntie - and she and my cousins are more connected to their roots) Strangely enough, I always felt like I was never white enough for caucasian folks, and TOO white for other races. Definitely an outsider for the Latina/filipina folks. I used to dislike some of my mixed features but now I have really embraced them. And I think there are a lot of smocking hot mixed people out there! Anyone can relate? "Can very much relate, I’m pretty much the same mix as you!
I sometimes feel out of place. As mentioned before, not really belonging to either “world” is tough sometimes and the “but where are you reaaaaalllyyyy from” questions are annoying, especially when I already gave an answer before.
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"Starting early today and I’m wondering if there’s any girls or boys who are mixed race on the forum? Do you know exactly your ancestry? Also, what do most people consider as mixed race? Did you have particular issues growing up mixed? I’m 50% white Caucasian from dad side, and my mum has filipina and Latina genes in her. So I’m an odd mix. Growing up it was kinda odd because I feel like I’ve been pretty white washed from day 1. My friends were all white, same as my parents friends and the setting we lived in. And my mum “rejected” a bit her roots , so she only spoke to me and my siblings in English and never in her language. Also we didn’t have much connection with aunties or cousins as they are all scattered around the world. But I used to spend time in the US and Canada also (visiting my auntie - and she and my cousins are more connected to their roots) Strangely enough, I always felt like I was never white enough for caucasian folks, and TOO white for other races. Definitely an outsider for the Latina/filipina folks. I used to dislike some of my mixed features but now I have really embraced them. And I think there are a lot of smocking hot mixed people out there! Anyone can relate?
Can very much relate, I’m pretty much the same mix as you!
I sometimes feel out of place. As mentioned before, not really belonging to either “world” is tough sometimes and the “but where are you reaaaaalllyyyy from” questions are annoying, especially when I already gave an answer before.
"Whoop whoop to our genes!! X there are some super attractive actresses who have filipina/Latina in them. Like Shay Mitchell, Nicole Scherzinger, Vanessa Hudgens (I only found out about her in her latest vogue make up vid!!) I hate that question u mentioned | |||
"I look as white as white can be but my dad was Jamaican. I think he had three white grand parents and one black. When he came over to the UK he got all the racist shit when he opened his mouth and we as children pretty much got the same. Some people called us mongrels. You cannot educate the wilfully ignorant but I embrace all that I am." Terrible how some people called you mongrels! What the heck | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask? "Why would you need to ask about someone's ethnic heritage? Do you ask all white skinned people about theirs? No-one asks me about my mixed heritage, probably because I'm snow white with blue eyes, but I am not 100% ethnic Caucasian. | |||
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"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
Why would you need to ask about someone's ethnic heritage? Do you ask all white skinned people about theirs? No-one asks me about my mixed heritage, probably because I'm snow white with blue eyes, but I am not 100% ethnic Caucasian. "He did clarify later , and he wasn’t trying to be rude about it  | |||
"Is mixed race just about the mix of dark and paler skin tones? Surely everyone on the planet is mixed race. "Two or more different ethnicities. I know some people think mixed race is black and white. So there’s some confusion But no, it’s any mix between two different racial backgrounds . It can be oriental and Indian or black and Latino. Or white Caucasian and Arab . Combinations can be loads I guess | |||
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"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
Why would you need to ask about someone's ethnic heritage? Do you ask all white skinned people about theirs? No-one asks me about my mixed heritage, probably because I'm snow white with blue eyes, but I am not 100% ethnic Caucasian.
He did clarify later , and he wasn’t trying to be rude about it "Apologies, I hadn't read the thread below. My question still stands though. Let's say, for argument sake, the guy who made that comment was seeking to befriend me or have a relationship. Would he ask me about my ethnic background? | |||
"Is mixed race just about the mix of dark and paler skin tones? Surely everyone on the planet is mixed race.
Two or more different ethnicities. I know some people think mixed race is black and white. So there’s some confusion
But no, it’s any mix between two different racial backgrounds .
It can be oriental and Indian or black and Latino. Or white Caucasian and Arab . Combinations can be loads I guess " | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
I find it is insensitive as it highlights your otherness. It also isn't someones right to know your background it's personal. I think people ask it with good intentions to show an interest but it is the most common thing I get asked when meeting new people at it sucks."It's also something nobody ever asks my dad even though his parents are non-British because he looks like your average white man. | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
Why would you need to ask about someone's ethnic heritage? Do you ask all white skinned people about theirs? No-one asks me about my mixed heritage, probably because I'm snow white with blue eyes, but I am not 100% ethnic Caucasian.
He did clarify later , and he wasn’t trying to be rude about it
Apologies, I hadn't read the thread below. My question still stands though. Let's say, for argument sake, the guy who made that comment was seeking to befriend me or have a relationship. Would he ask me about my ethnic background? "I doubt he would , as you said yourself that you aren’t obvious when it comes to how you look? X So I assume people would assume you as caucasian period. It’s kind of difficult to tell when you mix say. White Spanish with white English. As yes there are differences but they are more subtle ?! | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating." So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. | |||
"I know I'm speaking of someone else's experience so please bare in mind I'm paraphrasing and this isn't a direct quote but I have a close friend who is mixed race (white and black carribean) and she has spoken about feeling not black enough for the black community but still black enough to be on the receiving end of racism from white people. It makes me sad to see her feel rejected from both sides of her heritage. Yep, I can kind of relate I never experienced racism myself (I’m fortunate) but I did get the odd question here and there like “Where are your parents from”
Or
“What’s your background? I can’t pin point”
Luckily I can’t remember when was the last time I got asked such a question but still.
While my cousin who was born in Spain, she’s more in touch with her filipina side… she did say to me
“You so don’t look one of us - I could never tell. To me, you look more white”
Are those considered rude questions to ask?
Why would you need to ask about someone's ethnic heritage? Do you ask all white skinned people about theirs? No-one asks me about my mixed heritage, probably because I'm snow white with blue eyes, but I am not 100% ethnic Caucasian.
He did clarify later , and he wasn’t trying to be rude about it
Apologies, I hadn't read the thread below. My question still stands though. Let's say, for argument sake, the guy who made that comment was seeking to befriend me or have a relationship. Would he ask me about my ethnic background?
I doubt he would , as you said yourself that you aren’t obvious when it comes to how you look?
X
So I assume people would assume you as caucasian period. It’s kind of difficult to tell when you mix say. White Spanish with white English. As yes there are differences but they are more subtle ?!"But just because someone looks 100% Caucasian, does not mean that they are. I have Jewish heritage as well as white British. I also have a sense of belonging elsewhere and of the trauma that befell my family in the 1940s but no-one would ever think to ask about it. Mr KC HAS been asked about his heritage, because he has an olive skin tone and dark features. He IS 100% white British peasant, but I'm the one who fits that description, not him. I just find it weird how only skin tone/hair/eye colouring is the stimulus for discussion, when "white" isn't an ethnic group on its own. | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. " I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ?" Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. " He's talking about his own experiences so how can you say it's untrue? | |||
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"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. He's talking about his own experiences so how can you say it's untrue? " never said it's untrue! I was referring to him saying not everyone sees colour but it's bullshit? | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. He's talking about his own experiences so how can you say it's untrue? never said it's untrue! I was referring to him saying not everyone sees colour but it's bullshit? " Couldn't care less what anyone looks like! Nice to me i'm nice to you. Lol | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. " Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. He's talking about his own experiences so how can you say it's untrue? " Thanks x, it winds we up when people think its as easy as saying a simple quote and all their unconcious biases as absolved. | |||
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"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) "Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race. | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race. "I was referring to a natural tan (some might go real dark while others not so much) ..personally don’t like a fake tan either, but to each their own I guess. | |||
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"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race.
I was referring to a natural tan (some might go real dark while others not so much) ..personally don’t like a fake tan either, but to each their own I guess.
"Natural is sexy! No one needs a tan to be sexy. Lol But true each to their own! | |||
"Starting early today and I’m wondering if there’s any girls or boys who are mixed race on the forum? Do you know exactly your ancestry? Also, what do most people consider as mixed race? Did you have particular issues growing up mixed? Hi! Your issues really resonated with me too! Although my parents are Indian and I was brought up in UK. Parents wanted to make sure I spoke good English to fit in, so I learned Engliah as my first language Even went to private school but no matter how hard I tried to fit in, it was never enough to be accepted. It takes its toll on your confidence, etc. And my parents didn't tell me enough about my own culture so it felt confused about my identity too... Ironically there was a programme in channel4 last night called Empireland by Sathnam Sanghera, a Times journalist which also talks about some of your issues. Happy to talk more privately if it helpsxx I’m 50% white Caucasian from dad side, and my mum has filipina and Latina genes in her. So I’m an odd mix. Growing up it was kinda odd because I feel like I’ve been pretty white washed from day 1. My friends were all white, same as my parents friends and the setting we lived in. And my mum “rejected” a bit her roots , so she only spoke to me and my siblings in English and never in her language. Also we didn’t have much connection with aunties or cousins as they are all scattered around the world. But I used to spend time in the US and Canada also (visiting my auntie - and she and my cousins are more connected to their roots) Strangely enough, I always felt like I was never white enough for caucasian folks, and TOO white for other races. Definitely an outsider for the Latina/filipina folks. I used to dislike some of my mixed features but now I have really embraced them. And I think there are a lot of smocking hot mixed people out there! Anyone can relate? " | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race.
I was referring to a natural tan (some might go real dark while others not so much) ..personally don’t like a fake tan either, but to each their own I guess.
Natural is sexy! No one needs a tan to be sexy. Lol But true each to their own! "As a teen I used to avoid getting any sort of tan because I can go really brown when I go on holiday and I used to hate it because of some comments or I was just self aware. Generally my skin in the winter is olive/white Also the term Olive skinned used to massively piss me off | |||
"Also I love pale white guys but I have to say they look extra hot when they come back from holiday. Either way it’s still them so race certainly doesn’t come into context. Not sure what you are trying to achieve here "Basically, you're attracted to the person, not the skin. But a glow does enhance, I agree | |||
"Also I love pale white guys but I have to say they look extra hot when they come back from holiday. Either way it’s still them so race certainly doesn’t come into context. Not sure what you are trying to achieve here
Basically, you're attracted to the person, not the skin.
But a glow does enhance, I agree " exactly
I mean , them golden skinned blonde surfer boys !!
Total sucker | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race.
I was referring to a natural tan (some might go real dark while others not so much) ..personally don’t like a fake tan either, but to each their own I guess.
Natural is sexy! No one needs a tan to be sexy. Lol But true each to their own!
As a teen I used to avoid getting any sort of tan because I can go really brown when I go on holiday and I used to hate it because of some comments or I was just self aware.
Generally my skin in the winter is olive/white
Also the term Olive skinned used to massively piss me off "Does it piss you off? Well if it does it shouldn't really,I go slightly white olive in the summer. lol It really doesn't bother me personally what anyone's tone is! If i'm attracted to someone i like them for who they are. | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race.
I was referring to a natural tan (some might go real dark while others not so much) ..personally don’t like a fake tan either, but to each their own I guess.
Natural is sexy! No one needs a tan to be sexy. Lol But true each to their own!
As a teen I used to avoid getting any sort of tan because I can go really brown when I go on holiday and I used to hate it because of some comments or I was just self aware.
Generally my skin in the winter is olive/white
Also the term Olive skinned used to massively piss me off Does it piss you off? Well if it does it shouldn't really,I go slightly white olive in the summer. lol It really doesn't bother me personally what anyone's tone is! If i'm attracted to someone i like them for who they are. "Not anymore, but it used to. I grew up surrounded by white as they come friends so it always made me feel a bit of an outcast (my skin complexion) Its still pretty light as my foundations tend to be beige and neutral . But for whatever reason, the olive thing used to make me feel somewhat different … | |||
"Im mixed and it is hard to find your place especially if you're not white passing. Everyone says they don't see colour but it's just bullshit. It is good we see each others uniqueness and I wouldn't change my skin tone for the world but growing up mixed race can feel quite isolating. So untrue to tar us with the same brush! I actually said on another post people should be happy being natural and their own skin colour be it white, mixed, etc I don't understand why lot's of white people want to be tanned so ain't they embracing their natural skin colour? It works both ways racism. I don't judge people on colour, Just by their personality and character. I don’t think people who wanna tan are looking to mimic a different race But more like a tan can look sexy and give a bit of a glow. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that ? Being natural is sexy? Why would you want to be darker if you are white that's like saying white isn't sexy. Not everyone finds tanned skin sexy? That doesn't make them racist or does it only apply to white people. Tanning is a natural process if People go on holiday for example, they tend to tan. Some go more red while others might have a more of a brown/caramel colour.
Everyone is virtually able to tan and still that’d be their natural colour (just tanned thanks to the effect of the sun) Ah yes a natural tan! Was meaning people who feel the need to tan all the time, I personally don't like the fake look. Natural is sexy to me! People should embrace who they are whatever their race.
I was referring to a natural tan (some might go real dark while others not so much) ..personally don’t like a fake tan either, but to each their own I guess.
Natural is sexy! No one needs a tan to be sexy. Lol But true each to their own!
As a teen I used to avoid getting any sort of tan because I can go really brown when I go on holiday and I used to hate it because of some comments or I was just self aware.
Generally my skin in the winter is olive/white
Also the term Olive skinned used to massively piss me off Does it piss you off? Well if it does it shouldn't really,I go slightly white olive in the summer. lol It really doesn't bother me personally what anyone's tone is! If i'm attracted to someone i like them for who they are.
Not anymore, but it used to. I grew up surrounded by white as they come friends so it always made me feel a bit of an outcast (my skin complexion)
Its still pretty light as my foundations tend to be beige and neutral . But for whatever reason, the olive thing used to make me feel somewhat different …
"Aww bless you! Well i'm glad you embrace it now. Remember everyone is unique, That's what makes the world interesting! Boring if were all the same. | |||
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"I guess apart from the appearance of the skin, be it darker or lighter - the cultural differences were the hardest for me. Growing up with an Asian parent in western society is tough. Going to visit your parents’ home country and having no clue or not knowing as much when it comes to behaviour etc is difficult. I think that’s the hardest for me." Very true! It was very different for me because even my mum sort of rejected her roots in some ways, her friends are mostly white and she isn’t involved into any community. Only ever went to see some grandparents in their home country once, when I was 4 and I don’t remember any of it. But I totally relate with the fact of not knowing how to behave, not knowing the language or traditions. Definitely feels like an outsider with your own extended family | |||
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"Without adding fuel to the fire the U.K. was a very white country once despite some suggesting every other person in Tudor England was black. When I grew up probably the most numerous people of colour were those with some Roma heritage. There are many around Southampton and not all lived in any kind of Roma environment. Most were white. But you just noticed some kids were dark skinned with brown eyes but otherwise as scruffy and everyday as us British kids. There were a handful of black and Asian kids and we had the city’s first black woman teacher. But my parents were very much educational on civil rights etc so I never called our teacher ‘chocolate biscuit’ like many others. Now, I’m married to a black woman. We have no kids which is a shame. Our extended family is very mixed and even I describe some environments as ‘too white’. Incidentally the first use of racist language I witnessed was a mixed race bully picking on the new West Indian kid at school. To be fair that kid rose to be secondary school’s toughest nut that few ever took on. Especially as certain areas of the U.K. (take London out of it) still has a majority of white folks. With blonde hair and blue eyes and pale skin " Brown is the most common British hair colour Plus its said like the majority of britain being white is somehow a bad thing or an issue in some way? Would you say Somalia being mostly Black or China being mostly Chinese an issue? | |||
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"Without adding fuel to the fire the U.K. was a very white country once despite some suggesting every other person in Tudor England was black. When I grew up probably the most numerous people of colour were those with some Roma heritage. There are many around Southampton and not all lived in any kind of Roma environment. Most were white. But you just noticed some kids were dark skinned with brown eyes but otherwise as scruffy and everyday as us British kids. There were a handful of black and Asian kids and we had the city’s first black woman teacher. But my parents were very much educational on civil rights etc so I never called our teacher ‘chocolate biscuit’ like many others. Now, I’m married to a black woman. We have no kids which is a shame. Our extended family is very mixed and even I describe some environments as ‘too white’. Incidentally the first use of racist language I witnessed was a mixed race bully picking on the new West Indian kid at school. To be fair that kid rose to be secondary school’s toughest nut that few ever took on. Especially as certain areas of the U.K. (take London out of it) still has a majority of white folks. With blonde hair and blue eyes and pale skin Brown is the most common British hair colour Plus its said like the majority of britain being white is somehow a bad thing or an issue in some way? Would you say Somalia being mostly Black or China being mostly Chinese an issue?" I never said that it was an issue at all so please don’t put things I never said in my mouth
It was stating a fact, also stating a fact that being surrounded by friends who are 100% caucasian with fair feature, was somewhat difficult because at that age you don’t embrace your own quirks, but want to conform with the rest.
I made an example of how someone completely caucasian and white might have the same struggles in a Japanese school,
For example.
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"Without adding fuel to the fire the U.K. was a very white country once despite some suggesting every other person in Tudor England was black. When I grew up probably the most numerous people of colour were those with some Roma heritage. There are many around Southampton and not all lived in any kind of Roma environment. Most were white. But you just noticed some kids were dark skinned with brown eyes but otherwise as scruffy and everyday as us British kids. There were a handful of black and Asian kids and we had the city’s first black woman teacher. But my parents were very much educational on civil rights etc so I never called our teacher ‘chocolate biscuit’ like many others. Now, I’m married to a black woman. We have no kids which is a shame. Our extended family is very mixed and even I describe some environments as ‘too white’. Incidentally the first use of racist language I witnessed was a mixed race bully picking on the new West Indian kid at school. To be fair that kid rose to be secondary school’s toughest nut that few ever took on. Especially as certain areas of the U.K. (take London out of it) still has a majority of white folks. With blonde hair and blue eyes and pale skin Brown is the most common British hair colour Plus its said like the majority of britain being white is somehow a bad thing or an issue in some way? Would you say Somalia being mostly Black or China being mostly Chinese an issue? I never said that it was an issue at all so please don’t put things I never said in my mouth
It was stating a fact, also stating a fact that being surrounded by friends who are 100% caucasian with fair feature, was somewhat difficult because at that age you don’t embrace your own quirks, but want to conform with the rest.
I made an example of how someone completely caucasian and white might have the same struggles in a Japanese school,
For example.
"And as you can read from other users on here who had the same issues of having two or more different races in them. We all share and have Encountered the same when growing up | |||
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"In some cases it's a familial and or environmental reality which shapes an individual. That is to say there are some half cast individuals, such as myself who were raised to be socio-culturally white (grandparents). " "half-caste". Cringe, yeah you've been White washed. We don't hear that term down here in London, only the elderly use that (which makes you want to slap the sense into them boomers, but they're unlearnable at that age). I'd recommend you check some videos by Akala on Youtube. There's a whole world out there my friend.  | |||
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"Being Mexican, most of us are what’s called “mestizo”, that is a mix of any indigenous groups and Spanish/European, depending on the region. My mother is from the north pacific coast, the indigenous group there, the Seris, are quite tall, lighter skinned and they resemble more the native American groups in the US. My grandmother was a Seri indian. My grandfather was a Spaniard from the Basque country (who some may argue it’s not Spain haha) But there are all colours and mixes over there… my son did a genetics test and he came out as 65% European and 35% Native American "I feel half mexican now i've watch queen of the south cabron | |||
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"Things seem to be changing, thankfully. My kids have dark features like mine… and they’ve all grown up in predominantly “white” areas where they are the only minority in their schools. They’ve never been singled out or treated differently. Actually my middle one (15) is quite popular for being the cool BritMex kid haha and all the girls are after him! He is 6’2” and looks more like 19, quite athletic and muscular. He is the one most proud of his heritage and he used to take me to school to talk to his class about Mexican food, customs etc when he was younger. "6'2" Mexican, what is going on here?! | |||
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"Things seem to be changing, thankfully. My kids have dark features like mine… and they’ve all grown up in predominantly “white” areas where they are the only minority in their schools. They’ve never been singled out or treated differently. Actually my middle one (15) is quite popular for being the cool BritMex kid haha and all the girls are after him! He is 6’2” and looks more like 19, quite athletic and muscular. He is the one most proud of his heritage and he used to take me to school to talk to his class about Mexican food, customs etc when he was younger.
6'2" Mexican, what is going on here?! "My daughter is taller than me and she is only 10! I am 5’6” for reference. | |||
