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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How did y’all cope with the realization of slowly getting older? Also for anyone with siblings, what kind of changes occurred with your sibling dynamics? |
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It was a realisation that dawned on me slowly over the course of about two years around about 59/60. I'm not sure what you mean by cope? Does the thought of growing older concern you? It does raise all sorts of questions and concerns.
Obviously I'm almost three times your age and my relationship with my siblings has changed a lot over the years. It's normal I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Realised that paying into a pension for all these years was probably a good idea - despite what the government might do!
Also realising my sister made a good move to live in Australia 30 years ago  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't find that I needed to cope with it, that phrase makes it sound like ageing is a burden. It isn't.
As for the dynamics with my kids, age hasn't determined that but time has.
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"Realised that paying into a pension for all these years was probably a good idea - despite what the government might do!
Also realising my sister made a good move to live in Australia 30 years ago "
Yeah pension. If you do nothing else take out a private pension |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was a realisation that dawned on me slowly over the course of about two years around about 59/60. I'm not sure what you mean by cope? Does the thought of growing older concern you? It does raise all sorts of questions and concerns.
Obviously I'm almost three times your age and my relationship with my siblings has changed a lot over the years. It's normal I think"
Just had a look through your pictures and you both look absolutely amazing, you’re definitely doing a very good job of growing older in terms of your physical appearance.
I’ve actually found that I’ve become a lot happier and more content as I’ve got older, I no longer feel self conscious and I worry far less about what other people think about me than I did when I was younger. I’ve learnt to like myself and stopped being ashamed of the way I am. I don’t have as much energy as I used to and my joints ache nearly all the time but a good sleep and a couple of ibuprofen sorts that out haha.
I have 3 siblings and we all get on way better now than we did when we were growing up, I think that comes from not living together so we don’t annoy each other on a daily basis like we used to and also now that we’re all adults the age gaps between us are irrelevant really, your level of maturity changes so much as you’re growing up that even a small age gap can mean a big difference in levels of maturity and makes it difficult to relate to people who are a different age at that stage in your life. That doesn’t apply at all once you’re an adult. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It was a realisation that dawned on me slowly over the course of about two years around about 59/60. I'm not sure what you mean by cope? Does the thought of growing older concern you? It does raise all sorts of questions and concerns.
Obviously I'm almost three times your age and my relationship with my siblings has changed a lot over the years. It's normal I think"
Fair enough.
I’m in generation Zs more mature side, so I used to laugh at the millennials and gen X guys whenever they had moments like this.
The holiday season is just bringing the concept of aging closer to home. Seeing my parents with grey hair and my siblings talking about going off to college makes me realize that pretty soon, we’ll all be entering wildly different stages of life. Eventually, I know everyone goes through this. |
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Everyone gets older from the day their mum squeezed to pop them out. I'll be 60 in March, although I do realise that ma body can't do certain things that I could do back in ma 50's/40's /30's... it's an ongoing process that us old 'uns have to learn to live with, and mostly we adapt accordingly |
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"It was a realisation that dawned on me slowly over the course of about two years around about 59/60. I'm not sure what you mean by cope? Does the thought of growing older concern you? It does raise all sorts of questions and concerns.
Obviously I'm almost three times your age and my relationship with my siblings has changed a lot over the years. It's normal I think
Fair enough.
I’m in generation Zs more mature side, so I used to laugh at the millennials and gen X guys whenever they had moments like this.
The holiday season is just bringing the concept of aging closer to home. Seeing my parents with grey hair and my siblings talking about going off to college makes me realize that pretty soon, we’ll all be entering wildly different stages of life. Eventually, I know everyone goes through this."
Yes, they do. I look on it as celebrating life and it's changes and developments. Both of us actively looked forward to our kids growing up, moving out, progressing in their careers and we moved our own life along at the same time. Growing older is way better than the alternative  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate! "
I had the issue after recovering from a head injury. Counting and keeping lists helped the most, out of everything. Doing non threatening things like playing Minecraft works as well, since it tests your passive ability to learn and remember details. |
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I approached 40 dreading it.
I shouldn't have.
I'm finally at an age where I can totally be myself and not give a damn about what 'the world' thinks of me and what I should or shouldn't be doing.
I am me for probably the first time in my life.
My take on aging is it that it keeps giving you more than its taking away, and will keep doing so until you are genuinely too old or too ill to maintain a balance. Embrace it until the end I say. Dog. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate!
Yeah but how's your memory?"
I've no idea what you mean.
Give me a few minutes on that one.... Just scrolling back |
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate!
I had the issue after recovering from a head injury. Counting and keeping lists helped the most, out of everything. Doing non threatening things like playing Minecraft works as well, since it tests your passive ability to learn and remember details. "
MY mum suffered a year injury a couple of years ago and she found that doing simple tasks like colouring and matching games helped too. Although I think the post you quoted is a joke about the inability to remember things as you grow older |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate!
I had the issue after recovering from a head injury. Counting and keeping lists helped the most, out of everything. Doing non threatening things like playing Minecraft works as well, since it tests your passive ability to learn and remember details.
MY mum suffered a year injury a couple of years ago and she found that doing simple tasks like colouring and matching games helped too. Although I think the post you quoted is a joke about the inability to remember things as you grow older "
Fair enough. I come here for the social aspect so I don’t mind the conversation, even if I’m responding to jokes. |
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate!
I had the issue after recovering from a head injury. Counting and keeping lists helped the most, out of everything. Doing non threatening things like playing Minecraft works as well, since it tests your passive ability to learn and remember details.
MY mum suffered a year injury a couple of years ago and she found that doing simple tasks like colouring and matching games helped too. Although I think the post you quoted is a joke about the inability to remember things as you grow older
Fair enough. I come here for the social aspect so I don’t mind the conversation, even if I’m responding to jokes. "
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So! How do you feel about growing older? Positive, apprehensive, indifferent? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate!
I had the issue after recovering from a head injury. Counting and keeping lists helped the most, out of everything. Doing non threatening things like playing Minecraft works as well, since it tests your passive ability to learn and remember details.
MY mum suffered a year injury a couple of years ago and she found that doing simple tasks like colouring and matching games helped too. Although I think the post you quoted is a joke about the inability to remember things as you grow older
Fair enough. I come here for the social aspect so I don’t mind the conversation, even if I’m responding to jokes.
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So! How do you feel about growing older? Positive, apprehensive, indifferent?"
Positive mostly. My endgame is to establish my own company and work towards being as influential as Bill Gates and Elon Musk. With age, I’m gaining more money and experience.
If that plan fails, I’m gonna retire at 40 to Columbia. Either way, there’s stuff to look forward to.
I’m just worried about drifting apart from my siblings and eventually burying my parents. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How did y’all cope with the realization of slowly getting older? Also for anyone with siblings, what kind of changes occurred with your sibling dynamics?"
You are 22 - at that age you’ve just finished growing!!!!! I was still at Uni and dumb as - I still am!
I’m 48 now. Finished with my ex 2 months ago, ditched 2 stone started climbing & playing rugby again. I haven’t played for over X20 years.
My chiropractor was horrified when I told him about the rugby. My slipped disc has been giving me hell so I bought a Glute Ab machine for £300 to strengthen the core & elevate the pressure on my spinal cord.
“Getting old is a state of mind. We are all going to get old sooner or later but it’s how you mentally deal with it”.
….I’d say at 22 you have plenty of time to prep for it.
Top tip though - look after your back & general health. You’ll deal with getting old much better in the long run.
Good luck buddy!
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"It's the memory loss I hate.... And I'll tell you something else, it's the memory loss I hate!
I had the issue after recovering from a head injury. Counting and keeping lists helped the most, out of everything. Doing non threatening things like playing Minecraft works as well, since it tests your passive ability to learn and remember details.
MY mum suffered a year injury a couple of years ago and she found that doing simple tasks like colouring and matching games helped too. Although I think the post you quoted is a joke about the inability to remember things as you grow older
Fair enough. I come here for the social aspect so I don’t mind the conversation, even if I’m responding to jokes.
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So! How do you feel about growing older? Positive, apprehensive, indifferent?
Positive mostly. My endgame is to establish my own company and work towards being as influential as Bill Gates and Elon Musk. With age, I’m gaining more money and experience.
If that plan fails, I’m gonna retire at 40 to Columbia. Either way, there’s stuff to look forward to.
I’m just worried about drifting apart from my siblings and eventually burying my parents. "
Yeah I understand that. I'm very lucky both my parents are still here, that does bring it's own problems but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have grown apart from my siblings, distance has played a part in that but we do keep in contact |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Coming from a Hispanic upbringing, the concept of drifting away from your family is definitely the most punishing aspect.
If anyone has more perspective on this bit, I’d love to hear it. |
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"Coming from a Hispanic upbringing, the concept of drifting away from your family is definitely the most punishing aspect.
If anyone has more perspective on this bit, I’d love to hear it. "
If you all have the will to stay connected, you will. Don't let petty upsets get in the way of your relationships, don't be reluctant to reach out even if it is you doing it time after time and understand that when your siblings have families of their own they might not have as much time for you but the connection is still there |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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Getting old does not happen slowly but too bloody quick, I am now physically in my early 80s but my mind is still in the 60s.
A reminder of my age however is that most of my incoming phone calls are to tell me that so and so has passed away.
With regard to siblings I have one sister, 6 years younger than me, we are very close but she winds me up when rolls up in her Porsche 911, no woman of her age should be driving a Porsche |
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Growing old is no fun but better than the alternative lol. Read something recently that said, imagine when you wake up, you are 30 years older than you are now and what you would give to be, in my case 53 again. Those aches and pains don't feel too bad then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me it started with finding it hard to stop putting on weight. My normal activities no longer kept it off so I had to hit the gym and be more careful about diet. Then my eyesight started to deteriorate which was a major blow as I always had outstanding eyesight. Whilst I'm still fit and active, now it's a conscious effort to stay that way. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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" Growing older is way better than the alternative "
When the comedian, Frankie Howerd, appeared on Desert Island Discs for the second time in 1982, with Roy Plomley, who originally devised the programme in 1942, Frankie said almost the same as you have: it is better than the alternative.
The commemorative 1982 TV broadcast can be viewed on google video.Roy died in 1985, and Frankie died in 1992, I think in the same week as Benny Hill. |
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Years ago, when I was in my 30s,a work colleague in his late 50s told me that getting old was all about lotions and potions. Back then I didn't understand what he meant, my older self certainly does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just try to stay as active and healthy as possible really. I try not to remind myself. If I get aches and pains, I want them to be for good reason, like from a hike or a workout, not from bending over reaching for something |
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If I wasn't getting older than I would be dead so growing old happily. Lost my dad years ago and dread the day I lose my mum. Still close to my sister but not so much my brother who lives many miles away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds extremely cheesy...but growing older, with good health at least, is a privilege. I focus more on how I feel than my DOB. Bodywork, I feel better than I did 20 yrs ago.
Siblings. I have one. Very strained relationship. Blood is not thicker than water. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds extremely cheesy...but growing older, with good health at least, is a privilege. I focus more on how I feel than my DOB. Bodywork, I feel better than I did 20 yrs ago.
Siblings. I have one. Very strained relationship. Blood is not thicker than water."
* body wise not bodywork. |
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"It was a realisation that dawned on me slowly over the course of about two years around about 59/60. I'm not sure what you mean by cope? Does the thought of growing older concern you? It does raise all sorts of questions and concerns.
Obviously I'm almost three times your age and my relationship with my siblings has changed a lot over the years. It's normal I think"
Just for the record, you’re still hot as hell  |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Life goes through multiple phases, especially nowadays, rather rapidly.
Make the most of each phase, and you will feel more contented about your life.
If a phase passes, trying to hold onto it brings discontentment; accept it and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hubby is 43 in January, he still acts like a kid as he says adulting is boring, he is on the same level as our 6 year old lol
I still collect teddies, especially Eeyore as he's my favourite |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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I am 67 . My realisation was last two years . Covid , sadly wife passed away , so on own . I am mentally and luckily physically fit. No regular medication at this time . Being on own a big shock . Retired also December 2019. I do not feel old . Trying to get back normality ? Yes have been chatting and meet once female at my house . Only time will tell . |
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"It was a realisation that dawned on me slowly over the course of about two years around about 59/60. I'm not sure what you mean by cope? Does the thought of growing older concern you? It does raise all sorts of questions and concerns.
Obviously I'm almost three times your age and my relationship with my siblings has changed a lot over the years. It's normal I think
Just for the record, you’re still hot as hell "
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Ah don’t I’m approaching 30 and I am feeling it. "
Stop it ! I’d swap. 30s we’re awesome but I loved my 40s , by far the best decade , physically, sexually, career , travel, i50’s are going to hard/impossible to match it and then 60’s realistically, I’ll just be a little old man. That realisation happened around 48-49 and it’s tough |
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I wish I was closer to my siblings, like we used to be. One of them still lives quite nearby but we rarely see each other, the seems to be no desire from them to change that either.
I've always dreaded birthdays and Hated getting older. I don't feel any different on the inside though apart from getting more content with myself and I have way more confidence that before. |
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I often joke about being an old git and wearing out, but in truth getting older doesn't bother me. I can still do all the fun things I enjoy. In terms of sex, I'm having the most fun I've had in years.
Certainly things tend to ache and twinge a little more easily than they used to, but nothing I can't cope with.
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