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over a year ago
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I've moved to a new city in the past year but it was the worst time due to Lockdown and Covid-19.
I've been experiencing extreme loneliness which definitely has affected a lot of things. How have people coped with loneliness?
I'm quite shy and find it hard to make friends but don't worry every I'll be fine. |
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When our children were very small we moved to a new town and I was very lonely. I joined various parent and child groups which helped a bit but I'll admit at times they just emphasised my isolation.
When it comes down to it there is only one solution to loneliness and that's interaction with other people. It's not easy, it takes time but even exchanging a few words with people who serve you in shops, passing the time of day with neighbours or the person on the next table in the coffee shop can help.
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I have signed up to social groups but I think I need that let's hang out later on sort of friendship. Like people to go to the movies with or whatever |
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Loneliness is literally a killer. It's a horrible feeling. Are there any North West swinger events you might attend if you knew someone from Fab? I've seen Manchester and Birmingham but I don't know about Liverpool. I hope some social opportunities come up soon for you. |
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"I have signed up to social groups but I think I need that let's hang out later on sort of friendship. Like people to go to the movies with or whatever"
That develops over time. For example a few years ago I worked a short term contract with people I barely knew. After I'd finished one of the women contacted me and asked if I'd like to meet for coffee. We've slowly developed a good friendship over time. Would you feel able to invite someone from the social groups you've joined for a coffee or drink? |
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"I have signed up to social groups but I think I need that let's hang out later on sort of friendship. Like people to go to the movies with or whatever"
Whatever interests you, look for local groups around that. I made some good mates doing courses - a literature course led to me having a small group of people I go to the theatre with (my friends aren't interested at all!).
There are social apps available, but it's also worth looking at any local noticeboards at a gym or cafe you visit, look for any social opportunities and join in.
Cafe Tabac on Bold Street used to do a film night on a Monday, just rock up and they were showing B movies. It's years since I went but it was always great - I used to go alone and they were a great, welcoming bunch.
I hope they're still doing it post-covid, it was great fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've moved to a new city in the past year but it was the worst time due to Lockdown and Covid-19.
I've been experiencing extreme loneliness which definitely has affected a lot of things. How have people coped with loneliness?
I'm quite shy and find it hard to make friends but don't worry every I'll be fine. "
I can totally relate OP. I also moved to a new part of the country in lockdown. Am I lonely? Yes, I miss my friends & family terribly.
I'm sorry you're feeling lonely, at least you can chat on here, there are some lovely people about.
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Whenever I moved cities, I joined a running group or cycling etc, and you pretty much find your level with getting a to low key hanging out in the pub or whatever after. Anything that has a reason to get in a group, and then a chat and pint after before going home will start to get you chatting, and you might find someone who shares other interests other than whatever the group thing was, and off you go. Good luck. |
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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago
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Loneliness is so common now and it can be debilitating. I'm not sure I'm actually coping but a couple of things I've done that helped a little bit are:
- get a furry pet
- join a team sport club
- from your colleagues and acquaintances find the ones that you share interests with and ask if they want to do something together
- get involved with local community groups, e.g. litter picking
- find a group on the meet up app
- become a volunteer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've moved to a new city in the past year but it was the worst time due to Lockdown and Covid-19.
I've been experiencing extreme loneliness which definitely has affected a lot of things. How have people coped with loneliness?
I'm quite shy and find it hard to make friends but don't worry every I'll be fine. "
MUSIC...listen to it ..learn to play an instrument... whatever..THE greatest Soul filling thing of ALL time ...you just lose yourself in it .. |
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OP, if you like gaming, there's a games café called Sugar and Dice in Liverpool. There's a bunch of places that combine hobbies with social coffee etc around the city. Would taking up a bit of volunteering help you to make friends, perhaps? |
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Also, I hated parent and baby groups. I tried when I had my son, but was ostracised for being a teen mum and with my daughter, ostracised for being on crutches and totally unable to join in with playing on the floor or skipping around being a fairy. All you can do is try different social activities and see who you meet. |
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I feel you OP I've been divorced for a year or so and had dates but there is nothing worse than being sat at home and no one to talk to. This time of year is the worse as everyone trends to hibernate alot more.
Like others have said join a club or group that's of interest to you. Didn't always help add like had been said people often join groups in friendship groups already. Being in here can actually make things worse but go to a social on here as they are often weekly so at least one night where you know your going to meet up with friendly people. That's one thing in here that is great is that no one tends to be opinionated and also very welcome.
But also remember your not the only one feeling the same way. |
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"Also, I hated parent and baby groups. I tried when I had my son, but was ostracised for being a teen mum and with my daughter, ostracised for being on crutches and totally unable to join in with playing on the floor or skipping around being a fairy. All you can do is try different social activities and see who you meet. "
I wasn't ostracised in a bad way but I was quite a bit older than the other women. They just didn't want to mix with me. A really nice woman spoke to me and invited me for coffee. We had nothing except our children in common and I think she thought I was a bit odd but she invited me every week. Her mother lived with her and has been searching for an old school friend who turned out to be my aunt and I was able to put them in touch with each other. It's funny how life works |
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"Also, I hated parent and baby groups. I tried when I had my son, but was ostracised for being a teen mum and with my daughter, ostracised for being on crutches and totally unable to join in with playing on the floor or skipping around being a fairy. All you can do is try different social activities and see who you meet.
I wasn't ostracised in a bad way but I was quite a bit older than the other women. They just didn't want to mix with me. A really nice woman spoke to me and invited me for coffee. We had nothing except our children in common and I think she thought I was a bit odd but she invited me every week. Her mother lived with her and has been searching for an old school friend who turned out to be my aunt and I was able to put them in touch with each other. It's funny how life works"
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"OP, if you like gaming, there's a games café called Sugar and Dice in Liverpool. There's a bunch of places that combine hobbies with social coffee etc around the city. Would taking up a bit of volunteering help you to make friends, perhaps? "
Sugar and Dice is a really good suggestion, pre-covid they did singles nights, not in a romantic sense for hooking up but just for spending time playing board games with other people if you don't have a gang of friends to take with you. Worth checking out whether they're back on now.
OP the other suggestion is a club. Town House do a pub night once a month, no entry fee, no membership required, no dressing up, just a normal pub night. You might find a social circle of like minded people through that? |
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"The problem I found with groups was that most people joined with a friend and groups of humans can be extremely unfriendly unless there's one person who deliberately draws newcomers in. "
I've found the same thing over the years; I always hate to see someone on the fringe not quite able to join in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry your feeling lonely I move out of my perntd home 2 months ago and I did feel lonely but I'm use to it I got family and friends to talk to
Is there any activities in your area that you could look to do |
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"Sorry your feeling lonely I move out of my perntd home 2 months ago and I did feel lonely but I'm use to it I got family and friends to talk to
Is there any activities in your area that you could look to do"
Hope you are okay too? |
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