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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up "
Y’all have a different environment here, but most of our clubs back home are more country club like. We don’t just meet for sex but to discuss our fetishes and issues comfortable to only talk about there.
As a result of being so involved and enjoying it, I consider myself to be a member of the lifestyle. All this interesting casual sex is definitely a nice benefit as well! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
A lot of single people are swingers and without them swinging would be a completely different scene. I think the idea that swinging is just couples nowadays is outdated. You still see some couples with the attitude that singles shouldn't be on here and then most of the time see they are looking for a single person so they can have a threesome  .
My opinion is swinging is wherever you want it to be there is enough room on the scene for everyone to enjoy it whatever way they want. There is no right or wrong way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people feel the need to put everything in a box and put a label on it?
Top or bottom, Dom or Sub, bi or bi-curious...does it matter as long as you're doing something you enjoy?
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I’ve never said I’m a swinger. I’m just single lass looking for sex between relationships. I could never be a swinger as I couldn’t happily share a partner, just not something that arouses me.
And I don’t mean that in a judgemental way, it’s just that I know myself.
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"Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up "
I think singles are swingers too. It's a mindset a way to be, rather than being a couple or not. If it was just couples then what about greedy girl nights etc. Or those couples that just invite an extra guy or girl |
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To me it's about the openess about their lifestyle and the respect for those they meet which I don't find you always get with singles having casual sex outside tge swinging scene. Also, especially if those singles would want a swinging relationship if they were to get into one. You also have people here who originally joined the scene as a couple but may have split up. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Swinging is an attitude, not about the number of people in the relationship.
It’s an approach and attitude towards sex, relationships, openness and communication with partners.
Just because someone isn’t having sex, it doesn’t change their sexuality, just because a swinger is single, it doesn’t change that they are |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Swingers who are currently single fulfil a valuable niche within the complex set of potential relationships within this lifestyle.
Couples who swing can engage in NSA sex on either a single occasion or an ongoing basis, in a threesome, because when two couples swing it can occasionally result in one person having to take one for the team, to coin a phrase.
Swinging is an attitude towards sex; non-monogamous sex between consenting parties, whether that be singles, couples or groups.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up "
I'm not one and l don't , lm just swimming around these waters hoping to find a single , separated , divorced lady who is also looking for a single , separated divorced guy for the exact same reasons that both are here for . |
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"A lot of single people are swingers and without them swinging would be a completely different scene. I think the idea that swinging is just couples nowadays is outdated. You still see some couples with the attitude that singles shouldn't be on here and then most of the time see they are looking for a single person so they can have a threesome .
My opinion is swinging is wherever you want it to be there is enough room on the scene for everyone to enjoy it whatever way they want. There is no right or wrong way. "
I remember a thread about "swingers" a few years ago. Varying observations and opinions except for one couple. Who were incensed and outraged that single people should class themselves as swingers.
They're not!!!!
Only couples are swingers!!!!! Single people shouldn't even be allowed on Fab!!!!!
Their rhetoric was borderline pshycho.
Turned out they met on Fab when they both had singles profiles.
Fruitcakes. 
I think swinging is a mindset. An attitude. An openess and honesty. It goes beyond just having sex.
Winston |
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In my experience "swinging" covers a multitude of sexual activity outside the norm of what is perceived by society in general as a relationship. That deviation varies from person to person depending on what exactly excites and turns on each individual. Many of those I'd describe as "outsiders" do perceive "swinging" as couples swapping partners at parties or in the comfort of a home environment. Every intelligent person knows though that the biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to happen, so I'd describe "swinging" as exploring the depths of erotisism to fulfil those inner most desires whatever they might be whether doing so as a couple or a single, and "swingers" are the people brave enough to do just that! In over 200 sexual encounters I can honestly say that whilst there have been similarities, no two meets have ever been totally identical. I've never been substance abuser, but I can only describe "swinging" as a substance that produces a different high every time, resulting in a desire to delve deeper, and experiment further, and if a particular experience is not to my liking, don't do it again. This has also led to a situation where I can only have a meaningful relationship with someone who has been down a similar path, and pushed the boundaries that are outside the comfort zone of the average member of regularly ordered society. Couples are the lucky ones who actually manage to meet someone where they have that meeting of minds to want to indulge in fulfilling their sexual fantasies together without detriment to their established relationship. |
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I'm a single chap.
I'm probably not swinging when I meet another single person.
I'm probably swinging when I meet a couple.
But the problem is definitions and gate-keepers.
Remember when President Clinton was impeached? The committee came to the strange conclusion that Monica Lewinsky did have sex with him, but Bill did not have sex with her. |
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"Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up "
Because we swing. Simple really. We have swingers mindsets in that we enjoy sex and sharing partners, albeit temporary sex partners lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think swinging is a mindset. An attitude. An openess and honesty. It goes beyond just having sex.
Winston"
Agreed. Someone being in a relationship or being single doesn't make them a swinger; it's how they view and approach this "thing". |
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By *uckABCMan
over a year ago
sheffield |
In a way you could be open minded or in an open relationship as long as you are happy and playing safe and most important be honest with yourself and others I don’t think it matters life’s not a rehearsal enjoy it no matter what |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of single people are swingers and without them swinging would be a completely different scene. I think the idea that swinging is just couples nowadays is outdated. You still see some couples with the attitude that singles shouldn't be on here and then most of the time see they are looking for a single person so they can have a threesome .
My opinion is swinging is wherever you want it to be there is enough room on the scene for everyone to enjoy it whatever way they want. There is no right or wrong way. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of single people are swingers and without them swinging would be a completely different scene. I think the idea that swinging is just couples nowadays is outdated. You still see some couples with the attitude that singles shouldn't be on here and then most of the time see they are looking for a single person so they can have a threesome .
My opinion is swinging is wherever you want it to be there is enough room on the scene for everyone to enjoy it whatever way they want. There is no right or wrong way. "
Agreed!!
Iam swinging l day everyday in life tbh.
I was on the swings yesterday, living some childhood joys and tummy tickles!! Lol.
Has anybody noticed. Anything is simple yet basic on the ground q foundation?
Yet people/people's come along and break it,then try to fix it,what they think they are doing for the best! Yet destroying things further more. And add layer upon layer of crop,confusion,and confuse others even more so in the process!!
Yet we all or most on here wish to enjoy share,explore and engage experiment and come away with fulfilment of Lust,desires,passions..
There is no set piece of anything. Let it flow like water let it go and take form.
We assume we don't or won't like something from how our eyes decieve us. Yet we could and do enjoy it more of only we step forward and break down our very own mental barriers we have set for ourself and other's
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The 'wife swapping' of years ago is pretty old hat.
I take 'swinging' to mean holding a liberal attitude toward sex rather than being bound by the constraints of conventionality which could loosely be seen as nothing more than state controlled breeding programmes.
So .... people who 'swing' do not consider themselves to be committed to another simply because they had a physical experience with them.
For me - 'the scene' (I've never liked that phrase ) requires more than a 'no emotional straenglehold' on others. It requires people who see the human body and it's pleasures as a natural part of our needs and not something that should be hidden behind closed doors , sniggered at or remonstrated against.
No one has hysterics when someone eats a meal or brays and points when someone uses the toilet or is even remotely curious and accusative as to why we breathe in and out....... it's part of being human.
Some here, who think themselves open minded are - to me - very repressed sexually, far from sensual or natural and very porn / lad sex led. As demonstrated by crude names and base language about sex.
Sex remains a crude secret even within 'swinging' - what ever it is these days it exists in the mind of the individual.
If someone says they are part of the swinging scene  or are a swinger - single - partnered - gay - bi or any other category that people are forced into then they are.
There is no one can say they are not. Even swingers have to look for the swingers they match with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people feel the need to put everything in a box and put a label on it?
Top or bottom, Dom or Sub, bi or bi-curious...does it matter as long as you're doing something you enjoy?
Ditto well said.. labels have divided things and people's.
Everything is Boxed.
We have become conditioned and are conditioning others to live to those ideals. And tick bits.
All bullshite tbh
Flow like water..
The one's who don't want to. Leave them be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t like the term swinger as it have certain expectations attached to it from large numbers of people who expect someone that swings to have lower standards of who they have sex with as it’s only sex, right?
As a single and even now as part of a couple I tolerate the term as it describes the mindset and attitude towards sex better than any other word currently.
Swinging is not swapping. It is what you want it to be as a single or even a couple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up I think singles are swingers too. It's a mindset a way to be, rather than being a couple or not. If it was just couples then what about greedy girl nights etc. Or those couples that just invite an extra guy or girl"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve never said I’m a swinger. I’m just single lass looking for sex between relationships. I could never be a swinger as I couldn’t happily share a partner, just not something that arouses me.
And I don’t mean that in a judgemental way, it’s just that I know myself.
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That's something to think about. Very thought provokin indeed!!
You don't like sharing a partner.
Say a man to another woman? Whilst you are there?
Within swinging for example.
Say you are having the freedom of sex on here as for you. And this one guy. Asks you to have another guy whilst he is there as a threesome?
What would you do??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Swinging is an attitude, not about the number of people in the relationship.
It’s an approach and attitude towards sex, relationships, openness and communication with partners.
Just because someone isn’t having sex, it doesn’t change their sexuality, just because a swinger is single, it doesn’t change that they are"
Valid good point, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*** I don’t like the term swinger as it have certain expectations attached to it from large numbers of people who expect someone that swings to have lower standards of who they have sex with as it’s only sex, right? ***
As a single and even now as part of a couple I tolerate the term as it describes the mindset and attitude towards sex better than any other word currently.
Swinging is not swapping. It is what you want it to be as a single or even a couple
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do single people call themselves swingers, say they swing, say they're part of "the lifestyle"?
I just wonder because I'd never say that. I always thought swinging was something couples did, and honestly still do think that.
No malice intended towards anyone in asking this. It's a genuine question.
Anyway, I'm off to sleep so I'll check the replies when I get up
I'm not one and l don't , lm just swimming around these waters hoping to find a single , separated , divorced lady who is also looking for a single , separated divorced guy for the exact same reasons that both are here for ."
Best put that clearly on your profile and add so all know how you feel and where you stand with it all.
Enjoy, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of single people are swingers and without them swinging would be a completely different scene. I think the idea that swinging is just couples nowadays is outdated. You still see some couples with the attitude that singles shouldn't be on here and then most of the time see they are looking for a single person so they can have a threesome .
My opinion is swinging is wherever you want it to be there is enough room on the scene for everyone to enjoy it whatever way they want. There is no right or wrong way.
I remember a thread about "swingers" a few years ago. Varying observations and opinions except for one couple. Who were incensed and outraged that single people should class themselves as swingers.
They're not!!!!
Only couples are swingers!!!!! Single people shouldn't even be allowed on Fab!!!!!
Their rhetoric was borderline pshycho.
Turned out they met on Fab when they both had singles profiles.
Fruitcakes.
I think swinging is a mindset. An attitude. An openess and honesty. It goes beyond just having sex.
Winston"
Thanks for sharing, info like this helps. |
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When |I first started on the swinging scene there were a group of us singles, 5 guys and two single* ladies, that used to travel all over the UK to clubs and socials. We'd meet couples and singles in various combinations and have a great time.
I'd say we were definitely single swingers!
*It turned out that one of the ladies wasn't quite as single as she made out but that's another story. |
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I suppose it's an attitude and just terminology. I've never considered myself as a "swinger" but then in my naivety I've never really thought about it.
In essence I'm just a man looking for sensual, passionate and meaningful sex with a woman. |
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I think all this label technically is silly. I think most people would give this site/scene a blanket term of swinging. They are here, we are here and we're often all playing nicely together, that's all that matters IMO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Single people join couples or borrow halves of couples or many other combinations. So to me they are swinging and could call themselves a swinger. If they wanted to |
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To classify swinging or the lifestyle as exclusive to only couples is a false narrative.
It is a mindset that people 'in the life' share and anyone attempting to re-define it is doing a disservice to the community.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the replies and honesty folks  . I'm not big on labelling as I think there's always someone that misinterprets them or tries to use them in a derogatory way.
As long as everyone's having fun is all that matters
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I think swinging is a mindset. An attitude. An openess and honesty. It goes beyond just having sex.
Winston
Agreed. Someone being in a relationship or being single doesn't make them a swinger; it's how they view and approach this "thing"."
Meli gets it.
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