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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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… When dating/on the cusp of getting into a new relationship/intimate situation??
My last two LTRs were pretty horrific and I hopelessly ignored many red flags that were present at the outset of both.
Nowadays I’m extra vigilant and quite militant when it comes to red flags but I’ve been thinking: everyone has their foibles so maybe I’m being overly cautious.
Thoughts? And what’s your approach?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven’t dated in a looooooooong time but if I ever did then I guess I’d have to accept that at my age dating would always come with some sort of baggage involved so it would be about what I could live with vs what I couldn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first came to fab and an app I used before fab I was adamant I didn't want a relationship. I think it was more about being held back and not being able to be me fully that stopped me. In previous relationships it was more the case that the other person had it the way that suited them without a compromise. I accept completely that we all have baggage, I have mine and it made me ruthless too. Obviously now I'm in a relationship, and he's accepting of what I want and me of him, and we discuss in an adult way each time if we need to.
Communicating makes so much difference but it takes time to establish who you can do that with in the right way and its natural to be cautious up until you know you can. Opening up I struggled with as I was guarded all the time. It took a bit to soften me but I guess until you meet someone you match with you're going to be like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met someone on here a year ago. I was happily single, but he walked in and changed my life. I can't imagine not being with him now. You just never know when these things will happen and it's usually when you stop looking. |
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Divorced in 2016 and apart from a few dates I have steered away from relationships. However I have found myself in a potentially new one, only three dates so far but endless text messaging every day.
I value my freedom and not having to have ‘that conversation’ about my transvestism. But she’s very intelligent and self aware so I don’t think it would be an issue with her.
But I still don’t know what I want yet, that’s why I’m just playing it day by day. The minute conversations move to more permanent plans for the future I’ll have to see how I feel then. |
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