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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Really random question, do you date people your age? Or younger ? Or do you go for older?
I have done a bit of a mix to be honest but upon reflection, in my twenties I dated older guys!
except for my first boyfriend who was same age as me, the rest were pretty much older. When I was 20, he was already 31/32 back then. I used to find it extremely fascinating. Knowing he was older and more mature (total farce he was a fuck boy in the end)
I don’t understand why some were appalled by the whole Taylor Swift / Jake Gyllenall situation I mean yes she was in her early 20s and he was 30 .. It’s not uncommon to have a legal age gap?!
Anyway now that I’m 30, I definitely wouldn’t date younger (only cradle snatch when it comes to sex from time to time  ) but definitely would prefer to stay around my age range so +/- 3 or 4 years.
Has anyone dated someone with a 20+ years age gap? (For example, My parents had quite an age gap between them)
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I think age ranges often change as we get older.
Older people often like younger people because then they can just lie there while the youngster does all the work.  |
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"Really random question, do you date people your age? Or younger ? Or do you go for older?
I have done a bit of a mix to be honest but upon reflection, in my twenties I dated older guys!
except for my first boyfriend who was same age as me, the rest were pretty much older. When I was 20, he was already 31/32 back then. I used to find it extremely fascinating. Knowing he was older and more mature (total farce he was a fuck boy in the end)
I don’t understand why some were appalled by the whole Taylor Swift / Jake Gyllenall situation I mean yes she was in her early 20s and he was 30 .. It’s not uncommon to have a legal age gap?!
Anyway now that I’m 30, I definitely wouldn’t date younger (only cradle snatch when it comes to sex from time to time ) but definitely would prefer to stay around my age range so +/- 3 or 4 years.
Has anyone dated someone with a 20+ years age gap? (For example, My parents had quite an age gap between them)
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Mostly younger now. Oldies can’t keep up
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think age ranges often change as we get older.
Older people often like younger people because then they can just lie there while the youngster does all the work. "
You're making me laugh this morning!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Older. I've always looked for maturity and security. I certainly had alot of fun in my younger teenage years but I don't think the guys would be looked at favourably in the courts. (don't worry, I'm not like that).
I started dating my husband when I was 16 and he was 23. It's only a 6.5yr age gap but I wouldn't have any quarms being with someone 40-45.
Age ranges differ as you get older too. A 16yo being with a 36yo maybe doesn't look so great, but a 34yo and 54yo isn't anything to write about imo. |
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"I think age ranges often change as we get older.
Older people often like younger people because then they can just lie there while the youngster does all the work. "
Damn! I hadn't thought of that. |
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Not sure why but it just seems to happen now that I get on better with women in their 30s so they tend to be younger than me.
There is a 16-17 year age gap between myself and my better half and it just works well, maybe it's because I'm a big kid at heart and she like older guys....lucky me eh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tends to be younger, but only by a few years. I have quite a young outlook on life, and most people assume I'm younger than I am (and don't believe how old I am!) Probably just immature! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These days I prefer younger, I'm nearly 45. Men my age usually have far too much baggage, younger guys are more fun, more open minded, less set in their ways. And they keep me feeling young!"
It becomes even more noticeable when you get to 50+. Not so much here, but on dating sites I'm rarely attracted to a man my age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the person someone could be immature at my age or older but mature 5 years younger
If you like the person, good personality, they are a Good laugh & there is an attraction then that's the main part right |
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As long as I’m attracted to them and vice versa then age isn’t really a problem if I’m just having fun.
If I’m dating them or in a relationship with them then as long as they have their shit together and bring me no drama then they could again be any age although in that case I probably do prefer a younger woman as long as she’s classy, confident and fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually prefer a little older but I’ve spoken to people younger than me and I’m intrigued so I guess now, it’s just based on the person and if I have a connection with them "
It's whoever you're attracted too, some days you want younger, some days older, just as long as everyone is having fun, fill ya boots. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As long as I’m attracted to them and vice versa then age isn’t really a problem if I’m just having fun.
If I’m dating them or in a relationship with them then as long as they have their shit together and bring me no drama then they could again be any age although in that case I probably do prefer a younger woman as long as she’s classy, confident and fun. "
Don’t you think that eventually the age gap might be too big that it can become a generational problem tho?
I don’t think I could date someone who’s like 60 for example
But also definitely can’t date someone who’s 18-19. I’ve had a boyfriend (let’s say) a few years ago and he was 22 at the time. And yeah, his immaturity showed eventually. So I doubt that I would wanna go that age again (only for sex) but also I doubt I’d want like a huge age gap with someone a lot lot older.
I don’t know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think age attraction is like any other... we all have our preference. I personally only date older men. I don’t find guys my age or younger sexually attractive, although I can acknowledge if a younger guy is good looking, I just don’t get that horny connection. I don’t see my preference being any different to that of someone who only dates slim or bigger girl, or only likes short or tall partners etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My rule has always been if they can’t finish this song lyric ‘have you ever, ever felt like this, when strange things happen are you……’ then they’re too young for me! |
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"My rule has always been if they can’t finish this song lyric ‘have you ever, ever felt like this, when strange things happen are you……’ then they’re too young for me! "
Maybe they just dont know the song lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me. |
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"As long as I’m attracted to them and vice versa then age isn’t really a problem if I’m just having fun.
If I’m dating them or in a relationship with them then as long as they have their shit together and bring me no drama then they could again be any age although in that case I probably do prefer a younger woman as long as she’s classy, confident and fun.
Don’t you think that eventually the age gap might be too big that it can become a generational problem tho?
I don’t think I could date someone who’s like 60 for example
But also definitely can’t date someone who’s 18-19. I’ve had a boyfriend (let’s say) a few years ago and he was 22 at the time. And yeah, his immaturity showed eventually. So I doubt that I would wanna go that age again (only for sex) but also I doubt I’d want like a huge age gap with someone a lot lot older.
I don’t know "
I think it’s only an issue if you personally make it one. I look at it this way, the only person I have to answer to is the person staring back at me from the mirror. Who cares what other people think.
I was in a relationship with someone 16 years younger than me, and we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other when we were together, and spent so much time laughing and having fun that our stomachs hurt. Funnily enough all my male friends approved but a lot of female friends were telling me she was too young. Ultimately it was her baggage and emotional damage from a previous relationship that ended us, nothing to do with the age gap. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me."
Yeah I literally only dated older apart from the 20something kid
But then again I was still in my 20s so I don’t know If I’ll start reversing from this point on or stick to guys close to my age
I still believe that guys are at their prime peak in their 30s / early 40 x |
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"Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me.
Yeah I literally only dated older apart from the 20something kid
But then again I was still in my 20s so I don’t know If I’ll start reversing from this point on or stick to guys close to my age
I still believe that guys are at their prime peak in their 30s / early 40 x "
Guess I’m in my prime then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me.
Yeah I literally only dated older apart from the 20something kid
But then again I was still in my 20s so I don’t know If I’ll start reversing from this point on or stick to guys close to my age
I still believe that guys are at their prime peak in their 30s / early 40 x
Guess I’m in my prime then "
Yes you are, sir |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find that men my age seem to be old before there time which is really disappointing, as I have I feel a younger outlook on life.For dating id go up to 10 years younger but anymore than that I feel wouldn't work.
Would love to meet someone my she who wasn't a grumpy old man lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me.
Yeah I literally only dated older apart from the 20something kid
But then again I was still in my 20s so I don’t know If I’ll start reversing from this point on or stick to guys close to my age
I still believe that guys are at their prime peak in their 30s / early 40 x "
Did you used to be a guy at that age? I’ve had 3 long term girlfriends 2 younger 1 older. People are all different irrespective of age, I like people |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me.
Yeah I literally only dated older apart from the 20something kid
But then again I was still in my 20s so I don’t know If I’ll start reversing from this point on or stick to guys close to my age
I still believe that guys are at their prime peak in their 30s / early 40 x "
Ah I'm camp 40s/early 50s.
Maybe in a few years you might start dating younger but there are some beautiful men in their 40s. Esp in London. All rolled up sleeves, salt and pepper hair, BDE.  |
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When I was younger I always went for older men (my first serious boyfriend was 9 years older than me), I think I was attracted to their maturity, and was put off by the immature behaviour of boys my own age.
Nowadays I prefer around my age, we're probably at similar life stages and have more common interests. |
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The lady I’m dating is 12 years younger than me, so was my ex wife. I honestly wanted to find someone around my age but this lady has everything I like in a woman. Also it helps she seems quite keen on me.
If someone is mature and self aware I don’t actually think it matters anymore. |
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I always seem to date younger but it's not a conscious decision.
If I like someone in that way then I don't care what age they are really as there is obviously a connection to explore.
Currently a 24 year gap some people don't like it but ultimately it's our life to live. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s weird nowadays. I have always dated someone older than me and found it fascinating and when I mean older like 2-3yrs older. But always found it harder sexually cause they were laying there while I did the work so that’s how I got better in pleasing a woman. Something good atleast haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think age ranges often change as we get older.
Older people often like younger people because then they can just lie there while the youngster does all the work. "
i agree
As you get oldler i think the "acceptable" age gap grows to a point
Like a 20/21 year old going out with a 17 year old always seems a tad weird. But noone would bat an eyelid if it was 20 to 25 for example |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always seem to date younger but it's not a conscious decision.
If I like someone in that way then I don't care what age they are really as there is obviously a connection to explore.
Currently a 24 year gap some people don't like it but ultimately it's our life to live."
And I was never good at telling jokes but the punch line goes “I’ll get older but your lovers stay my age” - T. Swift
sorry I had to throw that in there somehow |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always seem to date younger but it's not a conscious decision.
If I like someone in that way then I don't care what age they are really as there is obviously a connection to explore.
Currently a 24 year gap some people don't like it but ultimately it's our life to live.
And I was never good at telling jokes but the punch line goes “I’ll get older but your lovers stay my age” - T. Swift
sorry I had to throw that in there somehow "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Bar one who was a couple of years older, I've always dated men who are at least a decade older than me. Women tend to be around the same age. I don't tend to be attracted to men around my age, I like the (incredibly generalised) look and conversational ease with men older than me.
Yeah I literally only dated older apart from the 20something kid
But then again I was still in my 20s so I don’t know If I’ll start reversing from this point on or stick to guys close to my age
I still believe that guys are at their prime peak in their 30s / early 40 x
Ah I'm camp 40s/early 50s.
Maybe in a few years you might start dating younger but there are some beautiful men in their 40s. Esp in London. All rolled up sleeves, salt and pepper hair, BDE. "
Im kinda done with the salt and pepper hair. Two of my exes had salt and pepper or silver!
Ideally now I’m like very 30s but trying to see if I can find someone around my age or slightly older
20s tend to be total fuck boys still  |
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To me age isn't a restriction or a preference, I know that's what you'd expect a stereotypical guy to say but the mental connection supersedes all if we're talking about the long haul... if someone makes you want to sing and dance and your heart tingles when they're close, any preconceived barriers be they age, size, shape or colour should dissolve and could give way to happiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m not dating or looking to date, but if I was I’d go similar age or up to about 6 or 7 years younger. More in common that way, popular culturally, and lived experience mostly.
Casual sex off a fuck site? Ideally 10 years + or - but the boundaries can be wider can’t they for an exchange of bodily fluids and a bit of grunting. I don’t have to listen to their music or their views on politics or TikTok or the like   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Even though its not my preference i end up with ppl who are older than me or just about the same age, i just seem to get along better with older ppl, probably cos im more like 40 mentally. Not many ppl who are younger than me i tend to get along with unless theyre also more mature than their age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd only ever see someone older than myself hence 20 year age gap between Sir and myself.
I adore the wisdom, maturity, attitude and a flock of silver hair is a bonus |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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I haven’t dated dated in a while and I am knocking on a bit my self but I’ve never had a strong preference for an age bracket. As long as the other person is on the same wave length as me , it’s all good. |
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"I always seem to date younger but it's not a conscious decision.
If I like someone in that way then I don't care what age they are really as there is obviously a connection to explore.
Currently a 24 year gap some people don't like it but ultimately it's our life to live.
And I was never good at telling jokes but the punch line goes “I’ll get older but your lovers stay my age” - T. Swift
sorry I had to throw that in there somehow
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Ouch!
“I think when you’re in a relationship, you are constantly scrutinized, your friends are scrutinized, but...” Gyllenhaal
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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Oh, op you wanna be a wag?
Ok, hope he lets you sit on his face! Thanks for cheering me up today.
Age is irrelevant. You can get an older person that thinks like a 20 something & a 20 something that goes on 80!
Surely it's the connection you have that's the most important?
To answer your question - I prefer an older woman. It's always been like that in the past for me.
I was always more relaxed. Whether it's a life lived thing and experience or not I couldn't say.....
I felt less like a performing dog (less hoops to jump through?) Less like Raiders Of The Lost ark (tests & trials to do?)
Older women are more direct perhaps? I dunno... Straight to the point & no cocking around (ahem), no pun intended.
A good question to ask!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My relationships have been
4 years younger
10 years older
9 years younger
1 year older
24 years younger
So I think my average is roughly 5 years younger |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh, op you wanna be a wag?
Ok, hope he lets you sit on his face! Thanks for cheering me up today.
Age is irrelevant. You can get an older person that thinks like a 20 something & a 20 something that goes on 80!
Surely it's the connection you have that's the most important?
To answer your question - I prefer an older woman. It's always been like that in the past for me.
I was always more relaxed. Whether it's a life lived thing and experience or not I couldn't say.....
I felt less like a performing dog (less hoops to jump through?) Less like Raiders Of The Lost ark (tests & trials to do?)
Older women are more direct perhaps? I dunno... Straight to the point & no cocking around (ahem), no pun intended.
A good question to ask! "
I’m an advocate of age is just a number but yeah I’ve done a lot of self reflection on past relationships and I guess I was seeking for a man who could give me a sense of security .
But overall I think now that I’m in my 30s I might still date older but maybe just a few years older and see how that goes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I was younger I seemed to date older guys and I married a man 5 years older than me (now ex hubby). I am now in a relationship with a man 4 years younger than me.
I really haven't considered age at the time, it's been the person that I have been attracted to.
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